Strip clubs for married men?
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They can go together:-) I am older now and I have been with hubby for 15 years but we have been together a couple of times and then went home to reap the benefits:-)0
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I don't mind if my husband goes, but he's usually too cheap to do so. We wanted to go to one together when we were in Vegas but we could think of better ways to drop a few hundred bucks, so we decided not to.
I trust him. And I honestly don't give a flying flip if he wants to spend his evening looking at random naked chicks. I would be a hypocrite if I told him he can't look at random naked chicks, because I enjoy porn and looking at random naked people of either gender.0 -
It really isn't about being worried about them cheating. I just can't imagine why anyone would want their partner choosing to spend an evening looking at random naked women over being at home with the one woman he is supposed to love. I don't want my husband wanting to be anywhere other than with me in the evenings. We get little enough time together as it is. That's why we are together, we are best friends, first and foremost. We WANT to spend all available time together. If we didn't, we wouldn't be married.
The subject has never come up between us, because it would never enter his head to want to go to one. He isn't like that. Thank goodness.
All guys like to look at naked women, its science. There is a billion dollar porn industry to prove it. And i believe its when people stop acting like they are the two most beautiful and handsome people on the planet, and embrace that there are better looking people out there that you truly respect one another more. Also you mentioned exploited..........I girl i used to work with stripped, and she made almost $200k/year. She took a 150,000 pay cut to get a "real job." If anyone is being exploited its the customers.
I work with all males and have for a long long time, and there is not one of them that wouldn't like to go to a strip joint, but there are many that would definitely not tell their wives about it..............food for thought.
I don't like going on a regular basis. I love women and sex but random chicks giving lap dances to total strangers isn't a turn on. Also I wouldn't want my girl grinding on some male stripper.
I have only been once in about 5 years myself, and it was a bachelor party. But that doesn't change the fact that guys like looking at naked women. And every guy i know who's wife has forbidden him to do something like that...............has cheated on her. So I think women need to pick their battles. And remember you are dealing with a bunch of animals (us) that are genetically predisposed to find many woman attractive in order to further the human race. Its science. Google how many species in the world are monogamous..............If i guy wants to look at some strange boobies and come home to you, dont fight him. If it gets out of hand, leave. But we men are like children in that regard, if you forbid us to do something, we will only want it more.
Okay, honest question here. I am not trying to flame, I am seriously curious about this.
If you (and I mean men in general, not you specifically) want to go look at naked women because monogamy isn't natural, why do you get married? Why do men KNOWINGLY make a commitment to be monogamous and then try to claim that it isn't natural to be monogamous? Why not just stay single and go to the strip club every night if that's what you want to do?
Scientifically, its not natural, I have been married 5 years. I have never even come close to cheating on my wife out of love and respect for her. But, I like to look at naked women, because I am a man. It is natural for a man to want to "spread his seed" thats how evolution happens, thats how we have advanced as far as a species as we have. I will use an analogy for you. And mind you as a man i have seen this play out in ways many women do not get to see. A man is a dog. He will be loyal to you. But, if you keep him on a leash all the time, if he ever gets off it, first thing he will do is run out in traffic. You need to give him space. I am not trying to condemn anything, or condone anything. But I know many guys, I work with 250+ and no women. And every time one of their wives forbids them to do something, they will do it one way or another, or resent them instead. I consider this a PSA. I dont know anyone that goes to strip joints all the time, or even more than once or twice a year. But i also have never met a guy that didn't enjoy himself in there either................
If a guy is going to cheat, it wont be at a strip joint as someone put up earlier. It will be with someone he works with, or is friends with, or meets out at a bar one night. Strip joints are not the enemy. My wife doesn't like me to go. But she wouldn't never tell me i can't. Much like i don't have a problem with her going to a bachelorette party. Respect was referenced as a reason to not go, I list it as a reason to do things you like to do. But we are traditional, my wife has female friends, I have male friends. They sometimes go see guy strippers, we sometimes see girl strippers. I don't see the big deal.0 -
I think this is one of those things that varies from relationship to relationship. There are different opinions/viewpoints and what really matters is what the couple in question think, what sort of compromise or agreement they can come to, and then sticking with it. No one should run their relationship according to other peoples' rules.
I agree completely. Do what works for you and for your marriage/relationship.0 -
If men are "visual" creatures, and women have trust issues with their fellas going to a strip club, then should we also forbid women from reading steamy novels, and watching movies with their "dreamy" guys in them since women are "emotional" creatures. Is it fair to not let one gender partially satisfy their primal calling while the other one is allowed to soak it up everyday? Your thoughts.0
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If men are "visual" creatures, and women have trust issues with their fells going to a strip club, then should we also forbid women from reading steamy novels, and watching movies with their "dreamy" guys in them since women are "emotional" creatures. Is it fair to not let one gender partially satisfy their primal calling while the other one is allowed to soak it up everyday? Your thoughts.
Totally agree with you!!!!0 -
I would rather the club than a hotel room. At least in the club the restriction are enforced. I let my hubby go to clubs, that was until he saw a girl he went to school with working there. He said that ruined it for him, it was weird to see someone he knew working at one. That was over 10 years ago and he's not been back to one since.
We were very honest about him going to them and even set some of our own rules. It helped me deal with the fact that he was going to one. I could have gone to one too, but I really don't care for those kinds of clubs.
I do think both people have to be ok with it, otherwise it could cause issues. If she really doesn't want him to go then that should be respected.0 -
If men are "visual" creatures, and women have trust issues with their fellas going to a strip club, then should we also forbid women from reading steamy novels, and watching movies with their "dreamy" guys in them since women are "emotional" creatures. Is it fair to not let one gender partially satisfy their primal calling while the other one is allowed to soak it up everyday? Your thoughts.
Excellent question. Can't wait to see some of the responses from those that forbid strip clubs.0 -
They can go together:-) I am older now and I have been with hubby for 15 years but we have been together a couple of times and then went home to reap the benefits:-)
This gal's got it right !!!!! ;-)0 -
hmmmm. definately on the fence with this one.
I've never been to one. But I wouldn't want my girl going to a club with naked guys.
Can't imagine she'd want me going to one. Unless we went together.0 -
If men are "visual" creatures, and women have trust issues with their fellas going to a strip club, then should we also forbid women from reading steamy novels, and watching movies with their "dreamy" guys in them since women are "emotional" creatures. Is it fair to not let one gender partially satisfy their primal calling while the other one is allowed to soak it up everyday? Your thoughts.
Excellent question. Can't wait to see some of the responses from those that forbid strip clubs.
My husband doesn't go to strip clubs. I don't read romance novels. That's our personal agreement. Not a big loss to either of us as he doesn't really care for clubs and I don't much care for romance novels.0 -
Well I would have no problem with my man going to strip club. I would def go with him. Once I have my 'dream body' I'd like to try amateur night actually... my man would be front row centre.
Not sure how I feel about him getting lap dances from strangers or being in a hotel room if I wasn't there--- kinda feel like I should be the one grinding in his lap.
I will say this tho.... I was married to a man who had a big problem with my sexual appetite.... He couldn't deal with things like the fact I'd jumped on a stage myself in my youth. He and I had the most vanilla boring sex ever. I would never be with someone closed-minded like that again.0 -
Guess it really boils down to who or what your moral compass is aligned to.0
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If men are "visual" creatures, and women have trust issues with their fellas going to a strip club, then should we also forbid women from reading steamy novels, and watching movies with their "dreamy" guys in them since women are "emotional" creatures. Is it fair to not let one gender partially satisfy their primal calling while the other one is allowed to soak it up everyday? Your thoughts.
Excellent question. Can't wait to see some of the responses from those that forbid strip clubs.
My husband doesn't go to strip clubs. I don't read romance novels. That's our personal agreement. Not a big loss to either of us as he doesn't really care for clubs and I don't much care for romance novels.
What about actors that you find hot? Male dancers on Dancing With the Stars? McDreamy or McSteamy on Grey's Anatomy?0 -
Well I would have no problem with my man going to strip club. I would def go with him. Once I have my 'dream body' I'd like to try amateur night actually... my man would be front row centre.
Not sure how I feel about him getting lap dances from strangers or being in a hotel room if I wasn't there--- kinda feel like I should be the one grinding in his lap.
I will say this tho.... I was married to a man who had a big problem with my sexual appetite.... He couldn't deal with things like the fact I'd jumped on a stage myself in my youth. He and I had the most vanilla boring sex ever. I would never be with someone closed-minded like that again.
I hope you are from Pittsburgh and post the night you will be dancing :bigsmile:0 -
Wow...I'm surprised with the number of people that are actually okay with this. I don't agree to it, and that's my opinion. Why would a happily married person even want to go watch someone else dance naked other than their spouse?0
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Wow...I'm surprised with the number of people that are actually okay with this. I don't agree to it, and that's my opinion. Why would a happily married person even want to go watch someone else dance naked other than their spouse?
because they are more attractive
they are not cheating, its just looking0 -
OOPS meant to quote above ^^^
Why?
Because it's fun, and variety is the spice of life.0 -
Wow...I'm surprised with the number of people that are actually okay with this. I don't agree to it, and that's my opinion. Why would a happily married person even want to go watch someone else dance naked other than their spouse?
because they are more attractive
they are not cheating, its just looking
I'm just confused as to why they even need to "look". To each their own, I guess. Should they go marry someone else that is "more attractive", then?0 -
Well I would have no problem with my man going to strip club. I would def go with him. Once I have my 'dream body' I'd like to try amateur night actually... my man would be front row centre.
Not sure how I feel about him getting lap dances from strangers or being in a hotel room if I wasn't there--- kinda feel like I should be the one grinding in his lap.
I will say this tho.... I was married to a man who had a big problem with my sexual appetite.... He couldn't deal with things like the fact I'd jumped on a stage myself in my youth. He and I had the most vanilla boring sex ever. I would never be with someone closed-minded like that again.
I hope you are from Pittsburgh and post the night you will be dancing :bigsmile:
LOL! Nope I'm in Toronto
I'll post when I finally do it though! Bring your twenties! LOL 0 -
I don't mind at all...but I do agree with the post about no private lap dances or VIP rooms...yuck!
But it isn't a frequent thing either only bach parties and he went once for his friend that moved across country.
I go for bachlorette parties but wouldn't just go because I like it. I just like a good laugh 0 -
Wow...I'm surprised with the number of people that are actually okay with this. I don't agree to it, and that's my opinion. Why would a happily married person even want to go watch someone else dance naked other than their spouse?
because they are more attractive
they are not cheating, its just looking
I'm just confused as to why they even need to "look". To each their own, I guess. Should they go marry someone else that is "more attractive", then?
Of course not!! Are you telling me you never notice anyone that is attractive??0 -
Wow...I'm surprised with the number of people that are actually okay with this. I don't agree to it, and that's my opinion. Why would a happily married person even want to go watch someone else dance naked other than their spouse?
because they are more attractive
they are not cheating, its just looking
no, but why can't they look, I can look at ferrari's, but i can't have one................doesn't mean my hyundai has a right to be pissed off at me.................
If woman want their husband to tell them they are the most beautiful woman in the world, then they want them to lie to them. And one lie leads to another..............
I'm just confused as to why they even need to "look". To each their own, I guess. Should they go marry someone else that is "more attractive", then?0 -
Wow...I'm surprised with the number of people that are actually okay with this. I don't agree to it, and that's my opinion. Why would a happily married person even want to go watch someone else dance naked other than their spouse?
Because there is nothing more beautiful than the female body. Do you go to an art gallery just to look at one painting?0 -
Wow...I'm surprised with the number of people that are actually okay with this. I don't agree to it, and that's my opinion. Why would a happily married person even want to go watch someone else dance naked other than their spouse?
because they are more attractive
they are not cheating, its just looking
I'm just confused as to why they even need to "look". To each their own, I guess. Should they go marry someone else that is "more attractive", then?
my wife points out guys that she thinks are hot, i point out woman that i think are hot, to her............we do it at the beach........i guess it comes down to insecurity for some...........we are together because we are perfect packages for each other, but that doesn't mean i am the hottest guy on the planet, or that she is the hottest woman on the planet...........and we both have eyes..........0 -
Well I would have no problem with my man going to strip club. I would def go with him. Once I have my 'dream body' I'd like to try amateur night actually... my man would be front row centre.
Not sure how I feel about him getting lap dances from strangers or being in a hotel room if I wasn't there--- kinda feel like I should be the one grinding in his lap.
I will say this tho.... I was married to a man who had a big problem with my sexual appetite.... He couldn't deal with things like the fact I'd jumped on a stage myself in my youth. He and I had the most vanilla boring sex ever. I would never be with someone closed-minded like that again.
I hope you are from Pittsburgh and post the night you will be dancing :bigsmile:
LOL! Nope I'm in Toronto I'll post when I finally do it though! Bring your twenties! LOL
Twenties!! Damn. Better be a totally nude bar. No twenties for pasties and a thong. :noway:0 -
If men are "visual" creatures, and women have trust issues with their fellas going to a strip club, then should we also forbid women from reading steamy novels, and watching movies with their "dreamy" guys in them since women are "emotional" creatures. Is it fair to not let one gender partially satisfy their primal calling while the other one is allowed to soak it up everyday? Your thoughts.
Nasty profile pic, but well said!0 -
If men are "visual" creatures, and women have trust issues with their fellas going to a strip club, then should we also forbid women from reading steamy novels, and watching movies with their "dreamy" guys in them since women are "emotional" creatures. Is it fair to not let one gender partially satisfy their primal calling while the other one is allowed to soak it up everyday? Your thoughts.
Nasty profile pic, but well said!
I forget that the whole forum doesn't get in on the tom-foolery going on with my personal MFP friends on my wall. oops.0 -
Well I would have no problem with my man going to strip club. I would def go with him. Once I have my 'dream body' I'd like to try amateur night actually... my man would be front row centre.
Not sure how I feel about him getting lap dances from strangers or being in a hotel room if I wasn't there--- kinda feel like I should be the one grinding in his lap.
I will say this tho.... I was married to a man who had a big problem with my sexual appetite.... He couldn't deal with things like the fact I'd jumped on a stage myself in my youth. He and I had the most vanilla boring sex ever. I would never be with someone closed-minded like that again.
I hope you are from Pittsburgh and post the night you will be dancing :bigsmile:
LOL! Nope I'm in Toronto I'll post when I finally do it though! Bring your twenties! LOL
Twenties!! Damn. Better be a totally nude bar. No twenties for pasties and a thong. :noway:
LOL--- I don't think there are any 'topless only' bars in Toronto, they are all totally nude..... That's how we roll in Canada!0 -
Well I would have no problem with my man going to strip club. I would def go with him. Once I have my 'dream body' I'd like to try amateur night actually... my man would be front row centre.
Not sure how I feel about him getting lap dances from strangers or being in a hotel room if I wasn't there--- kinda feel like I should be the one grinding in his lap.
I will say this tho.... I was married to a man who had a big problem with my sexual appetite.... He couldn't deal with things like the fact I'd jumped on a stage myself in my youth. He and I had the most vanilla boring sex ever. I would never be with someone closed-minded like that again.
I hope you are from Pittsburgh and post the night you will be dancing :bigsmile:
LOL! Nope I'm in Toronto I'll post when I finally do it though! Bring your twenties! LOL
Twenties!! Damn. Better be a totally nude bar. No twenties for pasties and a thong. :noway:
LOL--- I don't think there are any 'topless only' bars in Toronto, they are all totally nude..... That's how we roll in Canada!
Awesome. I need to pack up and move north. Drop me a PM when you are ready for that amateur night. Might just be the motivation I need to relocate.
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