Strip clubs for married men?
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I'm one of the rare ladies that actually want to go more then my boyfriend.. lol I have no problem with strip clubs. Like mentioned earlier, they all have rules and regulations that the customers and girls have to follow. Yea it's expensive but who says you gotta go in and spend a boat load of money! I usually only get a pitcher of beer and maybe a few dances depending on the girls working that night.
They have bills that need paid too!
And like many others have posted, it really is all about trust. I know at the end of the day my man is coming home to me!
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I don't think it's a problem if you only go once or twice a night.
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My hubby and I both went to strip clubs many times before we met each other, heck when I was a party girl I even got up on stage and did a pole dance in my thong and bra once. We have been together for ten years and married for a year and four months, and made a mutual decision that strip clubs, porn, etc. does not add anything beneficial to our relationship. We make our decisions together based on the greatest good, and that just did not fit in anywhere. For my hubby's bachelor party he and his boys did a day of shooting and brewing beer, then they all hit a night club. He did not feel like he was missing out because there wasn't a stripper there. It's not a matter of trust for us, it's a matter of respect for each other and what's best for OUR relationship.
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Personally, I follow the 'don't look at another person lustfully' message Jesus gave in the book of Matthew in the Bible and my husband does too.
I don't think it's appropriate to use human beings as objects or tools to get you turned on. I believe that sexuality should be expressed solely between couples in a committed relationship (and I personally believe that means marriage between a man and a woman, but your opinions may differ...).
May get flamed, but felt I had to express my opinion. You are, of course, welcome to think and behave how you wish! 0 -
I'm more likely to be the rowdy one at a strip club than my husband. :laugh:
I only like it if it feels like an empowering environment, though (which is why burlesque is so awesome). I went to one club once where the gals seemed to come from some rough situations, shall we say, and I felt like I was preying off of them just by being there.
But the gals who are performers and milk the limelight are a treat to watch! 0 -
Wow, I was so thinking along a different line when I read the title. I was imagining a strip club where you weren't qualified for the job unless you had at least four stretch marks and your breasts have been used to feed a baby.
On your actual question, my husband would probably say:
If you're only making $35,000 a year and feeding a family of 5 do you spend your free time visiting Jaguar dealerships?
If you're diabetic and on a very restricted diet do you visit every candy shop in the mall?
If you want to resist temptation don't GO where you can be tempted.0 -
Nope, don't have an issue with it. Of course my life long dream is to own a stripe club. I have a spot in town all picked out and everything. I'm gonna call it the Platinum Cheetah (classy no?).0
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I rofl'd big time at the "four stretch marks etc"...that's funny. As for going to a strip club, I've been, many years ago when I was single, once or twice a week. My wife and I went to one, once....together. It was fun, bought her a lap dance. I don't really see any reason to go, when a beer is 5$. If I want to drink, I'll do it at home where I don't have to worry about trying to figure out how to get home safely. And my wife will give me a lap dance any time I ask her to, cause she's sweet like that.Wow, I was so thinking along a different line when I read the title. I was imagining a strip club where you weren't qualified for the job unless you had at least four stretch marks and your breasts have been used to feed a baby.
On your actual question, my husband would probably say:
If you're only making $35,000 a year and feeding a family of 5 do you spend your free time visiting Jaguar dealerships?
If you're diabetic and on a very restricted diet do you visit every candy shop in the mall?
If you want to resist temptation don't GO where you can be tempted.0 -
Personally, I follow the 'don't look at another person lustfully' message Jesus gave in the book of Matthew in the Bible and my husband does too.
I don't think it's appropriate to use human beings as objects or tools to get you turned on. I believe that sexuality should be expressed solely between couples in a committed relationship (and I personally believe that means marriage between a man and a woman, but your opinions may differ...).
May get flamed, but felt I had to express my opinion. You are, of course, welcome to think and behave how you wish!
You know you can express your opinion without breaking the rules and discussing your religion.0 -
I would not like it, and luckily the guys I date do not seem interested enough to go. I am surprised so many women here are A-okay (even encouraging) of this -- nothing wrong with this, but it simply surprises me ^^
For me, it has nothing to do with insecurity, but rather my definition of respect. Maybe I hang around a different group of people, since as far as I am aware, nobody I know goes to strip clubs...BUT I have never heard of a guy going to a strip club for the food -- it is for arousal. To me, going to a strip club is no different than walking down the street and having your partner say, "Wooooah, she is so hott. I want to have sex with her!"
Porn doesn't bother me, because it is like when us women watch Antonio Banderas and think the same thing...but to think that of someone who is right in front of you...its different to me ^^
ps: I agree there are exceptions though, such as bachelor parties. ^^0 -
This. My wife has attended strip clubs, bachelorette parties, etc. and I've even seen video evidence. It just made me laugh to see her have a good time.At the end of the day you either trust them or you don't. You don't need strip clubs to cheat.
I go with my BIL's and Uncles on occasion and for all our SO's, it's no big deal.0 -
*Just stating my opinion, so you don't need to go off if you don't agree.*
I'm not okay with any of it. My belief is that true love and respect in a relationship cannot flourish if you engage in any of that activity. I would never think of doing any of that and I wouldn't stand for a partner doing it. For me, I need someone who just wants me. I should be enough. If I'm not, he can get all of his attention and satisfaction somewhere else, permanently.0 -
Watching the girls dance at a club - no problem. Not that he has an interest in it. Accepting a dance, personally I wouldn't be ok with that, too close and 'personal' (ha) - hell I'll dance for him whenever he likes It would just feel a bit like cheating...well no, I can't think of the word. I have nothing but the utmost respect for the girls though, I know a few ex-strippers. Don't see how people judge them so bad - as everyone says it's the girls at the bar you really have to worry about!
*Despite my picture, have never worked in a club. Recreational only
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Great feedback everyone, thx for sharing!0
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Ok I don't want this thread to be shut down so plz be good
Just curious.. A newlywed friend had this issue & it sparked a huge debate w/ my HB tonight. Do u feel strip clubs are okay for married men/women? What about a club vs. a hotel room? Would love some input from you all
My fiance can look at the menu as long as he's eating at home!!0 -
Sure it's fine with me.. my husband can go to a club. I don't care how he gets his engine rev'd up, as long as he comes home to park his car if you know what I mean...lol0
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Sure it's fine with me.. my husband can go to a club. I don't care how he gets his engine rev'd up, as long as he comes home to park his car if you know what I mean...lol
Reminds me of a Mad Men episode I saw yesterday... "We all park in the wrong garage sometimes"
I'm okay with a strip club but not with a personal lap dance.0 -
nope.0
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Those strippers don't want your men. It's the tramps at the bar you have to worry about.
I'd have to agree with that. My ex didn't bring a stripper home, he cheated with some bar skank. For me, an occasional visit to the club would be fine (not my cup of tea, though). It would only be a problem if he felt he had to lie/sneak around to do it, or if it became a regular thing or started taking the place of something else in the relationship.0 -
I think it's okay on certain occasions like a bachelor party, but no lap dances. If you wouldn't be okay with me giving some other guy a lap dance, then you sure as hell better not be accepting one from another woman.
It's not about trust for me. I agree with the others who said that strippers aren't the ones you have to worry about when it comes to your husband cheating on you. I would just be concerned if my husband regularly felt the need to unwind by watching other women dance around naked (or close to it). I don't think being married means you stop having "fun." I just think it means you stop having "fun" with other women. Get what you need from your wife. If she's not into it, then I guess you married the wrong person. Sucks for you.
On a side note, this reminds me of the discussions on here from time to time about how women don't understand that if they'd just make their husbands feel appreciated, then their husbands would do anything to make them happy. Well, men, if you make your woman feel as sexy as you think she is, she'll do anything you want her to do in the bedroom (or the kitchen or the shower or wherever).0 -
I think it depends....If my guy wants to go out once in a while with his buddies to a strip club I'm fine with that. If I didn't trust him to hang out with his friends I wouldn't marry him. However, if he goes all the time or by himself that's a different story and there might be a problem there.
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Maybe he will eventually realize it's a waste of time, energy and money. i love women but I came to realize over time that it's not that big of a deal to go to a place that exploits naked women. I have been one time in the past 6 years and that's because a girl I was dating invited me.0
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My wife doesn't have a problem with it, but I have only gone maybe 2 or 3 times in 10 years. I enjoy seeing hot naked women as much as the next guy, but there are much better uses for my money.
If it is an obsession, it is a problem.
If the couple is struggling financially, it is a problem.
AGREED!!!! as long as the $ hes spending isnt taking food out of mine or my kids mouth its fine (Id totally go with him)0 -
Strippers and hookers have feelings too0
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Me & the hubby go to strip clubs all the time. We buy eachother lap dances0
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It's not OK for MY husband. But we watch all kinds of fun "stuff" at home together, so he doesn't feel too disappointed about the no strip club rule.0
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No. I really really don't. I would be beyond furious if my husband went to one. Not because I feel in any way threatened, I don't, but those places are demeaning to women and I wouldn't ever want to be with a man who thought that was ok.0
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Our bedroom is the strip club. End of story.0
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My wife doesn't have a problem with it, but I have only gone maybe 2 or 3 times in 10 years. I enjoy seeing hot naked women as much as the next guy, but there are much better uses for my money.
If it is an obsession, it is a problem.
If the couple is struggling financially, it is a problem.
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It's not OK for MY husband. But we watch all kinds of fun "stuff" at home together, so he doesn't feel too disappointed about the no strip club rule.
Thank you.Our bedroom is the strip club. End of story.
And thank you.
This is how it should be.0
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