Strip clubs for married men?

fteale

It really isn't about being worried about them cheating. I just can't imagine why anyone would want their partner choosing to spend an evening looking at random naked women over being at home with the one woman he is supposed to love. I don't want my husband wanting to be anywhere other than with me in the evenings. We get little enough time together as it is. That's why we are together, we are best friends, first and foremost. We WANT to spend all available time together. If we didn't, we wouldn't be married.

The subject has never come up between us, because it would never enter his head to want to go to one. He isn't like that. Thank goodness.

chocolateandvodka

I see no problem with it, unless he's going with the explicit desire to get some strange.

in fact, i'll go with him, or without him... in my experience he's more likely to be the one who's uncomfortable with it.

Qarol

Get what you need from your wife. If she's not into it, then I guess you married the wrong person. Sucks for you.

*snort*
This had me rolling!!!

MzMiller1215

Me and my husband go together. It doesn't bother me one bit if he gets a lap dance. At the end of the night, he's going home with me. :happy: It's all about how secure you feel about yourself and your relationship. Just because you are married does not mean that you become blind and don't find another person attractive.

fteale

Me and my husband go together. It doesn't bother me one bit if he gets a lap dance. At the end of the night, he's going home with me. :happy: It's all about how secure you feel about yourself and your relationship. Just because you are married does not mean that you become blind and don't find another person attractive.

I couldn't disagree more. I think strip clubs are exploitative. That has nothing to do with how I feel about myself or my relationship. I disapprove of them on principle.

Bankman1989

Me and my husband go together. It doesn't bother me one bit if he gets a lap dance. At the end of the night, he's going home with me. :happy: It's all about how secure you feel about yourself and your relationship. Just because you are married does not mean that you become blind and don't find another person attractive.

Would your husband go with you to say Chippendales? lol. I'm gonna say no way!

vim_n_vigor

What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas!!!

LorinaLynn

I would never forbid my husband to go. I trust him and know he loves me, and whether or not he sees other women naked doesn't change that.

Personally, I'd prefer he didn't go, and he doesn't, but it's more of a finance issue than insecurity or jealousy. It just seems like a big waste of cash. :laugh:

HeidiMightyRawr

I wouldn't have a problem with my bf (or as a husband even) visiting a strip club with mates, like a blokes night out thing/stag night etc etc if that's what he wants to do. I trust him, and I don't see the harm.

Hotel rooms or personal lap dances would be taking it a bit too far for me though. That's just me - if other's feel OK with that in their relationship I'm not going to say it's wrong, but it's the sort of thing you need to be clear about with your partner first and respect their feelings on.

albinogorilla

It really isn't about being worried about them cheating. I just can't imagine why anyone would want their partner choosing to spend an evening looking at random naked women over being at home with the one woman he is supposed to love. I don't want my husband wanting to be anywhere other than with me in the evenings. We get little enough time together as it is. That's why we are together, we are best friends, first and foremost. We WANT to spend all available time together. If we didn't, we wouldn't be married.

The subject has never come up between us, because it would never enter his head to want to go to one. He isn't like that. Thank goodness.

All guys like to look at naked women, its science. There is a billion dollar porn industry to prove it. And i believe its when people stop acting like they are the two most beautiful and handsome people on the planet, and embrace that there are better looking people out there that you truly respect one another more. Also you mentioned exploited..........I girl i used to work with stripped, and she made almost $200k/year. She took a 150,000 pay cut to get a "real job." If anyone is being exploited its the customers.
I work with all males and have for a long long time, and there is not one of them that wouldn't like to go to a strip joint, but there are many that would definitely not tell their wives about it..............food for thought.

SkateboardFi

strip clubs? sure. as long as i was able to have my share of time there. hotel rooms? absolutely not.

MzMiller1215

Me and my husband go together. It doesn't bother me one bit if he gets a lap dance. At the end of the night, he's going home with me. :happy: It's all about how secure you feel about yourself and your relationship. Just because you are married does not mean that you become blind and don't find another person attractive.

I couldn't disagree more. I think strip clubs are exploitative. That has nothing to do with how I feel about myself or my relationship. I disapprove of them on principle.

That's fine if you disagree. It is all a matter of opinion. You have your opinion. I have mine. :flowerforyou:

Bankman1989

It really isn't about being worried about them cheating. I just can't imagine why anyone would want their partner choosing to spend an evening looking at random naked women over being at home with the one woman he is supposed to love. I don't want my husband wanting to be anywhere other than with me in the evenings. We get little enough time together as it is. That's why we are together, we are best friends, first and foremost. We WANT to spend all available time together. If we didn't, we wouldn't be married.

The subject has never come up between us, because it would never enter his head to want to go to one. He isn't like that. Thank goodness.

All guys like to look at naked women, its science. There is a billion dollar porn industry to prove it. And i believe its when people stop acting like they are the two most beautiful and handsome people on the planet, and embrace that there are better looking people out there that you truly respect one another more. Also you mentioned exploited..........I girl i used to work with stripped, and she made almost $200k/year. She took a 150,000 pay cut to get a "real job." If anyone is being exploited its the customers.
I work with all males and have for a long long time, and there is not one of them that wouldn't like to go to a strip joint, but there are many that would definitely not tell their wives about it..............food for thought.

I don't like going on a regular basis. I love women and sex but random chicks giving lap dances to total strangers isn't a turn on. Also I wouldn't want my girl grinding on some male stripper.

bellinachuchina

i think its pretty lame to have to do, you could spend that money on better things and if he really wanted to see someone strip he could buy a pole to instal and some fun outfits for you and watch you shake it lol :P would have a much happier ending

Right on, gimme that $$$!

I want a boom boom room in my house, equipped with stage & pole, animal print velvet walls, and a mini bar. We'll just tell the kids it's the hot water tank closet. :laugh: ...but seriously.

albinogorilla

It really isn't about being worried about them cheating. I just can't imagine why anyone would want their partner choosing to spend an evening looking at random naked women over being at home with the one woman he is supposed to love. I don't want my husband wanting to be anywhere other than with me in the evenings. We get little enough time together as it is. That's why we are together, we are best friends, first and foremost. We WANT to spend all available time together. If we didn't, we wouldn't be married.

The subject has never come up between us, because it would never enter his head to want to go to one. He isn't like that. Thank goodness.

All guys like to look at naked women, its science. There is a billion dollar porn industry to prove it. And i believe its when people stop acting like they are the two most beautiful and handsome people on the planet, and embrace that there are better looking people out there that you truly respect one another more. Also you mentioned exploited..........I girl i used to work with stripped, and she made almost $200k/year. She took a 150,000 pay cut to get a "real job." If anyone is being exploited its the customers.
I work with all males and have for a long long time, and there is not one of them that wouldn't like to go to a strip joint, but there are many that would definitely not tell their wives about it..............food for thought.

I don't like going on a regular basis. I love women and sex but random chicks giving lap dances to total strangers isn't a turn on. Also I wouldn't want my girl grinding on some male stripper.

I have only been once in about 5 years myself, and it was a bachelor party. But that doesn't change the fact that guys like looking at naked women. And every guy i know who's wife has forbidden him to do something like that...............has cheated on her. So I think women need to pick their battles. And remember you are dealing with a bunch of animals (us) that are genetically predisposed to find many woman attractive in order to further the human race. Its science. Google how many species in the world are monogamous..............If i guy wants to look at some strange boobies and come home to you, dont fight him. If it gets out of hand, leave. But we men are like children in that regard, if you forbid us to do something, we will only want it more.

GreatSetOfBrains

Ummm yeah I should stay out of this. My ex husband went with friends once or twice, I even went with. I have friends who are dancers. I'm not saying there are not good men who just want to see half naked women, I'm saying the number of "bad" honest hard working men out weigh the decent by FAR. I don't enjoy the idea of my current husband looking at any women that naked but me. . . If we have fun together at home (face it a lot can be done), I am much more comfortable with that. BUT without the previous BAD experience I'd probably had said it was fine . . . .

Slimithy

I've only been to a strip club once in my life. It wasn't the most pleasent experience. Just nasty and dirty, and not in a sexy way. I would also point out that although some strippers make big bucks; they do it only for a short amount of time and it is only a small minority that get to that point. For every dancer at Scores there are hundreds of dancers who work at the Foxy Ladys of the world (nasty hole in the wall place in a local small town with a cheap "by the hour" motel behind it). Almost every woman arrested for Craigslist prostitution used to be a "dancer", but aged out while still hooked on the drugs and excitement that were free flowing in the previous career.

I also put myself in my wife's shoes. I would not be happy with her putting money I earned into the g-string of some 20 year old dude. So no, neither of us go to the strip clubs.

Also, as a parent. Would you be happy or proud that your daughter makes a living by grinding her butt on random guys? If not then remember that each of those girls has a mom and dad. If you wouldn't want that for your 4 year old, why support it for somebody else's?

albinogorilla

Ummm yeah I should stay out of this. My ex husband went with friends once or twice, I even went with. I have friends who are dancers. I'm not saying there are not good men who just want to see half naked women, I'm saying the number of "bad" honest hard working men out weigh the decent by FAR. I don't enjoy the idea of my current husband looking at any women that naked but me. . . If we have fun together at home (face it a lot can be done), I am much more comfortable with that. BUT without the previous BAD experience I'd probably had said it was fine . . . .

well, you never listed a bad experience, you just said you went, and you are now saying that you are punishing your next husband for the sins of the last..........that doesn't make much sense

Slimithy

Ummm yeah I should stay out of this. My ex husband went with friends once or twice, I even went with. I have friends who are dancers. I'm not saying there are not good men who just want to see half naked women, I'm saying the number of "bad" honest hard working men out weigh the decent by FAR. I don't enjoy the idea of my current husband looking at any women that naked but me. . . If we have fun together at home (face it a lot can be done), I am much more comfortable with that. BUT without the previous BAD experience I'd probably had said it was fine . . . .

well, you never listed a bad experience, you just said you went, and you are now saying that you are punishing your next husband for the sins of the last..........that doesn't make much sense

I don't think saying "sweatheart, don't go to strip clubs" is punishment... I mean really? You're missing out on expensive drinks and lust...

fteale

I don't like going on a regular basis. I love women and sex but random chicks giving lap dances to total strangers isn't a turn on. Also I wouldn't want my girl grinding on some male stripper.

Thanks. I know my husband feels the same way. He is attracted to women he knows and respects, not random bodies. It's not who he is.

Also, he doesn't go out in the evenings, he hates going out, he doesn't drink, he doesn't get on with other men, and loathes pack mentality. All his friends are female, and I don't mind that at all.

albinogorilla

Ummm yeah I should stay out of this. My ex husband went with friends once or twice, I even went with. I have friends who are dancers. I'm not saying there are not good men who just want to see half naked women, I'm saying the number of "bad" honest hard working men out weigh the decent by FAR. I don't enjoy the idea of my current husband looking at any women that naked but me. . . If we have fun together at home (face it a lot can be done), I am much more comfortable with that. BUT without the previous BAD experience I'd probably had said it was fine . . . .

well, you never listed a bad experience, you just said you went, and you are now saying that you are punishing your next husband for the sins of the last..........that doesn't make much sense

I don't think saying "sweatheart, don't go to strip clubs" is punishment... I mean really? You're missing out on expensive drinks and lust...

you are missing the point, would you want to be held to a different standard than the last man a woman was married to based on his actions?

voluptas63

If man friend wants to go, he can go. No sense in "forbidding" someone to do something. It only makes it more appealing. On the other hand though, I would have a real issue with the stripper being in a closed area like a hotel room/lap dance room. It's too easy for things to get out of control.

But I have no problem with him attending a strip club and I wouldn't have any problem going. Besides, girls get more attention at strip clubs anyways:)

fteale

Why talk about "banning"? Like I said earlier, the subject of strip clubs has never really come up between us. He wouldn't want to go, I wouldn't want him to go. We sing from the same page on this one. We are adults, we aren't in the business of banning each other from things. Our marriage is about mutual respect.

T_R_A_V

I think its acceptable...why would it not be, if you dont trust your partner then why are you with him/her

Heck, go together and have more fun

BeeElMarvin

I've gone with a bunch of guys, I've gone with my wife - neither one on a regular basis (I'm talking once every couple of years). Both are fun, but obviously different.

Like my wife says - " I don't care where he gets his appetite, as long as he comes home for dinner!".

ItsCasey

It really isn't about being worried about them cheating. I just can't imagine why anyone would want their partner choosing to spend an evening looking at random naked women over being at home with the one woman he is supposed to love. I don't want my husband wanting to be anywhere other than with me in the evenings. We get little enough time together as it is. That's why we are together, we are best friends, first and foremost. We WANT to spend all available time together. If we didn't, we wouldn't be married.

The subject has never come up between us, because it would never enter his head to want to go to one. He isn't like that. Thank goodness.

All guys like to look at naked women, its science. There is a billion dollar porn industry to prove it. And i believe its when people stop acting like they are the two most beautiful and handsome people on the planet, and embrace that there are better looking people out there that you truly respect one another more. Also you mentioned exploited..........I girl i used to work with stripped, and she made almost $200k/year. She took a 150,000 pay cut to get a "real job." If anyone is being exploited its the customers.
I work with all males and have for a long long time, and there is not one of them that wouldn't like to go to a strip joint, but there are many that would definitely not tell their wives about it..............food for thought.

I don't like going on a regular basis. I love women and sex but random chicks giving lap dances to total strangers isn't a turn on. Also I wouldn't want my girl grinding on some male stripper.

I have only been once in about 5 years myself, and it was a bachelor party. But that doesn't change the fact that guys like looking at naked women. And every guy i know who's wife has forbidden him to do something like that...............has cheated on her. So I think women need to pick their battles. And remember you are dealing with a bunch of animals (us) that are genetically predisposed to find many woman attractive in order to further the human race. Its science. Google how many species in the world are monogamous..............If i guy wants to look at some strange boobies and come home to you, dont fight him. If it gets out of hand, leave. But we men are like children in that regard, if you forbid us to do something, we will only want it more.

Okay, honest question here. I am not trying to flame, I am seriously curious about this.

If you (and I mean men in general, not you specifically) want to go look at naked women because monogamy isn't natural, why do you get married? Why do men KNOWINGLY make a commitment to be monogamous and then try to claim that it isn't natural to be monogamous? Why not just stay single and go to the strip club every night if that's what you want to do?

albinogorilla

I don't like going on a regular basis. I love women and sex but random chicks giving lap dances to total strangers isn't a turn on. Also I wouldn't want my girl grinding on some male stripper.

Thanks. I know my husband feels the same way. He is attracted to women he knows and respects, not random bodies. It's not who he is.

Also, he doesn't go out in the evenings, he hates going out, he doesn't drink, he doesn't get on with other men, and loathes pack mentality. All his friends are female, and I don't mind that at all.

He is one of a kind then...........a man with no man friends? I think they made a movie about that recently with Paul Rudd........

jamiesgotagun

I think its acceptable...why would it not be, if you dont trust your partner then why are you with him/her

Heck, go together and have more fun

^^^^Exactly!!

bikermike5094

Call me a prude here but I'm gonna say no. Nothing good comes from going to those places. they offer no moral or redeeming qualities. Last time I was in one (20+ years ago before I was married) there was some dumb cowboy sitting infront of my at the edge of stage with his cowboy hat on. I was involved with an MC at the time and some of my crew was with me. I reached up and knocked his big *kitten* hat off his head. That could have gotten real ugly real quick but he made a wise decision to keep his hat off. Nothing good comes out of visiting places like that. I have what i want at home, i dont need to go and oogle other women and let other thoughts/influneces into my simple mind.

jcn1109

I think this is one of those things that varies from relationship to relationship. There are different opinions/viewpoints and what really matters is what the couple in question think, what sort of compromise or agreement they can come to, and then sticking with it. No one should run their relationship according to other peoples' rules.