Men Are Husbands, Not "Hubbys"

GTOgirl1969

I've known plenty of smug people, married and otherwise. I'm going to step away from this topic because I can see it developing into a flame war....

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jecka31

My husband and I refer to each other as "babe". And if I'm referring to him in conversation, its "my husband".

re08scue

I dislike 'Hun' more.
But I always use my husbands name with friends, or refer to 'my husband' in business or more formal dealings.

SDkitty

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Awesome facepalm :laugh:

As far as the whole "hubby" thing, I couldn't care less. People have so many different pet names for each other and some are adorable and some make me want to hurl but in the end the cuteness is in the eye of the beholder no? I haven't been married but I doubt I would call my boyfriend hubby if we did get married. I tend to just call him babe lol

jlwright75

If I am with a group of people who don't know my husband personally, I will often refer to him as Husband, Hubby or The Hubs because if they don't know him and I just talk randomly about some guy named Dave, they're not going to know who the hell I'm talking about. I don't think I've ever called him any of these things to his face but if I did happen to do so, he wouldn't bat an eye. Honestly, I can't imagine what others call their significant others as being a big deal to other people. I may hear someone else use a pet name for their 'other half' that I find annoying, but if they are good with it, it's nothing for me to concern myself with.

Jessica

fatty2fit88

I don't see how it is condescending.......

but is it annoying (to the 3rd party)? YES!!!!

But what is more annoying is the couple nick names!! lovey-pooo, booobooo, jiggly-doodo, cupsickles (two of them are real ....lol)

I call my man by his real name (shortened version that everyone uses!) ....

Victoriav99

I call my husband "hubby" sometimes and he donesn't mind. I don't care if he calls me wifey either.

arewethereyet

When I was in a college fraternity, the old joke was it was a "fraternity" not a "frat" because you would never shorten the word "country." (Maybe I have the joke wrong...that's what college partying will do!)

Anyway, as a man, I do not like it when women refer to their spouse as their "hubby." I'm sure in most cases it's meant well, but in many it's not. I'm talking about the women who don't particular like their husbands (and I've talked to some of you so I know you're out there!)

But either way, I find "hubby" to be a touch condescending as a man. I have a feeling most women would feel the same way if all of them were referred to as "wifey" in each instance.

I realize most of you mean it as a term of endearment and it's shorter, but that doesn't mean it can't be nails on a chalkboard to me. Could I be the ONLY person that feels this way?

(Let the flaming begin.....)

I would say it is better than calling you nothing at all

lour441

After 20 years I am happy my wife calls me anything.

arewethereyet

After 20 years I am happy my wife calls me anything.

I wanna hug you but go hug your wifey instead:laugh:

CharityEaton

I only use "hubby" as an abbreviation on MFP because most people on here do not personally know my husband. Most times I will use his name. When I talk about him I will call him by his name or refer to him as my husband. I call him honey or babe when I speak to him and of course when I am mad at him.....well that is a whole different topic! I did just ask him and he says don't ever call him hubby.....just use his name! He has never called me wifey.

I TOTALLY HATE when people call their spouse "my old lady" or "old man" grrr! That makes me sooo mad. He used to call me his old lady for about 2 conversations that I overheard and that was the end of that!

KellyKAG

nowhere near as bad as being referred to as "the old lady" or "my old lady". I would much rather be referred to as Wifey.

cat3nv

I detest pronouns.......

EX: She said to ask you a question.

Did you talk to her today?

She who?? And I spoke to several females today, which one? This is something I complain about to my kiddos and my hubby.

However, this (original comment) is a silly thing to get mad about. I hate to be called Mother, my grandma thought Granny was rude. However in other families these words are just fine. My hubby does call me his wifey and I am fine with that.

The real problem here seems to be this; some people are just happy when they find anything wrong with someone. My hubby and I are happier now after 12 years then we were after 5 years.

sunkisses

I can't think of anything I care less about right now that how other people are referring to their spouses. I've got bigger *kitten* on my mind; like how can I get a better parking spot at work.

cessnaholly

there are a lot of women posting here, when they should be making sammiches

Get in the kitchen and make me some PIE!

cessnaholly

I never thought about it. I've never actually said the word hubby but when I'm typing, it is quicker to type than husband.

cat3nv

I just asked my Hubby. He laughed at this topic.

futiledevices

WOW !!! who the fu*k cares ? what it's called..don't hassle people for their preference of words..get over it and stfu

You, apparently, since you're taking the time to reply to this.

BloomingLily

I don't mind the word "hubby" but for some odd reason "wifey" makes me want to hurl. LOL

jillybeanruns

I'm not married, and I don't find it condescending...I just don't like the word "hubby", just as I cannot stand the word "preggo".

beccyleigh

I much prefer "up the duff" or "knocked up"

Swissmiss

Whoo...a lot of people are upset by this subject. Makes me wonderful why they are bothering to read and post if it bothers them so much.

bcattoes

I TOTALLY HATE when people call their spouse "my old lady" or "old man" grrr! That makes me sooo mad. He used to call me his old lady for about 2 conversations that I overheard and that was the end of that!

I call my husband "my old man" pretty often. It's a joke because I'm a several years older than him.

GTOgirl1969

I TOTALLY HATE when people call their spouse "my old lady" or "old man" grrr! That makes me sooo mad. He used to call me his old lady for about 2 conversations that I overheard and that was the end of that!

I call my husband "my old man" pretty often. It's a joke because I'm a several years older than him.

Old lady/old man, ball and chain, etc...to me, terms like that aren't endearing, they're diminishing and disrespectful.

arewethereyet

Whoo...a lot of people are upset by this subject. Makes me wonderful why they are bothering to read and post if it bothers them so much.

Huh, I didn't read it that way. I just saw a lot of different opinions. Funny how words on a page can come off different from one to the other.

When I was a waitress this guy did a kiss sound, like you do to call a dog, and said chickie.....over here as he snapped his fingers. It was my last week so I wheeled around and said "I am NOT a dog! I wear a name tag, I introduced myself when I came to the table, and my name is Mary"

I gave them awesome service and he tipped me at the end. He said in his country, the kissing noise was perfectly acceptable to get someones attention. Then he apologized.

arewethereyet

I TOTALLY HATE when people call their spouse "my old lady" or "old man" grrr! That makes me sooo mad. He used to call me his old lady for about 2 conversations that I overheard and that was the end of that!

I call my husband "my old man" pretty often. It's a joke because I'm a several years older than him.

Old lady/old man, ball and chain, etc...to me, terms like that aren't endearing, they're diminishing and disrespectful.

I think if you have been in a 'diminishing' relationship, you feel stronger about how words are used. For me I will not allow anyone to speak to me like that again. If I am not sweetie pie or honey buns, I will be outahere:laugh:

Vaanja

My "boyfriend" (which is in itself an irritating label- does anyone have a better one? We are more than simple platonic friends, but not married- I am 29 year old female and he is 20.5 years older than I am so "boyfriend" sounds dumb to me for a few reasons)...

I always liked the Swedish terms for such relationships. One's "Sambo" (short for samman boende, or same-accomodation) signifies a serious, live-in relationship while the term "Särbo" (pronounced saer-bo) signifies a serious relationship (more serious than the average high-school couple) between two people not living together.

3GKnight

Since you kinda encouraged flaming...

Man up and get over it. :happy:

bexominglex

I refer to my parents as my "sperm and egg donor". Not that they know about it as I don't actually speak to them often. I refer to myself as their "progeny" or "spawn"- people I don't even know seem offended when I refer to myself as "progeny" or"spawn" or when I refer to procreation as "spawning". Not really sure why. Funny what upsets different people.

What is wrong with using technical terms like saying "I am pregnant" instead of "preggers" and referring to your children as your children or your spouse as your spouse? Why do people feel the need to use nicknames, I wonder? I have no problem with it, I just don't understand it. My name (Lex) is a shortened version of my middle name (Alexandra) because most people mispronounce my first name and I prefer Lex to my first name or Alexandra, but I didn't shorten it so that it *would* be a nick name (most people think it is my legal first name). The desire to shorten words or use nicknames has always made me slightly curious...

bexominglex

I detest pronouns.......

EX: She said to ask you a question.

Did you talk to her today?

She who?? And I spoke to several females today, which one? This is something I complain about to my kiddos and my hubby.

However, this (original comment) is a silly thing to get mad about. I hate to be called Mother, my grandma thought Granny was rude. However in other families these words are just fine. My hubby does call me his wifey and I am fine with that.

The real problem here seems to be this; some people are just happy when they find anything wrong with someone. My hubby and I are happier now after 12 years then we were after 5 years.

I don't detest pronouns. They have their place. Imagine how bad most novels would be if only proper nouns were used throughout? When people ask me a question straight out of the blue and use pronouns and I have no idea who (are even, what species) they are referring to, that's a bit irritating...