Men Are Husbands, Not "Hubbys"

dimpleschick

I don't like Hubby any more than I like "the Wife"--like the chair, the table.....
Or worse, calling your mate Dad or Mom!

bcattoes

I TOTALLY HATE when people call their spouse "my old lady" or "old man" grrr! That makes me sooo mad. He used to call me his old lady for about 2 conversations that I overheard and that was the end of that!

I call my husband "my old man" pretty often. It's a joke because I'm a several years older than him.

Old lady/old man, ball and chain, etc...to me, terms like that aren't endearing, they're diminishing and disrespectful.

I think if you have been in a 'diminishing' relationship, you feel stronger about how words are used. For me I will not allow anyone to speak to me like that again. If I am not sweetie pie or honey buns, I will be outahere:laugh:

I love being my old man's sweetie pie. Someday I hope you all find an old man who will make you proud to be his honey bun.

skittybang

WHY WON'T THIS DIE?!?

jennajava

My goodness, this thread is still alive???

GTOgirl1969

I think if you have been in a 'diminishing' relationship, you feel stronger about how words are used. For me I will not allow anyone to speak to me like that again. If I am not sweetie pie or honey buns, I will be outahere:laugh:

IMO, the "diminishing" and disrespect comes when the person in question KNOWS that it offends/irritates/pisses you off, and continues to say it just to mess with you. I was in a marriage to a man that went from garden-variety passive/aggressive to blatant emotional, mental and physical abuse (with a side of infidelity), and yes, you're right. It DID make me feel stronger about how words are used- but it also made me strong enough to know that I deserved better, even if "better" meant being alone.

coolclimates

I HATE the term and I'm a woman. To me it just sounds like stupid baby talk. I also hate it when people use the term "veggies" instead of vegetables. Ugh!

xtinalovexo

No, men are "idiots".

Matthewgd24

i frickin hate "hubby" like it sounds retarded oh my god...im getting pissed...lol just kidding

but seriously that might be the most annoying word ever

mrsRhughes

I have never once said 'hubby' out loud or in a "real life" conversation .... but on the internet - here, facebook, etc., I always type hubby out of habit!

bikinibeliever

I use hubby all the time - just as he uses wifey. We both see it as a term of endearment - after 17 years we have several!

That said if I'm talking to people I don't know well then its husband but within our close circle he's hubby and I'm wifey.

I have to agree with this post. That is exactly how my Husband and I talk to one another. It is just what comes out most of the time. We love one another dearly, but it is what it is. I grew up with my parents calling one another wifey and hubby. They love each other dearly, been married almost 40 years. It's just what we do.

I agree! Been together for 18 years.

beckylawrence70

Yeah I never say hubby, and he would never call me wifey, lol.......husband and wife is just fine!

MissFit0101

I'm pretty sure no one here cares whether you like it or not, myself included. I don't imagine anyone here is going to call you hubby so wtf would any of us care?

aproc

And men call their wives plenty of names that the women would not like I'm sure. :laugh:

Personally I couldn't call my future husband that just because it would sound ridiculous. I don't even use terms of endearment. I can't call a guy hun, dear, or whatever without feeling weird about it so my husband would most certainly be my 'husband'. But I don't really see how 'hubby' could be insulting unless the woman knew you didn't like the word.

michellelhartwig

meh-I say hubby or even, gasp, hubster! He calls me the wife. It's no biggie here!

Nataliaho

I refer to my husband as hubbie on forums, but not in real life... I have no idea why. Sorry if this ruins your day :eyeroll:

Collinsky

I use hubby all the time - just as he uses wifey. We both see it as a term of endearment - after 17 years we have several!

That said if I'm talking to people I don't know well then its husband but within our close circle he's hubby and I'm wifey.

Exactly this (although we're 6 years shy of our 17th anniversary!)

I guess I should start correcting my husband when he calls me "Punkin" as he has since we were dating ... it's PUMPKIN, thank you very much.

However, we usually only use those to address each other, as pet names. When we're talking to other people we probably say "husband" and "wife" ... I never really paid attention.

FrugalMomsRock75

My husband and I actually DO refer to one another as "hubby" and "wifey."

So what's it to ya? *rollseyes*

mikeyboy

My wife calls me by my name.... followed by "come hither", followed by a finger snap. Yep, she loves me!

AsellusReborn

FWIW, my husband does indeed call me wifey. "Wifey, come hereeeeee!" I rarely say hubby, but in the few times I've done so it's been to someone who doesn't know him, typically online so they don't really care to know much about him if that makes sense. To our friends he's Keith, to someone who don't know him he's my husband (or very rarely hubby) because it's a shorthand/lazy way of indicating my relationship and why I might have asked his opinion or be looiking something up, etc. Hubby is just a cutesy way of saying it, so I don't really see it as demeaning nor would I use it as a pejorative term. That said my response to him calling me wifey is to say "Yes, husband-y?" so maybe I should use hubby in that case :flowerforyou:

Cold_Steel

I prefer my wife calling me "pay day"

Although I am not fond of all the attempts on my life... Paying that guy with the car that was one thing but seriously the guy with the gun was a bit overkill

FittingIn

Stud muffin is an acceptable substitute. :happy:

winninga

We have a lot of different pet names for each other, Papa Bear, Mama Bear, Big Daddy, the Missus (he's from Ireland), and really don't think twice about it. Yes, I've called him hubby to others in and out of his company. He's the type who would say something if it offended him. Neither one of us get our knickers in a wad for little things such as pet names. We don't take ourselves too seriously, and we've had to deal with a lot of challenges in our short 10 year marriage. We've had to go to Hell and back, and to get so upset over something so trivial wouldn't make much sense to either of us.

Kitten2629

Doesn't bother me a bit. I would actually be more offended if he called me by my real name b/c I;m never called my real name unless in trouble for something lol.

Barbellerella

Could I be the ONLY person that feels this way?

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Yes you are. But regardless, I don't actually call him "hubby", but if I'm speaking about him on my status or on my FB page, than yes I refer to him as hubby. OH well! I guess you'll have to get over it!

bm99

He is my husband, hubs, hubby, hubba hubba, honeypot and, when the occasion warrants, my hubtard.

I haven't called him his name in months. I literally call him Husband.

He doesn't call me Wifey, though, way too ghetto. He calls me wife, babe, woman...

VirtuousVal

I only ever viewed it (and heard it) as a term of endearment when i was married or when I've heard my female friends refer to their spouse. It's just a word. There are worse things that a person can be called. I don't see the big deal.

Agree with this quote. It seems to me that the OP may have some other underlying issues that was not disclosed. What is the big deal about "HUBBY" OR "WIFEY"??!!?? It is used in a loving and a term of endearment! Simple as that! What is really the issue that you have with "Hubby" or "Wifey". I do not see, hear or understand what is offensive or demeaning! I guess it is not what you say but how you say it....is what matters. What kind of tone of voice does the person use when saying the word/name.

Zee48

I don't see why it is such a big deal. It is just an abbreviation. As a woman, being called 'the ball and chain', my 'bird' and my 'missus' is however offensive (not saying that you do this)

That and 'my old lady'. That makes my blood boil. But Hubby, Wifey - neither bother me but don't ever remember my Darling Husband every calling each other either of those names. We were Momma & Daddy or Nana & Papa which I know drives some nuts. Of course my DH passed away 2 1/2 yr ago so I'd even love to hear him call me his 'old lady.'

winninga

He is my husband, hubs, hubby, hubba hubba and, when the occasion warrants, my hubtard.

I haven't called him his name in months.

Haha! Hubtard, I love it!

myfitnessnmhoy

I am married, I am male, and my wife occasionally refers to be as her "hubby". No problem with it here. Different strokes for different folks...

GLJezebel

I am not a fan of hubby, but I am an even bigger non-fan of HUBBINS. Worst. Petname. Ever. -gag-

GRRRR....I TOTALLY agree with you on that. It just sounds weird, creepy, and gross.