Friends on MFP with poor food diaries?

t_rog

Awwww c'mon guys. This thread just turned mean :-/

LorinaLynn

I eat what some would consider some pretty crappy foods, like the asiago cheese bagel I have for breakfast most mornings, or the half of a garlic bread thick crust pepperoni pizza I had last night. But I've reached and surpassed all my weight loss and fitness goals.

I'm happy with my results. That's all that counts. If I wasn't happy with my results and was asking for advice or complaining that this wasn't working for me... that would be the time to say, "Hey, maybe lay off the pizza?"

Yakisoba

Awwww c'mon guys. This thread just turned mean :-/

This thread's been mean. Welcome.

t_rog

Awwww c'mon guys. This thread just turned mean :-/

This thread's been mean. Welcome.

You're right, but at least it's been a general mean-ness. Not targeted at a specific person. Just sayin.

Forme4real2

Just my thoughts on how smoking affects others: It does, physically. I know that after being on my own and not being around smokers in my every day life, then going home to visit these smokers, I always get headaches and have trouble with my asthma just being in their houses. To me, it's different to ask someone to not smoke near you for that reason, than to ask someone to leave a beach (besides the rudeness factor).

I have that same issue. My mother and step dad are heavy smokers and were just here for a visit. They didn't smoke in the house but I could hardly breathe just having them in my home. I actually was relieved when they left because I could breath normally and my house no longer smelled like smoke. I never realized how strong the smell really was.

MizzDoc

honestly i think the point of making your food diary public is to get feedback from other users...Im not saying we are all doctors etc but constructive criticism is okay. I think if you are not okay with it dont make your diary public. IMHO, the whole point of being on MFP is for the group support and that includes criticism.

Agree wholeheartedly. I have no issues when my MFPals let me know I am being bad in my food choices. It makes me think and keeps me on the ball. That's why my friends can see my diary.

There are times when I have sent messages to my MFPals about their food choices. They were not pissed at all. But then I suppose it is all about how you ask and why you ask.

NeuroticVirgo

I don't say anything. I figure I don't know what's going on in their lives, and who knows, maybe that candy bar for breakfast saved them from a McDonalds value meal for breakfast (easy 1000 calories more than a whole Hershey bar).

jetscreaminagain

Diary now private. I guess there's something to being secretive and sensitive to criticism.

That said, the existence of this thread in my news feed gave me pause about completing the diary. I don't want too much negativity and life's been hectic. I've not been perfect.

However, there's a lot of black and white thinking about food around here. Sometimes the healthy way to do this is to be imperfect relatively often. Life happens. Cravings happen. Weddings happen. Work pot lucks happen. This is life and life is meant to be enjoyed. Imperfect effort still produces results

nerdyandilikeit

Awwww c'mon guys. This thread just turned mean :-/

This thread's been mean. Welcome.

You're right, but at least it's been a general mean-ness. Not targeted at a specific person. Just sayin.

I wasn't meaning to be mean. I'm no meanie!

DannyMussels

I only check peoples to see if they've been drinking. Then wonder how wild of a night they had.


The only things I've inputted in 2 months is candy , ice cream and maybe 2 or 3 other things. Oh, macaroni/cheese with hotdogs.

mabug01

Many of my friends eat junk and they are more successful at losing weight than I am. So, no, I don't remark unless they post asking for advice.

KaleidoscopeEyes1056

One of my friends told me that I need to eat more veggies, which I wasn't offended by. I know I need to eat more of them, the problem is that I can't afford to buy a lot of veggies. So, that may be some of the reason, that healthy food is generally more expensive than crap food. And ****ty food is more accessible as well, especially on a college campus.

CoraGregoryCPA

If it bothers you, why don't you just delete them on your end?

However, the person might be working on mini goals for long run result. What if they used to eat 3 bad junk food meals a day and now they are down to 1? Then they are doing a great job! You just never know. I wouldn't recommend it unless they ask. If it bothers me, then I do delete them. I like to look at others diaries for meal ideas. So I look often, but it's never to criticize.

Just_Dot

If one of my friends commented on my crappy food choice, as in they were presuming to tell me that I was eating poorly and needed to make better choices, they'd probably be on my friend list for about 30 seconds after that. But, that's what I love about my friends...regardless of what diet we're following (veg, vegan, clean, Paleo, portion control, etc.) we know that people aren't perfect and slip-ups happen. I also love that if I were to have a really sh!tty week, they'd be more likely to ask me if I was okay, than judge me.

Dimaljnkt

ditto

valeriebpdx

The responses here kind of piss me off and I thought people on this site would have a more balanced response, I congratulate them when they exercise, or reaching their calorie goal or maintaining or people on recovery, why shouldn't I give honest feedback on a diary that isn't balanced?

Because people don't get fat because of a lack of knowledge. If you were the one person in the world who didn't know you should have been eating broccoli instead of a bacon cheeseburger, then I apologize. But all the rest of us know what we are supposed to do--any breakdown happens in the execution. We get busy, the skinny husband and kids are whining for fast food, the chicken breasts didn't thaw in time for dinner, or somebody has a birthday at work and you want some damn cake. If you want to "support" somebody by delving into the reasons they eat emotionally or fear physical activity or don't prioritize themselves, great. Telling me if I want to lose weight I shouldn't have had the chicken strips at lunch today, not so useful.

purple44444

I have a public food diary, not because I really want people to comment on it, but because I know I'll feel silly if I keep putting junk food on it and nothing substantial.

CoraGregoryCPA

That's sad that you say kids are whining for fast food. I really hope my kids never think of fast food as an option for dinner.


Also, I recommend if you want to comment on friend's diaries, then you should note this in your profile. Therefore they are aware ahead of time. You will probably get a better group of healthier eaters. They will motivate you too.

Like my profile says if we are friends then your diary should be public. For people that don't share their diary, I delete them immediately.

valeriebpdx

That's sad that you say kids are whining for fast food. I really hope my kids never think of fast food as an option for dinner.

Gee, I hope so too. Congrats on having it all worked out.

KaleidoscopeEyes1056

well, a poor diary may indicate a poor bank account, as it does with me.

CoraGregoryCPA

LOL. I'm not saying it won't happen, I just really hope it doesn't.

That's sad that you say kids are whining for fast food. I really hope my kids never think of fast food as an option for dinner.

Gee, I hope so too. Congrats on having it all worked out.

HMonsterX

I think it's fair to say that the majority of members on this site don't post on these forums. I think it's also fair to say that the majority use this site to track their calories as the first priority.

Therefore, you can't say the point of this site is to let strangers pick apart your food, and criticise you on every little thing. I'd like to think that those of us eating crap KNOW it is. We don't need to be told that!

The smoking thing i started was only to highlight the point that people do unhealthy things even though they are fully aware of the consequences. And it's our choice to make. You may think you are helping someone by telling them smoking is bad for them, but really you just come across as patronising.

CBranson0503

People get over it!!! What are you hiding?

I have nothing to hide, but I don't need so called "friends" telling me how to eat. I started keeping track of what I ate to learn about myself and see where my eating habits are tripping me up from my goals. I don't care what anyone else eats on here. The people I have added as my MFP friends are still able to support and help me without seeing what I am eating.

Nanadena

If one of my friends commented on my crappy food choice, as in they were presuming to tell me that I was eating poorly and needed to make better choices, they'd probably be on my friend list for about 30 seconds after that. but, that's what I love about my friends...regardless of what diet we're following (veg, vegan, clean, Paleo, portion control, etc.) we know that people aren't perfect and slip-ups happen. I also love thatvif I were to have a really ****ty week, they'd be more likely to ask me if I was okay, than judge me.

I SO totally agree. I lost more weight than I planned and have felt guilt? :noway:

jenny95662

And this is why I keep my diary private. :noway:

thank you same reason i keep mine private I am not dumb i know when i am not picking the best choices but its a life style and if i am not doing well with choices but staying under then its my choice you telling me diff just will annoy me.

That's sad that you say kids are whining for fast food. I really hope my kids never think of fast food as an option for dinner.

ok this annoys me . First off its normal i have a couple friends who never eat out with there children and always eat at home and yet there kids still beg to go to pizza out and such. Kids live in a world where there friends eat out and they will see it so if your kids dont thats great but i think its normal whether you like it or not. the whole reason there is a big debate about the toys they give in happy meals. My kid never eats out but she sees the toys on tv and still asks. Does not mean her family eats out every night. well let me rephrase my kid does eat out but we dont usually go to mcdonalds cause i dont care for it and she still wants to tons.

Just_Dot

I bought my daughter McDonalds today for lunch... Did I feel guilty, heck no! Because for dinner she had a baked chicken breast with orzo pasta, spinach and mushrooms. Again, we're human...and we don't always make the best choices food wise. It's because of people like the judgers that make people keep their diaries private.

jenny95662

I bought my daughter McDonalds today for lunch... Did I feel guilty, heck no! Because for dinner she had a baked chicken breast with orzo pasta, spinach and mushrooms. Again, we're human...and we don't always make the best choices food wise. It's because of people like the judgers that make people keep their diaries private.

well said!

Yakisoba

I forget where the McDonald's thing came from again? -surfs the pages-

discodaddy61

to all of you nay sayers if its none of our business then why be on this site looking for help and encouragement??

Yakisoba

to all of you nay sayers if its none of our business then why be on this site looking for help and encouragement??

Because not everyone is on this site looking for help or encouragement. Some people just want a place to track their calories and exercise and make friends.