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Melissaol
Melissaol Posts: 948 Member
edited November 8 in Motivation and Support
This morning was my weigh in day. I didn't lose anything .. which pissed me off. So when I told my husband it. All he said was stop thinking about it so much. And it will happen!
Boy that's not what I wanted to hear....
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  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    I don't mean to generalize, but....most men want to "fix" our problems. So when you say stuff like that, I think sometimes they have no response b/c they can't fix it! Besides, we HAVE to think about it, and it doesn't just happen. Be damn sweet if it did!!

    Keep logging, keep pushing, try not to let it discourage you. Take measurements, try on pants that used to be tight and see if they feel better. There are often things that change that the scale won't reflect.

    Good luck!
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    What did you want to hear?
  • klb620
    klb620 Posts: 28 Member
    Frustrating!

    I vent to my husband to just get it off my chest, but then he tries to tell me what I'm doing wrong, like not exercising enough, not cutting enough calories, etc.....it really gets under my skin. All I want to hear is, sorry you're having a bad day/week......or look how far you've come, just stay focused......nope, I get all those tips that worked for him when he was in the Army.........ERRRRRR, husbands just don't get it! LOL
  • Jovialation
    Jovialation Posts: 7,632 Member
    ok so one of you wants MORE input while the other wants NONE?


    ugh, women.
  • tig_ol_bitties
    tig_ol_bitties Posts: 561 Member
    What did you want to hear?

    I'm curious as well...what did you expect him to say?
  • Evansmama29
    Evansmama29 Posts: 84 Member
    I have quickly learned not to bother talking to (some) husbands (not all of them)about weight loss efforts. I just started MFP about 3 weeks ago - and was recently talking to my husband about it. He told me that he hopes I'm not doing this for him, because he doesn't care - he thinks I'm beautiful. I know it was supposed to be nice - but it kind of pissed me off! Um no - not doing this for YOU hon, doing this for me!!! So you just freaking go ahead and enjoy that Big Mac with your freakishly high metabolism, while I choke down this rabbit food!! Some men just don't think before they speak. I'm sure by next week - your weigh in will be wonderful!!!!
  • MissO﹠A
    MissO﹠A Posts: 906 Member
    Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I :heart: him muchly.
  • Jovialation
    Jovialation Posts: 7,632 Member
    I have quickly learned not to bother talking to (some) husbands (not all of them)about weight loss efforts. I just started MFP about 3 weeks ago - and was recently talking to my husband about it. He told me that he hopes I'm not doing this for him, because he doesn't care - he thinks I'm beautiful. I know it was supposed to be nice - but it kind of pissed me off! Um no - not doing this for YOU hon, doing this for me!!! So you just freaking go ahead and enjoy that Big Mac with your freakishly high metabolism, while I choke down this rabbit food!! Some men just don't think before they speak. I'm sure by next week - your weigh in will be wonderful!!!!
    SRSLY?!

    He was being nice. He was saying you're beautiful and to do this for yourself and not him.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I have quickly learned not to bother talking to (some) husbands (not all of them)about weight loss efforts.
    Oh? How many husbands do you talk to about your weight loss efforts?
  • cabaray
    cabaray Posts: 971 Member
    Same thing happened to me only my husband said you may not have lost any, but you didn't gain any either. I thought it was a great response and made me look at things totally different!
  • YukonJoy
    YukonJoy Posts: 1,279 Member
    I have quickly learned not to bother talking to (some) husbands (not all of them)about weight loss efforts. I just started MFP about 3 weeks ago - and was recently talking to my husband about it. He told me that he hopes I'm not doing this for him, because he doesn't care - he thinks I'm beautiful. I know it was supposed to be nice - but it kind of pissed me off! Um no - not doing this for YOU hon, doing this for me!!! So you just freaking go ahead and enjoy that Big Mac with your freakishly high metabolism, while I choke down this rabbit food!! Some men just don't think before they speak. I'm sure by next week - your weigh in will be wonderful!!!!
    SRSLY?!

    He was being nice. He was saying you're beautiful and to do this for yourself and not him.

    Holy **** women are neurotic!!!
  • ishallnotwant
    ishallnotwant Posts: 1,210 Member
    Oh yay! Another husband bashing thread!

    Wait what?
  • My husband still has the metabolism of a 17 year old. So all evening long, I have to hear him crunching on potato chips and junk. He tried to not snack as much one week to support me and he lost 7 pounds. I lost 2 that week. He just doesn't get it!!!
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    Frustrating!

    I vent to my husband to just get it off my chest, but then he tries to tell me what I'm doing wrong, like not exercising enough, not cutting enough calories, etc.....it really gets under my skin. All I want to hear is, sorry you're having a bad day/week......or look how far you've come, just stay focused......nope, I get all those tips that worked for him when he was in the Army.........ERRRRRR, husbands just don't get it! LOL

    Sounds to me like hes trying to HELP.
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I :heart: him muchly.


    haha mine just says "I still love you!!"
  • I have quickly learned not to bother talking to (some) husbands (not all of them)about weight loss efforts. I just started MFP about 3 weeks ago - and was recently talking to my husband about it. He told me that he hopes I'm not doing this for him, because he doesn't care - he thinks I'm beautiful. I know it was supposed to be nice - but it kind of pissed me off! Um no - not doing this for YOU hon, doing this for me!!! So you just freaking go ahead and enjoy that Big Mac with your freakishly high metabolism, while I choke down this rabbit food!! Some men just don't think before they speak. I'm sure by next week - your weigh in will be wonderful!!!!
    SRSLY?!

    He was being nice. He was saying you're beautiful and to do this for yourself and not him.


    i agree. do this for you... not for the praise.
  • Jovialation
    Jovialation Posts: 7,632 Member
    Seriously you women need to stop this crap.

    Im just gonna start reporting husband bashing as offensive.
  • papastu
    papastu Posts: 737 Member
    What did you want to hear?

    I'm curious as well...what did you expect him to say?

    me 2
  • YukonJoy
    YukonJoy Posts: 1,279 Member
    You people = neurotic


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  • sweet110
    sweet110 Posts: 332 Member
    Your husband sounds like a great, level-headed guy.

    And yes...sometimes we DO want to get all high school girl about our weight loss (did the scale move? did it not move? are my thighs getting bigger? is rice bad for me? should I go on a cleanse? should i eat more? should I go vegan? OMG! OMG! OMG!). It can be satisfying in its own little perverse way. Let's all just be honest with ourselves.

    But, thank your lucky stars that you are not married to a man who acts like a teenage girl. His level-headed support is a lot better for you than a freak-out.

    So give that man a big kiss tonight.
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    Could be worse they could be cheating,drinking,never coming home,no job,but yeah I guess a husband telling his wife shes beautiful is such a terrible thing
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    ok so one of you wants MORE input while the other wants NONE?


    ugh, women.

    Why I'm friends with you and not the others.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Huh.

    Nothing I read here would have upset me if it were said to me. Maybe it's not the husbands who are difficult?

    (Edited for misplaced apostophe. Thirty lashes to me!)
  • Jovialation
    Jovialation Posts: 7,632 Member
    *applause*

    Thats for Brett, Fear, and Joy.

    And the rest of you that aren't insane women and want to know what the issue is here
  • tnorth82
    tnorth82 Posts: 186
    mine says stop being impatient.... then goes back to his Xbox!
  • MummyOfSeven
    MummyOfSeven Posts: 314 Member
    I gained 4 lb this week. I don't know how. I've been ill and haven't been able to exercise, but still, 4 lb!
    My husband held me while I cried and gently suggested that at least some of it might be down to water retention and the steroids the doc put me on.
    Bless his lovely heart :heart:
  • kandyjo
    kandyjo Posts: 4,493 Member
    Mine pretty much has a general DISINTEREST in what I'm doing as far as my HEALTH JOURNEY is concerned...
  • LoriBarefoot
    LoriBarefoot Posts: 218 Member
    Yea you probably should have called a gf to rant about it to. Men are problem solvers. They don't understand the analyzing and discussing we have to do about everything. My husband tells me simply, "just stick with it babe." Like it's no problem.
  • MinnesotaManimal
    MinnesotaManimal Posts: 642 Member
    I have quickly learned not to bother talking to (some) husbands (not all of them)about weight loss efforts. I just started MFP about 3 weeks ago - and was recently talking to my husband about it. He told me that he hopes I'm not doing this for him, because he doesn't care - he thinks I'm beautiful. I know it was supposed to be nice - but it kind of pissed me off! Um no - not doing this for YOU hon, doing this for me!!! So you just freaking go ahead and enjoy that Big Mac with your freakishly high metabolism, while I choke down this rabbit food!! Some men just don't think before they speak. I'm sure by next week - your weigh in will be wonderful!!!!

    Moral of the story, it doesn't matter what we say we are wrong?

    if a tree falls in the woods and nobody is there to hear it, does it still make a sound?
  • GateCrasher1
    GateCrasher1 Posts: 108 Member
    This morning was my weigh in day. I didn't lose anything .. which pissed me off. So when I told my husband it. All he said was stop thinking about it so much. And it will happen!
    Boy that's not what I wanted to hear....

    He only said this because in the sheer terror of realizing he was being drawn into a conversation involving women and weight in which THERE IS NO RIGHT THING TO SAY, he panicked and spewed the first thing that came to mind. Be happy his heart didn't seize right then and make you a widow.
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