husbands...

Rae6503

When I brag to my husband about new personal weight lifting records, he likes to compare mine with his old ones.... I don't care if you could do 250 push ups when you were 19 and in the arm, I'm proud that I can do 3 sets of 8. I usually just correct him and say "You are supposed to say 'Good job honey'." Then he says "Good job honey" and we move on.

RachelLovesHockey

In response to the original post - if I complain about my weight my bf suggests we get active right then and there. I have learned not to complain about not losing weight or losing weight slowly unless I want him to suggest we go for a bike ride or head to the gym. The gym is 24 hours so there is no time of day that is safe to vent. Ever. Not only does he not put up with my bellyaching he immediately suggests I/we do something about it. I have to say I like his response!

YukonJoy

But, to all you complainers, what do you LIKE about your husbands?? Do you ever post about THAT??

*frustrated*

These aren't "reasons to hate your husband" this are just funny and interesting tidbits about the nature of men in general. There's no anger, or animosity...it's all in fun. Men are men, and woman are women. It's what makes the world go round.

I call BS on that one. If there was a thread like this about someone's wife there would be 1000 comments from women going "OMG - she is just being helpful, she loves you!! You don't deserve a woman like that!! Wow you are such a jerk!!"

etc

etc

etc

Hmm. I suppose I just see it differently. Oh well.

Probably because you have a healthy view on men and women relationships and most people are just bat *kitten* crazy. lol

Healthyby30

What exactly did you want him to say?

I see nothing wrong in what he said at all! Along with some other posts...especially the one about her husband not wanting her to do it for him because he thinks she's beautiful...and you're upset about that? LOL

Completely ridiculous!!!

I'll never understand all the man bashing... no one, men and women alike, is a mind reader. I'm sure you say things to him that make him think , "wtf?" If you only want him to say what you want to hear, why bother asking? Tell yourself what you want to hear instead, because that's basically the same thing.

If I ask someone their opinion, or am sharing something with them, then that means I want to know what their response is. Not that I want them to tell me what they think I want to hear. That's just absurd.

PrincessLou71186

If I moan to my hubby that I haven't lost anything he says "You're still sexy as hell. Have you switched you routine around a little? That might help, we could try more sex if you're stuck for ideas." Always makes me smile. He has even joined and logs everything he eats so that I don't feel like I'm doing it myself.

However, I would love to know how he puts away 3-4000 calories a day and only fluctuates +/-3. Stupid man with his stupid freakishly hight metabolism. Lol. (I am keeping an eye on things so that when he stops fluctuating and simply starts gaining we can do something about it before it becomes too much. He would do it himself but "You do things so much better than I do Princess.")

BelleHeart

awww.. he just doesn't want you to be upset!

MassiveDelta

This morning was my weigh in day. I didn't lose anything .. which pissed me off. So when I told my husband it. All he said was stop thinking about it so much. And it will happen!
Boy that's not what I wanted to hear....

So what your saying is your still thinking about it? He is right stop doubting him. No you dont have to think about it 2nd poster. Especially if your the kind of person who stresses over it. If your thinking about it is causing you stress then it could potentially cause slow losses or even gains.

Your right men are fixers. Its what we do.

Yea you probably should have called a gf to rant about it to. Men are problem solvers. They don't understand the analyzing and discussing we have to do about everything. My husband tells me simply, "just stick with it babe." Like it's no problem.

We do analyze but we take facts only not emotions because emotions destroy reason. So we look at the facts and find the core problem and fix it. Ya you should have called a GF if you wanted sympathy but if you wanted honest straight forward opinions that are black and white and generally they are the best options for you (if your husband loves you) Then take his advice. Everytime.

Jamie145

my hubs says Babe it takes time and youre doing so good,IM so proud of u!'" And he is now doing this with me---he even workouts out with Jillian Michaels LOL. i think its rather hilarious.


Neways i think u shud talk to yur hubby and tell him u need more support and motivation!! COMMUNCIATE:)

BrettPGH

Wow! maybe all of you "haters" calling her a "husband hater" should re read what she wrote. She never said one thing about hating her husband. You all have ripped apart this lady for no reason. Again she was just looking for support.

She already got really great support from the husband she came here to complain about.

LessMe2B

This morning was my weigh in day. I didn't lose anything .. which pissed me off. So when I told my husband it. All he said was stop thinking about it so much. And it will happen!
Boy that's not what I wanted to hear....

He only said this because in the sheer terror of realizing he was being drawn into a conversation involving women and weight in which THERE IS NO RIGHT THING TO SAY, he panicked and spewed the first thing that came to mind. Be happy his heart didn't seize right then and make you a widow.

GAWD I love the men's reactions to this post. SERIOUSLY LADIES...is everything you say ALWAYS taken in the correct way?!?!? I agree that he was trying to be supportive and BLESS HIS HEART...many men would have just (wisely) run screaming from the room when the question came out of your mouth!!! I have a WONDERFUL, supportive and loving husband, but if I ask him about my weight, looks, outfit, etc.; I get that "deer in the headlights" look and the same kind of answer you are getting upset with...."You look nice," "I love you at any weight," etc. Bless his heart for not running from the room.....I LOVE HIM SOOOO MUCH FOR HIS LOVE AND HIS PATIENCE WITH MY CRAZINESS!!!

wrevhn

My hubs is very interested in my loss and health. He listens very well and responds well.


my issue is he likes my cooking and he likes me to eat what he eats. so he uses his charm to get me to cook for him and insists I cheat with him. Him cheating on eating heathy is no biggy, he has high metabolism. I'm 30 (hes 23) so mine is slowing down. Me cheating is going to add up to weight.


but aside from that, he does very well.

thor1god1of1awesome

This is my one issue with women, they want to be able to read their minds and say the right thing, sorry Iadies i left my prof x wheelchair in the garage

pirateDeb

Seriously you women need to stop this crap.

Im just gonna start reporting husband bashing as offensive.

I kind of agree. Women drive me NUTS! What do you want to hear? Tell your husbands what you expect from them before getting angry with em! Dont bash them for having an honest response!

Honesty is something I value more than modesty, tact, feelings, or pretty much anything. And I never EVER punish him or get mad at him without first a) making my expectations clear and concise before hand and b)fully explaining why I am irritated. At my worst, whenever I asked him if he thought I was fat, he said I was fat. At 250 lbs, I sure as hell was fat, and I expected no less than honesty. I didnt like it, it didnt feel nice, but it was the truth. The truth hurts. Whenever I hit a plateau or start going backwards and I vent, I dont get irritated by his response, he means the best. I probably plateau or revert because I DID binge a bit much, or WAS hormonal from aunt flo, or DIDNT push myself hard enough at the gym lately. Its not his fault for helping me troubleshoot where I went wrong so I could improve and continue with progress.

Sure, the moron has his shortcomings, but so do I.

But totally agree on the woman thing. Wanting to avoid massive amounts of hormonal crazy is why I stick with men. I can barely tolerate myself sometimes, why would I want another one of that around, lol XD

YukonJoy

Wow! maybe all of you "haters" calling her a "husband hater" should re read what she wrote. She never said one thing about hating her husband. You all have ripped apart this lady for no reason. Again she was just looking for support.

She already got really great support from the husband she came here to complain about.

BAZINGA!

ajbeans

Ugh, wives...

They expect their husbands to read their minds instead of just TELLING them what they need, and then they insist on taking everything the wrong way when their husbands are actually trying to be supportive and loving.

COMMUNICATE. Tell him what you need along this journey. And don't read into what he's saying. How about you just assume he's coming from a place of love, and give him the benefit of the doubt instead of complaining about him to total strangers on an internet forum?

HarlCarl

I would have said, "Yes Dear." But I've been married for 24 years.

*edit* No, 25 years! :happy:

OOPs, 24.5 years....I was close!! (or is it clothes?) :noway:

_SusieQ_

That is how I took it as well,
I saw nothing in OPs post that was bashing her husband AT ALL. She said it wasn't what SHE wanted to hear, not that he said the wrong thing.

Try being a man for five minutes Suze and you'll see that there is no difference between #1 and #2.

dammit, stop being logical, cuz that actually made me laugh. :happy:

YukonJoy

Sure, the moron has his shortcomings, but so do I.

I snorted water up my nose.

MassiveDelta

Wow! maybe all of you "haters" calling her a "husband hater" should re read what she wrote. She never said one thing about hating her husband. You all have ripped apart this lady for no reason. Again she was just looking for support.

Actually the tone was very negative in nature toward her husband. She may not have said I hate my husband but the lack of respect she has demonstrated here implies it. Thats how I would feel as a husband.

Especially when his answer was supportive. He could have said, "Well if you hadn't eaten that box of fancy cakes then your *kitten* wouldn't look like a Pop up camper."

edited to fix spelling

ajbeans

I would have said, "Yes Dear." But I've been married for 24 years.

*edit* No, 25 years! :happy:

:laugh:

YukonJoy

This is my one issue with women, they want to be able to read their minds and say the right thing, sorry Iadies i left my prof x wheelchair in the garage

ONE issue? :huh:

MummyOfSeven

I would have said, "Yes Dear." But I've been married for 24 years.

*edit* No, 25 years! :happy:

LMAO! :laugh:

jackpotclown

I would have said, "Yes Dear." But I've been married for 24 years.

*edit* No, 25 years! :happy:

Very wise

pirateDeb

Sure, the moron has his shortcomings, but so do I.

I snorted water up my nose.

Hey, I'm honest

jessicart77

Dont lose the faith! You have come a long way so far. Next weigh in will be a better weigh in and if not you can make some different adjustments.

My husband says he doesn't see any fat. LOL...It's frusterating to me too but I don't think that some of them really know what to say. My husband dropped like 15 lbs by just stopping his soda habit...kind of. LOL

Hang in there! And ignore some of the women that have posted on your entry. It's really too bad because we're supposed to be here supporting each other and not trying to make a person feel worse.

Good luck!!

jazzalea

Frustrating!

I vent to my husband to just get it off my chest, but then he tries to tell me what I'm doing wrong, like not exercising enough, not cutting enough calories, etc.....it really gets under my skin. All I want to hear is, sorry you're having a bad day/week......or look how far you've come, just stay focused......nope, I get all those tips that worked for him when he was in the Army.........ERRRRRR, husbands just don't get it! LOL

oops wrong post lol

cramernh

I have quickly learned not to bother talking to (some) husbands (not all of them)about weight loss efforts. I just started MFP about 3 weeks ago - and was recently talking to my husband about it. He told me that he hopes I'm not doing this for him, because he doesn't care - he thinks I'm beautiful. I know it was supposed to be nice - but it kind of pissed me off! Um no - not doing this for YOU hon, doing this for me!!! So you just freaking go ahead and enjoy that Big Mac with your freakishly high metabolism, while I choke down this rabbit food!! Some men just don't think before they speak. I'm sure by next week - your weigh in will be wonderful!!!!

SRSLY?!

He was being nice. He was saying you're beautiful and to do this for yourself and not him.

Agreed - your husband was definitely showing support and hoping that you truly are doing this for yourself, not for him.... the fact he actually shared how he felt, that in itself is a rarety!

It shouldnt have made you so mad - it should have made you feel special no matter what.

minnesota_deere

Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I him muchly.

thats a good one, i will use this on my wife.

LorinaLynn

I get around all these issues by talking so damn much that my husband never has to wonder what I'm thinking or what the right thing to say might be.

ishallnotwant

I would have said, "Yes Dear." But I've been married for 24 years.

*edit* No, 25 years! :happy:

OOPs, 24.5 years....I was close!! (or is it clothes?) :noway:

Oh no. Now you're in trouble 'cause you didn't remember exactly how many years/months/days(hours?seconds?) you've been married.