husbands...

kiwianjel

So on the up side .... you didnt lose but you also didnt gain so thats a positive right ?

blink1021

last night I was not able to work out because my son needed help with a school project. When I voiced that I was disappointed that I didn't get to work out he told me that I had become obsessed and that I was going to continue to work out until I couldn't walk (not sure how that works). I just have to laugh and walk away.

takingmylifeback

What did you want to hear?

How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
:flowerforyou:

ajbeans

I get around all these issues by talking so damn much that my husband never has to wonder what I'm thinking or what the right thing to say might be.

Right? Communication is a beautiful thing. Men think women are crazy because so many women expect men to be mind-readers instead of regular people.

pirateDeb

Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I him muchly.

Mine never wants to know about my poop I tell him anyway

YukonJoy

Oh no. Now you're in trouble 'cause you didn't remember exactly how many years/months/days(hours?seconds?) you've been married.

That's why you should marry a girl with ADHD. I never remember the year. I remember the day, but not the year. So I don't know how long.

Like....

....long enough that I am not embarrassed if I fart in front of him.

ajbeans

What did you want to hear?

How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
:flowerforyou:

But she could have taken that the wrong way too. "Oh, so you think I need to work out more because I'm fat, huh?" He can't win in this situation. He was TRYING to be supportive.

ChRiStA_1983

This morning was my weigh in day. I didn't lose anything .. which pissed me off. So when I told my husband it. All he said was stop thinking about it so much. And it will happen!
Boy that's not what I wanted to hear....

I personally think that's good advice! He's trying to be supportive, without telling you what you should be doing to "fix" your "problem"....And he's right! I think sometimes we just obsess too much, and unfortunately, it tends to hold us back. It sounds to me like he wasn't being insensitive, just supportive....

YukonJoy

What did you want to hear?

How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
:flowerforyou:

HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ishallnotwant

Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I him muchly.

Mine never wants to know about my poop I tell him anyway

That's one lucky guy. :laugh:

FearAnLoathing

What did you want to hear?

How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
:flowerforyou:

Telling her not to worry about it is supportave,maybe he does not want her to stress about it

VoodooLuLu

What did you want to hear?

I'm curious as well...what did you expect him to say?

this

RenaPink11

Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I him muchly.

LOL... this would be mine too. My husband is actually a pretty good support. I got lucky. :drinker:

jazzalea

This morning was my weigh in day. I didn't lose anything .. which pissed me off. So when I told my husband it. All he said was stop thinking about it so much. And it will happen!
Boy that's not what I wanted to hear....

Sounds to me like he has more faith in you than you do... trust him when you don't trust yourself. :flowerforyou:

pirateDeb

I get around all these issues by talking so damn much that my husband never has to wonder what I'm thinking or what the right thing to say might be.

Right? Communication is a beautiful thing. Men think women are crazy because so many women expect men to be mind-readers instead of regular people.

Women are crazy.

cramernh

This is my one issue with women, they want to be able to read their minds and say the right thing, sorry Iadies i left my prof x wheelchair in the garage

Thor, thankfully not all of us wives feel that way....

twinsanity

I just have a simple question...which is apparently the question of the day.... Is there anything men can do right? I am flabbergasted at the 'men-bashing' today. That is all.

H_Factor

As a husband myself, I don't see how his response was out of line at all. Could he have meant..."stop worrying about the dang scale so much, and just keep doing what you're doing"?

see blog..... http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/H_Factor/view/eff-that-scale-how-you-re-winning-without-it-201225

YukonJoy

What did you want to hear?

How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
:flowerforyou:

But she could have taken that the wrong way too. "Oh, so you think I need to work out more because I'm fat, huh?" He can't win in this situation. He was TRYING to be supportive.

Screw "TRYING" to be supportive, that WAS supportive. If a woman doesn't see how that is supportive than she is off her friggin' rocker!!

pirateDeb

Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I him muchly.

Mine never wants to know about my poop I tell him anyway

That's one lucky guy. :laugh:

I keep telling him that! He just keeps shaking his head disapprovingly!

ishallnotwant

Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I him muchly.

Mine never wants to know about my poop I tell him anyway

That's one lucky guy. :laugh:

I keep telling him that! He just keeps shaking his head disapprovingly!

Oops, nevermind. According to MFP male bashing standards that makes him a terrible, emotionally abusive guy and you should leave him. :laugh:

pirateDeb

I just have a simple question...which is apparently the question of the day.... Is there anything men can do right? I am flabbergasted at the 'men-bashing' today. That is all.

WELL ASKED

ajbeans

What did you want to hear?

How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
:flowerforyou:

But she could have taken that the wrong way too. "Oh, so you think I need to work out more because I'm fat, huh?" He can't win in this situation. He was TRYING to be supportive.

Screw "TRYING" to be supportive, that WAS supportive. If a woman doesn't see how that is supportive than she is off her friggin' rocker!!

I agree. I just meant that he was doing his best, and it still apparently wasn't good enough.

I used to get mad about things my husband said, until I realized that you know what? He loves me. He's supportive of me and wants me to be happy. So now instead of reading into the things he says to me, or wishing he'd say something else, I just actually HEAR his words and let him support me as best he can. And if I truly need something different, I just tell him. It's so easy, and neither one of us has to waste time and energy being all wrought up about something that was meant to be positive.

pirateDeb

Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I him muchly.

Mine never wants to know about my poop I tell him anyway

That's one lucky guy. :laugh:

I keep telling him that! He just keeps shaking his head disapprovingly!

Oops, nevermind. According to MFP male bashing standards that makes him a terrible, emotionally abusive guy and you should leave him. :laugh:

:laugh: TRUE!

lisakyle_11

...not the worst response in the world. i mean, it sounds like he's trying to stay positive.... i wouldn't be too critical of him regarding your weight loss. you can't rely on others to make you feel better.

datguy2011

hes right.

jaxCarrie

Um no - not doing this for YOU hon, doing this for me!!! So you just freaking go ahead and enjoy that Big Mac with your freakishly high metabolism, while I choke down this rabbit food!!

^^^a daily conversation at my house!! Laughed when I read it :-)

ironanimal

What did you want to hear?

How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
:flowerforyou:

Maybe I'm nitpicking, but what would he be apologising for? The energy of the Universe not granting you weight loss?

pirateDeb

Long story short ladies, YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO RELY ON OTHERS FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS.

People are what YOU make of them. Your husband is not there to make you happy, or tell you what you want to hear. He is there to do HIS best to support you, and join you in happiness. He is to help fufill your life, not be your life.

Maybe instead of blabbing about him, YOU should be the one to sit back and listen once in a while. And by listen I dont mean hear what you want, by listen I mean weigh his words and UNDERSTAND them.

goodstarbuck

ok so one of you wants MORE input while the other wants NONE?


ugh, women.

My thoughts exactly, madame.