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  • kiwianjel
    kiwianjel Posts: 80 Member
    So on the up side .... you didnt lose but you also didnt gain so thats a positive right ? :)
  • blink1021
    blink1021 Posts: 1,115 Member
    last night I was not able to work out because my son needed help with a school project. When I voiced that I was disappointed that I didn't get to work out he told me that I had become obsessed and that I was going to continue to work out until I couldn't walk (not sure how that works). I just have to laugh and walk away.
  • takingmylifeback
    takingmylifeback Posts: 1
    What did you want to hear?

    How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
    :flowerforyou:
  • ajbeans
    ajbeans Posts: 2,857 Member
    I get around all these issues by talking so damn much that my husband never has to wonder what I'm thinking or what the right thing to say might be.

    Right? Communication is a beautiful thing. Men think women are crazy because so many women expect men to be mind-readers instead of regular people.
  • pirateDeb
    pirateDeb Posts: 26 Member

    Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I :heart: him muchly.

    Mine never wants to know about my poop :( I tell him anyway :D
  • YukonJoy
    YukonJoy Posts: 1,279 Member
    Oh no. Now you're in trouble 'cause you didn't remember exactly how many years/months/days(hours?seconds?) you've been married. :tongue:

    That's why you should marry a girl with ADHD. I never remember the year. I remember the day, but not the year. So I don't know how long.

    Like....

    ....long enough that I am not embarrassed if I fart in front of him.
  • ajbeans
    ajbeans Posts: 2,857 Member
    What did you want to hear?

    How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
    :flowerforyou:

    But she could have taken that the wrong way too. "Oh, so you think I need to work out more because I'm fat, huh?" He can't win in this situation. He was TRYING to be supportive.
  • ChRiStA_1983
    ChRiStA_1983 Posts: 380 Member
    This morning was my weigh in day. I didn't lose anything .. which pissed me off. So when I told my husband it. All he said was stop thinking about it so much. And it will happen!
    Boy that's not what I wanted to hear....

    I personally think that's good advice! He's trying to be supportive, without telling you what you should be doing to "fix" your "problem"....And he's right! I think sometimes we just obsess too much, and unfortunately, it tends to hold us back. It sounds to me like he wasn't being insensitive, just supportive....
  • YukonJoy
    YukonJoy Posts: 1,279 Member
    What did you want to hear?

    How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
    :flowerforyou:

    HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • ishallnotwant
    ishallnotwant Posts: 1,210 Member

    Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I :heart: him muchly.

    Mine never wants to know about my poop :( I tell him anyway :D

    That's one lucky guy. :laugh:
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    What did you want to hear?

    How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
    :flowerforyou:

    Telling her not to worry about it is supportave,maybe he does not want her to stress about it
  • VoodooLuLu
    VoodooLuLu Posts: 636 Member
    What did you want to hear?

    I'm curious as well...what did you expect him to say?


    this
  • RenaPink11
    RenaPink11 Posts: 329 Member
    Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I :heart: him muchly.

    LOL... this would be mine too. My husband is actually a pretty good support. I got lucky. :drinker:
  • jazzalea
    jazzalea Posts: 412 Member
    This morning was my weigh in day. I didn't lose anything .. which pissed me off. So when I told my husband it. All he said was stop thinking about it so much. And it will happen!
    Boy that's not what I wanted to hear....


    Sounds to me like he has more faith in you than you do... trust him when you don't trust yourself. :flowerforyou:
  • pirateDeb
    pirateDeb Posts: 26 Member
    I get around all these issues by talking so damn much that my husband never has to wonder what I'm thinking or what the right thing to say might be.

    Right? Communication is a beautiful thing. Men think women are crazy because so many women expect men to be mind-readers instead of regular people.


    Women are crazy.
  • cramernh
    cramernh Posts: 3,335 Member
    This is my one issue with women, they want to be able to read their minds and say the right thing, sorry Iadies i left my prof x wheelchair in the garage

    Thor, thankfully not all of us wives feel that way....
  • twinsanity
    twinsanity Posts: 1,757 Member
    I just have a simple question...which is apparently the question of the day.... Is there anything men can do right? I am flabbergasted at the 'men-bashing' today. That is all.
  • H_Factor
    H_Factor Posts: 1,722 Member
    As a husband myself, I don't see how his response was out of line at all. Could he have meant..."stop worrying about the dang scale so much, and just keep doing what you're doing"?

    see blog..... http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/H_Factor/view/eff-that-scale-how-you-re-winning-without-it-201225
  • YukonJoy
    YukonJoy Posts: 1,279 Member
    What did you want to hear?

    How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
    :flowerforyou:

    But she could have taken that the wrong way too. "Oh, so you think I need to work out more because I'm fat, huh?" He can't win in this situation. He was TRYING to be supportive.

    Screw "TRYING" to be supportive, that WAS supportive. If a woman doesn't see how that is supportive than she is off her friggin' rocker!!
  • pirateDeb
    pirateDeb Posts: 26 Member

    Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I :heart: him muchly.

    Mine never wants to know about my poop :( I tell him anyway :D

    That's one lucky guy. :laugh:

    I keep telling him that! He just keeps shaking his head disapprovingly!
  • ishallnotwant
    ishallnotwant Posts: 1,210 Member

    Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I :heart: him muchly.

    Mine never wants to know about my poop :( I tell him anyway :D

    That's one lucky guy. :laugh:

    I keep telling him that! He just keeps shaking his head disapprovingly!

    Oops, nevermind. According to MFP male bashing standards that makes him a terrible, emotionally abusive guy and you should leave him. :laugh:
  • pirateDeb
    pirateDeb Posts: 26 Member
    I just have a simple question...which is apparently the question of the day.... Is there anything men can do right? I am flabbergasted at the 'men-bashing' today. That is all.

    WELL ASKED
  • ajbeans
    ajbeans Posts: 2,857 Member
    What did you want to hear?

    How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
    :flowerforyou:

    But she could have taken that the wrong way too. "Oh, so you think I need to work out more because I'm fat, huh?" He can't win in this situation. He was TRYING to be supportive.

    Screw "TRYING" to be supportive, that WAS supportive. If a woman doesn't see how that is supportive than she is off her friggin' rocker!!

    I agree. I just meant that he was doing his best, and it still apparently wasn't good enough.

    I used to get mad about things my husband said, until I realized that you know what? He loves me. He's supportive of me and wants me to be happy. So now instead of reading into the things he says to me, or wishing he'd say something else, I just actually HEAR his words and let him support me as best he can. And if I truly need something different, I just tell him. It's so easy, and neither one of us has to waste time and energy being all wrought up about something that was meant to be positive.
  • pirateDeb
    pirateDeb Posts: 26 Member

    Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I :heart: him muchly.

    Mine never wants to know about my poop :( I tell him anyway :D

    That's one lucky guy. :laugh:

    I keep telling him that! He just keeps shaking his head disapprovingly!

    Oops, nevermind. According to MFP male bashing standards that makes him a terrible, emotionally abusive guy and you should leave him. :laugh:

    :laugh: TRUE!
  • lisakyle_11
    lisakyle_11 Posts: 420 Member
    ...not the worst response in the world. i mean, it sounds like he's trying to stay positive.... i wouldn't be too critical of him regarding your weight loss. you can't rely on others to make you feel better.
  • datguy2011
    datguy2011 Posts: 477 Member
    hes right.
  • jaxCarrie
    jaxCarrie Posts: 214 Member
    Um no - not doing this for YOU hon, doing this for me!!! So you just freaking go ahead and enjoy that Big Mac with your freakishly high metabolism, while I choke down this rabbit food!!

    ^^^a daily conversation at my house!! Laughed when I read it :-)
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    What did you want to hear?

    How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
    :flowerforyou:

    Maybe I'm nitpicking, but what would he be apologising for? The energy of the Universe not granting you weight loss?
  • pirateDeb
    pirateDeb Posts: 26 Member
    Long story short ladies, YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO RELY ON OTHERS FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS.

    People are what YOU make of them. Your husband is not there to make you happy, or tell you what you want to hear. He is there to do HIS best to support you, and join you in happiness. He is to help fufill your life, not be your life.

    Maybe instead of blabbing about him, YOU should be the one to sit back and listen once in a while. And by listen I dont mean hear what you want, by listen I mean weigh his words and UNDERSTAND them.
  • goodstarbuck
    goodstarbuck Posts: 24
    ok so one of you wants MORE input while the other wants NONE?


    ugh, women.

    My thoughts exactly, madame.

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