husbands...

ishallnotwant

Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I him muchly.

Mine never wants to know about my poop I tell him anyway

That's one lucky guy. :laugh:

I keep telling him that! He just keeps shaking his head disapprovingly!

Oops, nevermind. According to MFP male bashing standards that makes him a terrible, emotionally abusive guy and you should leave him. :laugh:

pirateDeb

I just have a simple question...which is apparently the question of the day.... Is there anything men can do right? I am flabbergasted at the 'men-bashing' today. That is all.

WELL ASKED

ajbeans

What did you want to hear?

How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
:flowerforyou:

But she could have taken that the wrong way too. "Oh, so you think I need to work out more because I'm fat, huh?" He can't win in this situation. He was TRYING to be supportive.

Screw "TRYING" to be supportive, that WAS supportive. If a woman doesn't see how that is supportive than she is off her friggin' rocker!!

I agree. I just meant that he was doing his best, and it still apparently wasn't good enough.

I used to get mad about things my husband said, until I realized that you know what? He loves me. He's supportive of me and wants me to be happy. So now instead of reading into the things he says to me, or wishing he'd say something else, I just actually HEAR his words and let him support me as best he can. And if I truly need something different, I just tell him. It's so easy, and neither one of us has to waste time and energy being all wrought up about something that was meant to be positive.

pirateDeb

Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I him muchly.

Mine never wants to know about my poop I tell him anyway

That's one lucky guy. :laugh:

I keep telling him that! He just keeps shaking his head disapprovingly!

Oops, nevermind. According to MFP male bashing standards that makes him a terrible, emotionally abusive guy and you should leave him. :laugh:

:laugh: TRUE!

lisakyle_11

...not the worst response in the world. i mean, it sounds like he's trying to stay positive.... i wouldn't be too critical of him regarding your weight loss. you can't rely on others to make you feel better.

datguy2011

hes right.

jaxCarrie

Um no - not doing this for YOU hon, doing this for me!!! So you just freaking go ahead and enjoy that Big Mac with your freakishly high metabolism, while I choke down this rabbit food!!

^^^a daily conversation at my house!! Laughed when I read it :-)

ironanimal

What did you want to hear?

How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
:flowerforyou:

Maybe I'm nitpicking, but what would he be apologising for? The energy of the Universe not granting you weight loss?

pirateDeb

Long story short ladies, YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO RELY ON OTHERS FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS.

People are what YOU make of them. Your husband is not there to make you happy, or tell you what you want to hear. He is there to do HIS best to support you, and join you in happiness. He is to help fufill your life, not be your life.

Maybe instead of blabbing about him, YOU should be the one to sit back and listen once in a while. And by listen I dont mean hear what you want, by listen I mean weigh his words and UNDERSTAND them.

goodstarbuck

ok so one of you wants MORE input while the other wants NONE?


ugh, women.

My thoughts exactly, madame.

thor1god1of1awesome

This is my one issue with women, they want to be able to read their minds and say the right thing, sorry Iadies i left my prof x wheelchair in the garage

Thor, thankfully not all of us wives feel that way....

lol i know my wife learned early on i cant read minds but my mother and sister still expect to do so lol

pirateDeb

ok so one of you wants MORE input while the other wants NONE?


ugh, women.

My thoughts exactly, madame.

DITTO

Healthyby30

What did you want to hear?

How about I'm sorry honey and a hug. Or hoow about this weekend we go on a hike or walk in the park. Something supportive.
:flowerforyou:

Maybe I'm nitpicking, but what would he be apologising for? The energy of the Universe not granting you weight loss?

Love this! lol

blonde20fan

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Holy **** women are neurotic!!!
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THIS!!

HarlCarl

Mine usually just asks when was the last time I took a dump. I him muchly.

Mine never wants to know about my poop I tell him anyway

That's TRUE LOVE!!!

kardowling

nothing,nada zip. Thats what i always hear. I could dye my hair rainbow and my skin blue and he wouldn't notice.

hillarygullett

So, I guess all of you were in the room with her when her "knight in shining armor" said the most supportive thing holding roses and looking at her longingly?!? Give me a freaking break! None of you were there. You don't know what HIS tone was, how he looked at her, how his body language was towards her. You assume she interpreted her own husband who SHE lives with wrong. You ASSUME he was being supportive. Obviously she didn't feel that way and came here, where she should come, to get support.

YukonJoy

kag1526

I agree that many of you are being hard on your husbands.

I won't lie I do that sometimes too. I'll get down on myself but if he is supportive I shoot back something along the lines of "what do you know you have never had this problem" if he doesn't say anything I get mad that he isn't supporting me.

I have to admit getting mad for saying I'm beautiful would be a new one though... I like when he says that:)

I do still have to listen to my husband munch on chips have candy, etc. He has a bag of my favorite chocolates sitting on the living room table right now that he bought for himself the other day. But you know what I just have to deal with that. He shouldn't have to eat differently because I choose to.

YukonJoy

So, I guess all of you were in the room with her when her "knight in shining armor" said the most supportive thing holding roses and looking at her longingly?!? Give me a freaking break! None of you were there. You don't know what HIS tone was, how he looked at her, how his body language was towards her. You assume she interpreted her own husband who SHE lives with wrong. You ASSUME he was being supportive. Obviously she didn't feel that way and came here, where she should come, to get support.