50+ Women for the Month of April

healthier4me

Hi everyone

Late checking in today because I had appointments in the city...one of which was the dentist...I had 4 old fillings taken out and new ones put in...so my mouth is a tad bit achy.

First of all I want to say a big THANKS to all of you that have made me feel so much better. Just knowing that you understand my situation and share in my pain has lifted my spirits immensely. I know that I am an eternal optimist and will still hold good thoughts on my son and his new wife but sometimes the load we must carry gets pretty heavy. I feel that you have helped me carry this load and I am ever so greatful. I do not ever want my son to not put his wife first and I would definitely want his loyalty to be to her...however I just wish that he could include us a little in his life.

A story about my son comes to mind...we were always extremely close (especially the years his sister was ill and subsequently passed away). Anyway when he was about 3 he would say, "Mommy, I am always going to love you" I would reply, "and I am always going to love you but someday you will find a special someone you will love just as much but in a different way". My son looked at me and said, "but Mom I will always love you more because I loved you first!" I would never want him to chose me over his wife I just want the son back that has forgotten how to love and respect his parents. That is what I hope and long for. I am patient and strongly believe in miracles and will take the blessings wherever I can:happy:

I totally understand how some of us could dread Mother's Day. My beautiful daughter was diagnosed on Mother's Day in 1991:brokenheart: . As easy as it would be to give into the sadness of it I just don't allow myself to. What I have learned from experiencing what I have is that I needed to focus on the wonderful years I had with her and all the joy she gave me and everyone she came in contact with in her limited lifetime. These feelings both sustain and comfort me and I get my strength and courage from her. My heart goes out to you that are in pain. Just know that I understand and send you big hugs

I am enjoying reading about the rv travels as well and look forward to all of our adventures. I know that I absolutely love our road trips and cannot believe how blessed we are to be able to do the things we do:bigsmile:

Hugs and the biggest warmest thanks to each and everyone of you:flowerforyou: You are such a wonderful supportive group.

Marie

P.S. I am glad to hear that you are ok Kathy...take care of yourself:flowerforyou:

barbiecat

Home from the dog park with tired dogs and tired feet.:bigsmile:

Kathy

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I wish I could be with you and give you a big hug. What a scary thing. Stay in the moment and banish any guilt---it wasn’t your fault. There are people out there who do dumb stuff.

We are deep into our packing. We leave Monday morning as soon as we get everything ready.
Monday—Centralia, WA at an RV park with a fenced dog park
Tuesday----Canyonville, OR at another RV Park with a fenced dog park and an indoor pool
Wednesday, Thursday----Red Bluff, CA
Friday, Saturday----Vacaville, CA
Sunday, Monday----Garberville, CA----an RV park with a golf course for Jake
The next two weeks----Eureka, CA where our kids and grandkids live
Tuesday---Canyonville, OR
Wednesday----Centralia, WA
Thursday (May 28) ----HOME !!!!

Esther---we started RVing in a trailer without a slide. Our Golden Retriever was always in the way in front of the couch so when we were ready for something newer we got a 5th wheel with two slides. When we got the 2nd dog we were glad to have the extra space.

Zaza---we have never travelled with children (just dogs and cats). I know a lot of people who have travelled with their kids and they have loved it most of the time and had the usual clashes that families have in close quarters. Some friends of ours travelled to Alaska last summer and shared their 30 foot motorhome with another couple and had a fabulous time.

On the subject of scales and husbands---Jake has lost 55 pounds in the same time I’ve lost 27. He has reached his goal weight and now weighs 6 pounds less than I do. I’d like to blame the scale.

Heather---congrats on your great exercising. I know you can do this. When your baby graduates from high school they are going to think you are a slim older sister instead of the mom. Remember that everyone grieves differently. My mom has been gone since 1991 and every time I dance, I thank her for taking me to ballet when I was a child. Every time I have to write something I thank her for being such a great grammar and spelling coach.

Big hugs to all (((( )))))
Barbie

committed

Kathy,

I'm sorry to read about the accident. I'm very glad all are okay. I went through a similar accident years ago and I know it is very unsettling to say the least.

Finally getting to work in my garden. The tilling, raking and planting has really given me a work-out. All of the fresh vegetables will be worth the effort plus I'm burning calories. I haven't done so great with my food choices of late :sad: - only lost a half of a pound, but May is coming up so hopefully I will do better.

Nancy

Grammymax

Nancy: For me gardening and yard work is therapy. It's been wet here lately so not much of that going on for me but am looking forward to it soon - I hope!

Good night all. I'l catch you in the morning.:yawn:

Esther

AHealthierSuzyQ

Here's my goal report for April:

1. Plan meals and snacks a day ahead - never quite got this accomplished, but I DID stay withing my calorie allotment all but two days out of 30

2. Add floor exercises and/or swimming to my workout to target "old woman arm" flabbiness and a belly that is still the largest part of me. - Started doing Strength Training DVD 3 days a week. Still can't keep up step for step with it, but can tell I am gaining strength each week.

3. Drink ALL my water - Only did this here and there. I AM up to a minimum of 6 glasses a day though :drinker:

4. Lose at least 5 pounds. - I weighed 195 and I'm down to 191... ALMOST made it!

5. Lose at least 6 inches from my target areas. - I only lost a total of 3" from my waist, abdomen and hips.

What I learned from this is I tend to set my goals unrealistically high. So for May, my goals are to lose at least a pound a week and an inch from my belly; maintain my exercise and water momentum.

Oh BTW, We are supposed to have our cement poured at 3:00 this afternoon! :happy:

zaza54

Good morning-
You ladies are terrific and so supportive!! What a blessing.

First of all, my heart goes out to Marie and dricotta. I cannot imagine the pain and heartache you must feel daily, but especially on mother's day. I will be thinking of you and saying a prayer for each of you and your angels. I will also be thinking of you Heather. I'm sure it is very tough. I will remind myself how precious life is and to treausre the ordinary moments.

Which brings me to Kathy's ordeal. Thank God it turned out alright in the end. But how frightening and upsetting. I bet it aged you (which none of us needs at our ages!!) Hopefully, the shock will subside with time. It's just upsetting to witness even though it wasn't your fault at all (same thing happened to my sister in Italy - motocyclist passing on right as she was making right turn).

I thought of all of you last night as I was on telephone w/my oldest son. The lastest is that his girlfriend's mother wants to see him on his birthday. Long stroy short - instead of being 5 people out to dinner in NYC, we'll be 8 people (including the girlfriend's mother, her sister and her brother). Not only is that an extra expense for us, but harder to really talk etc. I know my son feels caught in the middle and doesn't want to hurt feeling etc. So, we'll pick a less epxensive place and, after cathing my breath, I told him that it will be even more celebratory and how nice that he'll be surrounded by so many people that love him. That's what I have to keep teeling myself to make it easier to share him.

My husband is waiting for me so I have to run. Susan, I loved the quote from your son's card.
You are all so helpful and undertstanding. It's great to have a place for women who are going thru similar things. Thanks Esther for starting this thread!!
Zaza

Grammymax

Good morning all:

Zaza: You're welcome I will start the May thread tonight (late) so it's ready for tomorrow morning.

Thanks Susan for sharing your results. You did really well with your goals. Hopefully everyone can review their goals and see how they have done - even if you don't post it it would be good for you to review. Of course we would all love to hear from you if you want to share:happy:

Kathy: Where are you? We're missing you. Hope you are doing okay after such an emotional experience. We're here for you.

Barbie: We're picking up our "newer" trailer today and will spend the afternoon putting everything back in that was in our old one. That will be fun.

My April Goals were:
To workout at least 4 days a week; which I did!
to lose 5 pounds this month; I only lost 4.5
No late night snacks (which is another thread I visit regularly) - Yeah, I did this too - well, there is always tonight but I think I can make it!:bigsmile:

I'll think about my May goals and post them tomorrow as well. I think 1 pound a week is realistic Susan. I think that will probably be my goal, however, we will be traveling most of the month so that will be exceptional if I do that well!

Hope you all have a great day. I'll check in later.

Esther

zaza54

Way to go Esther on your April goals!!!
I haven't even looked at mine. This month was a lost cause. But, I'm doing better about eating and exercising now that I'm home. I expect great things in May. I'll look for you on the new thread. Thanks!
Zaza

Benson

HI there everyone

I'm a late poster today but I wanted to post one last time for April.

My May goals are to get better at my April goals:laugh:

I will burn 1500-2000 exercisie calories each week
I will drink 6 water daily - any more and I have to spend too much time in the biffy:blushing:
I will continue to plan and record my food intake
I will lose 6-8 pounds
I will continue to draw inspiration, knowledge and comfort from all of you!!

Barbiecat I sure hope you can keep in touch with us while away on you vacation. Have a great time and be a good girl!!!

Blasted rain started about a 1/2 hour ago. I suppose if I was a real trooper, I would walk in the rain - Nope not feeling it. I will however, do my Richard Simmons workout and shoot for 40 minutes total.

Have a great day!

Heather

elli

Hi everyone - tomorrow is MAY!!!!! yippeeeeeeeeeeeee:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
ZaZa - wow - good for you - telling your son how much more of a celebration his birthday will be with the additional people. So the right thing to do, but HARD!

Susan - i agree with you about setting our goals TOO high. It becomes unrealistic, then we feel like we failed:noway: never a good thing! I didn't even make my 3 pound goal in April. I only made 1/12 - but i'll take that rather than a gain!!!!! You lost FOUR pounds! That's wonderful!!!!!!!:drinker:

Heather - i don't blame you - no walking in the rain (and the inevitable mud) for me! BUT you did a tape indoors! Way to GO!!!!!!!:happy:

Esther - you did GREAT on your goals! 4.5 pounds! woo hooooooo:drinker: And 4 days a week working out is so good! I hope you're having fun with the new camper!

Kathy - are you doing all right? Please check in!

tgif tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!

barbiecat

:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :explode: :explode: :explode:

Here's what happened to my goals:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

*lose 4 pounds--March 29 166 pounds April 27 156 pounds That surprised me to lose 10 pounds

*keep doing what's been working----I did about half of that

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I tracked my meals, walked, went to line line dance, drank water

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BUT I completely forgot about strength training

*add squats to my workout---I did that for about four days and then completely forgot.:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:


I'm headed for yoga today so when I do goals for May, I'll probably add something about sticking with the yoga since I bought a yoga mat and a yoga DVD to take in the motorhome.

Now we're off to a bunch of errands. I'll write more later.:bigsmile:
Barbie:bigsmile:

FITFORLIFE1944

HI EVERYONE,

HAVE VISITORS FROM NY AND HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO DO MUCH POSTING. I JUST READ ALL THAT YOU HAVE WRITTEN AND JUST FEEL SO HAPPY FOR THOSE WHO REACHED GOAL OR EVEN LOST ANY WEIGHT AT ALL. ALSO FOR THOSE WHO MET OTHER GOALS THEY SET. THE ONLY TIME WE SHOULD FEEL LIKE FAILURES IS IF WE GIVE UP. AS LONG AS YOU KEEP TRYING YOU CAN NEVER BE A FAILURE.

MY HEART GOES OUT TO THOSE WHO WILL BE WITHOUT THEIR BELOVED CHILDREN OR MOTHERS THIS MOTHER'S DAY. THE HARDEST PART OF LIVING IS LOSING SOMEONE YOU LOVE.

KATHY, I HAVE TO SEND YOU A HUG, DEAR. WHAT A TERRIBLE THING TO HAVE HAPPEN TO YOU.
I AM GLAD YOU ARE ALRIGHT AS FAR AS INJURIES GO AND ALSO THE YOUNG MAN.

MY GOAL FOR APRIL WAS TO LOSE 4LBS. I LOST 2LBS.
I NEVER DID DRINK THE PLAIN WATER, BUT GUESS WHAT. WEIGHT WATCHERS HAS NOW SAID THAT WATER IS THE BEST BUT ANY LIQUIDS ARE OK. I AM DOING WATER WITH ONE OUNCE OF JUST ABOUT ANYTHING IN IT
I DID ALL THE EXERCISING I PROMISED MYSELF I WOULD DO

I KNOW WITHOUT YOU LADDIES ,I WOULD NOT HAVE LOST ANYTHING AND I WOULD NOT HAVE JOINED WW. YOU GAVE ME RENEWED MOTIVATION. THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH.

NOW, ON TO MAY .

ANNE

Swissmiss

I got my new pedometer set up. This is what it has been showing:
Steps..12,000
431 calories burned
I walked almost 4 and 1/2 miles

You would think that I am active enough and this was just what I did while at work.

plantlady99

Hi all,

I'm doing better today. Just really don't feel that great. I have a terrible head cold. So, I'm taking Benadryl to help me sleep. I will get better, I know.

Well, I'm an emotional eater,:noway: :noway: that is for sure. It didn't take long for me to want to eat every thing in site. I am working on it though. I went grocery shopping today and wanted to buy sweets, :bigsmile: :bigsmile: chocolate, ice cream etc. However, I :explode: fought the urge. Progress, I guess. So, what... two days of falling off the wagon, (I hope it's just two days:ohwell: ) is not bad.

:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: I just want to thank you all for the support:drinker: . Everyday will get better. Time heals all wounds. I don't think I would have come back to reality as quickly, if I did not have you ladies. Believe me. I would look at my lap top and see all of you, encouraging me back. This is what this site is for. Thanks, Thanks, Thanks. BIG HUGS TO ALL.:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

Kathy

Swissmiss

Kathy...take care of yourself. I know that when you don't feel good you don't want to workout. So, get well, do not worry about being inactive now and you will get well sooner.

plantlady99

A story about my son comes to mind...we were always extremely close (especially the years his sister was ill and subsequently passed away). Anyway when he was about 3 he would say, "Mommy, I am always going to love you" I would reply, "and I am always going to love you but someday you will find a special someone you will love just as much but in a different way". My son looked at me and said, "but Mom I will always love you more because I loved you first!" I would never want him to chose me over his wife I just want the son back that has forgotten how to love and respect his parents. That is what I hope and long for. I am patient and strongly believe in miracles and will take the blessings wherever I can:happy:

heart

Love that story

healthier4me

Hi everyone

Glad to hear that everyone is looking forward to starting a new month and new goals. I know that I certainly am eagerly awaiting the new month and better weather:bigsmile: I firmly believe that I will accomplish what I set my mind to.

My DH shared his nasty cold with me so I have been suffering with it all last nite and today:grumble: So no exercising for me yesterday or today. I sure hope that tomorrow I feel better.

I will post my goals tomorrow on the new thread. Thanks Esther for starting this fantastic group

Best wishes to all:flowerforyou:

Marie

Grammymax

Look for the MAY thread in the Motivation and Support Board.

See you there:happy:

barbiecat

It’s late and I’m expecting a phone call so I’ll be brief.:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

Susan----I agree with you about goals. I have to be so careful not to set big goals then kick myself for not reaching them Even so, I want to celebrate, as you did, even the partial reaching of them. You lost 4 pounds----that is absolutely fabulous.

Zaza, you were right on with what you said to your son about his birthday celebration. How wise of you to pause before answering and then give a loving a spiritual answer.

Esther---what fun to be getting your “new” trailer. I don’t envy you the job of moving your stuff. I hope there’s more room and storage in the new one. Thanks for taking the lead with this thread. It has been a lifeline for me. Congrats on your goals especially the late night snacking. I’m giving some serious thoughts about my May goals just like you because we’ll be traveling.

Heather----enjoy your indoor workout while it’s raining. Yes, you’ll be hearing from me while we’re on our trip. We have a wonderful laptop computer and I think all the RV parks have wifi service. I am determined to stick to my eating and exercising plan while we’re on the road.

Anne---I hope you had a great time with your visitors. You have been such a great encouragement to all of us. You lost 2 pounds in April. That is moving in the right direction.

Becky---That is amazing how much you walk at work. I have to go to line dance and walk at the dog park for an hour to get to 12,000 steps.

Kathy----just keep on putting one foot in front of the other (but not in the kitchen) and you’ll be out of this dark place before long. You’re right---every day will get better

Marie—I hope that nasty cold doesn’t last too long. I too am looking forward to the clean slate to the new month.

I bought two pairs of smaller jeans and two smaller t shirts today. It was a weird feeling to buy clothes that just barely fit. I’m used to buying things a little big because I think of myself as a weight gainer not a weight loser.

See you next month,
Barbie:bigsmile:

doobiedoo

I had to work all last week and I really missed being on MFP! I continued to record my calories, but didn't get any time in on reading new postings or on the treadmill. I was afraid to weigh this morning, but when I did I had lost 3 pounds!!! I felt like I was going to burst! I was in a slump the week before and thinking I was tired of this dieting thing. But I know that is a negative mindset and I need to keep going to reach my goal. Each of you ladies is an enouragement to me more than you know and I hope I can be to you in some way. Thanks for hanging in there with me...:flowerforyou:

Swissmiss

That is great doobiedoo. Three pounds is a lot. Do you work fulltime?

weaklink109

Doobiedoo--

Congrats on the 3 lbs.:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: . BTW you posted on the APRIL thread. Had me going there for a minute, couldn't figure out where all the stuff between your post and April 30th went.:laugh: :laugh:

Barb

elli

hi everybody - just checking in real quick. We've been working hard all weekend - we're ALMOST done with the wiring in the old part of my house. WHEW - that's a relief!!!!!!! I'm pretty tired - yesterday was an 11 hour day, today was 10 hours starting at 7am. I have such amazing friends and family. Tuesday we should finish, then they'll be able to come and insulate - then we can move on to drywall, texture, etc......:yawn:

I didn't do great on food, and didn't get to work out - i'll get back on track tomorrow tho! Sorry i'm not responding to anyone's post - but i'll b back tomorrow! Night all.:yawn:

doobiedoo

I am a Postmaster Relief and work every Saturday. When the Postmaster is gone though I work for a week. That was the case last week. It is good, but I am always glad when it is over...It is good to get back on my regular schedule!