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Chris Brown- Have you forgiven him?

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  • Posts: 1,195 Member
    Never cared about him, and I care even less after beating up a woman. To me the male who puts a hand on a woman in any form of abusive or aggressive way is trash and doesn't deserve any kind of respect.
  • Posts: 461 Member

    news flash: domestic violence is a "real world problem"

    News flash: Rihanna and Chris Brown could care less about you or your personal life. Get a clue!!!
  • Posts: 3,669 Member
    I honestly could care less....
    A little bit of this, but I guess maybe I care a little, because I was secretely hoping he'd trip and fall off those steps at the Grammys. I can't say I'd be a fan of his music even if he was a great guy (just not my thing), but its hard to have any respect for a guy who hits a woman.

    For the record, I bought my pit bull a Michael Vick chew-toy too! They're all idiots, and its sad that people idolize "famous" people who have no character!
  • Posts: 14,053 Member

    My stance is, this set the idea into many people's lives that IT'S OKAY. Like a strong woman posted before about her ex husband, why is it that he was able to go right back there, make more money, keep his job and such and it was okay?


    I really do not think this one instance set an idea in others lives....this kind of abuse has been happening since humans began....I really do not think someone as small as Chris Brown set the standards for abusers everywhere....I myself have been in a very abusive relationship....did the guy get fired from his job? No....did his employer care that he was this way? No...once he got another job, did they ask him if he was an abuser? No.....Did his mother disown him, did his friends cut ties with him, did society condemn him to a life of solitude so that he would one day be remorseful? No....Life went on, and I finally chose to move on as well....
    Just because this guy is in the public eye, and the girl he abused is in the public eye, does not mean he will be treated any different than any other abuser....humans look the other way for the most part....and I really have not read many of the other post, but I just know that he is being treated no different than any other abuser that has walked this earth.....
  • Posts: 2,704 Member
    Hmmm. This isn't locked yet?
  • Posts: 2,704 Member


    I really do not think this one instance set an idea in others lives....this kind of abuse has been happening since humans began....I really do not think someone as small as Chris Brown set the standards for abusers everywhere....I myself have been in a very abusive relationship....did the guy get fired from his job? No....did his employer care that he was this way? No...once he got another job, did they ask him if he was an abuser? No.....Did his mother disown him, did his friends cut ties with him, did society condemn him to a life of solitude so that he would one day be remorseful? No....Life went on, and I finally chose to move on as well....
    Just because this guy is in the public eye, and the girl he abused is in the public eye, does not mean he will be treated any different than any other abuser....humans look the other way for the most part....and I really have not read many of the other post, but I just know that he is being treated no different than any other abuser that has walked this earth.....

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  • Posts: 461 Member

    ^This^^^^

    Back this 100%. Worry about more important people. Like people you actually know!
  • Posts: 2,132 Member


    then, how about instead of the one who posted the pic, how about you make your comment to the OP, instead?
    I addressed the OP also.
  • Posts: 213 Member
    How is this any different than Mike Vick returning to the NFL after prison?

    My take on it is... if they did the crime, and they did the time, then they should be able to recover the life they had before. Mel Gibson hasn't recovered from his transgressions for two reasons... a) he hasn't hit rock-bottom yet... b) he is a lot older than Chris Brown and Mike Vick so bouncing back is not as easy.

    I agree, people make bad decisions in life, you hopefully learn from them (both sides) and should be able to move on....AND there are TWO sides to every story.....have you even taken the time to listen to his? or just go on what the MEDIA has put out there?
    Probation, jail time or fines...either way he has paid his debt
  • Posts: 996 Member
    just real quick, those of you making excuses for his "MISTAKE" how many of you have had such a "MISTAKE" happen to you? And I sure as Hell don't expect anyone to answer this one, but how many of you have made the same "MISTAKE" yourself?

    I'll start, I've had it happen, more than I care to admit and its in no way, shape or form funny, my fault or excusable, though can be forgiveable from the one it happened to.

    Sorry that you have had to go thru that, I do hope you were able to get yourself out of the situation and are that much of a stronger person for it.

    There is no excuse and I don't think that saying it was a mistake is making excuses for him. Being that it is a one time thing, at least of what we know of, then it was a moment of anger in which he made the mistake of not controlling himself and someone became a victim of that anger.
  • Posts: 1,133 Member
    :explode: Hell no! hes a woman beater no matter how great he sings! He is an *kitten* :angry:
  • Posts: 352 Member
    I can't say that it affected me much since I didn't care for him to begin with.

    However, I will say that when I turn on the TV and he's on, all I can see is a person that beats women.
  • Posts: 1,319 Member

    News flash: Rihanna and Chris Brown could care less about you or your personal life. Get a clue!!!

    I never claimed that they did care, I'm just saying that domestic violence is a real world problem and it's not something to be taken lightly. I don't care that it was a celebrity, I care that people are acting like it's not a big deal. Abuse is wong. Period! The way that Chris Brown is able to continue with his life as if nothing every happened is not giving the proper message that this stuff is unacceptible no matter how you are!
  • Posts: 260
    I have worked with both the victims of DV and the perpetrators. Luckily, Rhianna was able to get out of this relationship with the help of her family and friends. She has moved on and is no longer in the abusive relationship. If Chris Brown took his 52 week mandated classes, I hope he has learned that he cannot control another person.

    Beyond that, I hope that national cases like this bring the attention to this ongoing problem in our country. For women, know that there are free counseling centers out there that can provide you with the support you need to get out of an abusive relationship.
  • Posts: 1,865 Member
    He's a douche but she's an idiot for having stayed after the first time it happened. That's my thought in all this.
  • Posts: 4,646 Member
    Forgive him for what? He did do anything to me. Who needs to forgive him is Rhianna and if somebody ever did that to me I would forgive them but I will never take them back and I will never forget.
  • I have not forgotten. I am so happy Rihanna was able to put her life back together after that, she is at top form, absolutely love her. I still blame Bobbi Brown for Whitney Houston's downfall, she was never able to get out of the place that Bobbi took her to in my opinion.
  • Chris Brown doesnt deserve the fame he has
    but its hypercritical for me to judge him as Im a huge fan of eminem who has had his own problems in the past as have many other famous people
  • and if you dont like mine you can too. Have you ever been abused? There is no if he did it. I think your just a fan trying to defend him.

    A fan, not really I don't listen to that kind of music but I know he has talent, Abuse, lots of us have been abused. it's tragic but at the end of the day you forgive and don't forget and live your own life.

  • Sorry that you have had to go thru that, I do hope you were able to get yourself out of the situation and are that much of a stronger person for it.

    There is no excuse and I don't think that saying it was a mistake is making excuses for him. Being that it is a one time thing, at least of what we know of, then it was a moment of anger in which he made the mistake of not controlling himself and someone became a victim of that anger.

    Thank you for your concern.

    My main point was its not a mistake, but a crime and its not funny or excuseable, but can be forgiven for the beating and for leaving her there to die after the beating. And, we only know of that one incident of his, but is that because Rihanna is also famous? What if he's done that to no-name girl(s) and they've received no publicity, if they even went to the cops? We don't know that it hasn't happened again or not, but we did see him publicly throw a chair out of rage, i.e. lack of control....
  • Posts: 260
    For those of you who are upset at Rhianna, know that the perpetrators are most dangerous when the victims are trying to leave the relationship. The victims are often so scared that they have no where to turn. A trained professional can help a victim of DV find shelter and file a restraining order quickly, as well as go into hiding. Yes, it is often that serious.
  • Posts: 311 Member
    I have not forgotten. I am so happy Rihanna was able to put her life back together after that, she is at top form, absolutely love her. I still blame Bobbi Brown for Whitney Houston's downfall, she was never able to get out of the place that Bobbi took her to in my opinion.

    So Bobby Brown put a gun to her head and forced her to do drugs? She made bad decisions on her own.
  • Posts: 1,195 Member
    First of all I just want to say that I do not condone Violence of any kind.
    Does he deserve a second chance? Yes he does, just like all of us do. He was wrong and made a mistake, he let his anger get the best of him. With that being said it is not up to me to forgive him. That's Rihanna's deal.
    Rhingo Starr also beat up his wife and we still celebrate the music he made with the Beatles. I love the Beatles, and I've bought their discs and memorabilia. That does not mean that I condone Violence or drug use for that matter. I like Usher and have bought some of his songs, that does not mean I condone infidelity. So, buying a Chris Brown CD does not mean you are pro-violence.
    Banks rob us blind everyday, but we still use them. Bush's administration went on a killing tirade in the Middle East, all in the name of "Freedom" and he was re-elected.
    In terms of Rihanna, I think she's a total hypocrite. One day she's crying about what happened and the next she's saying that chains and whips excite her. In my opinion, she is sending the wrong message. If you are against violence, then you don't say those things. S/M does not open the door for violence in the future, but if you let your man hit you in bed, he might think it's ok to do it later. I don't think it's okay in any situation. It's like boxing and UFC, your kids see it on TV, people beating each other up for a couple of bucks and to entertain the world. They see all the blood and the cheering fans and think it's ok for them to practice that at school, just because they saw it on TV.
    Again I think he was totally wrong for what he did. There is no excuse for hitting people. Whether it is a female or a male.

    I'm sorry, since when S/M has to do anything with domestic violence? I know PLENTYYYYYYYYY of people into S/M and one of the best things about them is the mutual respect in and out of their privacy. So please, unless you're very familiar with S/M don't make comparisons you have no knowledge on. So calling her a hypocrite because of her inclination towards S/M makes absolutely no sense when talking about what that piece of trash did to her.

    About UFC, whether the reason why those ATHLETES do what they do what they do, it is not to promote violence, and it is the parents job to be aware their kids are watching it. Let's stop blaming martial arts and movies for the lack of responsibility of the parents. Besides, those MMA fighters in the majority are people like you and me, some are even work protecting others.

    In regards of Chris Brown, you are free to forgive, give second chances, I don't, and most definitely he is not a man. If he has anger issues he should try that with another man not with a woman. And about your comparisons, I didn't vote for Bush, I don't even listen to the Beatles.

    Anyway, my main point is the whole violence thing, I think you got it wrong.
  • Posts: 1,319 Member

    So Bobby Brown put a gun to her head and forced her to do drugs? She made bad decisions on her own.

    yes, she made bad decisions, no, he didn't make her do drugs. BUT that doesn't mean that he didn't leave a lasting impact on her life. Everyone deals with trauma in their own way, it's very sad that her's resulted in an OD

    How she dealt with it : more or less her fault (as well as lack of proper skills to deal with that stuff)
    What happened and the impact it had on her : All Bobbi
  • Posts: 311 Member

    yes, she made bad decisions, no, he didn't make her do drugs. BUT that doesn't mean that he didn't leave a lasting impact on her life. Everyone deals with trauma in their own way, it's very sad that her's resulted in an OD

    How she dealt with it : more or less her fault (as well as lack of proper skills to deal with that stuff)
    What happened and the impact it had on her : All Bobbi

    We will agree to disagree.
  • Posts: 352 Member
    Also, a LOT of posts are about Rhianna being into S&M

    Really? Most music stars don't even write their own music.

    In fact, I'm almost positive she didn't write it.
  • Posts: 311 Member
    Also, a LOT of posts are about Rhianna being into S&M

    Really? Most music stars don't even write their own music.

    In fact, I'm almost positive she didn't write it.

    Yeah I bet Jay-Z did
  • Posts: 6,063 Member
    Honestly, yes I mostly have. I hate that he did it, but Rihanna appears to have forgiven him (she has sent him some tweets) and he makes really good music. So yes, for the most part I have, mostly for his music.
  • Posts: 1,319 Member
    Honestly, yes I mostly have. I hate that he did it, but Rihanna appears to have forgiven him (she has sent him some tweets) and he makes really good music. So yes, for the most part I have, mostly for his music.

    just playing the devils advocate here, but if someone did the same thing to your sister, or friend would you forgive them "for their music?" (assuming they are a good musician or have another valuable talent)
  • Posts: 213 Member
    I have not forgotten. I am so happy Rihanna was able to put her life back together after that, she is at top form, absolutely love her. I still blame Bobbi Brown for Whitney Houston's downfall, she was never able to get out of the place that Bobbi took her to in my opinion.


    UMMMMM Whitney (RIP) was a GROWN WOMAN, I respectfully disagree with blaming BB......

    ps whitney i will always love you
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