what is the ideal age to get engaged/married?

Helloitsdan

78?

though I got married at 22....but 78 sounds good!

WhittRak

When you are ready and mature enough to handle a life long commitment.

taramaureen

When you feel you're ready. There's no "ideal" age as it depends on the person. That being said I was 18 when I got married, and I'm still married 7 years later...

Bohohippy

25-30.. most people are mature enough and settled or know what they want by then perhaps.

I think divorce only happens when one or both people stop fighting and working for the relationship, or one shows colours they hid before the marriage (aggression or something).

Cindym82

Well, it depends on chilren, finances, "the one" etc. I'm turning 30 this year. I know I found "the one" but we haven't clearly decided if we even want children, as well as we rather have a house first and than do all the other stuff. With that said no idea when I'll get married. But I do feel that it needs to be after 25.

avafrisbee

When you are ready to settle down. I got married at 25 and thought that was a good age, my husband was 34 and he thought that was a good age, maybe a little later than he planed but he has admitted to me that he wouldn't have been ready before that. We were only dating a few months when we got engaged but we knew each other and were practically best friends for about 2 years before that.

I knew I was ready because I had my degree, had a good job, was able to support myself and had a sense of self. My husband and I from the time we started dating we have traveled a lot. So unless you are planning on getting married just so you can have kids I wouldn't worry about "traveling first" because I traveled more with my husband than when I was single. Iceland, Hungary, Denmark, all over Germany, France, England and Wales and of course in the US.

Marry when you feel you are ready. Get advice from those closest to you, older siblings, parents, aunts & uncles, they often know what they are talking about....and other times they are completely full of it. But if you have lived around them long enough you can tell the difference.

SheenaDuguid

my husband and I got married at 24, we've now been married for 13 years and have 2 daughters one aged 8 and one aged 5. I would truly be lost without him. I truly believe there is no right age to get married - you have to do what feels right for you. Don't pressurise yourselves

taramaureen

I'm always kinda miffed by questions like this. I don't really see how someone's age at time of marriage is anyone elses business, ya know?

IcassI

I say at least mid to late 20's at the very least. Ideally probably 30+. Hopefully before that you have gotten out all of your fun experiences and are ready to settle down.

Shweedog

Of course it varies across the board and there are exceptions to the rule but I would have to say after 30 for a guy and AT LEAST after 25 for a girl (late 20's is probably better). Soley on the basis of maturity, life experience, life skills, compassion, and loyalty. Men really seem to mature in their 30s and women really come into their own and find themselves in their 20s.

shammxo

NEVER........but if you REALLY want to id say mid 20s

I was gonna say NEVER as well... Amen!

Runningirl7284

I wouldn't put an age limit on it my husband got married when we were 19 and 20 and we are very much in love 8 years married this summer. However I do see with statistics that a lot of couples married in their teen years have a hard time making it due to you are still changing alot and maturing. I think most people would think ideally mid to late 20's.

tinamatteson

Whenever you know each other VERY well and have discussed as much as possible how you both feel about money, sex, children... all the biggies. Also, make sure you meet both sides of the family and spend some holidays together, see each other around children, have at least one argument, and spend some time working together on a project of some sort. All this will help you get to know what kind of person you are dealing with and know whether you want to be with them for the long haul.

goodasgoldilox165

Soon after you find the ideal person to be married to!

harrietlg

I'm waiting, i'm in a relationship and have been for 3 years but at 23 I don't feel ready yet, we've lived together for a year now and everythings peachy but I just want to live a little first! maybe in 5 years I don't know, I feel like we need to be together for a bit longer before we get married because things could go wrong and I don't want to go through a divorce ! I don't want kids till i'm at least 30! 30-35 I think, my boyfriend feels the same we both have the same thoughts on it and don't want to rush into anything. I don't want a big wedding either, I want to get married in vegas and just have a nice reception party at home with everyone :P i'm not a big celebration kinda girl, plus the thought of saying my vows in front a load of people freaks me out!!

Faye_Anderson

You have the best chance of staying together if you are both at least 25

According to who? My grandparents were married at 23, both happily married for 50 years until my grandad died.
My mum and dad, 19 and 21, happily married for 33 years.
I married at 22, been happily married for 9 years so far.

Jennyisbusy

Just before they close the casket.

Too funny, I was going to say 99 years old.

kpnuts23

I have been with my boyfriend for a year 1/2.. lived together for a year... last weekend he broke it off with me.. Gutted.... moral of my story... Live the single life, dont move in to soon, enjoy, live, love, get married when its right... i thought he was right... i was wrong.

MEAH.

Becky_Boodle

NEVER!




Lol, sorry.. I'm young and I've been divorced twice... :ohwell: :bigsmile:

LOL never say NEVER~!

I always said never...but then got married at 25
clearly I should have listened to myself cuz I'm not married anymore...

sacha_1987

Me and my fiance have been together 9 years in March, and I am only 24 years old!

We have a 6 year old daughter, and are getting married in July - and are absolutely best friends. I wouldn't trade my relationship for anything in the world The only time we spend apart is 9 til 5 Mon - Fri because of work But apart from that we spend all the time together...still.

I'd say when you feel it's the right time - meaning you should be 100% happy with all of your relationship.

fbmandy55

I had a plan to get married in my mid twenties and have children in my later twenties-very early 30's. I had my first child at 20 and have not yet been married. I have found a wonderful man though and he is keeping things at a good pace. He has a good timeline for marriage, no new kids until after he finishes college, etc...

I've always had a fear about having kids through my 30's. I don't want to be one of those women who has complications and rough pregnancies because I passed up my "prime" childbearing age. :laugh:

ItsCasey

I've thought about this after watching the various successes and failures of friends' and relatives' marriages.

I used to think nobody should get married before 25 and preferably not even before 30, just because I think there is tremendous benefit in spending some time on your own and learning who you are before you commit to spending the rest of your life with someone.

But now I think the right time to get married is when you are sure of what you want for your life and you have found a person who wants the same things. I have a friend from high school who got married at 18 to her 20-year-old boyfriend. 10 years later, they are still very happily married with two kids. I asked her once why she never went to college or spent any time living on her own before she got married, and she said "I didn't want that. I knew I wanted to be a wife and a mother, and it didn't make sense to me to waste time and money doing other things just because people thought I was too young."

That made sense to me. I, too, want to be a wife and mother someday, but there were other things I wanted, too, and I knew that it would be easier to do those other things first. But if I hadn't had any educational or professional ambitions or anything else I wanted to do before settling down, I probably would've gotten married a long time ago.

Mely1268

Hello, I got married young but I wouldnt trade it for anything.. it honestly depends on the person & when they find the one.. I got engaged at 18 and got married at 20.

I was married young too. I am 22 and will be married 2 years in June. My husband and I met early in High School so we have been dating for MANY YEARS!

Theres no appropriate age.

When you are dating I suggest wait at least 2 years. The first year is ALWAYS euphoria (spell check) and the second year is when conflicts tend to arise more aften. If you can make it through at least the second year and learn to deal with problems well.

I encourage you to watch Marraige seminars, and read books about marriage. The more you know NOW then the better your marraige will become when the time comes.

jackpotclown

when you've decided to give up caring only about yourself

Angela103098

NEVER!!! Dont do it!!! Have the kids, but dont get married!

AlbionLass

NEVER!!! Dont do it!!! Have the kids, but dont get married!

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For about 23 years and through various relationships I was convinced I never even wanted children. Woke up one morning and knew I wanted a baby. Within 3 weeks I was pregnant and he's now a handsome, 6 foot 15 year old.
Never wanted another, not interested in other peoples kids but he's brilliant!

I still would never get married though.

DrBorkBork

I got married at 19 (still married, almost 30), and don't recommend it. I ended up having regrets of not chasing certain dreams now that I was tied down. Chase your dreams first, travel the world, then get married!

neversettle

When you're good and ready.

MrsTWard

I just got married 2yrs ago. I was 31. My advice would be to do it when you both are ready! Dont worry about age nor time.

SoDamnHungry

When you're ready. Age means little when it comes to love or maturity.