hooking up on first date??

tanman44

He clearly thinks you're hot.. i would just kiss on the first date (if you're into him) and move slowly from that. He won't think you're the one if u have sex on the first date, unless you're just trying to get some too.. make him work for it.. it'll be better for both of u in the end

supermom2002

I'm saving myself for marriage.

and i just recently bought a *kitten* load of batteries

EpiGaiaRepens

ugh. topics like this I wanna kick myself for wanting to respond.

every sitaution is different.

but i just can't stand all the "this is how guys are" responses. It's not true of all guys...no, really it's not.

EpiGaiaRepens

I'm saving myself for marriage.

and i just recently bought a *kitten* load of batteries

Hahahahaa!

ShandiH

I met this guy online and after four weeks of talking, we finally met. Hooked up that night. 8 years later (almost 5 years of marriage) I'm lucky enough to still hook up with that guy. Ha Ha.

My husband and I hooked up on the first date. Been married for 4 years now, together for 6 and kiddo #2 is on the way. It says nothing about the guy/girl/future whatever . . . if you want to, then go for it.

Darkskinned88

if she gives it up on the first date doesnt mean she does it with everyone...can a guy get some credit for perfectly executed seduction

KristysLosing

I had sex on a first date once....too bad she would not join me!

LOL - Love this! :laugh:

Smuterella

If you want a relationship with this guy then don't give him everything on the first date!

Agree i find when you give it all up the first night what is there to look forward too. Unless he sees his life with you that fast he will move on and you got played.

I don't get this "sex as a gift" thing. I'm not bestowing my vagina to someone as a present, complete with a card and a bow, I'm getting my own fun out of sex.

This is where it begins.

If this relationship magically holds up into marriage then you can use sex as a weapon and hold out whenever you dont' get your way. I heard this really helps in marriage and makes for a long lasting and happy one.

Is that aimed at me? I have no idea what you are talking about if so, it makes no sense.

galegetsthin

if she gives it up on the first date doesnt mean she does it with everyone...can a guy get some credit for perfectly executed seduction

AMEN!!!!!!!! If you do it right and she is up for it, then you, sir, could be a LOT of fun for a while.

SwannySez

If you want a relationship with this guy then don't give him everything on the first date!

Agree i find when you give it all up the first night what is there to look forward too. Unless he sees his life with you that fast he will move on and you got played.

I don't get this "sex as a gift" thing. I'm not bestowing my vagina to someone as a present, complete with a card and a bow, I'm getting my own fun out of sex.

This is where it begins.

If this relationship magically holds up into marriage then you can use sex as a weapon and hold out whenever you dont' get your way. I heard this really helps in marriage and makes for a long lasting and happy one.

Is that aimed at me? I have no idea what you are talking about if so, it makes no sense.

i was given a vagina once. It was a gag gift. *rimshot*

chrishgt4

if she gives it up on the first date doesnt mean she does it with everyone...can a guy get some credit for perfectly executed seduction

Haha exactly! Maybe if we're getting it on the first night it's just because we're good at the build up (and for the record the rest of it in case you're wondering...)

ayeshakane

thank you everyone for the great response :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

Cameron_1969

if she gives it up on the first date doesnt mean she does it with everyone...can a guy get some credit for perfectly executed seduction

Haha exactly! Maybe if we're getting it on the first night it's just because we're good at the build up (and for the record the rest of it in case you're wondering...)

I must be a master because they always tell me I'm the only one they've ever done this with. .

scepterian

I think it's all about chemistry really. If both don't see eye to eye on it without really talking about it, there's a chemistry issue. I've dated where it happened on first date, 3rd date, and a few weeks. All scenerios were fine with me as the chemistry seemed to be right per situation.

AlSalzman

Now, just to clarify - are you ladies talking about giving up the dumper on the first date, or just the box?

bikinibeliever

hey all, just needed some advice from males and females about the above topic! if a guy try's to have sex on the first date what does it tell about him? is it that bad? and oh say the guy and the girl don't really know each-other, they just met online 4 weeks ago!

I'm going to let you in on a little secret. If he's trying to have sex on the first date................ That means he's a guy.

He'll try to have sex without a date, on the first date, on the second date, third date, etc etc etc.

^^^^^What he said!

heavensshadow

Now, just to clarify - are you ladies talking about giving up the dumper on the first date, or just the box?

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

It's not sex if it's in the pooper!
and it's not gay if the balls don't touch, right?

yoovie

hey all, just needed some advice from males and females about the above topic! if a guy try's to have sex on the first date what does it tell about him? is it that bad? and oh say the guy and the girl don't really know each-other, they just met online 4 weeks ago!

Sometimes you really want sex on the first date, if the chemistry is insane and you're having a blast and you know you're gonna hang out again anyway.

Im guess it probably says about him that he had mad chemistry with her and was super horny and a redblooded man.

rashel1

Sex is for women and men. It's a natural biological thing. I wouldn't feel shame over it. In general a connection is nice, makes it more fun

Sinistrous

Holy sh, girl. Your fingers dug deep in old threads LOL

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SwashBlogger

Consensual sex between adults is a moral neutral. What I find heinous is when they are so lousy at it.

fara180

it depends...how did the date go? was there chemistry? i don't think we have enough information to really make a judgement call here!

if the date was just "meh," and the chemistry wasn't there and it made you uncomfortable...i would say yes, it's a red flag and you should probably keep it moving.

if the date went well and there was chemistry, i don't think it's a horrible thing. not everyone views sex in the same way, and that doesn't make them a good/bad person! if the chemistry was there, the kissing was on point, you were comfortable and his hand happened to end up somewhere unexpected? go for it! you're single. live your life. yolo. all that jazz.

JP_909

Give him the P!

islander_2013

rashel1 wrote: »

Sex is for women and men. It's a natural biological thing. I wouldn't feel shame over it. In general a connection is nice, makes it more fun

what she said

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fara180

BLACKxLABEL wrote: »

fara180 wrote: »

it depends...how did the date go? was there chemistry? i don't think we have enough information to really make a judgement call here!

if the date was just "meh," and the chemistry wasn't there and it made you uncomfortable...i would say yes, it's a red flag and you should probably keep it moving.

if the date went well and there was chemistry, i don't think it's a horrible thing. not everyone views sex in the same way, and that doesn't make them a good/bad person! if the chemistry was there, the kissing was on point, you were comfortable and his hand happened to end up somewhere unexpected? go for it! you're single. live your life. yolo. all that jazz.

You got plans next Friday?

For you? I could cancel them

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LadyRN76

^^^^ Let us know how the whole sex on the first date goes, guys ^^^^

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