Why don't I get hit on?
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I'm working on my self-esteem, which has always been crappy but is improving.The thing is, here on MFP I am quite fortunate that I have lots and lots of very supportive friends who give fabulous compliments.
They say that I am attractive, but in real life...
no one looks my way.
I wrote a blog that touches on this subject.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/sunkisses/view/just-me-talking-about-myself-again-1516930 -
I wasn't hit on when I was 20-something, slim and attractive, it's never going to happen now I'm 40-something, overweight and saggy! I'm not a real eye contact or smile at strangers person.0
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I think its intimidation sometime. We figure some one like you has a BF and wouldn't want to talk to me. Most of good guys are shy over all. We are not all looking to jump in bed and a lot of time that's the attitude we get from women. I also would have a hard time approaching you. As for this site I have the same problem getting friends. Im not looking for dates but support. But do not get anyones help as they are worried I'm looking for dates here, Not dates just help. :-(0
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Maybe you are intimidating or putting out a "desperate" (as in looking as to whether men are looking at you instead of not thinking of it) vibe. Or you are just oblivious. My mom has always been rather oblivious and would be shocked when guys would say stuff such as, "I've been trying to ask you out for four years!" and at 64 she still gets hit on regularly (and doesn't seem to realize it although it's quite obvious to me and everyone around her :laugh: )
Another thing is You are a pretty girl (so please stop doubting yourself, especially since you will probably regret it when you are older and look back and realize "I actually was pretty!") but maybe change up your hair, makeup, and clothing. I think it ages you a bit and maybe makes it look like you "aren't interested" in dating.
Good luck ^_^0 -
First, you're a somewhat prolific poster so I've read quite a few of your posts. Having said that - I'm a fan. Unfortunately, you consistently describe yourself with terms such as average, ok, adequate, decent, etc.. My wife would attest to the fact that i carry myself with confidence to spare - but really i'm just your everyday, normal jacka**. If i accomplished half of what you have i would walk through every door like I owned the fu**ing place - and you should too. The handful of guys that you'll intimidate will be mowed down by those you attract.
Have a great day!0 -
First, you're a somewhat prolific poster so I've read quite a few of your posts. Having said that - I'm a fan. Unfortunately, you consistently describe yourself with terms such as average, ok, adequate, decent, etc.. My wife would attest to the fact that i carry myself with confidence to spare - but really i'm just your everyday, normal jacka**. If i accomplished half of what you have i would walk through every door like I owned the fu**ing place - and you should too. The handful of guys that you'll intimidate will be mowed down by those you attract.
Have a great day!
Exactly this! Well said cms0 -
If you are still reading your thread (I don't blame you if your tuned out already).
Just make sure you are making eye contact and smile.
I am no stunner and really no reason for any gal to be attracted to me, but I find the most attractive (from my own subconscious point of view) women I meet are the ones who when I make eye contact (when just passing or wherever) they give me a little smile. Enough to now that they are smiling at me and not in the "I want to have your baby", just in a sense that they recognize that I am looking at them (not staring, just the passing glance) and perhaps some acknowledgement that I have given them some positive energy.
Ok and for the record - record this as a "hit" on you.0 -
I bet you get hit on and never notice! Hitting on a girl for most guys isn't some stupid line, they usually want to just try to talk to you, or to a friend near you so that they can eventually get into a conversation with you. I am no guy expert but I have always had a TON of guy friends. The guy you want to hit on you is usually the shy one in the corner, the aka "nice guy" who may not approach you. Turn the tides, go talk to them!!!!! I bet you will see that they talk to you.0
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I think it has a lot to do with the situation, sometimes flirting just seems inappropriate, (like at a funeral, lol)0
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That will teach ya hun (OP) to post this up in future lol, u know i love ya, now your getting psycho-analyzed by some peeps who are in no position to be judging you anyway-Ty0
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"Most" men are shy and don't want the rejection, most of my guy friends that are single have said that.... that being said make sure you are approachable I know I have been told I look so serious but once they get to know me then its a different story, so I paste a smile and look serious at work!
lol
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I think a lot of men are a bit intimidated by redheads anyway.
I know my Dear Hubby told me that he was, for years, due to having a redhead as a gf at a young age... he wasn't sure he was prepared for another one!
Fortunately, I chased him until he caught me *grin*
Typical post-event conversation:
"That was fun. I was talking to ____ about ____"
"He was hitting on you"
"Oh, he was not. We were just talking"
"Yes, he was. That is hitting."
"Really? dang it! I missed it again!!"0 -
Most guys your age or lower have been taught by the internet that they're are 3 rules to approaching a hot girl:
1. Be Attractive
2.Don't be unattractive
3. Be attractive
If we don't meet those 3, we feel we will be considered creepers. Guys who don't feel like they meet all those requirements tend to not hit on the hottest girl in the group.0 -
I generally get hit on by guys who turn out to be total a-holes. Really frustrates me.0
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If you are still reading your thread (I don't blame you if your tuned out already).
Just make sure you are making eye contact and smile.
I am no stunner and really no reason for any gal to be attracted to me, but I find the most attractive (from my own subconscious point of view) women I meet are the ones who when I make eye contact (when just passing or wherever) they give me a little smile. Enough to now that they are smiling at me and not in the "I want to have your baby", just in a sense that they recognize that I am looking at them (not staring, just the passing glance) and perhaps some acknowledgement that I have given them some positive energy.
Ok and for the record - record this as a "hit" on you.
This ^^^^^^^^0 -
I generally get hit on by guys who turn out to be total a-holes. Really frustrates me.0
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First, you're a somewhat prolific poster so I've read quite a few of your posts. Having said that - I'm a fan. Unfortunately, you consistently describe yourself with terms such as average, ok, adequate, decent, etc.. My wife would attest to the fact that i carry myself with confidence to spare - but really i'm just your everyday, normal jacka**. If i accomplished half of what you have i would walk through every door like I owned the fu**ing place - and you should too. The handful of guys that you'll intimidate will be mowed down by those you attract.
Have a great day!
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First, you're a somewhat prolific poster so I've read quite a few of your posts. Having said that - I'm a fan. Unfortunately, you consistently describe yourself with terms such as average, ok, adequate, decent, etc.. My wife would attest to the fact that i carry myself with confidence to spare - but really i'm just your everyday, normal jacka**. If i accomplished half of what you have i would walk through every door like I owned the fu**ing place - and you should too. The handful of guys that you'll intimidate will be mowed down by those you attract.
Have a great day!
So... what have I learned?
* Tall women are scary
* Redheads are intimidating
* Men might be afraid I could beat them up because I am in good shape
* I might be noticed and not realize it
* I need to smile more and make eye contact
* Being shy can come across as unapproachable
* A lack of confidence shows up
* Alcohol loosens up inhibitions
* Wear heels with confidence
* Wear flats so I'm not so tall
* Even if I am attractive to look at, a crappy personality might make me unattractive
* SinIsIn, _snw_, and LorinaLynn would all hit on me even though I'm a girl and so are they.
Hm... did I miss anything?0 -
First, you're a somewhat prolific poster so I've read quite a few of your posts. Having said that - I'm a fan. Unfortunately, you consistently describe yourself with terms such as average, ok, adequate, decent, etc.. My wife would attest to the fact that i carry myself with confidence to spare - but really i'm just your everyday, normal jacka**. If i accomplished half of what you have i would walk through every door like I owned the fu**ing place - and you should too. The handful of guys that you'll intimidate will be mowed down by those you attract.
Have a great day!
So... what have I learned?
* Tall women are scary
* Redheads are intimidating
* Men might be afraid I could beat them up because I am in good shape
* I might be noticed and not realize it
* I need to smile more and make eye contact
* Being shy can come across as unapproachable
* A lack of confidence shows up
* Alcohol loosens up inhibitions
* Wear heels with confidence
* Wear flats so I'm not so tall
* Even if I am attractive to look at, a crappy personality might make me unattractive
* SinIsIn, _snw_, and LorinaLynn would all hit on me even though I'm a girl and so are they.
Hm... did I miss anything?
Yes:
*You don't need attention from weak men that are afraid of tall women or red heads.
*The alcohol lesson is for one night stands.
*Be tall and proud!! You're supermodel height!!0 -
First, you're a somewhat prolific poster so I've read quite a few of your posts. Having said that - I'm a fan. Unfortunately, you consistently describe yourself with terms such as average, ok, adequate, decent, etc.. My wife would attest to the fact that i carry myself with confidence to spare - but really i'm just your everyday, normal jacka**. If i accomplished half of what you have i would walk through every door like I owned the fu**ing place - and you should too. The handful of guys that you'll intimidate will be mowed down by those you attract.
Have a great day!
So... what have I learned?
* Tall women are scary
* Redheads are intimidating
* Men might be afraid I could beat them up because I am in good shape
* I might be noticed and not realize it
* I need to smile more and make eye contact
* Being shy can come across as unapproachable
* A lack of confidence shows up
* Alcohol loosens up inhibitions
* Wear heels with confidence
* Wear flats so I'm not so tall
* Even if I am attractive to look at, a crappy personality might make me unattractive
* SinIsIn, _snw_, and LorinaLynn would all hit on me even though I'm a girl and so are they.
Hm... did I miss anything?
You forgot:
Tucson guys are stupid. Act accordingly lol.0
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