Unrequented friend requests!

stevewynjones
stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
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Anyone else think it's rude to ignore requests? a polite reply would be nice..something along these lines:

1. Thanks but I'm comfortable with my current friends list.

2. Sorry but you don't fit my friend profile.

3. I liked one of your comments that's not really enough.

or

4. **** off you ****stalking ******!!!! I'm calling the cops now....

don't leave a guy hanging :smile: .
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  • xraylady33
    xraylady33 Posts: 222 Member
    Today on the news it was reported, people who do not reply to friend requests, or are ignored, go through the same emotional pain as you would in person. It is like being shunned or ignored at the cool kids table!
    This report was for FaceBook, but this sounds like it is along the same lines.

    Yes, its rude, but how do you know?
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,409 Member
    I don't reply to friend requests if I don't know them.
  • _Christine_
    _Christine_ Posts: 1,385 Member
    I've received many with no notes and when I checked the person out they had no replies to threads or mutual friends. I don't really want to be a part of someone’s collection. <shivers>
    Now, if they add a note I’m more likely to accept, but not always. Sometimes I just get the creeper vibe and the moment you reply back to them the convo starts… and I really don’t’ want to start that with a creeper.
    So, be honest, did you say something creepy in your friend request? ;)
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    I don't like blank FR's...I wish there was away to send it back saying, please tell me why you want to be my friend...like did I make you laugh in the forums? Are we friends with a lot of the same people?
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    I've received many with no notes and when I checked the person out they had no replies to threads or mutual friends. I don't really want to be a part of someone’s collection. <shivers>
    Now, if they add a note I’m more likely to accept, but not always. Sometimes I just get the creeper vibe and the moment you reply back to them the convo starts… and I really don’t’ want to start that with a creeper.
    So, be honest, did you say something creepy in your friend request? ;)

    Is it wrong to talk about my love of jello and pvc in a request?:embarassed:
  • Trail_Addict
    Trail_Addict Posts: 1,340 Member
    My profile states "no message= no accept". Blank requests are typically the only ones I decline. I don't feel I owe them an explanation since it should've been obvious to them when submitting their request in the first place.

    But I do understand what you're saying for less obvious Friend Requests.

    Now if they're a known wack-job, I'd rather not get into a conversation with them. :laugh:
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    I don't reply to friend requests if I don't know them.

    :huh: how does that work?
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    The first rule of the internet is no rudeness.
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    Today on the news it was reported, people who do not reply to friend requests, or are ignored, go through the same emotional pain as you would in person. It is like being shunned or ignored at the cool kids table!
    This report was for FaceBook, but this sounds like it is along the same lines.

    Yes, its rude, but how do you know?

    Sounds really desperate but I was on facebook the other day and realised it had taken someone I know 3 months to accept my request :smile: this made my realise that there were a few others still outstanding :blushing:

    I sent out a few at the beginning like everyone does but remembering they didn't have a pic and I have a common name <keep telling yourself that boyo :) >
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    The first rule of the internet is no rudeness.

    LOL
  • _Christine_
    _Christine_ Posts: 1,385 Member
    Is it wrong to talk about my love of jello and pvc in a request?:embarassed:

    Yes, save the jello and pvc for later.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    No. If you decline me (or even delete me from your friend list), I don't want to know why. I (now) treat others the same.
  • CMmrsfloyd
    CMmrsfloyd Posts: 2,380 Member
    Once you click 'decline' it's kind of easy to forget the exact spelling of the username that requested you, kind of hard to then send them a 'it's not you, it's me' response at that point. And there's no option to send a message along with the 'decline' button.
  • librarygoddess2
    librarygoddess2 Posts: 145 Member
    I've received many with no notes and when I checked the person out they had no replies to threads or mutual friends. I don't really want to be a part of someone’s collection. <shivers>
    Now, if they add a note I’m more likely to accept, but not always. Sometimes I just get the creeper vibe and the moment you reply back to them the convo starts… and I really don’t’ want to start that with a creeper.
    So, be honest, did you say something creepy in your friend request? ;)

    Agreed. I prefer someone to give me a note telling me why they'd like to get to know me more or why they picked me out of all the others they could have to send a request too. It's nice to have things in common!

    On another note,, if someone is inspired by something I say in a post and wants to be a support to me and feels like I can support them I'm happy to be their friend! I think it's wonderful to know so many people are going through some of the same things I am and it actually keeps me going if I'm able to help other too!

    if someone were to ignore my request then I likely wouldn't have gotten a lot out of that connection anyway. Likewise they already have what they need in their group of friends and are extended as far as they can. I wouldn't take it personally. There's plenty of Pals in the sea of 1's and 0's.
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    I've received many with no notes and when I checked the person out they had no replies to threads or mutual friends. I don't really want to be a part of someone’s collection. <shivers>
    Now, if they add a note I’m more likely to accept, but not always. Sometimes I just get the creeper vibe and the moment you reply back to them the convo starts… and I really don’t’ want to start that with a creeper.
    So, be honest, did you say something creepy in your friend request? ;)

    Is it wrong to talk about my love of jello and pvc in a request?:embarassed:

    That's what goes in the first PM after your FR has been accepted...c'mon now...
  • tig_ol_bitties
    tig_ol_bitties Posts: 561 Member
    I only deny people who don't send a request with a message, like my profile asks. If they didn't spend the time to read my profile before requesting me, I am not going to waste the time responding to them.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    I don't like blank FR's...I wish there was away to send it back saying, please tell me why you want to be my friend...like did I make you laugh in the forums? Are we friends with a lot of the same people?

    THIS!!!
  • _Christine_
    _Christine_ Posts: 1,385 Member
    If she's American just tell her you're English... we like an accent. (American women are easy!) :drinker: :noway: :blushing:
  • branflake6
    branflake6 Posts: 115
    I've received many with no notes and when I checked the person out they had no replies to threads or mutual friends. I don't really want to be a part of someone’s collection. <shivers>
    Now, if they add a note I’m more likely to accept, but not always. Sometimes I just get the creeper vibe and the moment you reply back to them the convo starts… and I really don’t’ want to start that with a creeper.
    So, be honest, did you say something creepy in your friend request? ;)

    agreed
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    I don't get enough requests to turn down. Only turned 1 down and that was a troll here a few months ago.
  • Kenzietea2
    Kenzietea2 Posts: 1,132 Member
    Unless you leave a message, why would I take the time to send a message as to why I am ignoring you? If however I decided not to accept you and you left a message, I would most definitely tell you why :)
  • smileymel27
    smileymel27 Posts: 171 Member
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    "Is it wrong to talk about my love of jello and pvc in a request?:embarassed:"
    [/quote]

    Haha!! :)
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    Anyone else think it's rude to ignore requests? a polite reply would be nice..something along these lines:

    1. Thanks but I'm comfortable with my current friends list.

    2. Sorry but you don't fit my friend profile.

    3. I liked one of your comments that's not really enough.

    or

    4. **** off you ****stalking ******!!!! I'm calling the cops now....

    don't leave a guy hanging :smile: .

    I'll let them assume it was either 1 2 3 or 4.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Well, when a 21-year-old guy I've never seen on the boards and who has no mutual friends sends me a FR with absolutely no comment in it, I don't feel the need to go too far out of my way to explain why I'm not accepting.

    Sorry.
  • _Christine_
    _Christine_ Posts: 1,385 Member
    *Since this topic posted I've received 4 requests and only 1 with a note, "Hi". Decline! <sigh>
  • MrsLVF
    MrsLVF Posts: 787 Member
    Sounds like someone needs a hug.
    friendshug.gif
  • msharif71
    msharif71 Posts: 34 Member
    I've received many with no notes and when I checked the person out they had no replies to threads or mutual friends. I don't really want to be a part of someone’s collection. <shivers>
    Now, if they add a note I’m more likely to accept, but not always. Sometimes I just get the creeper vibe and the moment you reply back to them the convo starts… and I really don’t’ want to start that with a creeper.
    So, be honest, did you say something creepy in your friend request? ;)

    Is it wrong to talk about my love of jello and pvc in a request?:embarassed:

    I just laughed out loud at my desk! Thank you for the chuckle
  • Krizzle4Rizzle
    Krizzle4Rizzle Posts: 2,704 Member
    I don't like blank FR's...I wish there was away to send it back saying, please tell me why you want to be my friend...like did I make you laugh in the forums? Are we friends with a lot of the same people?

    THIS THIS THIS
  • mslack01
    mslack01 Posts: 823 Member
    I would never leave you hanging. If I get them on my phone though, I do wait until I can get to a computer to see if they included a message. I don't discriminate when it comes to people who will support me. I have deleted one person though because he was incredibly egotistical, rude, and foul-mouthed. I don't really mind a curse-word from time to time but he was just arrogant and I couldn't stand it.
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    dude, really? You want to know why someone doesn't want to be your friend? And then what, will you argue your case? I find it's just easier to decline or delete quietly. I have been known to do both for a variety of reasons, some of which depend on my mood. I'm a b*tch and a hypocrite, so there's no rhyme or reason to it. And if I decline/delete you, I don't want to have to explain it. Nor would I expect that in return.

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