Unrequented friend requests!

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  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    Wow....I feel loved!!!

    Yeah right..look I was trying to see what the opinion was on politeness really. I don't know if anyone here is actually offended by someone not accepting or deleting their requests, but My "man card"is secure and this "little soldier" is fine :glasses:


    there are some sensitive people out there tho'...
  • TinkrBelz
    TinkrBelz Posts: 866 Member
    OK...well, now I feel badly. I have requests that I have not answered.

    I accept any female if she puts a little note. I do not accept men. I have that on my profile BUT since I had my profile private, I just realized that these men never knew that I only accept women...so I made my profile available to MFP members only.

    So, I don't reject because I wasn't sure if it sends something that says, "You were rejected" and I don't want to hurt any feelings.

    So, I have a whole bunch of requests. What would be polite??
  • tsherm3850
    tsherm3850 Posts: 353 Member
    I've received many with no notes and when I checked the person out they had no replies to threads or mutual friends.

    Is there a way to tell if you have mutual friends?
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    I accept everyone...my friends call me a *kitten*.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I've received many with no notes and when I checked the person out they had no replies to threads or mutual friends.

    Is there a way to tell if you have mutual friends?

    If their profile is viewable, you can see their friends and kind of click through to see if any are mutual. There's no easy way, though.
  • mes1119
    mes1119 Posts: 1,082 Member
    I only ignore them if they have no message OR if I see on their profile that they are pro-ana, etc. If they can't send a message with the request than I shouldn't have to take the time to send a message with my ignore.
  • EmpressOfJudgment
    EmpressOfJudgment Posts: 1,162 Member
    I heart you hard.
    Back atcha, babe.
  • _Christine_
    _Christine_ Posts: 1,385 Member
    If she's American just tell her you're English... we like an accent. (American women are easy!) :drinker: :noway: :blushing:

    Welsh actually but I do have an "English" accent..think Hugh Grant but delivered by Jason Statham....

    It works. Next time, "Ello poppin, care to friend an old bloke like myself?"

    *Okay, so not only can I not fake an accent in real life.. I can't type one either. But you get the picture.
  • Mawkish1983
    Mawkish1983 Posts: 117 Member
    I think unsolicited friend requests themselves can be rude. That being said, on the internet there is a fine line between satire and rudeness. People can be far too sensitive about things online. I personally blame Facebook for taking the internet out of the hands of the nerds and placing it in the hands of normal people with feelings and such.
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    I accept everyone...my friends call me a *kitten*.
    And worse!
  • gmc198024
    gmc198024 Posts: 5
    I recently joined and put out a number of friend requests to compare stories and offer mutual support. Placed a small note why and all have agreed to the request.

    Happy to accept anyone asking me direct. I like hearing about success stories, the more the merrier!
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Anyone else think it's rude to ignore requests? a polite reply would be nice..something along these lines:

    1. Thanks but I'm comfortable with my current friends list.

    2. Sorry but you don't fit my friend profile.

    3. I liked one of your comments that's not really enough.

    or

    4. **** off you ****stalking ******!!!! I'm calling the cops now....

    don't leave a guy hanging :smile: .

    if you didnt say anything to me in your friend request, then I dont have to say anything back when I ignore you.
  • MiniMichelle
    MiniMichelle Posts: 801 Member
    Anyone else think it's rude to ignore requests? a polite reply would be nice..something along these lines:

    1. Thanks but I'm comfortable with my current friends list.

    2. Sorry but you don't fit my friend profile.

    3. I liked one of your comments that's not really enough.

    or

    4. **** off you ****stalking ******!!!! I'm calling the cops now....

    don't leave a guy hanging :smile: .

    Agreed :flowerforyou:
  • shedoos
    shedoos Posts: 446 Member
    OP were your feelings hurt over the internet? Don't worry...my guys will be right over to collect your man card.

    :drinker:
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    I'm curious as to what you wrote in the friend request as well. Pretty much all of the requests I've gotten have been accompanied by a note.
    Meh, if they don't accept you, move on. Find some other people that are more willing to accept you as a friend. I bet if you said you were looking for friends now you would get some requests.

    Something suitable to the interaction we allready had accompanied with razor wit.....or just something lame depending on your take but allways something never blank.
  • Miss♥Ivi
    Miss♥Ivi Posts: 461
    *Since this topic posted I've received 4 requests and only 1 with a note, "Hi". Decline! <sigh>

    These are the worst! Like, they tried but half-assed :laugh: If you're going to just put "hi", don't bother! Women, can't ever please us :tongue:
  • jenniebean1680
    jenniebean1680 Posts: 350 Member
    Unrequited. Good grief.
  • juliee274
    juliee274 Posts: 124 Member
    That depends on WHY you love jello and pvc. :tongue:

    Personally, I am on MFP to become fit, not make lifelong friends (though that would be a nice secondary benefit). I have chosen a few "friends" who are very similar to me...some starting their journey, some ending....so that I can have support and help with my journey. I don't want or need to be friends with lots and lots of people just for the sake of being friends with lots and lots of people.
  • LemonsAndCoffee
    LemonsAndCoffee Posts: 313 Member
    I typically try to at least put in what thread I "noticed" them in. At least that way it doesn't look like I'm creepin' the boards looking for people to add. :huh:
  • tinana_RN
    tinana_RN Posts: 541 Member
    I don't usually care if the request is blank... I'll usually add anyone who requests, but I do delete people that either don't ever reply back, or don't log in within a few week-time frame. I understand crap happens, but it shows a lot of devotion to get on here as often as possible.


    If I deny people altogether, it's probably because they creeped me out :)
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    Also, has anyone mentioned that the word is "unrequited" not "unrequented?" I'm not sure what unrequented means.

    You're absolutlely right on correktin me sbellin on this. I'll have myself shot at dawn....luck girl.
  • CarrieAnne22
    CarrieAnne22 Posts: 231 Member
    Perhaps it's because you make up stupid words like 'unrequented'?
  • teresacc26
    teresacc26 Posts: 91 Member
    Well, when a 21-year-old guy I've never seen on the boards and who has no mutual friends sends me a FR with absolutely no comment in it, I don't feel the need to go too far out of my way to explain why I'm not accepting.

    Sorry.


    EXACTLY!!!
  • MrDude_1
    MrDude_1 Posts: 2,510 Member
    Unrequited. Good grief.

    Charlie brown......
    every body clap your hands.
    *clap**clap**clap**clap**clap**clap**clap**clap**clap**clap*......
  • Musikelektronik
    Musikelektronik Posts: 739 Member
    I joined this site three years ago, but really didn't start using it actively until this month. Frankly, I'm a little surprised at how many restrictions people here place on friend requests.

    I really don't get it. I have about 1,600 friends on Facebook, and basically I accept all friend requests from (1) people I know, and (2) people with whom I have a significant number of friends in common. Those are really the only restrictions I place on it.

    I don't require you to send me a note and stroke my ego just to be my "friend" on a social-networking site. I don't have friends of only one gender. I don't require that you have the same interests or goals in life.

    That's just silly, IMO. It's just the Internet; I'm not inviting you over to babysit my kids.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    *Since this topic posted I've received 4 requests and only 1 with a note, "Hi". Decline! <sigh>

    Damn.....There goes that idea....
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    I just don't let it bother me.....used to when I first started here.....nowadays if I send and it goes nowhere f 'em in the A because I've already got the best friends ever and thought they would be good to join the party \m/
  • mazzyw65
    mazzyw65 Posts: 47
    I don't get enough requests to turn down. Only turned 1 down and that was a troll here a few months ago.

    I don't either, i'm sooo lonely!!:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:
  • Missi3601
    Missi3601 Posts: 264
    LMAO-

    Anyone else think it's rude to ignore requests? a polite reply would be nice..something along these lines:

    1. Thanks but I'm comfortable with my current friends list.

    2. Sorry but you don't fit my friend profile.

    3. I liked one of your comments that's not really enough.

    or

    4. **** off you ****stalking ******!!!! I'm calling the cops now....

    don't leave a guy hanging :smile: .
  • Nikki_42
    Nikki_42 Posts: 298 Member
    I don't understand the people that basically say "prove to me you want to be my friend before I friend you". It appears rude. I always want to ask them if they use that philosophy in real life. Ala if someone says 'hi' to their face do they snap back "why do you want to speak to me?" Just seems slightly power trippy/control issue.

    Why not just accept the friend request and if the new friend acts like an idiot...bam..they lose that privlege and get unfriended. It's the internet, but it's okay to just be nice sometimes.

    And it's not like its FB, where people post too much private information they shouldn't anyway, so there may be more reason to not automatically 'friend'.

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