BLACK TEAM WEEK 4

Marla64

And Andrew-- I swear, if you come up with some sorry-assed Moses cake, (pardon the language) and another Marla's old joke-- you're dead meat, mister.

Girlmom282109

Here is a cake for you birthday girls!

oh great, now I really want cake

Check out the Tom Selleck cake on the most recent locked nothing thread-- Shannon gave it to me--

totally a cake to sink your teeth into-- :devil:

I saw it and thought EWWW he is hairy and whom ever said that they will look at chocolare sprinkles differently is right!! :huh: :sick:

SatelliteCrush80

Here is a cake for you birthday girls!

oh great, now I really want cake

Check out the Tom Selleck cake on the most recent locked nothing thread-- Shannon gave it to me--

totally a cake to sink your teeth into-- :devil:

I saw it and thought EWWW he is hairy and whom ever said that they will look at chocolare sprinkles differently is right!! :huh: :sick:

I don't even think I like chocolate sprinkles anymore, that was just wrong. :noway:

Vanessa414

Can I vent for a minute and can you guys tell me if I'm being completely ridiculous?

So this morning I'm on my way out the door and Jim tells me that him and his friends are going to some "rock fest" in Nebraska in August for two days.

Um... EXCUSE ME!?!?! NO!!!!!! I mean who does he think he is? he just gets to go off to NE for two days and leave me here with the kid? WTF? WHY would I want him on some 2 day drinking binge at some concert surrounded by slutty girls???? WHY?? I don't even get an invite? Why not?

It's not like he doesn't get guy time. He goes and plays pool with his friends every weekend!

Then his FRIEND (Who's supposed to be MY friend) starts telling me that I"m too insecure and too controlling and i just need to let go and I should stop being a "killjoy"

EXCUSE ME!?!?!?!?

Am i way out of line here? Why I don't I get say? How does he suddenly think we have money for something like this? Why don't I ever get the chance to do anything like this?!?!?!?! HUH???

Am i over reacting? Am I being unfair to him? Because personally, I think he's being incredibly unfair to me.

Girlmom282109

Can I vent for a minute and can you guys tell me if I'm being completely ridiculous?

So this morning I'm on my way out the door and Jim tells me that him and his friends are going to some "rock fest" in Nebraska in August for two days.

Um... EXCUSE ME!?!?! NO!!!!!! I mean who does he think he is? he just gets to go off to NE for two days and leave me here with the kid? WTF? WHY would I want him on some 2 day drinking binge at some concert surrounded by slutty girls???? WHY?? I don't even get an invite? Why not?

It's not like he doesn't get guy time. He goes and plays pool with his friends every weekend!

Then his FRIEND (Who's supposed to be MY friend) starts telling me that I"m too insecure and too controlling and i just need to let go and I should stop being a "killjoy"

EXCUSE ME!?!?!?!?

Am i way out of line here? Why I don't I get say? How does he suddenly think we have money for something like this? Why don't I ever get the chance to do anything like this?!?!?!?! HUH???

Am i over reacting? Am I being unfair to him? Because personally, I think he's being incredibly unfair to me.

I don't know about you but I would let him go now that you are already pissed off at him. Tell him that you get a chance to go off if you want too. I know I wouldn't but you might want too. Some men just aren't maternal and need to be away.

All this is if you do have the money. If you trust him enough let him go.

Vanessa414

Can I vent for a minute and can you guys tell me if I'm being completely ridiculous?

So this morning I'm on my way out the door and Jim tells me that him and his friends are going to some "rock fest" in Nebraska in August for two days.

Um... EXCUSE ME!?!?! NO!!!!!! I mean who does he think he is? he just gets to go off to NE for two days and leave me here with the kid? WTF? WHY would I want him on some 2 day drinking binge at some concert surrounded by slutty girls???? WHY?? I don't even get an invite? Why not?

It's not like he doesn't get guy time. He goes and plays pool with his friends every weekend!

Then his FRIEND (Who's supposed to be MY friend) starts telling me that I"m too insecure and too controlling and i just need to let go and I should stop being a "killjoy"

EXCUSE ME!?!?!?!?

Am i way out of line here? Why I don't I get say? How does he suddenly think we have money for something like this? Why don't I ever get the chance to do anything like this?!?!?!?! HUH???

Am i over reacting? Am I being unfair to him? Because personally, I think he's being incredibly unfair to me.

I don't know about you but I would let him go now that you are already pissed off at him. Tell him that you get a chance to go off if you want too. I know I wouldn't but you might want too. Some men just aren't maternal and need to be away.

All this is if you do have the money. If you trust him enough let him go.

Yeah, I don't know. I don't like it. His friend did him no favors by calling me insecure and controlling though. That's for sure.

Girlmom282109

Can I vent for a minute and can you guys tell me if I'm being completely ridiculous?

So this morning I'm on my way out the door and Jim tells me that him and his friends are going to some "rock fest" in Nebraska in August for two days.

Um... EXCUSE ME!?!?! NO!!!!!! I mean who does he think he is? he just gets to go off to NE for two days and leave me here with the kid? WTF? WHY would I want him on some 2 day drinking binge at some concert surrounded by slutty girls???? WHY?? I don't even get an invite? Why not?

It's not like he doesn't get guy time. He goes and plays pool with his friends every weekend!

Then his FRIEND (Who's supposed to be MY friend) starts telling me that I"m too insecure and too controlling and i just need to let go and I should stop being a "killjoy"

EXCUSE ME!?!?!?!?

Am i way out of line here? Why I don't I get say? How does he suddenly think we have money for something like this? Why don't I ever get the chance to do anything like this?!?!?!?! HUH???

Am i over reacting? Am I being unfair to him? Because personally, I think he's being incredibly unfair to me.

I don't know about you but I would let him go now that you are already pissed off at him. Tell him that you get a chance to go off if you want too. I know I wouldn't but you might want too. Some men just aren't maternal and need to be away.

All this is if you do have the money. If you trust him enough let him go.

Yeah, I don't know. I don't like it. His friend did him no favors by calling me insecure and controlling though. That's for sure.

He didn't call you that his friend did. I don't want to sound mean but you do sound a little insecure. If you trust him enough to have his kid then you should trust him away from you for 2 days. Mine used to go away for weeks and stay at ritzy hotels for work and I had to trust him. Maybe Beth and Andrew would be some people to ask. He goes away a lot for work.

SatelliteCrush80

Can I vent for a minute and can you guys tell me if I'm being completely ridiculous?

So this morning I'm on my way out the door and Jim tells me that him and his friends are going to some "rock fest" in Nebraska in August for two days.

Um... EXCUSE ME!?!?! NO!!!!!! I mean who does he think he is? he just gets to go off to NE for two days and leave me here with the kid? WTF? WHY would I want him on some 2 day drinking binge at some concert surrounded by slutty girls???? WHY?? I don't even get an invite? Why not?

It's not like he doesn't get guy time. He goes and plays pool with his friends every weekend!

Then his FRIEND (Who's supposed to be MY friend) starts telling me that I"m too insecure and too controlling and i just need to let go and I should stop being a "killjoy"

EXCUSE ME!?!?!?!?

Am i way out of line here? Why I don't I get say? How does he suddenly think we have money for something like this? Why don't I ever get the chance to do anything like this?!?!?!?! HUH???

Am i over reacting? Am I being unfair to him? Because personally, I think he's being incredibly unfair to me.

Are you angry because you really don't trust him, or is it that you feel like you aren't getting your 'you' time that you want?

I do think it's a little unfair if you don't trust him to be away from you...but if you not getting time to yourself is the issue, maybe you could come to a compromise. Is there somewhere you want to go with your girls or whatever? Perhaps you could do that some weekend.

Vanessa414

Can I vent for a minute and can you guys tell me if I'm being completely ridiculous?

So this morning I'm on my way out the door and Jim tells me that him and his friends are going to some "rock fest" in Nebraska in August for two days.

Um... EXCUSE ME!?!?! NO!!!!!! I mean who does he think he is? he just gets to go off to NE for two days and leave me here with the kid? WTF? WHY would I want him on some 2 day drinking binge at some concert surrounded by slutty girls???? WHY?? I don't even get an invite? Why not?

It's not like he doesn't get guy time. He goes and plays pool with his friends every weekend!

Then his FRIEND (Who's supposed to be MY friend) starts telling me that I"m too insecure and too controlling and i just need to let go and I should stop being a "killjoy"

EXCUSE ME!?!?!?!?

Am i way out of line here? Why I don't I get say? How does he suddenly think we have money for something like this? Why don't I ever get the chance to do anything like this?!?!?!?! HUH???

Am i over reacting? Am I being unfair to him? Because personally, I think he's being incredibly unfair to me.

I don't know about you but I would let him go now that you are already pissed off at him. Tell him that you get a chance to go off if you want too. I know I wouldn't but you might want too. Some men just aren't maternal and need to be away.

All this is if you do have the money. If you trust him enough let him go.

Yeah, I don't know. I don't like it. His friend did him no favors by calling me insecure and controlling though. That's for sure.

He didn't call you that his friend did. I don't want to sound mean but you do sound a little insecure. If you trust him enough to have his kid then you should trust him away from you for 2 days. Mine used to go away for weeks and stay at ritzy hotels for work and I had to trust him. Maybe Beth and Andrew would be some people to ask. He goes away a lot for work.

No, I know. I AM insecure. but I am NOT controlling. Lol. I never said he "couldn't" go. I gave my opinion on it and that was that. His friend just got me so worked up. He's one of those people that has this way of pushing your button just right. It's awful. We've gotten in many MANY fights like this over the 5 years that I've known him.

Now that i'm sane again, :laugh: I still don't WANT him to go, but I also don't want him to resent me for not going, and I think that he deserves some fun. But so do i. So if he gets to go to this thing, I get to go to Chicago with my friends for a weekend.

Sorry for the freak out session and thanks for listening. Sometimes I just need a reality check. (if you guys hadn't notice, sorry about that.) And I really appreciate how you guys are always completely honest with me. It's very grounding.

So yeah, crisis over. Jim stood up for me anyway and told this guy to shut his mouth. I knew he 'd me.

renae77

Hello All! Boy do we have a heated question here! I'm not gonna get into this one. Just wanted to say hey and see how everyone is doing.
Vanessa-just wanted to say sorry you are having a rough evening. I do hope it gets better.

Sam-I would have loved to have your supper! That sounded delicious! I love steak!!

72lori

Hey ladies, crazy day. Woke up to my internet out. Had to wait at home for them to come fix it- 12 hours later it's fixed. Insanely ridiculous. It blew my whole day. I'm already pissy from a hormone surge, I had to miss the gym to sit by the phone, I had to put off all my plans for the day to sit here and wait.

Is it possible to gain 37 pounds back in one day? I sorta feel like I could have. I made some bad, bad choices. Total stress and irritation eating. Somebody pop me a good one and knock some sense into me.

Vanessa414

Can I vent for a minute and can you guys tell me if I'm being completely ridiculous?

So this morning I'm on my way out the door and Jim tells me that him and his friends are going to some "rock fest" in Nebraska in August for two days.

Um... EXCUSE ME!?!?! NO!!!!!! I mean who does he think he is? he just gets to go off to NE for two days and leave me here with the kid? WTF? WHY would I want him on some 2 day drinking binge at some concert surrounded by slutty girls???? WHY?? I don't even get an invite? Why not?

It's not like he doesn't get guy time. He goes and plays pool with his friends every weekend!

Then his FRIEND (Who's supposed to be MY friend) starts telling me that I"m too insecure and too controlling and i just need to let go and I should stop being a "killjoy"

EXCUSE ME!?!?!?!?

Am i way out of line here? Why I don't I get say? How does he suddenly think we have money for something like this? Why don't I ever get the chance to do anything like this?!?!?!?! HUH???

Am i over reacting? Am I being unfair to him? Because personally, I think he's being incredibly unfair to me.

Are you angry because you really don't trust him, or is it that you feel like you aren't getting your 'you' time that you want?

I do think it's a little unfair if you don't trust him to be away from you...but if you not getting time to yourself is the issue, maybe you could come to a compromise. Is there somewhere you want to go with your girls or whatever? Perhaps you could do that some weekend.

Honestly? it's that I don't trust him. And he's never given me reason not to trust him, which is what SO unfair to him. Plenty of other people have given me reason not to trust and he's the one that ended up having to deal with it. It's unfair, totally unfair. But that's kind of why I came to you guys because I knew I was being irrational (about some things) and I know I need a reality check sometimes. I know that in order to learn to trust him, I have to let him do this. I'm going to be a nervous wreck the entire time, but when he comes home to me, I'll be happy. I've never been in love before and I'm scared to death of losing him. it's ridiculous. But I know that I can't live my life like this. you should have seen me the day I learned that he spends 8 hours a night alone with his female supervisor....


That and a tiny bit of it is that I ALREADY spend most of my time taking care of Owen and he spends very little because of his work schedule so I think it's a little unfair in that sense too.

Vanessa414

Also... everyone keep in mind that i am STILL suffering from TOM. :grumble: :grumble: :laugh:

Vanessa414

Hey ladies, crazy day. Woke up to my internet out. Had to wait at home for them to come fix it- 12 hours later it's fixed. Insanely ridiculous. It blew my whole day. I'm already pissy from a hormone surge, I had to miss the gym to sit by the phone, I had to put off all my plans for the day to sit here and wait.

Is it possible to gain 37 pounds back in one day? I sorta feel like I could have. I made some bad, bad choices. Total stress and irritation eating. Somebody pop me a good one and knock some sense into me.

I don't think it's possible to gain 37 lbs in one day. :laugh: Trust me, I know all about hormone surges. Read above. There's mine. :laugh:

Just take today for what it was and start over again tomorrow! Wake up and maybe do some stretches tomorrow morning and just tell yourself that you're going to have a great day! It'll all work out. But I say relax tonight, try to be happy and start fresh tomorrow!

72lori

Happy Birthday Marla and Janie.

Vanessa- maybe had your BF asked you about going with the guys differently it would have set a little better. My hubs is gone all the time. In the 5 years we've been married he's been gone for over half of it. His long deployments are tough, but the short times away, they are nice if you ask me. Question: do you 2 ever get to go away together, just the 2 of you?

Vanessa414

Happy Birthday Marla and Janie.

Vanessa- maybe had your BF asked you about going with the guys differently it would have set a little better. My hubs is gone all the time. In the 5 years we've been married he's been gone for over half of it. His long deployments are tough, but the short times away, they are nice if you ask me. Question: do you 2 ever get to go away together, just the 2 of you?

Not really. He's not "that type of guy". He thinks that an afternoon with him sitting at the computer playing world of warcraft while I flip through channels is spending time together. :laugh:

Marla64

oh, excuse me-- I think I stumbled into the wrong thread--

I'm looking for the Black team-- :ohwell:

Vanessa414

oh, excuse me-- I think I stumbled into the wrong thread--

I'm looking for the Black team-- :ohwell:

Sorry Marls. It's my fault again. :huh: :blushing:

But we're here, promise!!!!!! (Happy Birthday to you! Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday dear Marla!!!!! happy birthday to you!!!!!! :bigsmile: )

72lori

Hey Marla, how was your cake?

For those of you who said you still had left over calories today. No worries, I ate them for you. :blushing: Glad I could take one for the team.

SatelliteCrush80

Happy Birthday Marla and Janie.

Vanessa- maybe had your BF asked you about going with the guys differently it would have set a little better. My hubs is gone all the time. In the 5 years we've been married he's been gone for over half of it. His long deployments are tough, but the short times away, they are nice if you ask me. Question: do you 2 ever get to go away together, just the 2 of you?

Not really. He's not "that type of guy". He thinks that an afternoon with him sitting at the computer playing world of warcraft while I flip through channels is spending time together. :laugh:

Maybe it would be good for you to get away then, even if it's just an overnight.

SatelliteCrush80

oh, excuse me-- I think I stumbled into the wrong thread--

I'm looking for the Black team-- :ohwell:

Don't fear, we're just getting into real life again

loreeb18

Is it possible to gain 37 pounds back in one day? I sorta feel like I could have. I made some bad, bad choices. Total stress and irritation eating. Somebody pop me a good one and knock some sense into me.

1 pound = 3,500 calories therefore 37 pounds = 129,500
That would be a LOT of eating. So I think you're good. :laugh:

Girlmom282109

I'm HERE!!! I'm THE BLACK TEAM!!!

I guess I got a little happy with the birthday wishes. I will wish Janie one tomorrow too.

and so I give them both two here Marla

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!
HAAPPY BIRTHDAYYYY DEEEEAR MARLAAAAAA
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!

Vanessa414

Is it possible to gain 37 pounds back in one day? I sorta feel like I could have. I made some bad, bad choices. Total stress and irritation eating. Somebody pop me a good one and knock some sense into me.

1 pound = 3,500 calories therefore 37 pounds = 129,500
That would be a LOT of eating. So I think you're good. :laugh:

I was thinking about doing the math, but I chose not to. So thanks for doing the math!!! :laugh:

Girlmom282109

Is it possible to gain 37 pounds back in one day? I sorta feel like I could have. I made some bad, bad choices. Total stress and irritation eating. Somebody pop me a good one and knock some sense into me.

1 pound = 3,500 calories therefore 37 pounds = 129,500
That would be a LOT of eating. So I think you're good. :laugh:

THAT WOULD BE TOTALLY DISGUSTING

That is 55.5 of those new Hardy burger meals they have out! :sick: :sick: :sick: :noway: :noway: :noway:

Vanessa414

Is it possible to gain 37 pounds back in one day? I sorta feel like I could have. I made some bad, bad choices. Total stress and irritation eating. Somebody pop me a good one and knock some sense into me.

1 pound = 3,500 calories therefore 37 pounds = 129,500
That would be a LOT of eating. So I think you're good. :laugh:

THAT WOULD BE TOTALLY DISGUSTING

That is 55.5 of those new Hardy burger meals they have out! :sick: :sick: :sick: :noway: :noway: :noway:

It's always weird to hear about fast food chains they don't have here in MN. Like Hardy's... We used to never have Sonic's... but we have two now (total. :laugh: ) jack in the box... never had. I can't think of what else, but the weird thing is we still get commercials for them! (cable)

SatelliteCrush80

Is it possible to gain 37 pounds back in one day? I sorta feel like I could have. I made some bad, bad choices. Total stress and irritation eating. Somebody pop me a good one and knock some sense into me.

1 pound = 3,500 calories therefore 37 pounds = 129,500
That would be a LOT of eating. So I think you're good. :laugh:

THAT WOULD BE TOTALLY DISGUSTING

That is 55.5 of those new Hardy burger meals they have out! :sick: :sick: :sick: :noway: :noway: :noway:

Or 46 orders of the cheese fries from Outback. Whoa.

72lori

Is it possible to gain 37 pounds back in one day? I sorta feel like I could have. I made some bad, bad choices. Total stress and irritation eating. Somebody pop me a good one and knock some sense into me.

1 pound = 3,500 calories therefore 37 pounds = 129,500
That would be a LOT of eating. So I think you're good. :laugh:

THAT WOULD BE TOTALLY DISGUSTING

That is 55.5 of those new Hardy burger meals they have out! :sick: :sick: :sick: :noway: :noway: :noway:

The funny thing was I meant to say the whole amout I had lost, which isn't even 37, it's 47. How did I forget that number? That is a lot of calories and really gross to think about.

SatelliteCrush80

Is it possible to gain 37 pounds back in one day? I sorta feel like I could have. I made some bad, bad choices. Total stress and irritation eating. Somebody pop me a good one and knock some sense into me.

1 pound = 3,500 calories therefore 37 pounds = 129,500
That would be a LOT of eating. So I think you're good. :laugh:

THAT WOULD BE TOTALLY DISGUSTING

That is 55.5 of those new Hardy burger meals they have out! :sick: :sick: :sick: :noway: :noway: :noway:

It's always weird to hear about fast food chains they don't have here in MN. Like Hardy's... We used to never have Sonic's... but we have two now (total. :laugh: ) jack in the box... never had. I can't think of what else, but the weird thing is we still get commercials for them! (cable)

We get commercials for Sonic, but there are none in MD...they are in Pennsylvania, Virginia and Delaware but they totally skipped us. I want Sonic, dammit.

Girlmom282109

Is it possible to gain 37 pounds back in one day? I sorta feel like I could have. I made some bad, bad choices. Total stress and irritation eating. Somebody pop me a good one and knock some sense into me.

1 pound = 3,500 calories therefore 37 pounds = 129,500
That would be a LOT of eating. So I think you're good. :laugh:

THAT WOULD BE TOTALLY DISGUSTING

That is 55.5 of those new Hardy burger meals they have out! :sick: :sick: :sick: :noway: :noway: :noway:

Or 46 orders of the cheese fries from Outback. Whoa.

Whoa is right! GA-ROSS!!!!!