worst comment ever made about your weight

amandathegreat320

Every time a person says, "You look good...for someone who's had 3 kids..." I just want to scream!!! Why can't I just look good--period?! Oh, and my fiance said to me one time, "Wow, Babe...You were the best looking woman at that party! The biggest, but the best looking..." I think he thought that because he said I was the best looking I would not notice the "biggest" comment!

FromFat2Fab

One Lady *Stop and looking at my 20 month Daughter in her Stroller *
& This is how the Conversation went

Lady: How Beautiful She is !
Lady: are your her baby sitter?
Me: No i am her Mother
Lady: she must look like her Father then Cause she look nothing like you want happen to you?
and she laughed and said but your so big and ugly at lest your Daughter is so Small and pretty.

I simply didn't want to let my anger get the best of me so i just walked away

oh my god! How do random people have the balls to say stuff like this to complete strangers? I would be worried about getting belted in the face from saying something like that!

it was a complete stranger i was getting out the train station some people in new York can really be cruel

JBlunt22

My mother used to be awful and subversive to me. She would "casually" mention a new health or weight loss fad she had heard about, or try to make me feel bad about how I looked by asking things like "Are you sure you want to go out like that?" in order to make me rethink my appearance. I eventually told her to just cut it out, and pointed out to her that being passive aggressive and stressing me out made it harder for me to lose weight. Now that I'm getting smaller and she's getting bigger, I think she's finally backing off.

Isn't that the worst when your own parents do that?!

My mother was similar. My sister begged her for money to get breast implants. Instead of telling my sister she looked fine as she was, she called me downstairs and proceeded to lift up my shirt and say 'you don't want boobs, look at what they've done to your sister. She's fat and has ugly stretchmarks!' They laughed about it and I went back upstairs sobbing.

This was at least 6 years ago now, but it still hurts.

Oh my gosh!! That is terrible!! I wish I was witty and could tell you a good come back but I am not so just wanted to send you some hugs!! I hope you NEVER have to experience that again! No matter what size or shape you are you are a beautiful person with feelings and you do not deserve to be treated like that!

katydid25

I've been debating sharing, but :: takes breath :: here we go.

This guy older than my dad was hitting on my friend at the bar. He randomly turned to me and told me not to worry about ignored. I'll find a guy who likes women as voluptous as me. Someday. Hopefully.

I wish I could write it off considering the source (and his level of intoxication) but I obviously haven't yet.

Cathy_ann913

Someone asked me if I had my baby yet and I wasn't pregnant!

FromFat2Fab

I've been debating sharing, but :: takes breath :: here we go.

This guy older than my dad was hitting on my friend at the bar. He randomly turned to me and told me not to worry about ignored. I'll find a guy who likes women as voluptous as me. Someday. Hopefully.

I wish I could write it off considering the source (and his level of intoxication) but I obviously haven't yet.

what a jerk!

crystalslight

Had somone ask me if I knew what I was having. I wasn't pregnant.
So not only did she think I looked pregnant she thought I would be far enough along to know what I was having.
It was on my birthday a few years ago. Left the store in tears.

hanna6774

splucy

I've been debating sharing, but :: takes breath :: here we go.

This guy older than my dad was hitting on my friend at the bar. He randomly turned to me and told me not to worry about ignored. I'll find a guy who likes women as voluptous as me. Someday. Hopefully.

I wish I could write it off considering the source (and his level of intoxication) but I obviously haven't yet.

If I was your friend I would have gone 'On that note we are off... but don't worry... You'll find a girl who likes a**holes who are shallow and insensitive like you. Someday. Hopefully.'

Jojo1859

Mine isnt that bad I guess but whenever I see my grandma she just says "Have you gained weight? You're looking fat." I don't take it too seriously though because she's in her 90s and says it to everyone.

laineyluma

Are you sure you aren't pregnant?

:sick:

k8kish

I've been accused of being pregnant a few times; another time a kid pointed me out in public and squealed, "Mommy, she ate too much candy!"

Most recently, my MIL held up my old jeans and said, "these must not be your current size. They're HUGE!" Um... those fit me 2 months ago.

TheFunBun

I am a person who says, "You have such a pretty face". I'm also fat, so that may help. But I say to people with all sorts of body types. I just like to compartmentalize.

I also say, "You have a banging body!" but that totally doesn't mean their face is jacked.

I apologize for any possible upset caused.

elri1908

When I moved to Korea last year my co-teacher told me that hiking would help me "lose the weight." I was 120 lbs at the time. I have since learned to just ignore anything Koreans say about my weight and just pretend it's a translation issue.

Ha-ha. Good for you to have learnt that lesson early on - I learnt it too (but only after a few years and MANY MANY TEARS!) Now I just shrug it off and thank my lucky stars that I don't have to live in this country forever! It's really a cultural thing - they do it to each other ALL THE TIME. I feel so sorry for the Koreans who are overweight - they must have it VERY BAD! And it's not just about weight - whenever anyone doesn't fit the mold, they get ridiculed. No wonder this country has the highest incidence of suicides.

FromFat2Fab

I get alot You have such a pretty Face But Damn you have to lose alot of weight because pretty face and hair is all you got for now

TeslaJoule

The first time I went to meet my husband's family was over Christmas. They wanted a picture of all the kids and their significant others. All six of us went to sit on the couch and my husband's step father said that if I was as skinny, like the other two girls (I was a size 10, one girl was a dedicated cross-country runner and the other is anorexic/bulimic), then everyone could fit. Now, both of the other girls have baby weight and I've lost 15 pounds. And the last 2 times we've gone to see them they talk about how good I look and won't talk about the other girls...so now I'm terrified of having kids!

cathyplym

A few that I can remember:

My mum: "you should really weigh less then me" (not entirely sure what criteria she's basing this on...I think she means because I'm younger I should weigh less? She is super fit and obsessed with her weight...)
A workman a few years ago, to his mates: "oh my god, look at the flab on that!"
A sleazy friend-of-a-friend: "you'd be really hot...if you just lost a few pounds".

Also I used to be friends with an incredibly judgemental woman who would kind of monitor my eating; she'd say things like "that's plenty" about my portions. We're not friends anymore.

evysmomma

I am a dance instructor. I teach ballet, lyrical, jazz, cheer and hiphop.
I was always really skinny until I was blessed with my beautiful daughter, and ever since, I have struggled with my weight.
Anyways, one of the dance moms so kindly stated "I always thought dance teachers had to be in good shape"

mum32008

mine wasnt a comment as such however made me feel so bad, was out with my friends who are all skinner than me, dancing away made an effort as i dont go out much so thought i looked good, where i was dancing was a window to outside and a group of men walked past so one decided to measure my bum with his hands making sure it was nice and big(now i find it hard to think maybe that is really how big my bum is) then laugh with his friends:embarassed:

Heartmyjrt

Ugh! I have dozens! Sometimes it's not even verbal. I went to lunch and ordered vegetarian panini and water. My skinny friend got a burger and soda. The waitress assumed the high cal order was my order and reversed it when she served us. One that still stings happened 20 years ago. My friend's college age brother told me I looked like I weighed 200 pounds. I still don't know what would possess a man to pick on a child. And my friend laughed about it. People can be very mean! But let's focus on the positive! Positive, happy thoughts help me stick to my goals!!!

heavensshadow

"MOVE, fatass!" .... I was nine at the time. I had just gotten the wind knocked out of me with a soccerball on the playground.

"I would so *kitten* that fat *kitten*!" ...... this was just last year. I enjoy karaoke night at a local bar because, well, I'm not terrible at it. That particular night I was getting a following when I'd go up to sing. This drunk *kitten* in the bar of the bar decided this was an appropriate comment to throw at me as I was singing. Gee, glad you like the singing, NOT the way to go about asking for a date, though.

Guy at a bar: "So, when are you due?" Me, a waitress: "......I'm not pregnant." Him: "Oh..."
Five minutes later....Him: "So is it a boy or a girl?" Me: "......I said I'm NOT pregnant. THANKS."

liftandcycle

bump...for later.

jennifer52484

I was in 6th grade, so I was probably 11or12 possibly. I overheard my "friend" tell people that she had two best friends... ME and ME.. cause i was heavier JennX2. Ughh.. still bugs me today.

As an adult it would have to be when my husbands uncle asked if I was pregnant. My reply.. nope, just fat. thanks!

XXXMinnieXXX

Even though this thread was distressing I've read the whole 21 pages in parts since last night. I thought I'd had it bad, but seems so many other people have too. My ex cheated on me constantly and told me it was coz I was fat and unattractive. (I wasn't fat at this point, this came when I developed an eating disorder after splitting with him, and the reality of the shell of a person I was after 5 years in a sexually, physically, psychologically abusive relationship with him, then a year of stalking and court to get rid of him) I was that fat and ugly he wouldn't let me go and was he wouldn't as much as let me talk to another man. So why so jelous? I've never managed to get my self esteem back. Its really difficult. Added into that comments my mum made that I'd lost all my looks putting weight on, and that I shouldn't be my twin sisters maid of honour she should have had one of her thin friends, among others. 51lbs down and I don't feel any better about myself. I'm hoping one day I will. Sorry to everyone here who has been scarred by anyones words or actions I know how hard it is. I like a quote I see here a lot about someone can only let you feel inferior if you let them. Its true but how do you stop yourself letting them make you feel that way? I hope one day ill have the wisdom to not let it make me feel this way anymore. Zara x

TeachTheGirl

I hope you start feeling better soon, Zara. I know what you mean about not feeling better, though. It's ingrained in our heads now. Fat. Ugly. Not good enough by society's standards. Like just because we have extra weight, we're not worth the same amount of consideration as normal weight people. It's sad.

I always worry my husband finds me fat. We've been through a lot together, lots of good and bad, and sometimes I just worry he's in it because of the kids. I don't think he adores my body the way I'd like. And he makes comment about overweight women ALL the time without realizing how much it hurts me when I'm right beside him and I'm overweight too. :<

HeaterM

I was at work bending over to clean something and some *kitten* that I work with made a comment about how big my *kitten* was, then the guy behind me goes" it's okay heather" while laughing the whole time. I said "sure" then he continues to tell me I cant go through life feeling offended. I felt like **** and left ten minutes early and cried on my way home..I thought those guys actually liked me. Guess not.

Laceybaby1967

I was at work bending over to clean something and some *kitten* that I work with made a comment about how big my *kitten* was, then the guy behind me goes" it's okay heather" while laughing the whole time. I said "sure" then he continues to tell me I cant go through life feeling offended. I felt like **** and left ten minutes early and cried on my way home..I thought those guys actually liked me. Guess not.

Oh man....I feel for you; I've been there...down to walking out in tears. I find it amazing that it's *your* fault for the pain, but yet, they don't take responsibility for causing it. Never quite understood that one.

I've got a few years on you, and trust me when I say, you'll come into your own, and you'll have to beat them off with a stick!!! Your gorgeous...you don't need validation from them...........

I simply was asked when the baby was due........needless to say I wasn't pregnant. Granted, I was in a scrub suit in a hospital, and those are not flattering on *anyone*....plus, the little old lady who asked felt SO embarassed that I couldn't feel bad about myself; she felt worse.

cgbourque

Always been a big girl as long as I can remember and have been bullied about it my whole life. Sadly though, the one that stays with me is from when I was 10 years old and I was talking to my grandmother on the phone.

"Grandma, I love you."

"I love you too... but I would love you more if you weren't so fat."

HeaterM

Always been a big girl as long as I can remember and have been bullied about it my whole life. Sadly though, the one that stays with me is from when I was 10 years old and I was talking to my grandmother on the phone.

"Grandma, I love you."

"I love you too... but I would love you more if you weren't so fat."

ouch

Laceybaby1967

Always been a big girl as long as I can remember and have been bullied about it my whole life. Sadly though, the one that stays with me is from when I was 10 years old and I was talking to my grandmother on the phone.

"Grandma, I love you."

"I love you too... but I would love you more if you weren't so fat."

ouch

Wow...that one takes the cake.....