girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?
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the man I marry would not be in a place of temptation. I'm not prude, I understand that men have their needs, but my husband should come to me to have his needs met and same with/for me. If you lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.
So the man you marry wouldn't be allowed to go the beach because the girls running around in skimpy bikini's showing off their assets might be tempting.
He wouldn't be able to walk down the street because there might be an extremely attractive girl in a short skirt that he might be tempted to look at.
There are a lot of situations outside of a strip club that could be considered tempting.
Again: Why stay with someone if you are lusting/temped/not content with the person your with?
So an attached man looking at a pretty girl or vice versa means you're lusting/tempted/not content with the person you're with? If you think your man isn't looking at other women you live in a bubble.
No. Not what I wrote. I said: Again: Why stay with someone if you are lusting/temped/not content with the person your with?
Which does not mean that someone isnt happy looking at a pretty girl. It means if that pretty girl has her clothes off and your lusting over her body.... you get it.
Strip clubs provoke sexual thoughts. Im not saying that my boyfriend doesnt find another woman attractive. I am saying that My boyfriend doesnt need to feel like he wants to be all up on the attractive girl, see her goods, have her body sexualy with his.. Be single! Thats what those days are for.
And like another said, I dont JUDGE anyones relationship. Im just stating wheat I feel. I have plenty of couple friends who are fine with it and go together.0 -
the man I marry would not be in a place of temptation. I'm not prude, I understand that men have their needs, but my husband should come to me to have his needs met and same with/for me. If you lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.
So the man you marry wouldn't be allowed to go the beach because the girls running around in skimpy bikini's showing off their assets might be tempting.
He wouldn't be able to walk down the street because there might be an extremely attractive girl in a short skirt that he might be tempted to look at.
There are a lot of situations outside of a strip club that could be considered tempting.
Again: Why stay with someone if you are lusting/temped/not content with the person your with?
So an attached man looking at a pretty girl or vice versa means you're lusting/tempted/not content with the person you're with? If you think your man isn't looking at other women you live in a bubble.
Strip clubs provoke sexual thoughts. Im not saying that my boyfriend doesnt find another woman attractive. I am saying that My boyfriend doesnt need to feel like he wants to be all up on the attractive girl, see her goods, have her body sexualy with his.. Be single! Thats what those days are for.
Anything can provoke a sexual thought! He doesn't need to see her naked even! Were you naked when your boyfriend first saw you? There was something about you that attracted him enough to want to get to know you and for sure he was sexually attracted to you and probably thought about banging you. How can you think he isn't doing that with other women? (not trying to pick them up, but thinking about them in a sexual way)0 -
Let's face it, if you tell a man no, does it stop him? And if he's allowed to do this it stops being a forbidden fruit....
I kinda agree with the old "why eat burger when you have steak at home" but the occasional greasy burger surely helps highlight the quality of the meat in your fridge??0 -
Guys think about other women sexually ALL THE TIME. I'm sure some even think about that hot girl from the office while banging their wife. Is that cheating? Those of you who say watching a stripper and porn is cheating must think that your man merely THINKING of another woman sexually means he is cheating?
I know men are visual and think about sex numerous times a day. I do not live under a rock. I do not think that looking at or thinking about another woman is cheating...
My BF may sometimes think of other women when we are together... But I'll be darned if he's going to TELL me he's thinking about the stripper that he just paid to watch. And I'll be triple darned if I would say "ooohhh, yay, that's so sexy and normal", can I come with you next time?
Never. Gonna. Happen.0 -
do i getta go??? lol
YES!!! You can come with me
although there aren't many around anymore....except the one my buddy owns LOL. 0 -
Depends on the club. A classy place with no touching, sure why not - just don't spend too much $$.
An icky place with touching and lap dances, um no.0 -
One word: Trust. That's what a relationship is built on. I'm lucky I have a husband who is HONESTLY not interested in any of it, but if he so chose to go to anything of that sort, I wouldn't even give it a second thought.
He let me go to the club with strange men dancing all over me. I wasn't even close to tempted to do anything with them. It was just friendly dancing...and I even did several switcheroos to get my single friend to dance with them.
Relax, people. It's not the end of the world. If you think your S.O. would be tempted, then I would probably rethink your relationship.0 -
One word: Trust. That's what a relationship is built on. I'm lucky I have a husband who is HONESTLY not interested in any of it, but if he so chose to go to anything of that sort, I wouldn't even give it a second thought.
He let me go to the club with strange men dancing all over me. I wasn't even close to tempted to do anything with them. It was just friendly dancing...and I even did several switcheroos to get my single friend to dance with them.
Relax, people. It's not the end of the world. If you think your S.O. would be tempted, then I would probably rethink your relationship.
I don't think it's always necessarily about trusting the spouse for everyone. I think in some cases, they just might be very uncomfortable with anyone else touching them or with them looking at anyone else in that way. I mean isn't that part of why people get married? To be with ONE person, not to share them with other people? (And obviously I do mean sexually) o.O0 -
Why anybody would want to put dollars into the hands of organized crime is beyond me. Who do you think runs those places? And yes, my husband, my brothers in law and my sons deserve a lot better than what is served up in those tawdry, unhealthy places.0
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My husband is a retired Navy sailor. He's been to strip clubs all over the world. Any club in the U.S. is a Disney movie, according to him, compared to what he's seen, so he really has no interest in going. That being said, we do cross the border from time to time, where the strip clubs are a bit more "adventurous." I'm another one who doesn't care where he gets his appetite, I know exactly what to serve up!
NOT judging. But I swear, in that situation, I would feel like a receptacle, and nothing more. Grosses me out.
Hmmm...perhaps he should just "dump" somewhere else then. Whatever.0 -
NOT judging. But I swear, in that situation, I would feel like a receptacle, and nothing more. Grosses me out.
So you would prefer he cum in someone else? He may be looking at another girl, but he is coming home to you! He is having sex with you! It would be another story if he HAD to turn to porn or strippers to be able to get turned on enough to have sex with you, but he doesn't. He WANTS to come home to YOU! That's a compliment!0 -
the man I marry would not be in a place of temptation. I'm not prude, I understand that men have their needs, but my husband should come to me to have his needs met and same with/for me. If you lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.
So the man you marry wouldn't be allowed to go the beach because the girls running around in skimpy bikini's showing off their assets might be tempting.
He wouldn't be able to walk down the street because there might be an extremely attractive girl in a short skirt that he might be tempted to look at.
There are a lot of situations outside of a strip club that could be considered tempting.
Again: Why stay with someone if you are lusting/temped/not content with the person your with?
So an attached man looking at a pretty girl or vice versa means you're lusting/tempted/not content with the person you're with? If you think your man isn't looking at other women you live in a bubble.
Strip clubs provoke sexual thoughts. Im not saying that my boyfriend doesnt find another woman attractive. I am saying that My boyfriend doesnt need to feel like he wants to be all up on the attractive girl, see her goods, have her body sexualy with his.. Be single! Thats what those days are for.
Anything can provoke a sexual thought! He doesn't need to see her naked even! Were you naked when your boyfriend first saw you? There was something about you that attracted him enough to want to get to know you and for sure he was sexually attracted to you and probably thought about banging you. How can you think he isn't doing that with other women? (not trying to pick them up, but thinking about them in a sexual way)
Men are different. They arent all sexually as active as the next... Mine went through a harsh adolecent time, where he REALLY respects women. To the point where sometimes its sad. His mom divorced 6 times, and his sister had abuse issues, he protected his girls.
" Were you naked when your boyfriend first saw you? There was something about you that attracted him enough to want to get to know you and for sure he was sexually attracted to you and probably thought about banging you. : - He was single. I was single. I wasnt in a relationship. I wasnt commited to anyone, neither was he.
I cant get into his mind and know what he thinks. But i trust and believe that Im the only girl he wants sexually, and hes the only guy I want. If cowboys ar emy thing this week, Get my man in a cowboy costume. If he is curious what it would be like in a cop uniform, get me one. As soon as my mind wanders into wanting others ive always knew I wasnt content. Ive only never been sexually not happy in a few relationships.
its not hard to belive that some men any content and happy, while some get a little bored and jump at a chance.0 -
If he wants to become single real quick, he can go to one...0
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the man I marry would not be in a place of temptation. I'm not prude, I understand that men have their needs, but my husband should come to me to have his needs met and same with/for me. If you lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.
So the man you marry wouldn't be allowed to go the beach because the girls running around in skimpy bikini's showing off their assets might be tempting.
He wouldn't be able to walk down the street because there might be an extremely attractive girl in a short skirt that he might be tempted to look at.
There are a lot of situations outside of a strip club that could be considered tempting.
Again: Why stay with someone if you are lusting/temped/not content with the person your with?
So an attached man looking at a pretty girl or vice versa means you're lusting/tempted/not content with the person you're with? If you think your man isn't looking at other women you live in a bubble.
Strip clubs provoke sexual thoughts. Im not saying that my boyfriend doesnt find another woman attractive. I am saying that My boyfriend doesnt need to feel like he wants to be all up on the attractive girl, see her goods, have her body sexualy with his.. Be single! Thats what those days are for.
Anything can provoke a sexual thought! He doesn't need to see her naked even! Were you naked when your boyfriend first saw you? There was something about you that attracted him enough to want to get to know you and for sure he was sexually attracted to you and probably thought about banging you. How can you think he isn't doing that with other women? (not trying to pick them up, but thinking about them in a sexual way)
Vodkha, I'm agreeing with you on this!
I read the post where it says watching porn is cheating etc. That's just too much! Hell, I don't watch porn but what the hell about it is cheating? I don't understand these comments at all! I sure wasn't naked when my man saw me but he sure did come up to me. If you're that scared of another woman getting your man then something is wrong with the relationship...wait what woman. She is on a SCREEN! my God! A woman can even look better with clothes on then off, so every hot woman that walks by that looks GREAT and a man looks is cheating? :noway:0 -
I think I would just cry if i found out my boy went to a strip club. id never be able to look at him the same way. id just feel worthless. like he had to go to a club where professional strippers danced around on stage, weaving their bodies up about poles, tempting every guy in the room for money.
id wonder if i wasn't sexy enough. if i wasn't good enough, skinny enough, pretty enough.
id worry that i wasn't good in bed and he thought he could get some from somewhere else
i dont mean to sound all "woe is me" but i dont know how a relationship would be able to stand or move forward with me knowing my guy went to strip clubs.
times have changed obviously when it comes to the point that you can be a married respected man, good at your job, great with your kids, faithful to your wife but can manage to stay up everynight at porn sites and go to strip clubs with you buddies on weekends. its just not right. but thats just my humble opinion.0 -
If he wants to become single real quick, he can go to one...
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the man I marry would not be in a place of temptation. I'm not prude, I understand that men have their needs, but my husband should come to me to have his needs met and same with/for me. If you lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.
So the man you marry wouldn't be allowed to go the beach because the girls running around in skimpy bikini's showing off their assets might be tempting.
He wouldn't be able to walk down the street because there might be an extremely attractive girl in a short skirt that he might be tempted to look at.
There are a lot of situations outside of a strip club that could be considered tempting.
Again: Why stay with someone if you are lusting/temped/not content with the person your with?
So an attached man looking at a pretty girl or vice versa means you're lusting/tempted/not content with the person you're with? If you think your man isn't looking at other women you live in a bubble.
Strip clubs provoke sexual thoughts. Im not saying that my boyfriend doesnt find another woman attractive. I am saying that My boyfriend doesnt need to feel like he wants to be all up on the attractive girl, see her goods, have her body sexualy with his.. Be single! Thats what those days are for.
Anything can provoke a sexual thought! He doesn't need to see her naked even! Were you naked when your boyfriend first saw you? There was something about you that attracted him enough to want to get to know you and for sure he was sexually attracted to you and probably thought about banging you. How can you think he isn't doing that with other women? (not trying to pick them up, but thinking about them in a sexual way)
Vodkha, I'm agreeing with you on this!
I read the post where it says watching porn is cheating etc. That's just too much! Hell, I don't watch porn but what the hell about it is cheating? I don't understand these comments at all! I sure wasn't naked when my man saw me but he sure did come up to me. If you're that scared of another woman getting your man then something is wrong with the relationship...wait what woman. She is on a SCREEN! my God! A woman can even look better with clothes on then off, so every hot woman that walks by that looks GREAT and a man looks is cheating? :noway:
Looking at a woman fully clothed and admiring her appearance is a far cry from looking at a fully nude stranger on a screen (video or picture) and masturbating to it... Please don't try to tell me you can't see the difference there.0 -
Looking at a woman fully clothed and admiring her appearance is a far cry from looking at a fully nude stranger on a screen (video or picture) and masturbating to it... Please don't try to tell me you can't see the difference there. 0
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NOT judging. But I swear, in that situation, I would feel like a receptacle, and nothing more. Grosses me out.
So you would prefer he cum in someone else? He may be looking at another girl, but he is coming home to you! He is having sex with you! It would be another story if he HAD to turn to porn or strippers to be able to get turned on enough to have sex with you, but he doesn't. He WANTS to come home to YOU! That's a compliment!
Looking at another girl, getting all jacked up, and then coming home to me, yah, he'd have to deal with it himself. Maybe he WANTS to come home to you for this "release" after watching a random womans naked T,P&A with your blessing. Or maybe he HAS to come home to you because he just can't take it anymore... too much build up there. Doesn't turn me on in the least.
It could be me, but it seems that some of you that are "pro" strip clubs are ticked off that some of us would not send our men there. I'm sensing some hostility for the opposing viewpoint here. There are way more women saying "Rah Rah" strip club than not. So you all MUST be right. Either that, or some of you really hate the idea, but go along with whatever your man wants to do. Just my opinion.0 -
Why anybody would want to put dollars into the hands of organized crime is beyond me. Who do you think runs those places? And yes, my husband, my brothers in law and my sons deserve a lot better than what is served up in those tawdry, unhealthy places.
With any luck some day I'll be running one.0 -
my fiance and i went to the strippers last weekend during Easter Break. I admit i blushed when she was completely naked and begging for money, but while the g-string was on she was a classy broad. When I looked over to ask what my fiance thought, he was busy playing pool with the rest of my friends. The males were playing pool, and the women were critiquing the stripper lol I don't care if he goes with his buddies, i don't even care if he sits in perv row. That's not something I'd get upset about.0
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Why anybody would want to put dollars into the hands of organized crime is beyond me. Who do you think runs those places? And yes, my husband, my brothers in law and my sons deserve a lot better than what is served up in those tawdry, unhealthy places.
With any luck some day I'll be running one.
i want to run one too, but as it stands, one of my friends does, and he makes a killing lol...hence the reason i don't have to pay cover when i go lol0 -
Why anybody would want to put dollars into the hands of organized crime is beyond me. Who do you think runs those places? And yes, my husband, my brothers in law and my sons deserve a lot better than what is served up in those tawdry, unhealthy places.
With any luck some day I'll be running one.
i want to run one too, but as it stands, one of my friends does, and he makes a killing lol...hence the reason i don't have to pay cover when i go lol
That is awesome.
I'm pretty harsh when it comes to strip clubs. I'll admit I'm a dollar yanker and I am very critical of how they're run.0 -
Thank you for posting this, but I am shocked with the answers to this question. I'm not married, but I'm definitely not going to marry the type of guy that would step foot near a strip club. That's what relationships and marriage are about, EACH OTHER, not only sexual indulgences.
& No little girl wants to grow up & take off her clothes for people to get off on. Seriously, that's someone's baby girl up there, someone's sister or best friend.
You all definitely need to do some research about human trafficking. Majority of those girls are completely broken, abused, drug addicted, and you are supporting that?
That's just messed up. I honestly don't care what your reasons or excuses are. That's disgusting.
I'm sorry, I'm going to school to be a counselor, taking all the classes on marriage & relationships, and have personally seen sexual addiction cause so much heartache, and ruin way too many relationships & marriages in my 20 years of life.
A man in a relationship who is going to strip clubs is pretty much turning to his significant other & saying, "Hey, you aren't enough for me." How is that okay with you guys??
Seriously, I'm just completely shocked that any girl would want her boyfriend or husband there.
Equating exotic dancing to human trafficking grossly exaggerates what a strip club is, and in my opinion undermines a truly awful and serious plight. I've been to strip clubs before, so you're saying I support human trafficking? You're saying that me going to a strip club means I don't love my fiancee and am not satisfied by her? You know absolutely nothing about me.Then I guess mine is whipped. Or maybe he's just the type of guy who doesn't need to go to strip clubs and is satisfied with his wife and his wife only?? I've stated like 3 times now that I am just saying that women who aren't really okay with it don't have to shove their feelings down and make themselves okay with it just to seem like the "cool wife/girlfriend"
You did state that point, but it really wasn't clear from your initial post on the subject. Particularly in this sort of thread format, it can be difficult for that kind of clarification to gain traction right away.
Are you serious right now?? It doesn't grossly exaggerate or undermine anything! Do the research for yourself before you argue that point. & You're exactly right, it's your opinion, not your knowledge of the subject. This is what I'm going to school & basing my career off of. I'm simply telling you the facts. Of course upfront the girls put on a show that this is what they like & what they desire to do in life. Because that's just it, it's a SHOW. Yes, not every girl at strip clubs is trafficked, but so many of them are. And even if they aren't, it's all fueling the same sick idea that females are disposable, replaceable objects, here to sexually gratify people, nothing more. Strippers, prostitutes, escorts, it all fuels the same thing. So to answer your question, yes, you are fully endorsing human trafficking & sexual slavery when you financially support strip clubs, there's no question or doubt about that, it's a fact, despite your opinion.
Okay, so you love & respect your fiance. So if you do that & are completely satisfied by her, then why is there any need to go the strip club?0 -
Ive gone to two strip clubs and could honestly say I dont care for them. I just felt trashy going to them and it does nothing for me. Watching a girl cook in the kitchen is much sexier than throwing dirty rolled up dollar bills at her snatch. I like women with class.
Edited by Fieldsy on Wed 04/11/12 02:55 PM
I will also add this is how I felt whether I was single or involved with someone...
nice!:flowerforyou:0 -
What you're supporting when you go to the strip club. Not an opinion. A fact.
http://www.polarisproject.org/human-trafficking/sex-trafficking-in-the-us/hostessstrip-clubs
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/trafficking/about/fact_sex.pdf
http://humantraffickinglaw.blogspot.com/2011/10/strip-clubs-accused-of-human.html
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/22083762/ns/today-today_news/t/sex-slaves-human-trafficking-america/
I seriously don't get why people can't understand this.0 -
Before my husband was my husband, I took him to a strip club for his 21st birthday. It was fun. I just didn't realize the dancers would pay more attention to my female friend and I instead of the men we brought. *shrug*0
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I have no problem with my guy going to a strip club. You know the old saying. "You can look, just can't touch" The strippers in those clubs are off limits. If the guy tries to touch them, they get kicked out so fast it will make their head spin so what's the problem?
My ex-husband and I used to go to strip clubs together. I don't care. Like I said, he may have been looking at them but he came home with me. Everyone is entitled to their fantasies.0 -
If he wants to become single real quick, he can go to one...
yep....I concur!!0 -
Would men mind if their women stripped?0
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