girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

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  • Shells06
    Shells06 Posts: 109 Member
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    I've been a couple of times with my husband and it's not a big deal. But i feel the same way, if you come home covered n glitter and shame don't even think about nakey time with me! Shower or not. :wink:

    LOL! Covered in glitter and shame, I love it!
  • Meg177
    Meg177 Posts: 215 Member
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    It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.

    I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.

    And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.

    I didn't say you couldn't go. Not my business. Mr. Clinton would probably agree with you about it not being sex;) I stand behind my analogy.
  • Gilbrod
    Gilbrod Posts: 1,216 Member
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    WOW! Judge much?!

    I am married. Have been for 24 years. It doesn't bother me, or him. It's not about "HAVING" to do this to get horny. It's keeping the spark alive by being adventerous. Whatever that may be. As for secret oathes, good for you for not keeping secrets from your wife. My husband doesn't either. You happen to be the minority.

    Hey JoyceJoanne, as Spade117 said..."We all judge whether we say so or not." I am only stating my point of view. Just as we all are. And yes, apparently, based on my friends choices, I am in the minority when it comes to keeping secrets.
  • ChynnaM09
    ChynnaM09 Posts: 5 Member
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    I get a little bothered by it. I mean only because I know he's staring hard at another woman in that manner. I've always been self conscious even when I was really tiny and had a great body. There's always someone out there better looking than you. I've let him go though with his friends and cousins, I'm still yet to go.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,688 Member
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    It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.

    I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.

    And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.

    I didn't say you couldn't go. Not my business. Mr. Clinton would probably agree with you about it not being sex;) I stand behind my analogy.
    Lol, you sound like a conservative republican.

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  • Bethie_B
    Bethie_B Posts: 292 Member
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    It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.

    I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.

    And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.

    I didn't say you couldn't go. Not my business. Mr. Clinton would probably agree with you about it not being sex;) I stand behind my analogy.

    Well, it's not really an analogy if you're saying that going to strip clubs IS sex. And I think it's great that you've decided was is and isn't good for everybody; that just saves me the trouble of having to use my own brain.

    Now if you'll please excuse me, I've got a strip club to get to.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,843 Member
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    It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.

    I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.

    And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.

    I didn't say you couldn't go. Not my business. Mr. Clinton would probably agree with you about it not being sex;) I stand behind my analogy.

    I'm curious as to where this magical strip club is where all this banging is going on? Are you sure you're not confusing it with a Swingers Club?
  • Meg177
    Meg177 Posts: 215 Member
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    It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.

    I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.

    And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.

    I didn't say you couldn't go. Not my business. Mr. Clinton would probably agree with you about it not being sex;) I stand behind my analogy.

    Well, it's not really an analogy if you're saying that going to strip clubs IS sex. And I think it's great that you've decided was is and isn't good for everybody; that just saves me the trouble of having to use my own brain.

    Now if you'll please excuse me, I've got a strip club to get to.

    If you are asking for directions, I'm sorry I can't help you.
  • ANeWcRe8N
    ANeWcRe8N Posts: 1,180 Member
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    Um yes I do mind. Why does he need to hit up the strip clubs when he has me at home ;) Plus I use to work in one years back as a waitress and sorry, but they are disgusting!!! I seen what goes on in there on stage, in vip rooms, or in the locker rooms. No way I would give my man permission to go... that is unless I am with him ;) But he knows better than to ask ha
  • 10acity
    10acity Posts: 798 Member
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    Yes. Totally not okay. Deal-breaker.



    *And I don't read romance novels.
  • dmchiz
    dmchiz Posts: 184 Member
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    Just because he's on a diet, doesn't mean he can't look at the menu! Naw...I don't care. I've been there and done that, both with him and with the guys at work....whatever...I think you have to be 1) Secure in YOURSELF and 2) secure in your relationship and its no problem!
  • dmchiz
    dmchiz Posts: 184 Member
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    I love this thread. I have found so many small-minded and unentertaining people to ignore.
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    This!
  • hdroddy
    hdroddy Posts: 122
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    I get a little bothered by it. I mean only because I know he's staring hard at another woman in that manner. I've always been self conscious even when I was really tiny and had a great body. There's always someone out there better looking than you. I've let him go though with his friends and cousins, I'm still yet to go.

    Go with him once, and it will bother you less. Most of the women at those clubs are not all that attractive. I don't really see the attraction, and nobody I know who does habituate those places has ever been able to explain it to me very well, but they all tell me it isn't about how the women look.

    I think it might be about that old saying - men like an angel in the kitchen and a devil in the bedroom. Most of the guys I know who go to strip clubs and the like marry the first, but are afraid to ask for the second.

    Not to say you don't have a right to the way you feel; whether you're okay with the whole strip club thing, or not, each poster on this thread has a right to their opinion.
  • tsherm3850
    tsherm3850 Posts: 353 Member
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    Its honestly just porn... Fiance looks at it. I look at it. Its perfectly healthy.

    If it's not my p**** and my a** he's looking at, he might as well take his d**** and leave this house and go after all the p**** he wants then... NOT in this house. I'd rather be single. And believe me, I won't think twice about divorce if I find out different.

    LOYALTY is paramount.

    WOW! I'm speechless!
  • CallieM15
    CallieM15 Posts: 910 Member
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    if he doesn't care that I go somewhere and have guys grabbing and grinding on me all night long, then sure he can go to the strip club.


    Agreed.
    My boyfirend hates strip clubs... He wouldnt want men grinding up on me, nor do i like women on him. If your thinking about another woman, dreaming about puttin it in her... Why be with the same woman daily? I am in a relationship because I want only him.
    He gets disgusted by women who use thier bodies for money. I have a friend who is a stripper and he disapproves of it.. I love her to death though. We have our fun, lots of it. We dress up, and have crazy nights together, at one point had our own pole... Hes the only man I lust over... I dont get excited over randoms. Personality turns me on. Not bodies.
  • avafrisbee
    avafrisbee Posts: 234 Member
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    I don't care, but he only goes on stag nights (bachelor parties)
  • hdroddy
    hdroddy Posts: 122
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    Agreed.
    My boyfirend hates strip clubs... He wouldnt want men grinding up on me, nor do i like women on him. If your thinking about another woman, dreaming about puttin it in her... Why be with the same woman daily? I am in a relationship because I want only him.
    He gets disgusted by women who use thier bodies for money. I have a friend who is a stripper and he disapproves of it.. I love her to death though. We have our fun, lots of it. We dress up, and have crazy nights together, at one point had our own pole... Hes the only man I lust over... I dont get excited over randoms. Personality turns me on. Not bodies.
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    Very good points. In my experience, men who go to those places alone are looking for something they don't get at home for one reason or the other (either their own incompetence, or their partner's hesitation) . I'm not generalizing; I'm just saying that is the case with those people I know who go to them. Many couples who go together are probably just looking for adventure, and hey, whatever lights your fire.

    But if you have a satisfying sex life without them, what's the point? I've never seen the point...
  • CallieM15
    CallieM15 Posts: 910 Member
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    Agreed.
    My boyfirend hates strip clubs... He wouldnt want men grinding up on me, nor do i like women on him. If your thinking about another woman, dreaming about puttin it in her... Why be with the same woman daily? I am in a relationship because I want only him.
    He gets disgusted by women who use thier bodies for money. I have a friend who is a stripper and he disapproves of it.. I love her to death though. We have our fun, lots of it. We dress up, and have crazy nights together, at one point had our own pole... Hes the only man I lust over... I dont get excited over randoms. Personality turns me on. Not bodies.
    Very good points. In my experience, men who go to those places alone are looking for something they don't get at home for one reason or the other (either their own incompetence, or their partner's hesitation) . I'm not generalizing; I'm just saying that is the case with those people I know who go to them. Many couples who go together are probably just looking for adventure, and hey, whatever lights your fire.

    But if you have a satisfying sex life without them, what's the point? I've never seen the point...


    :smile:

    I will do everything those strippers will do for him. Im am not embarressed with him, and we have both lost and gained weight. If he wants me to put on some stripper clothes, then so be it :love: . Sex should be fun and a lot of men dont get that themselves. Sex/pleasure is so much better when you have a bond with someone.

    I have fantasized about other men while in relationships, and it came down to the fact that i was bored and moved on. My current relationship I am completely content. I look at a guy at the gym and think "Darn that body must have taken work to get" But not "GAH I wanna him in me"...
  • hdroddy
    hdroddy Posts: 122
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    :smile:

    I will do everything those strippers will do for him. Im am not embarressed with him, and we have both lost and gained weight. If he wants me to put on some stripper clothes, then so be it :love: . Sex should be fun and a lot of men dont get that themselves. Sex/pleasure is so much better when you have a bond with someone.

    I have fantasized about other men while in relationships, and it came down to the fact that i was bored and moved on. My current relationship I am completely content. I look at a guy at the gym and think "Darn that body must have taken work to get" But not "GAH I wanna him in me"...
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    I get it. You can see someone attractive and note that they are nice-looking, but you're not thinking, "Man, I want to jump that". I'm the same way. And with an open, honest, and adventurous physical relationship at home, I'm not looking elsewhere for inspiration and adventure.

    I went to a couple of strip clubs when I was young and single. Didn't like them, but I'm probably just wired differently.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,843 Member
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    If it's not my p**** and my a** he's looking at, he might as well take his d**** and leave this house and go after all the p**** he wants then... NOT in this house. I'd rather be single. And believe me, I won't think twice about divorce if I find out different.

    LOYALTY is paramount.

    Why do I think you're single?

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