girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

gumigal82

It's definitely all about trust, respect, and friendship. If there was a mutual trust, respect, and friendship as far as I was concerned-well then I wouldn't have any need to worry.

juliekaiser1988

My current husband would never go, but my ex did once in a blue moon. With my brother! So the ex behaved because he knew my brother would clobber him otherwise.

amalthea23

Our first date was at a strip club. :drinker:

We should be buddies, seriously. That's an awesome date!

Mamao7

I encourage him to go. He gets all riled up and i reap the benefits. I don't care if he's thinking about Bubbles, his business is in me, not her.

true true.. got to love the benifit's

determinedbutlazy

I'm probably the minority in this thread, it bothers me.

JoyceJoanne

Not at all! I used to go woth 'the guys' all the time. I was the only wife that was allowed out on 'guys night'. They liked having me there, because YES women get away with SOOOOO much in there. One time, I was invited to join one of the dancers in her 'cage' above the stage!! ;)P I TOTALLY would have... except that was one time that MY hubs didn't go with us, he was working!! I had to decline. Well, then there was the tme I got kicked out of one... the dancers felt threatened and like the men weren't paying attention to them!! (It was a cold night and I was wearing a turtleneck sweater and baggy jeans- not sure how THAT is threatening!)
true stories.

But I like it, watching the lines of the sexy bodies moving the way they do... yeah, we BOTH get worked up! Can't say that a little 'exercise' of our own in the bathroom or the parkinglot hasn't happened afterwards. ;)P Who's with me?!

lmtrevin77

I don't care where he gets his appetite, as long as he comes home for dinner

Awesome answer!

YES!!

lmtrevin77

It wouldn't bother me because I trust him entirely. Also he's the sort of person who would be extremely uncomfortable in that sort of situation so it's not anything I have to think about anyway. xD

Edit: Nope, I'm wrong. If he started going "just because" I would be uncomfortable. Stag nights, birthdays, whatever- but not because he's bored.

Like going there for lunch....what's up with that?!?!!? I don't want that near my food!
my portion-controlled food

Vodkha

I do not agree with my husband/boyfriend going to a strip club. He's with me because he's interested in ME, not some dirty hoochie. And if he wants a lap dance that is something that I can provide for him!

Don't you realize though that he may be tired of looking at the same thing. This is NOT DIRECTED AT YOU by the way, but just the sentence in general.

Anderia

Nope.

Allison22451

meh, i wouldnt care.

songbyrdsweet

My big problem is I don't understand why a man (or a woman if it was the other way around I guess) would need to go to a strip club to watch other attractive women take their clothes off and shake it around if I'm waiting at home? I'd feel that I wasn't enough.

Men look at women wherever they go. It's almost subconscious. Women do it to men, too. Another woman's looks, however amazing, should influence your self-worth. :flowerforyou:

songbyrdsweet

Can't say that a little 'exercise' of our own in the bathroom or the parkinglot hasn't happened afterwards. ;)P Who's with me?!

:ohwell: Errrmmmm...

Karrix

As long as it's not overly frequent, I don't mind. I don't control my partners. They can look all they want, just come home to me. :flowerforyou:

lmtrevin77

This made me think of Chris Rock saying, "Your wife will take care of u, but she ain't gonna entertain u."

sunkisses

I've never been in a relationship where this is an issue. Strip clubs are not a part of the lifestyle of anyone I've dated. I don't need to be with a dude whose lifestyle regularly incorporates this. Once in a blue moon, I don't think I'd mind. It's not about him looking at other naked women. It's about some other *kitten* I don't feel like discussing with strangers.

Fat_2_Fit_Mommy

I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

I agree with you 100% I wouldn't like my husband going to them things. I been on drugs has a teenager but never was a prostitute or any thing but you are right about every thing you just said.

Hernandeak11

The ones around where I live are absolutely disgusting, and almost no men (besides your garden-variety pervy old men) visit them. If it were a swanky one, it might be a different story.

vmclach

omg majority doesn't mind? id fkn kill him!

that's EXACTLY what I was thinkin. His *kitten* would come home with new locks on the doors and a divorce decree on the front door!

lmao. i totally agree. total bullsh**. I would NEVER be with a guy who goes to a strip club with his 'buddies' and forks over money to see some random girls tits. It's like desperate and disgusting. I would only be okay if WE went as a JOKE and it was FREE.

I'm totally cool with watch porn, but going to a strip club to PAY to see someones BOOBS-- like what are you really getting out of that?! I don't get it, obviously.

Artemis726

Yep- I'd mind for sure, but he would never consider it- just as I would never consider going to some girl's night thing. Just not into it. Besides- I've got plenty of goodies for him to ogle.