girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

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  • KickassAugust
    KickassAugust Posts: 1,430 Member
    No. Why?
  • uniquemoves
    uniquemoves Posts: 100 Member
    I don't care where he gets his appetite, as long as he comes home for dinner :wink:

    This!!!!! :) as a matter of fact, would love to go with him sometime!
  • lisakyle_11
    lisakyle_11 Posts: 420 Member
    My husband is a pastor. Say no more. Say no more.

    My condolences.

    lol...

    and no...wouldn't mind. he's never gone (that i know of) since we've been together, but wouldn't bother me at all.
  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    As long as he takes me with every now and then!!!!

    My guy actually doesn't really like the Club.
  • mes1119
    mes1119 Posts: 1,082 Member
    I went with my boyfriend and his friends once. Big mistake. Thought it would be fun but all it did was give me a negative self image of myself, gross me out and make me look ugly with jealousy.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    Nope. We go together. I only get annoyed when I can't go.
  • zsaoosh
    zsaoosh Posts: 402 Member
    I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

    Your broad generalizations are ignorant. I have had strippers for friends, I have known drug addicts, I'm totally aware of the sex trafficking industry, and yet I still somehow live with myself every day while enjoying strip clubs. Everybody's gotta get paid somehow, and if strippin' keeps the lights on, I think that's great.

    Her information isnt ignorant. Not all woman in that situation are there against their will or being abused or on drugs, but there are ALOT that are. You just never know which one is and isnt. How can you enjoy the "show" knowing that the sex indistry is made up of mostly women that are not there by choice. BUT I guess if you would be ok with your wife or daughter up there with men lusting over them (some innocent and some not so much) then enjoy. But its not a healthy lifestyle for anyone involved.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    I don't care if someone elses guy goes to the strip clubs every day, or once a month or spends his whole paycheck there. That goes for Casinos or just bars in general. But that kinda guy is not my kinda guy. Don't get me wrong. I like that kinda guy, I really like that kinda guy, but he's not the type I wanna take home and have a relationship with.

    Why not? What makes him different than any other guy out there?
  • Dustinryan24
    Dustinryan24 Posts: 233 Member
    my ex took me to my first strip club when i was 18.. haha
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    I went with my boyfriend and his friends once. Big mistake. Thought it would be fun but all it did was give me a negative self image of myself, gross me out and make me look ugly with jealousy.

    This is one of the things I'm honestly worried about. I think he knows I'm worried too which is why he won't take up the offer.
  • annameier8706
    annameier8706 Posts: 417 Member
    I love going to strip clubs. With or without my man, so I can't tell him he can't go
  • sammi402
    sammi402 Posts: 232 Member
    Hell yeah. I'll take my man to the club. I won't let him go by himself because he'd blow his whole damn paycheck. But I'll take him and he can have lap dances or whatever..as long as I can too.
  • sandra80
    sandra80 Posts: 308 Member
    sure he can go....as long as i go to ;)
  • Buca412
    Buca412 Posts: 301 Member
    Nope...as long as he doesn't blow a huge wad of cash and he comes home to me, I'm cool. Oh & as long as the strippers stay at the club...had some friends (a couple) who went to a club together & decided to bring one of the girls home. It did not end well...


    Soooo...basically, don't blow a huge wad of cash, don't bring home a stripper...just come home and blow a huge wad. Got it! :tongue:
  • natashamcn
    natashamcn Posts: 145 Member
    I don't care where he gets his appetite, as long as he comes home for dinner :wink:

    LOVE THIS!
  • marynmarty
    marynmarty Posts: 89 Member
    Nope, I don't mind if my husband goes to strip clubs. I feel if someone doesn't feel comfortable having their husbands go to strip clubs than they aren't comfortable with themselves. I know my husband is coming home to me and not the stripper. Also I went to a strip club with my girlfriends to see Chip n Dales so who am I to tell him no!!! I think Men need to have friends time to hang out with their buddies. If it means going to a strip club go for it!!! I would go with him if he wanted me to lol. If your to clingy with your spouse/BF, they will find a way to do whatever but they just won't tell you. I would rather know than have them hide it!!
  • Yolanda_85
    Yolanda_85 Posts: 143 Member
    If a women can indulge in her fantasies (mental & emotional creatures) through romance novels, then a guy should be allowed to do the same (visual creatures), assuming it has no negative bearing on the marital aspects (cheating, spending too much money, touching the girls).

    Fully agree with this.

    My boyfriend (we live together might and as well be married) has never been to a strip club, a friend of his offered to take him on his birthday a couple years ago. I told him 'Go, have fun! Just don't bring anything back to me!' He ended up not going, but I wouldn't have a problem if he ever said he wanted to. Our neighbor and his wife suggested we go as a double date sometime, not sure if or when it will ever happen, but I'd be game for it!
  • breezymom81
    breezymom81 Posts: 499 Member
    I've been a couple of times with my husband and it's not a big deal. But i feel the same way, if you come home covered n glitter and shame don't even think about nakey time with me! Shower or not. :wink:

    I disagree- fantasy is what makes men and women stay with one person! My husband can think about others all he wants as long as he is doing the ideas to me~ we are both happy! Lord knows I have though of other men to get really hot or read a more racey book and then drug him off to bed :love: :blushing: :wink:
  • lordsangel
    lordsangel Posts: 167
    Yes I do mind. If he isn't happy at home then dont come back. I should be enough for him. Not to mention we are both Christians and he should not be lusting after other women. Those women dont respect themselves or anyone else. Marriage is supposed to be a sanctity. Our bodies are supposed to be temples of God's Spirit and there is no way I'd do anything like that so I expect my husband to honor me as I honor him.
  • Aureilie
    Aureilie Posts: 213 Member
    Nope, not in the least. I like to go with him.
  • FrenchMob
    FrenchMob Posts: 1,167 Member
    I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.
    ...andhere's "Debbie Downer". Wow, not everyone gets addicted to stuff. I certainly don't. I've been to strip clubs maybe 10 times in my life...haven't been in about 10 years and don't miss it. Get a grip.
  • breezymom81
    breezymom81 Posts: 499 Member
    Yes I do mind. If he isn't happy at home then dont come back. I should be enough for him. Not to mention we are both Christians and he should not be lusting after other women. Those women dont respect themselves or anyone else. Marriage is supposed to be a sanctity. Our bodies are supposed to be temples of God's Spirit and there is no way I'd do anything like that so I expect my husband to honor me as I honor him.

    Not to put your beliefs down, however are you saying you never see a great looking actor or hot guy on the street and get turned on? This is human nature~ it is how the race survives~ and there is no shame in it. That I have meet some strippers~ a lot of them are students or moms who are workign rather then having kids do with out or using welfare! I will tip my hat to those ladies because if it's what I had to do to support my famity I would in a heart beat!
  • k8lyn_235
    k8lyn_235 Posts: 507 Member
    as most have said - i don't mind as long as it's not all the time and he's not spending loads of money there.. and he's not doing anything with those girls. my bf really isn't a strip club going type. now, i did get annoyed when he was on one of those buses with one stripper and just a few of his guy friends, but that was mainly because he didn't tell me he was doing that.

    i still really want to go to one.. the ones around here are full of crackheads though. and they are nothing good to look at, just sad.
  • WickedGarden
    WickedGarden Posts: 944 Member
    if he doesn't care that I go somewhere and have guys grabbing and grinding on me all night long, then sure he can go to the strip club.
  • FrenchMob
    FrenchMob Posts: 1,167 Member
    Yes I do mind. If he isn't happy at home then dont come back. I should be enough for him. Not to mention we are both Christians and he should not be lusting after other women. Those women dont respect themselves or anyone else. Marriage is supposed to be a sanctity. Our bodies are supposed to be temples of God's Spirit and there is no way I'd do anything like that so I expect my husband to honor me as I honor him.
    That's your religion talking, not typical common sense.
  • JoeyTajzai
    JoeyTajzai Posts: 1,198 Member
    I honestly expected a lot of you to say the opposite. I know as a man, if my women went to some sort of male strip club I would be upset. Knowing that your significant other, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is getting lap dances from another male. I don't know maybe I'm a pansy.
  • mbroskey
    mbroskey Posts: 17 Member
    I think this is the core of stereotypes not every stripper is a druggie, or a prostitute you cannot generalize someone in that category. I think the main question was do women care if there men go? I think your taking this option to a whole diff level!! Women if your mom can go out a few times a year to the club with the guys and he’s never given you a reason not to trust him then shame on you. a once in a while thing is no big deal.. a every week things is excessive but different strokes for diff folks in my opinion!!
  • breezymom81
    breezymom81 Posts: 499 Member
    I honestly expected a lot of you to say the opposite. I know as a man, if my women went to some sort of male strip club I would be upset. Knowing that your significant other, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is getting lap dances from another male. I don't know maybe I'm a pansy.

    Actually I think that is the male in you :wink: Basically the way that human functioned(like animals) is the male can have more then one partner to "fertilze" while a female is to only have one partner, this is biology. But I am married and my man is to have one partner,but he can look, I trust him!
  • robot_potato
    robot_potato Posts: 1,535 Member
    Not at all, as long as he comes home to me. I've been a few times myself. Nothing wrong with appreciating a nice body.
  • snewsome7
    snewsome7 Posts: 189
    As long as I'm not being lied to about it and invited every now and then I would be ok with it. Strip clubs have caused many problems in my relationship because I was getting lied to about where he was and he never had money. It wasn't hard to put 2 and 2 together. Especially when you know a couple girls that worked there lol.

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