girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

MsMuniz

i personally don't mind at all. One rule though - he doesn't get to come home and get ~me~. "Bubbles" doesn't get to be in his mind while he's with me (not that my awesome body wouldn't override that fact...)

but really - srip clubs, lap dances bother me not in the least. Unless, of course, he was blowing his paycheck everweek, then there would be a problem.

You? How do you feel about it?

I'm the same, as long as he doesn't come home thinking he's gonna get any afterwards.

BrettPGH

I love the idea that some of these women are against strip clubs because they want to "help" the strippers by also making them unemployed.

itgeekwoman

Totally cool with it as long as it's ok for me to go and see the male strippers.

gatorgirlyyy

Well, for my 18th birthday my (girl) friends and I all decided to go to the strip club since we were finally old enough to do something like this and thought it would be fun. I went and honestly had a great time but I never imagined the kinda s**t that goes down in that place. I was in awe... and not in a good way. If I found out the man I was in a relationship with was going to a strip club I would be livid and honestly very hurt.

I just don't like it. That's my personal opinion though.


To each their own....

spectralmoon

I mind. He doesn't go, but I'd mind if he did.

sofitheteacup

Haven't been with someone who likes going, but I would prefer to go with. Not to keep an eye on him, but to enjoy it also.

Soon2BeMrsThomson

I've been alone and he's been alone before we got into a relationship - I thought it was fun but looking back (I was young and naive) a lot of those girls were there so they could buy their drugs which makes me sad. Although I'd rather them do that than on the street, somehow seems safer I suppose. My other half doesn't like them - he says they are a waste of money. He would rather be at home with me than sitting on his hands watching a girl dance round him!! I had to admire his honesty :laugh:

LooseWheel

My man hasnt (not that he's shared it with me b4) but he knows I would love to go with him. I like the idea of what ever is going through his mind afterwards, driving the bedroom antics to a firey fun night to make me feel like a teen again! Stip away, could learn some new things too, but thats the limit right! It aint not 'hooker blvd' as that just costs too much and swinging can be done for free right? lol. Funny topic. Wonder what then men are saying!

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atsteele

re "I love the idea that some of these women are against strip clubs because they want to "help" the strippers by also making them unemployed"; We could use the same reasoning to justify keeping pimps and prostitutes on the streets. They need to earn a living too. Sex trafficers need to earn a living... Just saying.

annikabanannika

I have a very simple rule for my boyfriend. Look all you want, but do not touch!

BrettPGH

re "I love the idea that some of these women are against strip clubs because they want to "help" the strippers by also making them unemployed"; We could use the same reasoning to justify keeping pimps and prostitutes on the streets. They need to earn a living too. Sex trafficers need to earn a living... Just saying.

Slippery slope logical fallacy. Though I do feel prostitution should be legalized to get rid of the pimps and get the girls off the streets. This way there could be health regulations, inspections and taxation.

OR we could keep trying to eliminate "The World's Oldest Profession". Let me know when that works.

DieVixen

I dont mind,me an my husband go together,and buy each other lap dances

Krizzle4Rizzle

My boyfriend is not a fan of them. He had a bad experience when he was in his teens and has never went back.

kitinboots

Mine has never been, and I wish he had, cause I have been in a few, and have friends working in one in town, but my boyfriend had formed his opinion through how strip clubs are portrayed in films and on tv.
I would like to be able to go with him, look at some titties and have a good time, but he thinks its all dirty and seedy and he looks down on the whole idea.
Obviously I wouldn't be happy if he went regularly or spent too much time with one girl, but its not fair for him to judge either.

julzmamabear

I don't mind at all, we sometimes go together...I'm pretty sure I enjoy it more then he does

marieautumn

nope...but i can say that because he never goes.

newfiechick61

My man don't have any desire to go, I guess he is very happy with what he has at home and don't feel he is missing out on anything.....Awwwwwe it is great being with someone that truely respects you.....

ClarkMer

I don't mind if he goes, but lap dances are off limits. I don't want another woman (who is hotter than me) grinding on my man

Soon2BeMrsThomson

re "I love the idea that some of these women are against strip clubs because they want to "help" the strippers by also making them unemployed"; We could use the same reasoning to justify keeping pimps and prostitutes on the streets. They need to earn a living too. Sex trafficers need to earn a living... Just saying.

Slippery slope logical fallacy. Though I do feel prostitution should be legalized to get rid of the pimps and get the girls off the streets. This way there could be health regulations, inspections and taxation.

OR we could keep trying to eliminate "The World's Oldest Profession". Let me know when that works.

^^^^ This - I mean look at Amsterdam - how many prostitutes are murdered/assulted a year compared to the UK and USA? We are never going to eliminate it - men/women love sex and these girls/boys need money!!

andreanicole686

Um yea. I wouldn't ever date a guy who went. I just find that so tasteless. If he wants to see a strip show I'd put one on for him, no need for him to go somewhere else.

DieVixen

I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

I am as far from a normal person as you can get,I have been in many diffrent forms of adult entertainmen.Ive done phone sex,pictures,and managed an adult bookstore that was in a strip club. Ive known strippers and porn stars and have not met any that were they way you described.Nor was I. Me an my husband go to strip clubs,watch porn, and our relationship gets better and more amazing every year. Anything in life can cause devestaion to someone that is already devestated. Porn/stripping do not take a normal happy girl an ruin her. Many of the stripers that worked at my club have moved on in their lives to become all sorts of things,ones even a DR now. Funny i met very few woman that were the way you described. Most felt impowered

Cindy311

Even though my hubby doesn't go I wouldn't mind in the least if he did. I think looking is human and besides a look and touch doesn't mean he's bringing anyone home.

newfiechick61

If a man is happy with what he has, then he got no desire to go to strip clubs.

buffybabe

I've never really dated anyone that cared to go to strip clubs...

rileamoyer

I don't think my DH has been to one in the time we have been married, he is kind of a home body. I would not mind if he did occasionally. That said - I am the first one to take photos of him with the hotties and plants at the Sturgis Bike Rally. LOL

katy4399

Yes I do mind. If he isn't happy at home then dont come back. I should be enough for him. Not to mention we are both Christians and he should not be lusting after other women. Those women dont respect themselves or anyone else. Marriage is supposed to be a sanctity. Our bodies are supposed to be temples of God's Spirit and there is no way I'd do anything like that so I expect my husband to honor me as I honor him.

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CookieCrumble

I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

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I'm really surprised at the responses on this thread. It's a really horrible industry and I wouldn't - couldn't - demean myself with somebody who does this. I wonder how liberated some women really are... they seem very desperate to hold on to their men - at any cost. It makes me sad, but... each to their own.

musky4

And this is where women's lib got us ???

WOW

bjhadden

I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

Agree. I worked as a cocktail waitress at a strip club and the girls hated what they were doing and most got high or drunk before they could even get past the shame of getting on stage.

katy4399

I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

Your broad generalizations are ignorant. I have had strippers for friends, I have known drug addicts, I'm totally aware of the sex trafficking industry, and yet I still somehow live with myself every day while enjoying strip clubs. Everybody's gotta get paid somehow, and if strippin' keeps the lights on, I think that's great.

Her information isnt ignorant. Not all woman in that situation are there against their will or being abused or on drugs, but there are ALOT that are. You just never know which one is and isnt. How can you enjoy the "show" knowing that the sex indistry is made up of mostly women that are not there by choice. BUT I guess if you would be ok with your wife or daughter up there with men lusting over them (some innocent and some not so much) then enjoy. But its not a healthy lifestyle for anyone involved.

I agree that she's not ignorant; I think she's brave to speak her mind like this when the majority here disagree. I'm a professional counselor and I work with many of the consequences of sex addiction, sex abuse, alcoholism and more. It is not harmless fun. Anything that promotes the idea of women as sex objects and sex as something divorced from love, intimacy and commitment directly contributes to violence against women and continuing exploitation. My husband feels the same so neither of us participate in things like this. There's also a big increase in sexual slavery all over the world, including in the USA, and it's built on making tons of money from people indulging their basest desires without regard for the consequences to those who do the work. I wonder if the women who indulge in or support all this ever really let themselves think deeper about all these things...and what their hearts would say if they did.

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