girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

spade117

I've always had the opinion that strip clubs are a waste of money. Overpriced/watered down drinks, cover charges, etc.

beabelieve

Dont mind it at all, but Id love to strip for him

ninerbuff

It's been a couple of years since I've been to one. Honestly, I'd rather spend my hard earned cash on poker. That's probably why I hit the casino more than the clubs.
But my wife doesn't mind cause when I usually go it's with all her uncles, her brothers and cousins. We're all dirty men.

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littlepinkhearts

I used to go to strip clubs all the time. I'd allway's bring a female friend, or someone that I was dating. Rarely ever went with just guy's. I allway's enjoyed myself. Im in this relationship now where my girl is like, "You are never going to a strip club as long as were together". Life is too short to live like that... I don't feel like I should have to Not go because she doesn't like them.

one of the topics that should have been brought up by you in the "wheeling n dealing" phase of your relationship. Either you forgot to mention it was important to you or perhaps you gave away your right in exchange for some other guilty pleasure haha

mommared53

I don't have a boyfriend or husband but I wouldn't be involved with a man who would want to go to a strip club.

StatutoryGrape

I'm pretty sure mine has never been, though I'd like to go! Hell, I'd probably even buy him a lap dance, just for the lulz it would bring me.

ECA67

It used to not bother me , but it bothers me now. My ex decided to run off with a stripper. She took him for all our money then dumped him. Now he wants me back. Too bad !

ReneeElizabeth26

Yea I didnt care either until mine left me for a stripper with braces...

angemarie23

I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

This answer took great courage and I agree wholeheartedly. No, I wouldn't approve of my husband going to strip clubs. Thankfully, I am blessed to be married to a man who feels the same way.

dyannajoy

I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

thank you for speaking up about the reality of this.....I hope others will listen.....it breaks my heart to see women used in this way....

amalthea23

Not if I get to go with. No reason he should be the only one having a good time!

dyannajoy

"I agree that she's not ignorant; I think she's brave to speak her mind like this when the majority here disagree. I'm a professional counselor and I work with many of the consequences of sex addiction, sex abuse, alcoholism and more. It is not harmless fun. Anything that promotes the idea of women as sex objects and sex as something divorced from love, intimacy and commitment directly contributes to violence against women and continuing exploitation. My husband feels the same so neither of us participate in things like this. There's also a big increase in sexual slavery all over the world, including in the USA, and it's built on making tons of money from people indulging their basest desires without regard for the consequences to those who do the work. I wonder if the women who indulge in or support all this ever really let themselves think deeper about all these things...and what their hearts would say if they did."

Thank you for stating this. I agree with all you have said, and quite frankly find it VERY sad, that these people are in relationships that are based on such shallow values. How one can even begin to think of supporting this sick industry in any way baffles me completely!

Ocarina

I have nothing against people that go. Am honestly very oblivious to the culture overall. Never was really exposed to it.

My husband is not one to go to that type of stuff. He won't even text other women or hang out with girls without other guys around let alone go to the strip club. He believes it is disrespectful and sad to see women sell themselves out like they do.

He's just the shy nerdy type and is happy with me! I've asked him time and time again and told him he is able to do all of the above but he won't. I think it is also a religious/moral thing for him. The guy won't even go with me to a bar LOL.

I personally won't go because I have religious beliefs, zero interest in that or the club scene, and it's really just kinda out of the scope of our general awareness. He has friends that will go but he turns them down and I just always have something else going on or would rather do something else. :bigsmile:

Kenzietea2

I am not okay with strip clubs because I am against the industry in general. The majority of women strip because of desperation, and that in itself is not okay with me. If all of the girls that stripped did it because they actually enjoyed doing it, and because they felt liberated in their own skin (which I do believe SOME of them do) then by all means, it is just entertainment.

My husband has no interest in strip clubs though, not before he met me and not now, so I suppose it is really a non-issue in my life.

Elen_Sia

I wish mine would go occasionally without me. I'd even get crisp ones, fives, tens and twenties for him.

tgh1914

I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

I totally appreciate the honest and brave answer ^^^. Of course you'll draw all kinds of backlash from those that don't agree with you (already have). But it's obvious you have the most 1st hand experience of anyone in this thread and you're willing to tell it like it is. Kudos!

ninerbuff

If you lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.

Then those people should be punished severely...................................have them put to death since it's stated in the bible.

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mommared53

If you lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.

Then those people should be punished severely...................................have them put to death since it's stated in the bible.

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Actually if you read John 8:1-11 you'll see that Jesus actually refused to condemn a woman caught in adultery (I wonder where the man was) and even told her to go and sin no more.

Dreamer1311

of course i would mind. instead of him wanting other women, i would give him a striptease myself

Thats my answer right there!

Bethie_B

I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

Your broad generalizations are ignorant. I have had strippers for friends, I have known drug addicts, I'm totally aware of the sex trafficking industry, and yet I still somehow live with myself every day while enjoying strip clubs. Everybody's gotta get paid somehow, and if strippin' keeps the lights on, I think that's great.

Her information isnt ignorant. Not all woman in that situation are there against their will or being abused or on drugs, but there are ALOT that are. You just never know which one is and isnt. How can you enjoy the "show" knowing that the sex indistry is made up of mostly women that are not there by choice. BUT I guess if you would be ok with your wife or daughter up there with men lusting over them (some innocent and some not so much) then enjoy. But its not a healthy lifestyle for anyone involved.

I agree that she's not ignorant; I think she's brave to speak her mind like this when the majority here disagree. I'm a professional counselor and I work with many of the consequences of sex addiction, sex abuse, alcoholism and more. It is not harmless fun. Anything that promotes the idea of women as sex objects and sex as something divorced from love, intimacy and commitment directly contributes to violence against women and continuing exploitation. My husband feels the same so neither of us participate in things like this. There's also a big increase in sexual slavery all over the world, including in the USA, and it's built on making tons of money from people indulging their basest desires without regard for the consequences to those who do the work. I wonder if the women who indulge in or support all this ever really let themselves think deeper about all these things...and what their hearts would say if they did.

So, you're saying that any woman who enjoys sex outside of a loving, committed relationship is being exploited? I couldn't disagree more. I am a strong, smart, capable woman, dependent on no one. I also enjoy porn, sex shops and sexy imagery. I love the feeling of empowerment that I get during my "freaky" antics in the bedroom. Enjoying sex, alcohol, whatever, does not mean you are an addict; it can certainly be harmless fun! I've known many men that enjoy strip clubs and porn, and would never raise their hand to a woman in violence. If a woman wants to strip, I say power to her! She'll get no judgment from me, just cash in her g-string.

Italianyc84

debbie downer over here...

I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.

Italianyc84

If you lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.

then I guess I need to be punished...somebody spank me!! (ps, I don't usually lust in my heart, I lust in my p*ssy)

Italianyc84

oh, and for the record--when I was young and stupid I totally got jealous, but now...honestly couldn't care less. I know my girl is true to me. She went once a few years back...she's not really into it. I, however, am dying to go!! I've never been! I did have a lap dance at a party once a couple of years ago where they hired strippers. It was all harmless fun.

mslack01

No, but I want to go too!

picassoadagio

He's gone once in his life. He was sloshed & young. Now, he finds them tacky. That's good. That means I'm doing my job.

sunshine77081

I don't care if my husband goes but he isn't into that. I've tried taking him. If he would decided to go it wouldn't bother me that he would visualize me as the stripper. At least he came home to me and is with me.

SeasideOasis

Couldn't care less.

I think his one friend was trying to be nice (the friend was also a close friend of mine) and stopped dragging him to the strip clubs when we started dating. My reacting is/was,"WOAH - TAKE ME WITH YOU!!!" Girls are pretty to look at :laugh: :drinker: :blushing:

katy4399

I would not like it all. I guess that makes me a prude.

ZombieChaser

I wouldn't care if he went to a strip club. Its no different than watching porn really. But, I live in a small town... the strippers around here all look like crazy crack *kitten*.

OMG this! We have 1 stip club, and the VIP area is separated with a shower curtain....classy!

UpEarly

My husband has never been to a strip club, and has passed on all the invitations to birthdays/bachelor parties celebrated at strip clubs (both before he met me, while we dated and while we've been married).

I don't have a problem with strip clubs, but if he suddenly started going now, I think I would be worried and not too happy because it would be vastly out of character for him.

I don't think he has a moral problem with strippers or people who go to strip clubs. He just thinks it's silly and a waste of money. And the general style of strippers is totally not his thing. He's not attracted to make-up or glitter or implants or high heels. He probably would hate the stripping music too - unless the women started stripping to Government Mule or Umphreys McGee. LOL