Age Difference for dating?

Bumdrahp

My boyfriend and I are almost 13 years apart. I do not care, and it does not matter to me at all. The only time I felt concerned was when he was telling his family about me and I feared they would immediately think I was some immature little girl. But, I think they like me and I adore them all. I love my boyfriend with all of me and age truely doesnt matter.. plus he is sexy so.....

ChubbyStudent25

I'm 25 my boyfriend is 50. I have tried to date guys my own age but I feel like I'm babysitting. Not that there aren't mature young guys out there I just haven't had any luck with finding them.

clairyfairy247

Following the rule, my age range for guys would be 17-26...i'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24 xox

christyd4

My husband is 5 years younger than me. He was 24 and I was 29 when we married. It seems to run in my family, My dad was 5 years younger than my step-mom, and my son is 5 years younger than his wife. Which makes it kinda of strange when you think about it. I had my boys when I was 16 so my husband is only 12 years older than my boys, and he addopted them. Then my DIL is only 12 years younger than me and she has a son that is 12. So I am a gma @ 42 to a 12 year old boy. But were all happy and all get along really well

When/if (I say when becuase I know we will eventually get married) but if we did today I would be a gma to 2 beautful boys and a girl as his two girls have kids.

yoovie

I dunno, Im a sucker for a guy a couple years younger than me. Im young, I need someone with the ability and desire to keep up. or compete.

ShellyKay67

i was recently divorced from a man 12 years older. now i'm dating a man 9 yrs younger. maturity is definately not based on age! lol

healthybodyhealthymind

I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 36. We're 15 years apart and it's something that neither of us notice. Of course until he talks about a movie from years ago and I have no idea what he's talking about (lol). I'm not your average 21 year old. I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't do drugs, and I don't party. I have a very good head on my shoulders and we fit perfectly well together. To the people around you it may seem like a big deal, and wrong..but when you're in it it's completely different. I've never been happier.

ktdid626

A post on the booty call thread got me thinking about this...what is your maximum age difference for dating?

My husband and I are 8 years apart (currently 9 since he just turned 43 and I'll be 35 in a month and a half).

I was 22 and he was 30 when we started dating.

Edited to add: We've never really noticed the age difference (unless our friends and his family teased him about robbing the cradle). But we both have the same pop culture references from the 80's. I do tease him once in a while about when he was in HS, I was still in elementry school! HA! I guess I've always just been more mature for my age because I'd NEVER dated guys my own age (couldn't stand them) and my dad always told me that when I settled down it would be with an older guy.

I'm the same way. I can't stand the available guys my age. My first super serious longterm boyfriend at 21 was 29. My current boyfriend is 40 and I'm 27. We've been together four years this fall. I don't think my parents approved of the age difference, but seeing as how I am mature (and always have been for my age), we get along just fine. BEST sex of my life, not to mention. An older guy has time to practice. Anyways, it was actually me who was not certain an age gap larger than 10 years would work. But seriously...I just fell into it, and into love with him. To hell with age. And lucky for me, my guy looks ten years younger than his real age. Nobody thinks he's a day over 32. He takes great care of himself, so I think we're going to have a nice life together.

cior

My good friend is 30 and her husband is in her 50's. They met when she was in her early twenties and her was obviously much older. It really depends on your personality, his personality, and the relationship. If it works, it works.

Lil_MiSsSunshiNe

My first real boyfriend I was 18 and he was 27. We lasted about 5 years. He married a girl 4 years younger than me. That lasted about 4 years lol. But, for some people it works!

Carnivorekat

there was a 16 year difference between me and my ex husband - I think age is immaterial it is all to do with maturity - I don't worry about age difference so much as what they are like as a person - although I don't think I would have a toy boy - unless they were a lot more mature

HauteP1nk

I would say that I wouldn't want to date anyone who is more than 8 years older then me, or less than 2 years younger. That being said, I guess it would all depend on the connection I have with the person. Each person is different, and each person acts differently at various ages.

silvergurl518

All your formulas, limits and restrictions will go out the window if you find the one who matters. Of course, if your rules are too strict, you might overlook that one, like I almost did.

This.

more than ever, i believe this now

LisaF1163

My boyfriend is only nine months older than me - I turned 48 in November, and he turned 49 in February.

The biggest age difference was a guy I went out on one date with when I was 22, and he was 33, so only 11 years. I never went out with him again because, despite the age difference, he was a big baby!

scorpiomfs

my partners mother is 8 years older than me. Thats the wierdiest part. Other than that It works great for us. Im 52 he is 40.

saracatherine89

When it comes down to it, age doesn't really matter. But I do notice there are certain points in ones life where people just have different goals and priorities that make it weird. For instance, I am 22 and my boyfriend is 24, but a lot of his friends are 28-30...they're all getting married and buying houses and talking about having kids...I just don't want that yet!!!

catshark209

I'm 35 and my bf is 52. Its kinda crazy to know that when I was a newborn, he was a senior in high school but its worked for us. I've never liked men my own age, way too immature....and younger guys are just not an option ( I have no patience and they remind me of puppies lol ).
It works for us. Age isn't an issue with us.

gidgeclev

No one old enough to be your father and no one young enough to be your son. Gives about a 30 year span to choose from!

Eaglesfanintn

My wife and I are separated by 12 years. It normally doesn't make a difference. We have different experiences, but that can be as much because she grew up in Kansas and I grew up in the Northeast or for a dozen other reasons. There are times that we've both been worried about it as we get older, but I love her and she loves me and that's what really matters.

EmCarroll1990

No one old enough to be your father and no one young enough to be your son. Gives about a 30 year span to choose from!

Ahh unfortunately, this too fails - at least in my position.

Myslissa

My thing is, if there is less of an age difference between him and my oldest children than him and me, it is too young.

itsuki

Ahh unfortunately, this too fails - at least in my position.

This is COMPLETELY off-topic, but I saw EmCarroll1990's user name and thought "Wow, MFP doesn't allow anyone under 18 to join the site, why would she put 1990 right in her username? It makes it obvious she's under 18."

And then I realized that someone born in 1990 would be 22 right now. -.- And now I feel realllllly old. :P


Back on topic, I think the only time age would matter is if
a) the age difference results in one partner being underaged (I'm not talking 17+18 here, but someone 20+ shouldn't date anyone under the legal age in their state/country, for obvious reasons)
or
b) one of the partners ends up feeling uncomfortable with the difference.

So as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, have at it.

mogletdeluxe

I've got an old head on young shoulders, and both of my partners have been quite a bit older than me. My partner is 42, and I'm 27. I can be painfully sensible; he still laughs at farts. It works

vxjammiedodgerxv

my mum was 18 when she married my dad, he was 40. They were happily married for 34 years before he died of cancer 4 years ago. They were always happy and I don't think age was ever an issue. As long as you're happy it shouldn't matter. Both my brothers married women 14 years older than themselves and the same applies.

LiteBrite007

My college professor that i wanted to marry was 78 years old. I knew it was absurd so I never approached him after i graduated. I was 20.


He was a genius!

laurieblair2012

I'm 42 and my husband is 49. I laugh at his 70's music and he laughs at the fact that I was in 6th grade when John Lennon was shot...and that was his senior year of high school.

ItsCasey

I hate to put an exact number on it because it totally depends on the man, but, generally speaking, I would say I'd go up to 10 years older and 3 years younger. I'm almost 30, so I am not trying to date a guy in his mid-20s or younger.

mushroomcup

For me, age is very important for romantic relationships. Maybe I'm too focused on long term planning rather than the here and now, but I think the chances of me being a young widow would be a lot higher if I was with an older man. That freaks me out. If I love someone, I want them around for the long haul.

Also, I have an added "yucky" factor - I'm generally not at all attracted to men who aren't within a few years of my age (23). It doesn't bother me a bit when other couples have a big age gap, but it would not work for me.

AND aside from the long-term planning and physical attraction issues, I really like it when I can relate to my boyfriend. I know pop culture references aren't a huge deal, but it's nice when we're on the same page and we don't have to explain any jokes or references to one another.

But as I mentioned, these are just my preferences. As long as the parties are consenting (meaning both wanting the relationship and old enough to be able to make that sort of decision), I'm cool with any coupling.

Matt_Wild

I'm 31 and my misses is 25. Works for me :bigsmile:

TheRoadDog

The oldest woman I dated was 44 and I was 19. 25 years difference.

The youngest woman I dated was 27 and I was 35. 8 Years difference. I married her and we are celebrating our 20 yr anniversary in August.