Survey time: Should a guy pay on a first date?
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Normally I offer to pay 50 50 or buy drinks if he gets dinner - though went on a date with a guy who started bragging about cars and having two properties (who was then quite rude) so I let him pay. haha0
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Yes, they should. However, ladies, we should always at least "reach" for our wallets and allow him to say "no, it's on me". And if he doesn't, suck it up and pay your half and you can make your own decision on his qualities/compatabilitiy for yourself.
When I went on the first date with my husband, I offered to pay for a round of drinks- even though I was an Au Pair making 600 dollars a month. He managed to hide just how much money he makes at his job for a few dates, once I found out, I never paid again! But he always appreciated (and I liked) that I bought that round of drinks- it makes for a funny story now!0 -
yes, this shouldnt be up for debate. If she is on her third drink and you arent intrested consider calling for the check before it gets out of control.0
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Yes0
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I think I have the WORST luck with guys/relationships I always pay for absolutely everything. Always. Pretty much why I have remained single now for a few years, it wears on your back account and self-esteem.0
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Yup. most women spend more time turning down dates than actually going on them. Men seem to ask everyone out for some reason. I dont go on a date with every single guy so the ones I do go out with I do expect them to value the time i'm giving them.
No...he pays. You are paying with your time.
Because your time is that much more important than his?
Whew. I'm glad to see that nobody is perpetuating any of those pesky stereotypes.0 -
So in order for us to "value" our time together we have to put a price tag on it?
Yup. most women spend more time turning down dates than actually going on them. Men seem to ask everyone out for some reason. I dont go on a date with every single guy so the ones I do go out with I do expect them to value the time i'm giving them.
No...he pays. You are paying with your time.
Because your time is that much more important than his?
If you'd rather go out for dinner, it usually isnt free so yeah obviously. Dont forget that a man can always plan a cheaper option. He can go to a museum on a date which happens to be free.0 -
He shouldn't feel obligated to - i surely don't need a man to pay for me, but if he really wants to, fine for me, but I don't expect it and always take money with me to pay my part of the bill.0
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whoever asked pays0
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Split the bill unless the guy wants to pay. I don't think men should always be forced to pay for dates, its sexist.0
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If the girl invites you, she should pay, and vice versa.0
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Ummmm Well the way I see it is, you gave him money for dinner, he took it. What did you expect him to do? I always, as a rule, bring money and order to my own budget so that I can at least pay for my own meal on a first date. I don't think a man is EVER required to pay, regardless of who asked who.
You offered, he took. The only time I didn't support this was in my own life... was on a first date, barely ordered anything that cost, had a terrible time. Check came, I got money out, and the guy gave the waitress his debit card, so I was like okay cool... proceeded to put money away.. and the dude reached over and took it straight out of my hand without a word.
Moral of the story: Don't give out money if you expect him to pay.0 -
A guy should always pay on the first date! I would always offer to pay for myself or say I could leave the tip. Then after the first date, you can take turns or something.0
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No...he pays. You are paying with your time.
Because your time is that much more important than his?
Maybe.
IMHO, any man who asks a woman out for anything should pay. And IF I ever asked a man out, I would do the same.0 -
IF HE ASKS ME OUT, HE PAYS... BOTTOM LINE
IF I DIDN'T ENJOY THE DATE AND DON'T PLAN ON SEEING HIM AGAIN I OFFER TO SPLIT THE BILL.
IF WE ARE OUT FOR COFFEE OR ICE CREAM AFTER I ALWAYS OFFER TO PAY, BUT THE FIRST FEW DATES SHOULD BE HIM. ONCE I START COOKING FOR HIM THE NIGHTS OUT BECOME SCARCE SO I LOVE THOSE FIRST FEW DATES AND ENJOY THEM. I DON'T ASK HIM TO PAY FOR THE INGREDIENTS WHEN I COOK HIM A NICE MEAL, IT'S THE SAME THING AS A DATE ONLY I COOK AND CLEAN ON THIS ONE. HE CAN ALWAYS GIVE YOU A TIP AFTER IF HE LIKED IT
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Just wanting to know everyone's view on who should pay on a frist date. I know equal right and all that but if I guy does not pay for me on the first date I just assume he is a tight a*rse and he not getting a second date.
Sunday night, first date, dinner came to $75 I gave him $50 and he took it and did not offer any change, hmm nice!
Don't bother ever going out with him again. You got away from someone mean for only 50bucks, count yourself lucky0 -
Depends on who asked who out and what/where the date is.0
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Yup. most women spend more time turning down dates than actually going on them. Men seem to ask everyone out for some reason. I dont go on a date with every single guy so the ones I do go out with I do expect them to value the time i'm giving them.
No...he pays. You are paying with your time.
Because your time is that much more important than his?
Whew. I'm glad to see that nobody is perpetuating any of those pesky stereotypes.
I guess for some people its a stereotype. I get asked on a lot of dates and I only go on the ones with the guys that I really like. To me it honestly just seem like its a numbers game to guys. If they ask out a bunch of girls eventually one will say yes.0 -
No...he pays. You are paying with your time.
Because your time is that much more important than his?
YES
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This may be a Red Flag that he isn't good with his money. When my husband & I were dating, I always paid because I always had money. He got bill collector phone calls on our honeymoon and I "inherited" thousands of debt. We paid it off in 1 year and he has now financially responsible. He loves the debt-free feeling.
It's okay to offer to pay, or to pay the tip. Just not every time. You need to be shown that he wants to take care of you.0 -
C'mon, this isn't even a debate, honestly. If a man asks a woman out, of course he should pay. Why would it be any other way? What kind of man asks a woman out on a date and then looks to her to pay the check??? If SHE asks HIM, SHE should pay.
Men need to still be gentlemen in this country.
While you're at it, please open the car door for her. It doesn't lessen a man to be gentlemanly, it makes him more of a man.
2nd, 3rd, 4th date....? Figure it out, split it, whatever... But the first? IF YOU ASK, YOU PAY!0 -
If he asked me out I would expect him to pay, I may leave the tip or pay for drinks or something else we may do. That dude should have paid for the meal. If a man is having money problems and I suggest the date, I would tell him "I got you, no problem".
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I'd say split it...
My wife and I split the first date. But she gets all the money now. It was a good plan. 0 -
i usually assume whoever asked the other on the date is the one organising the date and should therefore pay.. however on a first date if the man has done the asking - if it's gone well i will try and offer to go halves but then if he insists on paying i then say "ok as long as you let me pay next time"... which usually works :-)
equally if it's not gone well and he's organised it i'll offer to pay halves and if he agrees pay and if not let him pay
and the same if i organised it and it's not gone well - if he offers to go halves i'll accept that but go prepared to pay the whole thing0 -
Just wanting to know everyone's view on who should pay on a frist date. I know equal right and all that but if I guy does not pay for me on the first date I just assume he is a tight a*rse and he not getting a second date.
Sunday night, first date, dinner came to $75 I gave him $50 and he took it and did not offer any change, hmm nice!
How much did your meal come to? If it didn't come to 50 then he should of gave you back change.0 -
If they ask you out and pick the place, they pay. It goes both ways, but I think the man should pay until you are going out more than twice a month or so. Then it should be split.0
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Of course a guy should pay. Women don't know the first thing about money.0
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I guess I'm old fashion I think he should always pay0
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I am old fashioned so yeah, I would pay on first date and next and so on.0
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ALWAYS.0
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