When guys yell out the car and honk the horn at you..

victoria4321

Because this is exactly how it happens every time.

BAER

Not every single time but it happens often enough to be a problem

Redheadllena

I was thinking about this on my way home today...what is it that they think is going to come of it? I always feel a mixture of flattered and uncomfortable. I usually try not to look at them.

CharleneExtreme

I have had some interesting things said most of them make me blush while others make me want to gouge their eyes out.

one time in particular I was jogging and some landscaper was in the tree with his shirt off and jeans and was trimming a branch was ogling me started straddling the tree and making lude gestures with his tongue hands and what have you .. I chucked a rock at his F#*ken head who taught him that's how to behave only God knows.. dumb prick.

another time some dude made a comment to his friend at the top of the stairs about my "tig o bitties" .. * I was alone at the bottom of the stairs and seriously felt threatened having to walk past him and his buddy.. I buried my lunch box ( used to carry the metal ones as purses ) in his sack as hard as I could on the way up.. and my husband ended up catching wind of what happened and had a very stern talk to the guy and made him come out to the car and apologize,..

If i pay transport and living costs will you come to ireland and be my bodyguard?! :P

Kirkajuice

Wait...seriously? You get all that from a stupid cat call? Unsafe? Because you got honked at or whatever?

Sure, it's dumb, I've gotten a "Say girl lemme holla at you" from a car window before, ignored it, that was that. When I was younger and single, if my girlfriends and I saw a shirtless guy running on the side of the road we'd honk at him and yell "hey baby!!" just to be silly. Not really that big of a deal...the things people choose to get all upset over...goodness gracious...

Yes, I get really really upset and worried. Because they bloody follow me! In a car they drive slowly and try to talk to me, in the street they will follow me. I am not the most beautiful human being that ever existed, nor do I dress in an eyecatching manner (specifically because of this), I just seem to get attention from the most awful of people. If someone told me I looked nice that would be fine, but yelling at me in public so everyone looks and then calling me a ***** or a slut at an equally high volume when I either don't respond, I nod or say no thank you is humiliating and awful.

I'm sure if I never got followed or had my arm grabbed by an angry person then I wouldn't be afraid, but I am.

rml_16

Because this is exactly how it happens every time.

BAER

Not every single time but it happens often enough to be a problem

99.9% of the time when I leave my house on foot, I get some kind of attention from at least one passing car. I can't recall, in all my 35 years of life, having that happen to me. I get a whistle, a honk, sometimes something yelled out the window. But I've never been called a name or felt unsafe in any way.

Perhaps it's a matter of where you live. And perhaps that is the disparity between those of us who are not bothered and those who are. But I don't appreciate assaults on my character for simply not being bothered by something just because others are.

victoria4321

Its not so much where I live since bad things can happen anywhere. Usually the guys who do it are delivery guys for the stores and restaurants nearby so they're not actually even from here for the most part.

Just because something hasn't happened to you yet still doesn't make it okay to be so excited over an environment that fosters that type of behavior. Most cases it usually is just a look or compliment. I get compliments from random guys daily too but maybe only twice has someone actually said something mean to me for ignoring them. It's just not okay for a man to harass you simply because you're a women walking down the street. If its a friend or neighbor giving a compliment its one thing but some random creep objectifying you is a whole other story.

The fact that some women look forward to that maybe they didn't get enough positive male attention growing up so the negative stuff doesn't bother them. A lot of the common responses were women saying they wish it would happen to them or someone recently lost weight now it happens more often. I grew up with a lot of respect from all the men in my life so when I come across some creep I'm not going "Oh yay he thinks I'm pretty! :bigsmile: " I get enough of that from people who actually care about me and are sincere.

rml_16

Its not so much where I live since bad things can happen anywhere. Usually the guys who do it are delivery guys for the stores and restaurants nearby so they're not actually even from here for the most part.

Just because something hasn't happened to you yet still doesn't make it okay to be so excited over an environment that fosters that type of behavior. Most cases it usually is just a look or compliment. I get compliments from random guys daily too but maybe only twice has someone actually said something mean to me for ignoring them. It's just not okay for a man to harass you simply because you're a women walking down the street. If its a friend or neighbor giving a compliment its one thing but some random creep objectifying you is a whole other story.

The fact that some women look forward to that maybe they didn't get enough positive male attention growing up so the negative stuff doesn't bother them. A lot of the common responses were women saying they wish it would happen to them or someone recently lost weight now it happens more often. I grew up with a lot of respect from all the men in my life so when I come across some creep I'm not going "Oh yay he thinks I'm pretty! :bigsmile: " I get enough of that from people who actually care about me and are sincere.

Oh, good freaking grief. I disagree with you. I have had a different experience from yours. IT DOESN'T BOTHER ME AND I'M ALLOWED TO NOT BE BOTHERED BY IT. That doesn't mean I have low self-esteem or that I lacked male attention or anything like that. I have my personality and you have yours.

I took feminist theory in college. This crap is directly out of that text book. I rolled my eyes at it then and I roll my eyes at it now. You don't like it, it's your right. But it's my right not to be bothered by it, so quit telling me what I "should" do or think or feel. It's none of your business.

Bottom line, dear, is that human beings at our core are mammals with animal instincts that we control. But certain things, especially when it comes to "mating" come out sometimes. Those guys are the crudest form of it, but it's all about shaking one's tail feathers and trying to attract someone to make a baby. It doesn't mean any of them are going to attack anyone.

Like I said earlier, I have come thisclose to being raped. It was not a random man on the street yelling stuff at me. It was someone I knew, had been on a few dates with -- met him at a church function, for heaven's sake.

victoria4321

I guess if thats the attention you need in your life, enjoy it. Just for the record I didnt read the same textbook as you and i'm not even some ultra femenist quoting random theories. I just know and learned better about how men should treat me from other men in my life. If some guys ever tried that in from of my dad or one of my brothers they would get a reallly strong talking. Even other guys know it isnt okay when they're with you otherwise they'd be giving you a high five or something. Its just sad that some women dont know any better on their own.

rml_16

I guess if thats the attention you need in your life, enjoy it. Just for the record I didnt read the same textbook as you and i'm not even some ultra femenist quoting random theories. I just know and learned better about how men should treat me from other men in my life. If some guys ever tried that in from of my dad or one of my brothers they would get a reallly strong talking. Even other guys know it isnt okay when they're with you otherwise they'd be giving you a high five or something. Its just sad that some women dont know any better on their own.

Well, you can just feel good about being superior and we'll leave it at that.

Ravenesque_

I ignore them with all the disdain the feline in me can muster.

mogletdeluxe

I always smile back or give a wave, and stamp on the throat of my inner 1950s housewife. It puts a little sass in my strut.

And, let's face it, if I walked past a building site and it remained silent I would secretly be crushed. Low self-esteem and desire for attention? Nah. They just have terrible standards.

DalexD

I had "dirty council bas****" shouted at me in the street the other day because I was wearing my work's ID badge :ohwell:

ChemHate

I always thought it'd be flattering, but then someone did it to me on my way out of the library and I felt incredible weirded out (and a little bit anxious). I later thought it was funny, but at the time, it was unpleasant.

love2cycle

I have had that happen to me, and the guys are usually creepy looking, so I don't know if I should be flattered or not!:ohwell:

BeautyFromPain

It happens to me all the time, it's embarassing and creepy... makes me feel like i'm gonna be kidnapped and raped

tmacmoto

I thank the men graciously, but tell them that I am not a piece of meat for them to drool over and end with, "you're not my type, you don't have boobies and those of you who do have men boobs and definitely not my type."

victoria4321

Well, you can just feel good about being superior and we'll leave it at that.

Oh dont worry, I will :flowerforyou:

va_va_voom

I had a creepy guy whistle the other day as I was walking. Mind you, I was pushing my son in his stroller and my daughter was riding her bike with us. That ***t is the most ridiculous esp when you have your kids with you

I had a big dude walk past me and do the glance over with a "how YOU doin'?" when I was 8 months pregnant with my fourth. I ignored him but thought to myself, "Really? REALLY?" Unless it's my husband, I think it's super weird for a man to find me attractive when I'm pregnant.

WILSONBA

It can be annoying and obnoxious at times, but then at the same time it's flattering to know that someone on this planet finds you attractive at your most sweatiest times.

Faintgreeneyes

It's obnoxious when I am running and have dudes yell out the car. I am a sweaty mess, thanks for noticing, but I can't hear nor care what you are yelling at me- all you do is ruin my concentration and scare the crap outta me! lol

What is worse than yelling is the creepy stare out the window- they don't say anything just stare you down as they pass with a creepy look on there face. I hate that. Take a picture my friend, it will last longer.

FitBunnyEm

hahaha i dont mind, its funny

mississippi_queen

I pretend that I don't hear it. But inside I do a booty dance because I know i've worked hard to look the way I do. It's kinda like a confirmation that my hard work is paying off.

victoriasnow

i had this happen to me at the mall the other day. some idiots thought it'd be a smart idea to whistle and call me sexy as i was pushing my kids in the stroller AND with my husband walking with me. he takes it as a compliment.. i think its just stupid.

Tybalt71

Im like PSSSSt PSSSST yeah you, come here, closer......closer.............. thats right come closer.......atta girl-Ty

va_va_voom

Im like PSSSSt PSSSST yeah you, come here, closer......closer.............. thats right come closer.......atta girl-Ty

Then you ask them if your rag smells like chloroform, right? :noway:

va_va_voom

i had this happen to me at the mall the other day. some idiots thought it'd be a smart idea to whistle and call me sexy as i was pushing my kids in the stroller AND with my husband walking with me. he takes it as a compliment.. i think its just stupid.

Yeah - I think my husband is more flattered by another man checking me out than I am. lol I asked him why once and he said he likes knowing he has what another man can't have. Gotta love the male ego. lol

yoovie

I pretend that I don't hear it. But inside I do a booty dance because I know i've worked hard to look the way I do. It's kinda like a confirmation that my hard work is paying off.

According to some people here, this makes you sick in the head! But girl I agree!!! Im with you!

MelissR75

hahaha i dont mind, its funny

^^ This

yoovie

Its not so much where I live since bad things can happen anywhere. Usually the guys who do it are delivery guys for the stores and restaurants nearby so they're not actually even from here for the most part.

Just because something hasn't happened to you yet still doesn't make it okay to be so excited over an environment that fosters that type of behavior. Most cases it usually is just a look or compliment. I get compliments from random guys daily too but maybe only twice has someone actually said something mean to me for ignoring them. It's just not okay for a man to harass you simply because you're a women walking down the street. If its a friend or neighbor giving a compliment its one thing but some random creep objectifying you is a whole other story.

The fact that some women look forward to that maybe they didn't get enough positive male attention growing up so the negative stuff doesn't bother them. A lot of the common responses were women saying they wish it would happen to them or someone recently lost weight now it happens more often. I grew up with a lot of respect from all the men in my life so when I come across some creep I'm not going "Oh yay he thinks I'm pretty! :bigsmile: " I get enough of that from people who actually care about me and are sincere.

Oh, good freaking grief. I disagree with you. I have had a different experience from yours. IT DOESN'T BOTHER ME AND I'M ALLOWED TO NOT BE BOTHERED BY IT. That doesn't mean I have low self-esteem or that I lacked male attention or anything like that. I have my personality and you have yours.

I took feminist theory in college. This crap is directly out of that text book. I rolled my eyes at it then and I roll my eyes at it now. You don't like it, it's your right. But it's my right not to be bothered by it, so quit telling me what I "should" do or think or feel. It's none of your business.

Bottom line, dear, is that human beings at our core are mammals with animal instincts that we control. But certain things, especially when it comes to "mating" come out sometimes. Those guys are the crudest form of it, but it's all about shaking one's tail feathers and trying to attract someone to make a baby. It doesn't mean any of them are going to attack anyone.

Like I said earlier, I have come thisclose to being raped. It was not a random man on the street yelling stuff at me. It was someone I knew, had been on a few dates with -- met him at a church function, for heaven's sake.

I think I love you.

lauralizzy829

I wouldn't say its trashy to enjoy it. Rather, its trashy to do it.