I don't care about "losing pounds"... Male v Female?

gchutson

I don't view it as "douchey." I view it as "Nice abs dude. How long have you had ovaries?"

So, a guy who has busted his @ss to lose weight and get in shape is less of a man because he shows progress pics???? And you claim to be a motivator?

I motivated you to respond. So, I'm gonna go with, "yes."

ironanimal

Don't really care how many pounds I lose, but how I look in the mirror - yes I do. I also care about the bodyfat percentage but I'm a way off justifying professional testing for that. Health first of all, appearance second. Weight? Meh. Couldn't care less. At my current LBM I'd still be overweight with 0% bodyfat according to BMI.

BAMFMeredith

On a related note... Men who pose shirtless in front of their bathroom mirror, and use their cell phone to take a picture like a 13 year old girl... bother me.

You really don't want to go on the 'chit chat' forums then! It's full of shirtless men and women on heat!

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/571509-shirtless-guys-ya-i-m-talking-to-you

Bahaha, I don't so much mind the pics on here, I'm guilty of taking pics of myself in the bathroom mirror in a bikini as well! BUT only for this site, when I see it on my fb feed, I immediately think "*kitten*" with the exception of a couple friends of mine who are documenting weight loss/muscle gains on fb.

Thank you! I am the same way - shirtless muscle pics = *kitten* that probably thinks he knows everything and is going to try to convince people on MFP of such, but really has no idea how little he knows.

I think you misunderstood me---I don't mind it here on MFP, bc people are showing progress. It's annoying on facebook though...

gchutson

I would rather look better and feel better than concerned with what I weigh. I can now touch my toes without bending my knees! I am amazed at how much better I feel MENTALLY after I work out, even if it is only spending 20 minutes with Jillian Michaels.

As a working mom and wife, I need that 20-30 minutes to do something for ME. I can be a better person due to working out and getting fit.

One of the best posts I have ever read. Ever.

macpatti

I motivated you to respond. So, I'm gonna go with, "yes."

Motivating me to respond to an arrogant, self-absorbed post is NOT the same as motivating people to lose weight, get fit, and be proud of their results.

I'd also like to add that close-up pics of men in muscle shirts with a "joe cool" expression on their faces are annoying to me.

gchutson

LMAO.. You're funny

I try.

Just_Dot

Oh, SNAP, OP, you made MacPatti say "*kitten*"...you're in for it now!

I'm here to track my eating habits, interact with people with similar goals and interests, and most importantly, for the eye candy. The shirtless guys in the mirror you're insulting are the must informed and helpful on here. While you, OP, are not.

Josie_lifting_cats

Thank you! I am the same way - shirtless muscle pics = *kitten* that probably thinks he knows everything and is going to try to convince people on MFP of such, but really has no idea how little he knows.

And once again I've been made to feel horrible about myself for getting in shape ON A FITNESS WEBSITE!

:grumble: I tell ya this place and some of the people on it...

First, Brett - I can't help if that's my first impression. Unfortunately, there are others who make it far too easy to come to that conclusion. Do not take it personally - there are others who are ranting with their "broscience" and peer reviewed studies that only view one side and can just as easily be proved wrong by other peer reviewed studies.... and they spout all their information like it is the gospel truth when in reality when it comes to metabolism, the endocrine system, and weight loss we know practically nothing.

I'm sorry you took it personally - I honestly do not know you, so I can't come to any conclusion, other than your abs aren't going to impress me. I'm sorry... I like brains better.

My problem is that people who ARE doing well (perhaps you? My husband is a great example....) are constantly being told a bazillion different things based on the broscience of the shirtless know-it-alls. So instead of committing to something or being patient, things change every 60 seconds because so-and-so said this is how this works.... until someone else says something different.

But my biggest issue with all of it is the fact that people need to find what makes THEM happy. I do not eat perfectly. I do not have a perfect body. I'm not ripped. And yeah, I'm surely not the hottest thing nekkid.

But that said, I'm very happy with the size of clothes I wear, and the way I wear them. I am willing to give up the "perfect body" to have one that is okay but still have wine and sushi and a cheeseburger when I want. I'm not interested in having a six pack... and I'm tired of people telling me I should be.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you can't let people make you feel crappy - especially me - because a) we know nothing overall, and b) YOU need to live with YOU. If you are happy with what you are doing, what you have done, where you have gotten, that is the best and only thing you can ask for! There will always be critics no matter what you look like. So shake it off and keep it up. You've lost weight - that's fantastic, and that's very admirable as far as I'm concerned.

sel254

I think this post needs more shirtless guys so I came to help out.

And I, for one, am extremely grateful that you did!

macpatti

Oh, SNAP, OP, you made MacPatti say "*kitten*"...you're in for it now!

Ha! Is it really cussing if I used an @ instead of an a?

MissFit0101

... and your point is? :huh:

Jules2Be

Im irritated at you...your original message was great, **** the scale...i wanted to hug you and YAAAY:smooched:

then you had to insult my friends, and my eye candy

gchutson

As a woman, I feel like we have it drilled into our brains that we need to weigh a certain amount. We grow up bombarded with magazines saying "Drop 10 lbs before summer!" Or "Lose 5 lbs fast!" etc. Men are encouraged more to get fit, get a 6 pack, get lean ripped muscles, etc....but there isn't nearly as much mention of weight.

As much as I KNOW that I don't need to weigh a certain amount and that my body fat percentage/way my clothes fit is about a trillion times more important, I do catch myself commiserating over the # on the scale. I think it's just something women grow up with (in general---of course there are exceptions to both sides of this generalization).

It's a process, getting past that mentality. I'd like to say that once I am in what is considered in healthy weight range for my height and frame size, I'll stop worrying about it. But I can't say that with 100% honesty. My hope is to be able to look in the mirror, be satisfied with what I see, and totally bypass the scale altogether. I've gone from weighing every day (I know, obsessive), to once a week, and now I'm slowly working toward weighing every other week. Eventually, I'd like that to only be once a month.

Excellent post.

rybo

Interesting thread.

Lots of different kinds of people here for different kinds of reasons.

It does seem like there are a lot of highly opinionated people who care a lot about what random people on the internet do. I find that funny at times, but also a bit bizarre.

But to play along & respond to the original topic, I don't care about the scale, I do care about the mirror, but mostly I just care how I feel in everyday life & in regards to my running & strength workouts.

p0pr0cksnc0ke

Thank you! I am the same way - shirtless muscle pics = *kitten* that probably thinks he knows everything and is going to try to convince people on MFP of such, but really has no idea how little he knows.

And once again I've been made to feel horrible about myself for getting in shape ON A FITNESS WEBSITE!

:grumble: I tell ya this place and some of the people on it...

First, Brett - I can't help if that's my first impression. Unfortunately, there are others who make it far too easy to come to that conclusion. Do not take it personally - there are others who are ranting with their "broscience" and peer reviewed studies that only view one side and can just as easily be proved wrong by other peer reviewed studies.... and they spout all their information like it is the gospel truth when in reality when it comes to metabolism, the endocrine system, and weight loss we know practically nothing.

I'm sorry you took it personally - I honestly do not know you, so I can't come to any conclusion, other than your abs aren't going to impress me. I'm sorry... I like brains better.

My problem is that people who ARE doing well (perhaps you? My husband is a great example....) are constantly being told a bazillion different things based on the broscience of the shirtless know-it-alls. So instead of committing to something or being patient, things change every 60 seconds because so-and-so said this is how this works.... until someone else says something different.

But my biggest issue with all of it is the fact that people need to find what makes THEM happy. I do not eat perfectly. I do not have a perfect body. I'm not ripped. And yeah, I'm surely not the hottest thing nekkid.

But that said, I'm very happy with the size of clothes I wear, and the way I wear them. I am willing to give up the "perfect body" to have one that is okay but still have wine and sushi and a cheeseburger when I want. I'm not interested in having a six pack... and I'm tired of people telling me I should be.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you can't let people make you feel crappy - especially me - because a) we know nothing overall, and b) YOU need to live with YOU. If you are happy with what you are doing, what you have done, where you have gotten, that is the best and only thing you can ask for! There will always be critics no matter what you look like. So shake it off and keep it up. You've lost weight - that's fantastic, and that's very admirable as far as I'm concerned.

I am pretty sure you are giving him WAYYYY more credit to caring about what you think.

auroranflash

If someone has a nice enough body to have ripped abs and took a picture of it, I'm going to listen to their "broscience" - which actually got them results - before I listen to anyone else.

BrettPGH

And you'll probably need to use it on me. Because after a lifetime of being fat I have finally earned a body I'm proud of and I don't plan to hide it because it bothers you.

13 year old girl... bite me.

So, you got healthier, lost weight, got ripped, improved your self-esteem... for others to see? Hmm.

Nope. I did it to become a city fire fighter and save lives.

kaotik26

Can we get back on topic here? I'm here to learn something, not listen to people rant because dude said something insulting. We all have our opinions and ranting about it isn't doing anybody any good now is it? I couldn't give 2 F$&ks about anybody's pic's. Why? Because it's not me, it has nothing to do with my goals. If people can get so insulted over such stupid crap maybe you all need to grow a pair and work on your self-worth.

gchutson

Im irritated at you...your original message was great, **** the scale...i wanted to hug you and YAAAY:smooched:

then you had to insult my friends, and my eye candy...and i wanted to throat punch you.

Yeah. I get that a lot.

Just_Dot

Oh, SNAP, OP, you made MacPatti say "*kitten*"...you're in for it now!

Ha! Is it really cussing if I used an @ instead of an a?

I'm going to have to say yes.