I'm getting a little tired of this to be honest

peachyxoxoxo

Every single day I see multiple sarcastic posts mocking certain commonly held beliefs, ideologies, broscience claims, goals, etc. in regards to health and fitness. Maybe I'm the only one who feels this way but it's getting REALLY old. Like every time I open a thread and realize "...oh it's one of these..." I peace out.

Be honest people. There was also a time when you didn't know much about health or nutrition. Most people on MFP are here because they are trying to make a change. They are trying to learn more about how they can improve their health. No need to be snarky because someone brings up starvation mode, for example. We've all grown up hearing certain things about what's good and what's bad as far as nutrition goes so why be so mean when someone brings up one of those topics? You probably held those beliefs at one point in time yourself. I just think it would be nice if more people were willing to be supportive and tactful, instead of mocking. With the type of posts I mentioned above, I know you're just trying to have fun and all, but in my opinion, it's not kind or supportive at all. No one should ever be made to feel alienated by people who "know better" or know more, before they even get a chance to get started on their journey.

So, anyway, that's all I wanted to say. Thanks guys.

rompers16

Pressing the "like" button.

mrsRhughes

Definitely agree! Either comment with actual advice, or leave it alone if the post "bothers" or "annoys" you. Most people are genuinely asking questions and looking for information! I get tired of all of the negativity or "holier than thou" attitude.

Piggytummy

I learn new and seemingly stupid things everyday on this journey..apparently those people were just born fitness gurus...

cheshirequeen

big like. its like the old saying, if you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all.

ZugTheMegasaurus

I think people get snarky about it because there are a million damn threads about these things. You don't even have to use the search function, they are always somewhere on the first page of one of the message boards. It's annoying when people can't even put in two seconds of effort to glance at the forum before posting.

WickedBean

Stay out of the forums then.... its pretty simple.

mommanurse33

Well said. Thank you.

dlpnrn2b

Where is the LIKE ... You said it perfectly!!

peachyxoxoxo

I think people get snarky about it because there are a million damn threads about these things. You don't even have to use the search function, they are always somewhere on the first page of one of the message boards. It's annoying when people can't even put in two seconds of effort to glance at the forum before posting.

This is true. If people are new members though, maybe they just want to get an answer to their specific question now, as it pertains to their situation.

serhioramos

I totally agree. Seems like every advice thread I click on ends up being a bunch of people throwing needless insults around. No need to be rude, people.

Jules2Be

dont stop believin.......

TravisBurns

Im all for what you said. But just remember there are pricks and asshol*s everywhere you go

abbybean11

Stay out of the forums then.... its pretty simple.

That's kinda rude. I think she's right - MFP should be a place for supporting one another and being uplifting, not for tearing other people down.

Linda_Darlene

I agree with you!

peachyxoxoxo

Im all for what you said. But just remember there are pricks and asshol*s everywhere you go

Also very true. It's just a bummer that people intentionally act like that on a community that's supposed to be positive and supportive. I know it's the internet and people can say whatever they want, but weight/health is a very sensitive topic for a lot of people and I just wish this was one place where those who tend to mock were able to tone it down a bit.

Jacwhite22

Gotta state another viewpoint.......and not trying to start an argument....just want to say..........Some of these people might go about it the wrong way, but a lot of times the information is correct. There is a lot of stupidity on these forums that runs rampant.....would you prefer for them to go unchallenged and have people believe the nonsense?

peachyxoxoxo

Gotta state another viewpoint.......and not trying to start an argument....just want to say..........Some of these people might go about it the wrong way, but a lot of times the information is correct. There is a lot of stupidity on these forums that runs rampant.....would you prefer for them to go unchallenged and have people believe the nonsense?

I want the right information presented. Like I said before though, it could just be done more tactfully.

Treesy72

Yepp there's a little clique here, very much like in high school where they get a real kick out of making others feel stupid. But I've noticed it's the same people over and over, the majority of the people on this site are kind and gracious. :flowerforyou:

peachyxoxoxo

Well, no one needs to be sh!tting rainbows and glitter everywhere lol. Like I said I do close the threads that bother me. I just find it disheartening when I'm coming on these forums trying to get help and help others and that's the sort of thing I see all the time.

RuthSweetTooth

LOL Peachy, that's why you're friends with me and not Snarky Bean there. LOL.

WickedBean

Well, no one needs to be sh!tting rainbows and glitter everywhere lol. Like I said I do close the threads that bother me. I just find it disheartening when I'm coming on these forums trying to get help and help others and that's the sort of thing I see all the time.

That is why majority of the time I stay within my friends list, my news feed and the few select groups I belong too... sometimes there really is great information in the forums, but majority of the time the best information you can get is from the knowledge in your friends list.

Ashley_Panda

Aw but glitter hurts my feelings.

Jacwhite22

OK, Then I agree with you.....I thought you were saying everyone should **** rainbows and glitter...........Not all opinions are correct (or at least backed by any scientific evidence)

mwcraig34

Glitter is not a problem, but rainbows kind of hurt!

jetscreaminagain

Stay out of the forums then.... its pretty simple.

That's kinda rude. I think she's right - MFP should be a place for supporting one another and being uplifting, not for tearing other people down.

This right here highlights the problem. Even the "can't we all get along" crowd waits until they get their digs in before softening it with a "can't we all get along".

personally, I dislike the forums because people ask for advice and then argue why the good advice they're getting won't work. Or they go into a thread and declare that a certain body type (generally strong women) is "gross". Or they start and "hear Hear" an unending number of threads with "aren't we all here for the same reason? Why can't we be positive and kind and buy the world a Coke and teach everyone to sing?"

It has truly gotten to where the forums are pretty much useless. I've found friends in there, but now, I have enough friends that the collective wisdom and badassery on my newsfeed is sufficient. I'll sometimes hopefully follow a friend into a thread. More often than not the experience is disappointing like this one.

Here's the thing, though, many of my friends I requested when I saw them trying to provide solid and sound advice only to be shouted down by special snowflakes that perform sorcery and are able to build muscle at a deficit that brings their intake below BMR and when they're not even doing a proper muscle building strength program (to name one such controversy around here). The OP of those threads (not this OP per se) or loudest person on the thread refused to listen, but I did, and I learned and that's good enough for me.

Just because someone asks a question around here doesn't necessarily mean they are willing to hear the answer and be polite. More often than not the "supportive attitude" problem can be laid at the feet of the obstinate jerk that wants to ask but will not hear an answer other than the one he or she wants.

So the answer above that Princess BeNiceButICanCallYouRude up there objected to is actually a good one. I spend much less time in the forums and it seems to keep me happier that way. But the problem isn't people who answer in a manner that is snarky, its the entitled attitude of people who can be rude to others and then in the next beat complain about lack of support.

robin52077

special snowflakes that perform sorcery and are able to build muscle at a deficit that brings their intake below BMR and when they're not even doing a proper muscle building strength program

I love you.:smooched:

Capt_Apollo

Stay out of the forums then.... its pretty simple.

That's kinda rude. I think she's right - MFP should be a place for supporting one another and being uplifting, not for tearing other people down.

This right here highlights the problem. Even the "can't we all get along" crowd waits until they get their digs in before softening it with a "can't we all get along".

personally, I dislike the forums because people ask for advice and then argue why the good advice they're getting won't work. Or they go into a thread and declare that a certain body type (generally strong women) is "gross". Or they start and "hear Hear" an unending number of threads with "aren't we all here for the same reason? Why can't we be positive and kind and buy the world a Coke and teach everyone to sing?"

It has truly gotten to where the forums are pretty much useless. I've found friends in there, but now, I have enough friends that the collective wisdom and badassery on my newsfeed is sufficient. I'll sometimes hopefully follow a friend into a thread. More often than not the experience is disappointing like this one.

Here's the thing, though, many of my friends I requested when I saw them trying to provide solid and sound advice only to be shouted down by special snowflakes that perform sorcery and are able to build muscle at a deficit that brings their intake below BMR and when they're not even doing a proper muscle building strength program (to name one such controversy around here). The OP of those threads (not this OP per se) or loudest person on the thread refused to listen, but I did, and I learned and that's good enough for me.

Just because someone asks a question around here doesn't necessarily mean they are willing to hear the answer and be polite. More often than not the "supportive attitude" problem can be laid at the feet of the obstinate jerk that wants to ask but will not hear an answer other than the one he or she wants.

So the answer above that Princess BeNiceButICanCallYouRude up there objected to is actually a good one. I spend much less time in the forums and it seems to keep me happier that way. But the problem isn't people who answer in a manner that is snarky, its the entitled attitude of people who can be rude to others and then in the next beat complain about lack of support.

Swissmiss

Wonderful post !!!! Thanks. I hate it when someone is new to MFP and is asking a question that most of us already have the answer to. Let's give the newbies a break and help them out instead of chewing them out.

Capt_Apollo

when someone posts a picture of a female body build and says "i don't want to look like this, so i'm going to not do any strength training," you're going to get a snarky response.

when someone posts up "why am i not losing weight" and their diary shows a sub-1000 calorie, you're going to get a snarky response.

when someone severely overweight says they can't somehow can't eat more then 1200 calories, you're going to get a snarky response.

when someone asks what is the "absolute best way to build muscle/reduce back fat/get a thigh gap" you're going to get a snarky response.

but what i hate (and i try not to post in those threads) is when someone asks how to get the quickest results possible, like, 6 weeks or less. in a way they're saying that all the time and effort that i've been putting in for this last year mean nothing, that i could've done in just six week. because if i post in that thread, i'll get perma-banned because i'll fly off the handle.

apedeb09

I agree. Seems to be a few snobby people on here that like "tease" others like they're still in elementary school. Just what I've noticed. I think it's rude and definitely discouraging to the people who are just starting out.