Unsupportive....wwyd?
Shayzeepoo
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If you told your spouse that you wanted to lose weight, get into better shape and they immediately got on the defensive.. Saying you are doing it to cheat/move on/ect.. And totally have zero support for you, try to do things to make you go off track.
Start blowing up at you for the tiniest things.
Example.
You forget to take chicken out for supper, immediately they start yelling saying things like you're a fat,lazy tub of lard... Stretched out and better treat him better cause no one else will ever love you.. You're ugly and everyone else can see it, why even bother..
You have been with this person for well over 5 years and have kids together... WWYD?
Start blowing up at you for the tiniest things.
Example.
You forget to take chicken out for supper, immediately they start yelling saying things like you're a fat,lazy tub of lard... Stretched out and better treat him better cause no one else will ever love you.. You're ugly and everyone else can see it, why even bother..
You have been with this person for well over 5 years and have kids together... WWYD?
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id let him cook his own dinner from now on...0
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Prove him right....how U doin? *winks0
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id let him cook his own dinner from now on...
Well that's a given! Lol0 -
id let him cook his own dinner from now on...
This. Nobody should be talking to anyone that way. He should be supportive and understanding, not maniacal.0 -
Prove him right....how U doin? *winks
lmao0 -
Prove him right....how U doin? *winks
Haha, if only he were right about me.0 -
I'd probably kick him.....really hard!!0
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He's jealous and insecure.
Ask him if he would like to join you, a journey you two can do together. Not a competition, but a way to support each other.
If he says no, I guess just eff him.0 -
You're well pretty, and you've done so good with your weight loss, what's he on 'bout. :huh:
You shouldn't be treated like that, he shouldn't treat anyone like that, and I hope the kiddies don't witness it.
Whataaa jerk.0 -
In a way it's helping me I guess.. The more he says this crap to me, the fact that I will fail.. Makes me want to work even harder to show him that I can and will do this.0
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DIVORCE, you don't need to be with someone like that, no matter how long u've been together and it isnt a healthy environment for kids to grow up in anyway. A person cannot say those things to a person that they are supposed to love and care about0
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Holy crap. Like seriously?????????????????????????????????????????????????
You are a human, a individual, a person, and a mother that deserves RESPECT. If he says stuff like that you shouldn't even give him the time of day. That's absolutely uncalled for that you have accepted that verbal abuse. Walk away. Far far away.
My husband NEVER EVER says anything like that. Not even close. NEVER. If he ever did I would never talk to him again!!!! You are giving yourself and your children a horrible situation being with a loser dirt bag like that. You have NOTHING to prove to him.0 -
That is how my ex husband was and he would constantly put me down and was very verbally abusive towards me. Now that we are divorced, I can see how much happier I am not constantly having to apologize for every little thing I do. I can just be ME!!! We had a daughter together, but you should never feel like you have to stay in a bad relationship just because you have children. They will be much better off not seeing all the drama. I do not want my daughter to think it is okay for men to treat a woman that way. This is why I am setting a good example for her about how strong her mommy can be!!0
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and this is why i dont have a husband...0
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We aren't married.. Engaged.
And I think I might have to go find myself a wife :-P0 -
A**hole - tell him to support ya or you will prove him right and find a hottie to share your hot body with
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I'll Bet ya 5 bucks he is cheating on you and is afraid you will do the same.
He wants to keep you fat and insecure so he can continue.
Dump the idiot right now.0 -
He sounds jealous and insecure. Jealous in the fact that you're taking steps to become healthier, and insecure because he's worried you're going to find someone much better than him. Keep your head up, don't let anyone deter you from achieving your goals. You can do it0
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OMG get out now! I agree w/previous poster to get out, no one should be treated w/such disrespect and hulimilation! Please don't think he will change, they seldom do. My husband is great and supportive so there are still good men out there. Please get out!0
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I'll Bet ya 5 bucks he is cheating on you and is afraid you will do the same.
He wants to keep you fat and insecure so he can continue.
Dump the idiot right now.
^^^ This right here...
My ex said crap like that to me all of the time and guess what? he WAS cheating...0 -
My wife would give me a swift kick in the junk if I spoke that way to her!!! And I would deserve it.
Didn't his momma teach him some respect!??0 -
Ummmm that goes way beyond being unsupportive and enters the realm of verbal/emotional abuse! You should seriously consider looking for a way out of that relationship or at least some sort of marriage couseling.
Me personally, being from Mississippi, well, I know people... Cajuns... they'd never find that body! :devil:0 -
Oh yuck :-(
I'm just afraid that I won't find anyone else... I don't feel attractive, at all.
He is always home or at work.. Never more than 30 mins late... :-(
The thought hurts so bad..0 -
Been with him for 5 yrs already? I have a hard time believing this is the first time his extreme assholeness was showing.0
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Been with him for 5 yrs already? I have a hard time believing this is the first time his extreme assholeness was showing.
Denial on my part.. This isn't all that new, but it's way more often.0 -
I'd say get out! Seriously I wasted 12 years of my life with a jerk (my ex husband). It took him cheating on me twice to leave but honestly if he talks like that to you he has no respect for you... And from my experience if they are insecure and accusing you it may be because they aren't trust worthy themselves.0
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where do you live? I will be there ASAP , sounds like he needs a good butt whipping......0
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do you have anywhere (friend's) house you can go to for a while? He sounds like a jerk, maybe if you leave for a few days he'll realize how he screwed up and be more supportive and lose the attitude. Maybe you'll realize how special and beautiful you really are and realize that you really don't need him. Good luck to you!!!!0
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You deserve better. Period.0
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do you have anywhere (friend's) house you can go to for a while? He sounds like a jerk, maybe if you leave for a few days he'll realize how he screwed up and be more supportive and lose the attitude. Maybe you'll realize how special and beautiful you really are and realize that you really don't need him. Good luck to you!!!!
I fully endorse this. THere's no reason you should be living like this.0
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