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  • chunkydunk714
    chunkydunk714 Posts: 784 Member
    Oh yuck :-(


    I'm just afraid that I won't find anyone else... I don't feel attractive, at all.



    He is always home or at work.. Never more than 30 mins late... :-(


    The thought hurts so bad..

    You are a very pretty girl and dont ever settle in a relationship (especially an abusive one) for the fear of being single. Guaranteed....you will find someone else and when you do you will be happy that you did. Im sorry but stop wasting your time with this jerk. I highly doubt counseling will help him. He has issues that are way beyond anything you should handle.
  • kfesta52
    kfesta52 Posts: 98 Member
    I just posted this exact same answer on another thread. I'm seriously going to cut and paste the whole thing, because it totally applies here too:

    One of my business partners has the awesome quote..."Start as you mean to go." I love that, so honest to yourself.

    In other words, who you are right now is who you are, everyone else better deal with it. (translation: this would be your SO right now...)

    Another one; this might have been Oprah or Dr. Phil:

    "When people TELL you who they are, BELIEVE THEM!!".

    Either way, you've just gotten the info you need to understand where your life is going.

    Are you with it? Your choice after all.
  • cmcorn26
    cmcorn26 Posts: 253 Member
    DIVORCE, you don't need to be with someone like that, no matter how long u've been together and it isnt a healthy environment for kids to grow up in anyway. A person cannot say those things to a person that they are supposed to love and care about


    ^^^^^this. Its what I did to my husband who said the exact same things. I had two kids with him. They understand that it isn't a positive atmosphere and can see we are both happier apart.
    I wish youmluck, stay strong and remember...Mfp is here for you!
    Congrats on your new self!
  • cmcorn26
    cmcorn26 Posts: 253 Member
    Im sorry but stop wasting your time with this jerk. I highly doubt counseling will help him. He has issues that are way beyond anything you should handle.

    This is what a counselor told me. Also said he was probably emotionally abused and until he gets help, won't change.
  • meagsdionne
    meagsdionne Posts: 47 Member
    Been there, done that, didn't like it, left. Problem is I stuck it our for 15 years first, for the kids....who btw are doing so much better without him and are so much happier!!!! If he treats you like that, watch how he is with your kids. Don't give him chance after chance to make it right if you know in your heart he won't. If its just insecurity on his part though, and aside from this he's a good man, hubby and dad, maybe you can REALLY explain how he makes you feel and you guys can work it out.

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