Open Relationships?
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It is fine if you can take ALL emotions out of it. Ifyou and your partner can go into to it with NO emotions and just have sex then you can do it. If one of you can't do that then it wont work. You also have to make sure the third party is able to do that as well. You also have to make sure both of you are ok with bringing in either sex partner. You cannot always bring in a girl to please him. He has to be willing to bring in a guy for you as well.0
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I could never go there but to each his/her own. I could never be into somethin like that because I can't be sexual outside of a love relationship.0
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@paleo, i did, many times but looking back at it i wish i did it different. But still, i was single when i did that, i could never do it if i love someone let alone someone else does my partner.0
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What she saysmarriage is such an antiquated, archaic and out dated idea.
In your opinion. Some of us still find value in it -- and not just based on "government incentive."
If you don't want to get married, don't.. That's a different idea, but not a superior one.
And to some of us, sex isn't "just sex." It's a very intimate, emotional and vulnerable thing. Why would I want to share that with someone I don't love?0 -
I weep for the future of humanity.0
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exactly right.
aside from the weeping part..
but yeah, we're headed down a bad path, and have been for the past few decades0 -
exactly right.
aside from the weeping part..
but yeah, we're headed down a bad path, and have been for the past few decades
What has been will be again,
what has been done will be done again;
there is nothing new under the sun.
(I'm not a religious person, but this pretty much sums it up. Humanity has always been crappy, in the general sense.)0 -
fishing much??0
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I just love how everyone acts like non-monogamous relationships are some "new age" thing, and we are destroying the future of our species....
Sorry this has been going on for millenia!0 -
I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.0 -
I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
Do you talk to your kids and family about your sexual acts? Or do you keep that between you and who you are having sex with?
While my Husband and I are not in an open relationship, I don't really care if other people are. Not my business. Marriage was never about love, it was a business/property decision. I have my reasons for getting married, I wanted to, but I don't see it as something every one has to do anymore.0 -
My wedding vows said "Faithful unto you alone"...and I am
Mine too..and 21 years later, still sticking to it.
I agree it should be one girl/one guy - I'd never do this lifestyle. But these folks just are into it, so if it works for them ok...live and let live.
It could be a generational thing to. I'm pretty old school/romantic. These days its all about instant gratification and living for pleasure and these things are way more open than they used to be.
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I think you're right. The sixties were all about old school and romance. People "these days" are doing something "new".......:huh:0 -
i think it is 100% wrong. there has to be something deep down that is boring the both of you. i dont see how having sex with someone new will help a relationship or spice it up. all it does it take away from that said relationship and it is just plain wrong! cheating all the way, i dont care if the other person in the relationship knows or not. still messed up.
rather than have an open relationship why dont you spice things up between the two of you? or invite a 3rd person in? i dont see how going seperate ways and doing things without your spouse or loved one would work in the long run.
but like everyone else, this is just my opinion
do whatever makes you happy. for me to be happy, it is to be in a loving and commited relationship with my significant other! and he is amazing that i dont even need to think about things like that!
My relationship is plenty spicy. Us seeing other people has more to do with who we are as ourselves, and very little to do with who we are as a couple.0 -
Also I'd like to make this VERY CLEAR:
Your marriage vows can say WHATEVER YOU WANT THEM TO as long as there's a couple required words said. NONE of the required words include "forsake all others." If that is what YOUR vow said and what YOU beleive for YOUR relationship, more power to you that is NOT what my vows said nor what my renewal vows will say. Ever.0 -
really? Do monogamous couples discuss their sex life with their kids?I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.0 -
My wedding vows said "Faithful unto you alone"...and I am
Mine too..and 21 years later, still sticking to it.
I agree it should be one girl/one guy - I'd never do this lifestyle. But these folks just are into it, so if it works for them ok...live and let live.
It could be a generational thing to. I'm pretty old school/romantic. These days its all about instant gratification and living for pleasure and these things are way more open than they used to be.
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I think you're right. The sixties were all about old school and romance. People "these days" are doing something "new".......:huh:
I never said the sixties. I'm not saying that it is "new." But it is more out in the OPEN as far as it being acceptable in this day. And I said it COULD be a generational thing. I didn't state a hypothesis and am not interested in doing a lecture on anthropology. Forgive my ignorance. When I said old school/romantic, I am talking about a time when a men and women valued each other and treated sex as a sacred, spiritual and close personal relationship, only between them. Maybe there is no generation attached to that?
I still think that the more amoral and self-centered people get, the more of this will become normal. I personally don't like it but I say live and let live.0 -
Why is everyone assuming that all marriage vows are the same & that everyone's marriage has the same expectations? Unless you know specifically what one partner has vowed or promised to their partner, you can't assume an open relationship/marriage would automatically dishonor vows... Let's try to open our minds a little here & learn to be tolerant.0
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Also I'd like to make this VERY CLEAR:
Your marriage vows can say WHATEVER YOU WANT THEM TO as long as there's a couple required words said. NONE of the required words include "forsake all others." If that is what YOUR vow said and what YOU beleive for YOUR relationship, more power to you that is NOT what my vows said nor what my renewal vows will say. Ever.
If I remember correctly, you don't have to even say vows. You just have to sign a piece of paper in front of someone legally allowed to preside over a marriage who then also signs. And in some states, you have to have a witness or two. But you don't have to have any kind of ceremony.0 -
^yep!0
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I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?0 -
This opens the floodgate of religious opinion, but personally, I have known people do it and it causes nothing but anger, hurt, jealousy, and utter confusion for children involved. Usually people try them because one person doesn't want to commit and wants to play the field, but the other person doesn't really and just gives in to try and save things.
Personally, marriage was completely designed as a vow for better or for worse, two becoming one, as a covanent before God. That was the design. The legal part is for the government. If people don't want to take those vows, then they shouldn't take them. If you don't want to hold to those vows, get divorced. If people feel that they want to live by a differently designed relationship, live by a different design.
Typically people traditionally enter marriage with the idea that it is exclusive. "Married" and "discussing open relationship" raises red flags to me.0 -
I could never ever in a million years do this. Over my dead body.0
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When I go down on my wife I want to taste her. Not her mixed with some other dude, nawwwmean?0
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I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?
Exactly lol. None of my family or close friends needs or gets details of my personal and sexual relationship. What part of "mind your own business" do people not get?0 -
I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?
Exactly lol. None of my family or close friends needs or gets details of my personal and sexual relationship. What part of "mind your own business" do people not get?
MEEP!0 -
I made a commitment to my husband. He is the only man who I will be intimate with. I don't miss sex with other guys and I only want my husband. That is how I believe a marriage should be, especially since we have children.0
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When I go down on my wife I want to taste her. Not her mixed with some other dude, nawwwmean?
Yup.0 -
I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?
Exactly lol. None of my family or close friends needs or gets details of my personal and sexual relationship. What part of "mind your own business" do people not get?
yeah i can be in a traditonal marrige and still the kids an family do not need to know mommy dress up like a clown and spanks daddy with wet spaghetti noodles......not that i do that or anything0 -
Ohh baby that's just HOT. I love wet noodles and clownsI find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?
Exactly lol. None of my family or close friends needs or gets details of my personal and sexual relationship. What part of "mind your own business" do people not get?
yeah i can be in a traditonal marrige and still the kids an family do not need to know mommy dress up like a clown and spanks daddy with wet spaghetti noodles......not that i do that or anything0 -
I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?
Exactly lol. None of my family or close friends needs or gets details of my personal and sexual relationship. What part of "mind your own business" do people not get?
yeah i can be in a traditonal marrige and still the kids an family do not need to know mommy dress up like a clown and spanks daddy with wet spaghetti noodles......not that i do that or anything
No clowns Vixen.... just, no.
Really though, why hasn't this thread ended yet?0
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