Open Relationships?
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cant say that it would work for me!! im the jealous type and would always be thinking that i was being compared!
but each to their own as they say! it obviously works for some folk!!0 -
yeah i can be in a traditonal marrige and still the kids an family do not need to know mommy dress up like a clown and spanks daddy with wet spaghetti noodles......not that i do that or anything
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I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?
Pretty much. I don't have a lifestyle for my friends/family and a lifestyle that's a secret.0 -
I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?
Pretty much. I don't have a lifestyle for my friends/family and a lifestyle that's a secret.
That's strange to me... I have parts of my lifestyle that no one but my SO knows. I'd never share some personal/sexual things with family.0 -
Goes to show how different we all are. Some meet other couples and bring them to their bedroom, others are satisfied with one partner that continues to thrill them.
There's nothing to hide from friends and family about being in a monogamous relationship and loving it.0 -
Goes to show how different we all are. Some meet other couples and bring them to their bedroom, others are satisfied with one partner that continues to thrill them.
There's nothing to hide from friends and family about being in a monogamous relationship and loving it.
FYI, I am monogamous. I still don't think bedroom details need to be my family's business.0 -
Goes to show how different we all are. Some meet other couples and bring them to their bedroom, others are satisfied with one partner that continues to thrill them.
There's nothing to hide from friends and family about being in a monogamous relationship and loving it.
FYI, I am monogamous. I still don't think bedroom details need to be my family's business.
EXACTLY!! When we were monogamous, we didn't share details of our sex life with people....now we're not and guess what? We still don't share details of our sex life with people. I would be uncomfortable discussing sexual frequency, sex toys, size, etc with my mother, father, sister etc...and I suspect that my family would be uncomfortable hearing it. I had the same views when we were monogamous.0 -
I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?
Exactly lol. None of my family or close friends needs or gets details of my personal and sexual relationship. What part of "mind your own business" do people not get?
yeah i can be in a traditonal marrige and still the kids an family do not need to know mommy dress up like a clown and spanks daddy with wet spaghetti noodles......not that i do that or anything
No clowns Vixen.... just, no.
Really though, why hasn't this thread ended yet?
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The only problem I have with open relationship is that I myself would start investing myself emotionally with the other person I would be sleeping with. It's in my nature.
So are you prepared with your mate potentially falling for someone else? It's a bigger possibility once those doors are opened. And not just your mate-- but you.
If you're prepared to take that risk then hey it's your business. Yes, open relationships work, and yes they do fail as well-- but so do many things in life. No one can give you the answer you're looking--- if this is something you want to do then know the risks and be prepared to the outcomes (good and bad).0 -
I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?
Exactly lol. None of my family or close friends needs or gets details of my personal and sexual relationship. What part of "mind your own business" do people not get?
yeah i can be in a traditonal marrige and still the kids an family do not need to know mommy dress up like a clown and spanks daddy with wet spaghetti noodles......not that i do that or anything
No clowns Vixen.... just, no.
Really though, why hasn't this thread ended yet?
Oh my god, the clowns are going to eat me, help, help, the clowns are coming to eat me. *kitten* better bring a BIG fork.0 -
my wife and I have done open before and swinging. we like both just requires alot of honesty and understanding of the love the has has for the other.Swinging doesnt always end badly. I used to know an older swinger couple. But that is anecdotal.
I have good friends that have been swinging for 15 years, it works. just curious how many of us swing out of the closet?0 -
And no wonder why people think marriage is a joke these days.....0
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An open relationship and swinging are totally different things, I know people in both situations, and i don't think an open relationship works, this to me is where the couple can do what they want, so if out an a guy chats up the girl then she can say i'm in an open relationship and do what she wants, and so can the man. This can lead to feelings, relationships developing outside your own relationship causing problems, insecurity and i don't think it can work.
With swinging its something you do together, the couple i know go to clubs and do not do it with people they know, they don't even keep in touch with any of the people they meet, they do it once in a while, go have fun, leave and it keeps things exciting for them but no feelings get involved its just sex. they have a really good relationship and i don't think it would work for everyone and you have to have rules you are both happy with before you decide to give it a go, but it can be really good for a relationship if you both want to do it and are secure with each other.
Just saying : )
Going to clubs ( even swinging clubs) is not being in the lifestyle. In the lifestyle you keep in contact, and get to be friends. You have BBQ in the afternoon, then put all kids in bed and then have sex. You invite your "lifestyle" friends at your kid"s birthday party.
I never said anything about being 'in the lifestyle' i was just pointing out that an open relationship is different to swinging. Like i said my close friend does it and they have a very strong secure relationship, and they would never cheat on each other, they don't tell anyone except very close friends they do it because people assume they both just go around sleeping with everyone and are unfaithful, when they are not, its something they choose to do together.
They have a family and no they don't keep in touch with people or do anything at home around their children, because its their sex life, its the secretes they find exciting and thats their business.
Also swinging doesn't always mean full swinging, she never does anything with another man, she is bisexual and only sleeps with other women and he joins in and that suits them . I have never judged and i say live and let live they are not hurting anyone and have a great relationship, and you'd never guess or know they did it.0 -
I find it interesting that those who promote "the lifestyle" make sure their kids and family know nothing about it.
Why not? If you are so secure in your lifestyle, what's there to hide from those who are closest to you. Live out loud.
It's easy to come on a forum, hide behind anonymity and talk about hooking up with other couples.
This is a pretty weak argument does your family know all about your sex life?
Exactly lol. None of my family or close friends needs or gets details of my personal and sexual relationship. What part of "mind your own business" do people not get?
yeah i can be in a traditonal marrige and still the kids an family do not need to know mommy dress up like a clown and spanks daddy with wet spaghetti noodles......not that i do that or anything
No clowns Vixen.... just, no.
Really though, why hasn't this thread ended yet?
Oh my god, the clowns are going to eat me, help, help, the clowns are coming to eat me. *kitten* better bring a BIG fork.
Well, I'm glad I didn't see this before trying to sleep!0 -
do what you want ...0
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In the past, I was the "other" person in the swinging relationship. I enjoyed it all. I was single and didn't have to deal with the stress of my husband or wife being with another person. As a married woman I would NEVER persue this avenue of spicing up my marriage. I am a jealous person and feel that I am special enough in all ways that my husband does not have a need to spice it up.
To each his own though, just becareful...being honest and upfront about your fantasies is one thing..a whole nother can of worms doing it.0 -
I know a couple and it works great for them. They dont do together, but he has his and she has hers. The only rule is that don't hide anything.just curious, swinging isn't for everyone I hate the term but I do love my husband, but sex is just sex, just curious if anyone has been doing it and had it work for a while?0
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