Fiancés family....
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Gosh, I know... my in-laws were appalled that I wanted pentagrams at the bloodletting altar of my winter solstice ceremony! THE NERVE.
You are a bigot and way too young to get married. And you're a snotty bride.
This is awful... you make the rest of us witches look bad by mixing your judgemental attitude with references to magick.
Whoa, whoa, whoa...don't get your fancy panties in a bunch there..... I don't judge wiccan, pagan, JW or any other religion for that matter. I was proving a point, which is that the OP's attitudes are ridiculous - if you translate the ideal to another religion it becomes much more obvious.
Lastly, I used the term pentagram as opposed to pentacle (i.e. satanism as opposed to wiccan)...0 -
you need to call this wedding off!0
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bump0
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I'm sure you already realize that as Jehovah's Witnesses, they are not allowed to attend your non-JW wedding regardless of decorations. I'm certain you've already had mature discussions about the wedding plans, so I apologize for even bringing up this fact after you've obviously put a lot of thought into what your future will be like in compromise with the religious family.0
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Yes. EXACTLY!This is something that you and your fiancee need to work out long before you start planning a wedding. Crap like this destroys relationships and compromise and respect is going to be necessary on both sides.
Use this as an occasion to work out the issues of where you will spend time on your holidays, with whom, etc.
As a married couple, you can decide these things for yourselves, what is best for the two of you.
And you should work these things out from the get-go.0 -
Gosh, I know... my in-laws were appalled that I wanted pentagrams at the bloodletting altar of my winter solstice ceremony! THE NERVE.
You are a bigot and way too young to get married. And you're a snotty bride.
This is awful... you make the rest of us witches look bad by mixing your judgemental attitude with references to magick.
Whoa, whoa, whoa...don't get your fancy panties in a bunch there..... I don't judge wiccan, pagan, JW or any other religion for that matter. I was proving a point, which is that the OP's attitudes are ridiculous - if you translate the ideal to another religion it becomes much more obvious.
Lastly, I used the term pentagram as opposed to pentacle (i.e. satanism as opposed to wiccan)...
Huh, interesting how things in type can be interpreted in totally different ways. Can't speak for the person who posted it but I took that response to be a funny wink wink nudge nudge comment.0 -
your right they do need to get over themselves. (my birthday is Sunday as well i'll be 47) my ex put some stipulations on me for my wedding but not like that they are independent Baptist but luckily the only stipulation they put onme was becasue i was pregnant they said they would get upset if i wore white that was somethign i could live with so i wore a pale purple (like u would find in a babys room sort of like a prom dress. they were fine with that after teh wedding though they wanted me to give up my jeans because their belief was women wore dresses or skirts but didnt force me because being raised southern baptist they were at least happy i was wiling to go to church and would at least wear a dress to church and church functions so we were able to compromise with all thatas for u they just need to get over themselves this is your day not theirs0
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I think a lot people jump into marriage on the idea that they have a great relationship and they don't really fight and love to hang out with each other. In reality it's about SHARING a life together. Raising children TOGETHER, and SUPPORTING eachother. The extension of the family is so important to a successful unit. You have to be able to tolerate or feel like you can compromise and you have to come to some understanding, that the wedding isn't just YOUR day. It's his day too. Should it be all about him, No, but it's shouldn't be all about you either. If you don't talk about what faith your children will be raised, how much of a say each others family will have in your lives and just your goals for life, you are doomed to fail. Communicate and see if you really want the same things and be honest with yourself.0
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P.S. This is your third topic about your wedding, on a fitness/weight loss website. Maybe try a wedding forum?0
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Gosh, I know... my in-laws were appalled that I wanted pentagrams at the bloodletting altar of my winter solstice ceremony! THE NERVE.
You are a bigot and way too young to get married. And you're a snotty bride.
This is awful... you make the rest of us witches look bad by mixing your judgemental attitude with references to magick.
Whoa, whoa, whoa...don't get your fancy panties in a bunch there..... I don't judge wiccan, pagan, JW or any other religion for that matter. I was proving a point, which is that the OP's attitudes are ridiculous - if you translate the ideal to another religion it becomes much more obvious.
Lastly, I used the term pentagram as opposed to pentacle (i.e. satanism as opposed to wiccan)...
Huh, interesting how things in type can be interpreted in totally different ways. Can't speak for the person who posted it but I took that response to be a funny wink wink nudge nudge comment.
Me too0 -
A person who hates family decides to marry a man whose family is forbidden from associating with people outside of their religion?
I think you guys just don't appreciate the brilliance in her strategy here.0 -
If you don't love him enough to give up holidays for him, then you don't love him enough to get married.
I really do think you need to reconsider this whole situation. They take their religion very seriously. It is a huge part of their life. It's not something they're going to 'get over'. For them it's a way of life. Asking them to just 'get over it', is like asking a Vegan to eat meat at a BBQ because you're the one hosting the BBQ and you're only serving meat.
Respect goes both ways and I'd say you are being very disrespectful to expect them to just ignore their beliefs to suit you.0 -
This is a joke right? RIGHT!?! You obviously love christmas so why pick someone who hates it? Or whose family will give u **** for celebrating it? Or someone who yells at you when you show him christmas cards?....this is fake right?0
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a 20... you have kids... plural. Is it with this guy?0
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The MFP forums are always the right place to ask what your future husband's religion is
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Ok. Because Aj just yelled at me for showing him ornament name cards and was like " what's ornaments used for amber?" I was like... Christmas? And then he's like use your brain. My family will not come if there are ornaments or anything involving Christmas.
I'm like what the **** dude!!! You wanted a wedding in the winter. This is what's gonna be around.
Then I mentioned I wanted to do the wedding around Christmas (his family shouldn't have a problem with that... But if course they will...) because I want to see the Christmas tree lighting in Leavenworth. He's like you can go by yourself. Hmmm does this mean we won't celebrate Christmas either??? Because if not, im not getting married to him. Plain and simple. I need a supportive husband and father to my kids who will celebrate holidays and not make them feel like **** because they believe in Santa.
You really should talk to him and rethink your marriage.0 -
Gosh, I know... my in-laws were appalled that I wanted pentagrams at the bloodletting altar of my winter solstice ceremony! THE NERVE.
You are a bigot and way too young to get married. And you're a snotty bride.
This is awful... you make the rest of us witches look bad by mixing your judgemental attitude with references to magick.
Whoa, whoa, whoa...don't get your fancy panties in a bunch there..... I don't judge wiccan, pagan, JW or any other religion for that matter. I was proving a point, which is that the OP's attitudes are ridiculous - if you translate the ideal to another religion it becomes much more obvious.
Lastly, I used the term pentagram as opposed to pentacle (i.e. satanism as opposed to wiccan)...
Huh, interesting how things in type can be interpreted in totally different ways. Can't speak for the person who posted it but I took that response to be a funny wink wink nudge nudge comment.
Me too
Huh. Well, if that's the case I'll stand corrected and feel like a heel. I don't want to disrespect anybody (except people that are making really bad life-changing decisions, of course.)0 -
P.S. This is your third topic about your wedding, on a fitness/weight loss website. Maybe try a wedding forum?
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS! Now, do you mind giving me a spot?0 -
I was engaged to a Witness.
Get out. Get out now.
WAS! -excited-0 -
Gosh, I know... my in-laws were appalled that I wanted pentagrams at the bloodletting altar of my winter solstice ceremony! THE NERVE.
You are a bigot and way too young to get married. And you're a snotty bride.
This is awful... you make the rest of us witches look bad by mixing your judgemental attitude with references to magick.
Whoa, whoa, whoa...don't get your fancy panties in a bunch there..... I don't judge wiccan, pagan, JW or any other religion for that matter. I was proving a point, which is that the OP's attitudes are ridiculous - if you translate the ideal to another religion it becomes much more obvious.
Lastly, I used the term pentagram as opposed to pentacle (i.e. satanism as opposed to wiccan)...
Huh, interesting how things in type can be interpreted in totally different ways. Can't speak for the person who posted it but I took that response to be a funny wink wink nudge nudge comment.
No winking or nudging here... actually slightly offended thinking about "Satanists" celebrating a Pagan holiday, considering Pagans don't believe in Satan. But I digress... I'm not fancy, just don't think you should be so mean towards someone you don't even know. It's not unusual for 20 year old girls to have Disney-esque wedding ideals. Just sayin'.0 -
Ok. Because Aj just yelled at me for showing him ornament name cards and was like " what's ornaments used for amber?" I was like... Christmas? And then he's like use your brain. My family will not come if there are ornaments or anything involving Christmas.
I'm like what the **** dude!!! You wanted a wedding in the winter. This is what's gonna be around.
Then I mentioned I wanted to do the wedding around Christmas (his family shouldn't have a problem with that... But if course they will...) because I want to see the Christmas tree lighting in Leavenworth. He's like you can go by yourself. Hmmm does this mean we won't celebrate Christmas either??? Because if not, im not getting married to him. Plain and simple. I need a supportive husband and father to my kids who will celebrate holidays and not make them feel like **** because they believe in Santa.
Not to cause an uproar- but if you haven't even been with him long enough to know if he celebrates Christmas or not then why the he!l are you getting married so soon???0 -
Are you serious?? You are engaged and you haven't even talked about this? You are SO not ready to get married.Ok. Because Aj just yelled at me for showing him ornament name cards and was like " what's ornaments used for amber?" I was like... Christmas? And then he's like use your brain. My family will not come if there are ornaments or anything involving Christmas.
I'm like what the **** dude!!! You wanted a wedding in the winter. This is what's gonna be around.
Then I mentioned I wanted to do the wedding around Christmas (his family shouldn't have a problem with that... But if course they will...) because I want to see the Christmas tree lighting in Leavenworth. He's like you can go by yourself. Hmmm does this mean we won't celebrate Christmas either??? Because if not, im not getting married to him. Plain and simple. I need a supportive husband and father to my kids who will celebrate holidays and not make them feel like **** because they believe in Santa.
Im sorry but tue.0 -
I KNOW! There already IS a bun in the oven!0
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Gosh, I know... my in-laws were appalled that I wanted pentagrams at the bloodletting altar of my winter solstice ceremony! THE NERVE.
You are a bigot and way too young to get married. And you're a snotty bride.
This is awful... you make the rest of us witches look bad by mixing your judgemental attitude with references to magick.
Whoa, whoa, whoa...don't get your fancy panties in a bunch there..... I don't judge wiccan, pagan, JW or any other religion for that matter. I was proving a point, which is that the OP's attitudes are ridiculous - if you translate the ideal to another religion it becomes much more obvious.
Lastly, I used the term pentagram as opposed to pentacle (i.e. satanism as opposed to wiccan)...
Huh, interesting how things in type can be interpreted in totally different ways. Can't speak for the person who posted it but I took that response to be a funny wink wink nudge nudge comment.
No winking or nudging here... actually slightly offended thinking about "Satanists" celebrating a Pagan holiday, considering Pagans don't believe in Satan. But I digress... I'm not fancy, just don't think you should be so mean towards someone you don't even know. It's not unusual for 20 year old girls to have Disney-esque wedding ideals. Just sayin'.
Are you new here?0 -
Advice.
I know im young. I'll be 21 on Sunday. But is it considered self centered and unacceptable that I think my fiancés family should get over themselves about the holiday ****? His family are jahovahs witnesses. Which is fine. Im not a religious person. But If we have a winter wedding or any wedding for this matter that I can not have anything involving holidays (ornaments, candy canes, new years sparklers, valentines day hearts or cards, etc) and if I do, his family refuses to show up because it's against their religion to be anywhere involving holidays.
Is it wrong for me to get pissed off because I can't have holiday stuff (if I wanted it... On MY DAY) due to his family being religious???
Feedback would be great.
Hey your 21 go and see the world date other men have a life before you settle down. Remeber you can chose freinds but your stuck with the inlaws and the twisted stuff some may bring to the table, and once you have kids the twisted stuff only get worse and the kids are used as pawns. If they have the trouble now with the holidays then it will alaways be a issue. good luck to you,0 -
Can someone please pass me some popcorn?0
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I posted something about my (exhusband now) on a wedding forum about 8 years ago...everyone told me I need to slow down and it probably was not a good idea to get married. I thought everyone was stupid and didn't know anything about me because my situation was DIFFERENT....well we got married and 8 miserable years later got divorced. Thankfully no children from that marriage but I later saw all the red flags that I was too blinded to see at first.
Almost every girl is in love with the idea of having a fancy wedding and is blinded by anything else....stop planning your wedding, go to some premarital counseling so you can be sure that this marriage is going to work. I know that even at 25 things came up that i never thought to discuss before a wedding...counseling can help you with those things.0 -
I KNOW! There already IS a bun in the oven!
My thoughts exactly!0 -
I think it's only fair that you respect there religion but why would you have a holiday themed wedding?0
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Gosh, I know... my in-laws were appalled that I wanted pentagrams at the bloodletting altar of my winter solstice ceremony! THE NERVE.
You are a bigot and way too young to get married. And you're a snotty bride.
This is awful... you make the rest of us witches look bad by mixing your judgemental attitude with references to magick.
Whoa, whoa, whoa...don't get your fancy panties in a bunch there..... I don't judge wiccan, pagan, JW or any other religion for that matter. I was proving a point, which is that the OP's attitudes are ridiculous - if you translate the ideal to another religion it becomes much more obvious.
Lastly, I used the term pentagram as opposed to pentacle (i.e. satanism as opposed to wiccan)...
Huh, interesting how things in type can be interpreted in totally different ways. Can't speak for the person who posted it but I took that response to be a funny wink wink nudge nudge comment.
No winking or nudging here... actually slightly offended thinking about "Satanists" celebrating a Pagan holiday, considering Pagans don't believe in Satan. But I digress... I'm not fancy, just don't think you should be so mean towards someone you don't even know. It's not unusual for 20 year old girls to have Disney-esque wedding ideals. Just sayin'.
Are you new here?
Newly back to MFP but I'm all too familiar with the petty jabs people take at those they believe are inferior in order to boost their own self-esteem.0
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