Does everyone hate their job this much?
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forget all this "deal w/ your stress better" bull.
You're young, your ambitious, if the world isn't providing the job you want then CREATE IT. You control your destiny. find a way to get fired so you can get unemployment and then start working on creating the job you want. Good luck!0 -
I took me a year and a half to find a decent position when I graduated 3 years back. Had to deal with my fair share of boredom as well. I too was very dedicated in school and felt like the work I'm getting in real life is a bit below my level. Keep trying, don't give up. And if you can't find a position where you live, you might need to buck up and move. You've only been there for 3 months, hardly any company promotes that fast. Give it time and have patience. I'm finding the corporate world has a lot more red tape and politics, so things move slower than in college. Take on any extra projects you can in the meantime, volunteer yourself for harder work. Once they realize you can handle it you will have the opposite reaction- too much stress from too much work
I've been at this job for about 14 months and a few others before that.
Thanks for the suggestions.:flowerforyou:0 -
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I wish I could say "oh your just in a bad job and it'll get better!" but I'd be lying. I'm a registered nurse, put myself through school. This was what I always wanted to do? I hate it. I hate everything about it. I can do it with no problem, but would rather be doing anything. Can't leave because of money. Find a way to deal. Like guy said "lift heavy weights". Sadly I am slowing wishing my life away 12 hours at a time. 0
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I feel like things have been stuck in place for a lot of people for a long time (as in, a few years). My partner also lives hundreds of miles away, and him trying to drive to see me many weekends results in everyone being exhausted and stressed, so I can relate to that. My job has been on automatic pilot for a few years, since my elderly boss got more ill and I ran the place with no guidance (a law firm, and I am not a lawyer: HMM), and now since he passed away, his executor has not been so helpful (like, paying me or telling me what needs to be done). So, what I do is: do all the work necessary for the job, plus read other materials that do interest me, in the psychology of finance and all, and I just started working on an online accredited MBA, since if I am going to stand around being underemployed for a few more months at least, I may as well get another degree out of it, plus i started a little music publishing company since I know a lot of folks in the business and get together with them often enough that it is a fun thing for me, even if it isn't a moneymaker. I sing in a jazz and rock choir once a week too, to make friends and keep up my skills and stay in the music business even if stuck in boonie Vermont now. Maybe you can find stuff to do outside of work to keep your interests and optimism up, since there is all the new evidence about how happiness really helps get somewhere in business plus just helps in health etc. (new research through Seligman at UPenn and Achor at Harvard etc.) Plus, I save every friggin penny I get, other than paying bills and eliminating debt, so I don't feel stuck and hopeless: you can be stuck NOW, but it won't last forever. Good luck with your situation.0
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I wish I could say "oh your just in a bad job and it'll get better!" but I'd be lying. I'm a registered nurse, put myself through school. This was what I always wanted to do? I hate it. I hate everything about it. I can do it with no problem, but would rather be doing anything. Can't leave because of money. Find a way to deal. Like guy said "lift heavy weights". Sadly I am slowing wishing my life away 12 hours at a time.
I find that when I feel like this, trravelling to a third work country can really put things back into perspective. There is something to saying, "STFU". I think about my grandpa in thimes like this. Old people are more grounded. My grandpa would just say, you agreed to do the work for the amount they pay, right? And they are paying you, right? Then, what's the problem. Do you job and shut up. If you aren't happy, look for new work in your time off." Simple.0 -
Sit down and do a career plan. Do a google search with Myers Briggs (the free one) or anything else. They'll ask you to select the top 5 values. What that means is that you identify your top 5 values. The things that are most important to you as you go to work everyday. What drives you? Money, working with people, doing the right thing for people, serving people, understanding deals and how people do business, numbers and understanding how those numbers drive results? What's important to you. Having a family, working and getting recognized for it.
Then identify your personality profile. Using personality tests that ask extrovert/introvert, intuitive/logical, judging/feeling etc.
Then do your personal life. How much are you willing to do to get there? Are you willing to move to a place with crummy weather and lower costs to get to where you want to go? If not, no biggie. Just be honest and you will find your way.
Create a vision of where you want to be in 2 years, 5 years, maybe 10 years if you can envision that. Keep that picture in your head and if necessary print out those values and keep them somewhere where you will see them all the time.
If it makes you feel any better, career paths take a winding path. You never really have an end point. You just keep doing different things. The most important thing is that you are constantly engaged and active. Don't just become apathetic. You don't sound like that kind of person anyway. Good luck0 -
I actually love what I do and have great perks with my job:) There will always be something at every job that you don't enjoy but the good far out weighs the bad for me:) Healthcare is a great field to be in. The health care reform may be changing all of that though.......so........time will tell. For now.......I'm happy at work:)0
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I admit that i haven't read through every response so it may have been said... Have you thought about doing a blog on some topic that interests you in your spare time? Try to get some followers, get it recognized. I am not a blogger so have absolutely no experience in it but it sounds like it could be a good fit for english and marketing. There are so many social media positions popping up that it might be the way to go.0
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Where are my excuses at? I've been messaging the helpful people and getting even more help from them. You know what assuming does. Sorry for fighting back at the people who wrongly assume things about me!
Where did you get your English degree?0 -
Where are my excuses at? I've been messaging the helpful people and getting even more help from them. You know what assuming does. Sorry for fighting back at the people who wrongly assume things about me!
Where did you get your English degree at?
Fixed it for you. ;-)
If she has an English degree, is applying for writing jobs and anything on her resume, in writing samples or in her cover letter looks like that, that is the reason she isn't getting responses.
(Disclaimer: I haven't read through this entire thread.)0 -
A first job out of college is usually a very difficult experience. And it is getting worse. I didn't graduate into a good economy (I graduated around the beginning of George W. Bush's 2nd term). When I graduated undergrad, I was really surprised about how frosty of a reception I got from recruiters and companies. Right now, half of recent college graduates are unemployed or underemployed. Those 30 and under have taken the brunt of this recession from the employment perspective.
What the OP is experiencing is part of the new normal in the US.0 -
What the OP is experiencing is part of the new normal in the US.
Nothing "new" about it. This is what it's been like pretty much forever. Even for those of us old enough to have graduated and entered the workforce before the recession. When I was in high school during the Clinton administration, back when everything was "wonderful," it was all over the news every single spring that there were no jobs for new college grads and how awful it was.
You get the job you can, start networking, make your connections, prop up your experience and resume and go from there. I took crappy pay at a newspaper just to get my foot in the door. I was a single mother and it wasn't a living wage even if it had just been me I had to support. But I took it and I used it to upswing my career. Every subsequent job has been a huge pay increase from the last and new and better experience.
But I didn't get and I didn't expect the best job right out of school.
A woman I knew with a degree desperately wanted to get into publishing. It took her YEARS just to get an AA job with a publishing company and she was happy to have it. And that was in the 1990s.
Oh, yeah, and in the 1970s, my father with his master's degree drove a school bus for a while.0 -
You have to just keep applying. We had to move to a new state for my husband to find something new.
I HATED my job. Like, had horrific anxiety about going every single day, to the point I was literally (yes, literally) making myself ill. I don't deal with people well. I'd never had a problem until I was promoted to Human Resources. Guess what? They lied to me about what my job would entail, my immediate supervisor left around 9 months into the new position and I was left to take care of ALL of it AND then I had to train her replacement, who left after only 5 months! Then I was on my own again, taking care of all the HR stuff, doing schedules, handling unemployment claims, etc etc etc - and my 20 hr a week job went to 30. Then holiday hiring started and I had NO HELP. Just little old me to hire 80 people in 2 months time. Suddenly I'm working 40 hours a week (supposed to be part time, I had 2 kids at home one with Autism and is high needs), and then they slap me with ANOTHER project! And a new supervisor that I get to train, yipee!
Needless to say, I stay home now. I cracked. I was so blessed that my husband was able to find a position 6 hours away because going anywhere near that building has my anxiety so high that I start tremoring. I'm grateful that he makes enough that I don't need to work anymore (because honestly, I really did want to be a stay at home mom, but I had to work before). I might go back to something eventually, but it will probably be a work from home thing. I'm actually almost traumatized from my whole experience. I'd been in management before, and raised sales, kept a smooth running business. This last one was miserable. Just absolutely miserable. In fact, someone called from there this morning (I've been gone nearly a year), and I had a mini-panic attack when I picked up the phone (oh, and after I quit they kept calling for 2 months wanting advice and help!).
So, yes, I hated my job THAT much. All you can do is keep looking and applying. It's a TOUGH job market out there, especially if you don't have much experience.0 -
For those people recommending she look out of state - that is easier said than done. I have been through that, especially earlier on, and unless you do specialized work or have an uncommon skillset/experience, companies don't usually want to bother with you. Why would they, if they can hire someone locally with the same skillset?
Very true-almost every locality has a glut of people out of work or underemployed. There's no need to relocate people for most positions from the company's perspective.0 -
I really don't get this... what did you graduate in with all those awards that only makes you eligible for a secretary position?
B.A. in English/Creative Writing & Business with a certificate in Management.
ETA: Awards ranged from leadership awards to research awards.
BA in English explains a lot. A lot of BA's in English end up as baristas at Starbucks, even in better economic conditions, unless they can hack it at some high pressure, cold calling sales job.I want to work in marketing, which is where all my experience is at. My current job is in advertising and marketing but obviously not in the kind of position I'd like.
I guess if you don't want to teach but you want to do marketing then it looks like you should've gotten a marketing degree, not an English degree.
I work in a marketing capacity, and I would not recommend it as a field in terms of job prospects right now. There are a ton of out of work marketers and a typical halfway decent marketing job has 200 applicants for every opening.0 -
I really don't get this... what did you graduate in with all those awards that only makes you eligible for a secretary position?
B.A. in English/Creative Writing & Business with a certificate in Management.
ETA: Awards ranged from leadership awards to research awards.
BA in English explains a lot. A lot of BA's in English end up as baristas at Starbucks, even in better economic conditions, unless they can hack it at some high pressure, cold calling sales job.
I have a BA in English. I'm doing very well.
But if you have a BA in English and can't actually use proper grammar, it's useless.0 -
I really don't get this... what did you graduate in with all those awards that only makes you eligible for a secretary position?
B.A. in English/Creative Writing & Business with a certificate in Management.
ETA: Awards ranged from leadership awards to research awards.
BA in English explains a lot. A lot of BA's in English end up as baristas at Starbucks, even in better economic conditions, unless they can hack it at some high pressure, cold calling sales job.
I have a BA in English. I'm doing very well.
But if you have a BA in English and can't actually use proper grammar, it's useless.
Oh, lighten up. This is a web forum, not professional work. Unlike professional work, you can't spend as long reviewing and editing for minor errors here. Mistakes are natural. People ought to save the self-serving grammar Nazi routine for something that matters.0 -
All that matters on free forums is getting your point across0
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I wish I could say "oh your just in a bad job and it'll get better!" but I'd be lying. I'm a registered nurse, put myself through school. This was what I always wanted to do? I hate it. I hate everything about it. I can do it with no problem, but would rather be doing anything. Can't leave because of money. Find a way to deal. Like guy said "lift heavy weights". Sadly I am slowing wishing my life away 12 hours at a time.
I find that when I feel like this, trravelling to a third work country can really put things back into perspective. There is something to saying, "STFU". I think about my grandpa in thimes like this. Old people are more grounded. My grandpa would just say, you agreed to do the work for the amount they pay, right? And they are paying you, right? Then, what's the problem. Do you job and shut up. If you aren't happy, look for new work in your time off." Simple.
Well said....while I can respect not loving a job and doing it for the money; I hope you are showing a different side actually doing the work, because in that profession, people need some compassion.0 -
Where are my excuses at? I've been messaging the helpful people and getting even more help from them. You know what assuming does. Sorry for fighting back at the people who wrongly assume things about me!
Where did you get your English degree at?
Fixed it for you. ;-)
If she has an English degree, is applying for writing jobs and anything on her resume, in writing samples or in her cover letter looks like that, that is the reason she isn't getting responses.
(Disclaimer: I haven't read through this entire thread.)
It's an internet forum, @ssholes.0 -
I know so many who would be happy and grateful to have my job so I'm not trying to sound like the "entitled youth" of .
Well, you do.
Get over yourself. My first job out of college was in the medical records office of a doctor's office. I was 30 years old before I started making "real" money and you probably already make more than I make now.
Get over it. Pay your dues the way the rest of us did.
I agree.
I suggest having kids. That's what a lot of us have.
Work yourself to the bone in a thankless job, then you want to come home and unwind, but you have to make bottles and change diapers and watch Dr McStfuffinns if you want your kid to go to bed. Then work won't seem so bad. you will be come a shallow hull of a human being and fit nicely in the cogs of society.
Wow, first "I'm trying to beat the entitlement out of my teenager" (maybe you should have raised them to not feel entitled) now this ^^^^.... Maybe before you had kids you should have thought about the consequences of having them.0 -
I really don't get this... what did you graduate in with all those awards that only makes you eligible for a secretary position?
B.A. in English/Creative Writing & Business with a certificate in Management.
ETA: Awards ranged from leadership awards to research awards.
BA in English explains a lot. A lot of BA's in English end up as baristas at Starbucks, even in better economic conditions, unless they can hack it at some high pressure, cold calling sales job.
I have a BA in English. I'm doing very well.
But if you have a BA in English and can't actually use proper grammar, it's useless.
Maybe if you got the stick out of your @ss, you'd be doing more than blogging. I took a quick scroll through your blog and saw errors, by the way. Maybe you should fix those and then get the stick out of your @ss?
No one loves the holier-than-thou grammar Nazis of the world. Maybe you should find somewhere else for your brilliance! *bows down*
Good lord. I've won everything from an Academy of American Poets prize to journalism awards. I think I can write.0 -
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I have a BA in English. I'm doing very well.
But if you have a BA in English and can't actually use proper grammar, it's useless.
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I love this. Watch out though, she can't take any responsibility for her situation. It's never HER that's the problem.0 -
I have a BA in English. I'm doing very well.
But if you have a BA in English and can't actually use proper grammar, it's useless.
I love this. Watch out though, she can't take any responsibility for her situation. It's never HER that's the problem.
Aww, look! The *kitten* came back! Woohoo! Guess she got mad about the other thread where she couldn't take responsibility for not wanting to work out. BOO HOO! Poor you!
I'm SO sorry I'm not perfect like you guys.0 -
I love this. Watch out though, she can't take any responsibility for her situation. It's never HER that's the problem.
Hahahaha.:laugh:
You're a porn star?! This is too great. That's quite a success in life!0 -
Oh, and *kitten*! Just thought you should know you have some issues with commas. Would you like me to teach you? I have a 100% approval rating on my writing from 14 out of the 14 states I've worked with.
rml_16! Why did you post earlier that you hate your job? Huh. What a coincidence! First you hate it, now you love it.0 -
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