Does everyone hate their job this much?

xxthoroughbred

Honestly, it sounds like you're used to being a special little snow flake for being the best at everything and what bothers you that you're not getting that recognition anymore.

Part of having a job and moving up within a company is paying your dues and showing some character in the process. That means sometimes you have to put up with the less desirable duties and not whine about it. You haven't been at this job long -- if you don't like it -- keep looking but don't complain because there are at least 700 people who WANT your job and wouldn't whine about not getting promotions within their first year.

Also, yes: LOTS OF PEOPLE HATE THEIR JOBS.

:drinker: high five...took the words right outta my mouth.

Sorry, I don't think I'm a special little snowflake. I was harrassed by professors during college for not being good enough. I've been told my entire life I'm not good enough. I was nowhere near "recognized" during college. I got some awards and busted my *kitten* for my grades but most people hated me because I'm quiet and they see that as stuck up.

Also, can you read? I'm not whining about not getting a promotion. I'm saying I hate my job and it's causing physical stress. I've gotten raises since I've been here. That has nothing to do with it you. Go read a book!

wareagle8706

I really don't get this... what did you graduate in with all those awards that only makes you eligible for a secretary position?

B.A. in English/Creative Writing & Business with a certificate in Management.

ETA: Awards ranged from leadership awards to research awards.

OOOOHHhhhh. Ok. Makes sense. No offense. So what were you planning to do with your degree once you graduated? Writer, English teacher?

I love when everyone thinks English is a bull**** major. I know several who are making six figures. I've applied to anything from account management to marketing communications.

So then why aren't you applying to those jobs that your friends are making 6 figs at?? And it doesn't surprise me that you aren't going to get a job as an account manager or something in marketing when you have an English degree.

I'm not saying it's a bullsh*t major, I'm just saying good luck in this economy. So you didn't answer the question though, are you wanting to be an English Teacher or a writer or an editor or what???

Maybe you should just go back to school for a teaching certificate or something. Substitute teach while you're in college and then go find a job at a school.

SoDamnHungry

While I feel for you, if being bored at your job is the worst problem, stop being so dramatic and realize it could be a lot worse. I understand that it isn't what you want to do, you feel bored and unfulfilled, but just keep reaching for the dream in the meantime. You can do it, but it will take time. So many people out of school now can't even get jobs, and many of the ones with jobs aren't in their field.

It took me almost three years out of school to get a graphic design position because all of the jobs started disappearing when I graduated due to the economy. I worked as a telemarketer to pay the bills and people yelled at me on the phone all day. I cried every night before I had to go to work. But at least I had a job, and I didn't quit until there was another way for me to make income.

_skittybang

As much as I dislike them, try a recruiter. Free for you and they work to find you a job so they make some $$. Maybe your resume needs sprucing up - that's something an agency can help you with - making you appear more marketable. They also can help with interview skills. I interview quite a few people - 1st step is they better look good on paper. 2nd is to find out if the person on paper is real and 3rd is personality. Good luck.

xxthoroughbred

So then why aren't you applying to those jobs that your friends are making 6 figs at?? I'm not saying it's a bullsh*t major, I'm just saying good luck in this economy. So you didn't answer the question though, are you wanting to be an English Teacher or a writer or an editor or what???

Maybe you should just go back to school for a teaching certificate or something. Substitute teach while you're in college and then go find a job at a school.

Those 6 figure jobs are the ones I hope to be getting in 30 years, not now. They require much more experience than I have now. I'm just saying that it's not a hopeless major where the most I'll ever make is 35k.

I want to work in marketing, which is where all my experience is at. My current job is in advertising and marketing but obviously not in the kind of position I'd like.

I have no interest in teaching and don't want to go back to school for something I already know I don't want to do.

bzmom

I agree with this statement.

However one think that popped out to me was when you mentioned you are not a "peoples person" Im sorry but for most positions out there you need this unless you are enclosed in a room filling out pappers..... No but seriously this is a very important thing to have. I myself have assisted my boss in interviewing and hiring of our staff and let me tell you they can have the book smarts but if they cant deal with people its over and we are stuck behind computers for most of our work time figure that one out.

Someone sounds a bit entitled.

pawnstarNate

sign of the times.....thats why I was happy taking over the family business when given the opportunity.....everybody loves a Pawn Shop! lol well...except the ones who think their $1000 HDTV is worth at least $975 to pawn it and walk out mad when I tell them I will loan them $300 on it. :laugh:

Yes...I love my job...one of the lucky ones! Plus it gives me time to goof off on MFP and other sites during slow periods.

zenchild

Been there. I had a master's degree and was working in retail. Mini panic attacks, anxiety, crying, feeling trapped... Done all of it.
When you get home every day, get online and start looking for jobs. Spend more times on smaller sites and less on the big sites. Career Builder and Monster are flooded and you get lost in the crowd. I got my job from Craigslist. If you're looking you'll at least feel like you're doing something to get out of your current position.
Go to Barnes & Noble or Amazon and pick up The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. It helped me quite a bit. It teaches you how to deal with panic attacks and anxiety.
If your health plan covers it, go to a therapist. That's another thing that helped me.
When you have a slow period at work, ask if anyone needs help with anything. It will give you something to do and show the higher ups that you're ready for a challenge.
I've been there. I've been in my new job for almost 2 years now. It's a great feeling to go to work and not dread every second.

tinalatina

I have to say that working is a love/hate relationship. Probably over 80 % of people hate or dislike their job because its not really want they want to do...or better yet it doesnt make them happy. I dont know what type of field you are in but I used to work at a recruiting office and what I saw most of the time was frustrated college graduates because they could not get positions they wanted or get positions at all. There are alot who are going through what you feel I am sure of it. It is unfortunate but in this world it is sometimes not about the skills you have learned but who you know....also tenure or experiance in a position. I do not have a bachelors degree, just a lousy associates but I worked my way from the bottom to here... Its a supervising position and is alot of work and at times stressful.

Hang in there... Dont let work suck you into a paranoid and stressful state. Things I try to do is keep work at work...I dont bring it home, dont stress about deadlines when im not at the office and forget all work things related as soon as I walk out of the office. That and hitting the gym regularly to blow off steam works for me.

Good luck my friend you will get through this....

Jtorres326

BA in English? No wonder....What was your endgame plan? Because it's probably going to take more schooling. To teach you're going to need an M.A, for creative writing an MFA. Editorial job? Experience probably doing exactly the mind numbing thing that you are doing now. But you're being intentionally vague for who knows what reason. I say that from experience because I started as an English major but then was like: WTF am I going to do with a degree in English? Then got a useless degree in psych LOL

_Timmeh_

It's called real life.

wareagle8706

So then why aren't you applying to those jobs that your friends are making 6 figs at?? I'm not saying it's a bullsh*t major, I'm just saying good luck in this economy. So you didn't answer the question though, are you wanting to be an English Teacher or a writer or an editor or what???

Maybe you should just go back to school for a teaching certificate or something. Substitute teach while you're in college and then go find a job at a school.

Those 6 figure jobs are the ones I hope to be getting in 30 years, not now. They require much more experience than I have now. I'm just saying that it's not a hopeless major where the most I'll ever make is 35k.

I want to work in marketing, which is where all my experience is at. My current job is in advertising and marketing but obviously not in the kind of position I'd like.

I have no interest in teaching and don't want to go back to school for something I already know I don't want to do.

Well 6 figures is a lot of money.... but when it takes you 30 years to get there then it's really not. I could be making that in less than 10 in my current job if I stay here.

I guess if you don't want to teach but you want to do marketing then it looks like you should've gotten a marketing degree, not an English degree.

But anyway, i agree with other people on here. If that's all that's wrong in your life, praise God cause it could be a lot worse. I understand hating your job. I've cried in the bathroom because of my job before too. It's a culture shock to come out of college and into the real world and realize how different it can be. Just make sure you fill your free time with friends, family, and hobbies you enjoy. And in the mean time find a job that you would like better, even if it's a job that most people would consider meanlingless. Maybe since your'e on MFP it means you're into fitness. Study and become a certified personal trainer then get a job doing that. It has the potential for some good cash.

angryguy77

Should have drank more in college.

yoovie

Im madly in lust with my job.

xxthoroughbred

Thanks to the encouraging folks offering help.

To those who say I sound like I feel entitled...well yeah, maybe a little. But I also know I have this one life and I'm not going to live it hating 80% of my existence. If that's entitlement, I'm glad!

drthipah

Sweetie, I think you need to move to a better area where you can find a job. I had the same thing and now I have a job that I'm never bored at, but it took me years to get and build my resume to get where I am now. I was a secretary at 2-3 jobs, so hang in there, but seriously think about moving. Oh and ignore all these people who aren't nice, they have nothing better to do but pick on people on here.

xxthoroughbred

BA in English? No wonder....What was your endgame plan? Because it's probably going to take more schooling. To teach you're going to need an M.A, for creative writing an MFA. Editorial job? Experience probably doing exactly the mind numbing thing that you are doing now. But you're being intentionally vague for who knows what reason. I say that from experience because I started as an English major but then was like: WTF am I going to do with a degree in English? Then got a useless degree in psych LOL

Writer, teacher and editor aren't the only jobs for English majors. Many work in advertising and marketing and business and anything else you can think of.

Also, is a business degree not worth anything to you guys? Everyone's focusing on the English.

How am I being intentionally vague??

DaughterOfTheMostHighKing

nope! I love my position in the Body of Christ!!!!

nicolio8699

unfortunately good ol xanex has been the only thing keeping myself from crying in the bathroom everyday at work! that being said---most people don't want to take the benzo-train---but know that it is typical and just keep applying and eventually you'll find something better and more suited to your education, honey! sorry my news isn't more uplifting, but if everything sucks, everything can only get better;)

<3n-

xxthoroughbred

Well 6 figures is a lot of money.... but when it takes you 30 years to get there then it's really not. I could be making that in less than 10 in my current job if I stay here.

I guess if you don't want to teach but you want to do marketing then it looks like you should've gotten a marketing degree, not an English degree.

But anyway, i agree with other people on here. If that's all that's wrong in your life, praise God cause it could be a lot worse. I understand hating your job. I've cried in the bathroom because of my job before too. It's a culture shock to come out of college and into the real world and realize how different it can be. Just make sure you fill your free time with friends, family, and hobbies you enjoy. And in the mean time find a job that you would like better, even if it's a job that most people would consider meanlingless. Maybe since your'e on MFP it means you're into fitness. Study and become a certified personal trainer then get a job doing that. It has the potential for some good cash.

Most folks I know in marketing look for English degrees, not marketing ones. Same with the advertising folks I've spoken to.

I will be happy to make 40k one day.

slackerwoman

To answer your question, No. It really isn't that bad. I have a great job. Its kinda boring sometimes but I will take boring compared to high-stress any day. Its flexible. And it pays well.

I would tell you to find another job but it sounds like you are doing everything you can to find one. As for working in management...I used to be like you. Motivated and wanting to climb the ladder. And then I did. And I was stressed out and hated it and felt a lot like you feel right now. But keep working until you get there. However, the grass is not always greener on the other side.

And it does sound like you need to find a way to relax at least until you do land your dream job. Try some St. John's Wort and some meditation. You would be surprised at how well it works.

Briko3

If you want to be good at marketing and get out of your "shell" since you're quiet, why not take a sales position. They're not hard to find and you'll probably learn more about marketing along the way.

_Elemenopee_

This is life. We make choices. They affect other choices leading to more choices.

All we can do is choose wisely. Otherwise, suck it up, Nancy!

NicoleisQuantized

I see that you received a BA in English. Unfortunately, you may have a difficult time finding a position you enjoy.

I have colleagues and friends with an MSc or PhD (or both) in Chemistry or Physics who could not find a position for a year. It is a difficult job market, and the fact that you found paid work within three months is rare.

Returning to school for postgraduate work may make you more appealing to potential employers. (Journalism perhaps?) If you do not want to go back to school, it may take awhile before you land your ideal job.

nicolio8699

Im madly in lust with my job.

i'm madly in lust with yr sexy azz! lol <3n-

cad39too

I know you don't want to hear that the economy is in the toilet and any job is a good job but -:ohwell:

I generally enjoy my job, but at the moment I love it. Why? Because it has slowed down a bit work wise just lately, which allows me to go down to our gym and lift most days

If your company has a gym or there is one close to where you work, see if you can make arrangements to get out of the office and go workout - I get in at 9, put in a hour and deal with anything urgent, by 10 I'm down in the gym by the time I have worked out and showered etc it's almost lunchtime half my day is done. Also if you are working an 9-10 hours day (I think that what you put) and it's a total mindnumb, see if you can reduce your hours.

Ultimately though, you are overqualified for the work you are doing, and that is not going to change. I don't know your personal circumstances, but if it was me, I wouldn't stay where I wasn't happy especially if it is making you stress and have panic attacks! WTF! If you can afford to leave - do it. Don't just walk, but see if you can reduce your hours and use the additional time to keep applying for jobs in a field you really want to work in. Don't settle if you don't have to!

xxthoroughbred

If you want to be good at marketing and get out of your "shell" since you're quiet, why not take a sales position. They're not hard to find and you'll probably learn more about marketing along the way.

I may try that. That's one I haven't applied for.

I just love when people turn against the introverts of the world. Most research points to introverts being the best for companies.

xxthoroughbred

I should also point out this isn't my first full time job. I mean, it's my first "real world" job straight out of college, but I've worked full time at other places before and loved it. So it's not really the shock of the real world that's getting to me.

Jtorres326

BA in English? No wonder....What was your endgame plan? Because it's probably going to take more schooling. To teach you're going to need an M.A, for creative writing an MFA. Editorial job? Experience probably doing exactly the mind numbing thing that you are doing now. But you're being intentionally vague for who knows what reason. I say that from experience because I started as an English major but then was like: WTF am I going to do with a degree in English? Then got a useless degree in psych LOL

Writer, teacher and editor aren't the only jobs for English majors. Many work in advertising and marketing and business and anything else you can think of.

Also, is a business degree not worth anything to you guys? Everyone's focusing on the English.

How am I being intentionally vague??

You said "certificiate in business management". That just means you took some classes on the side and earned a useless sheet of paper in addition to your degree. ListenI'm not trying to be mean and I'm sorry if I come out harsh. I really am trying to help but I don't always use the softest language and I apologize.

I used to be a vocational consultant (a very good one) and I have a bit more realism as to what counts where. You want to do marketing you get an MBA or a degree in either public relations or marketing to start. English major to marketing is a bit of an occupational stretch but it is doable. But you must get experience in marketing NOW. The wave of the future in marketing is social media. Learn to advertise through all the social media sites and even creating apps because this is the future of marketing. It sucks but it will take time and sadly, more education. Whether that education comes through schooling or through crap jobs or volunteerships, it has to come from somewhere. I do want to be helpful, so feel free to friend me and message me if you like. I would love to help do a vocational profile with you and find ways to steer you in the right direction where you are.

sobriquet84

it doesn't sound like work is your problem. transitioning to another position is not going to solve what you're going through right now. you may temporarily feel better, but unti you get to the root cause of your issues, you're never going to be happy no matter what you're doing.

and on that note, 700 applications is called "flooding the market". don't do that.

and in closing... go out and get drunk for crying out loud. maybe you just need to get off the grid for an extended weekend. you are wound incredibly tight.