A Happy Marriage = Wife in the Kitchen

MassiveDelta

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/9572187/Couples-who-share-the-housework-are-more-likely-to-divorce-study-finds.html

Couples who share the housework are more likely to divorce, study finds
Divorce rates are far higher among “modern” couples who share the housework than in those where the woman does the lion’s share of the chores, a Norwegian study has found. In what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.

Discuss

PhotogNerd

It's believable. I'm okay with doing a bigger portion of the housework. Only because I don't currently work a job outside of the home. If I worked full time and had to come home and do everything by myself, I'd be so pissed off.

hellnokitty

I always think these statistics are silly- people who, for cultural or religious reasons, believe that women are supposed to subservient baby machines/house maids for the men in their lives probably also have religious and cultural objections to divorce.

Mystery solved.

BrettPGH

Hunh.

I always try to help out. I'm never comfortable if my partner is doing something in the kitchen/around the house and I'm not.

At the same time I've never been married.

Looks like I should stay on the couch...

fcp1234

Thats BS.
If hubby wants me to have energy for him when the sun goes down, he better help.

Faintgreeneyes

I thought it went something like "if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman you wife"

MrsLVF

It's believable. I'm okay with doing a bigger portion of the housework. Only because I don't currently work a job outside of the home. If I worked full time and had to come home and do everything by myself, I'd be so pissed off.

I agree with this statement!

shoppingmaniac86

i guess ill go in the kitchen i just cant promise you i wont burn down the house

ZombieChaser

I can only speak for myself, but my last relationship was built like this, and I just ended up resenting him for not pitching in equally and wanting to spend time with me in the kitchen - and I love to cook, so that was never an issue.

But, to each their own...the next one will actually WANT to help me and be my sous-chef

PittShkr

SarahCW1979

I do the lions share of the household chores, Im a stay at home mum though both boys are at school during the day. My husband works 14 hour days as a prison officer... I wouldnt dream of asking him to pitch in unless it was his day off and he offers (he does, really) Im an old fashioned type I guess, it just doesnt bother me in the slightest.

laughingdani

Maybe these couples should be doing less housework and more.....bow chicka wow wow

BrettPGH

I thought it went something like "if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman you wife"

Always loved that song.

"Hey man I saw you wife the other day! Yeah and she ugly!!"

"Yeah but she sure can cook!"

kaylaandthestarcatcher

No.

And that's all I have to say.

LorinaLynn

I always think these statistics are silly- people who, for cultural or religious reasons, believe that women are supposed to subservient baby machines/house maids for the men in their lives probably also have religious and cultural objections to divorce.

Mystery solved.

Thanks for putting my thoughts into words.

Just because someone's not divorcing doesn't mean their marriage is good. Maybe they just feel they don't have options.

I love being married, but I don't see high divorce rates as bad things. Being stuck in a bad situation is way worse than divorce.

ElicitDreams

I thought it went something like "if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman you wife"

You're fantastic

rml_16

That's because no matter how many times he does the dishes, he doesn't put them in the dishrack the right way!!!!!

Hellbent_Heidi

I always think these statistics are silly- people who, for cultural or religious reasons, believe that women are supposed to subservient baby machines/house maids for the men in their lives probably also have religious and cultural objections to divorce.

Mystery solved.

I was thinking this, but couldn't have said it better :drinker:

Shannon2714

I am entirely ok with this IF the wife is a housewife or stay-at-home-mom. However, if both partners work full time, then they should share the housework equally.

krithsai

Meh whatever...my husband can never sit on the couch and laze around if I am in the kitchen or doing things around the house. And no, I am not obssessive about how he does things...if he doesn't put the spice jar back in the right place, when I go in and can't find it the next time, I just put it back. Simple enough.

Kerri_is_so_very

What man would divorce a woman doing the MAJORITY of the work??? hmmmmm

Rubie81

I thought it went something like "if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman you wife"

hahahaha! Love this song! You rock!

carriempls

I always think these statistics are silly- people who, for cultural or religious reasons, believe that women are supposed to subservient baby machines/house maids for the men in their lives probably also have religious and cultural objections to divorce.

Mystery solved.

Bingo!

From the same article:

But the deeper reasons for the higher divorce rate, he suggested, came from the values of “modern” couples rather than the chores they shared.

“Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage” as being less sacred, Mr Hansen said. “In these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially.

They can manage much easier if they divorce,” he said. Norway has a long tradition of gender equality and childrearing is shared equally between mothers and fathers in 70 per cent of cases.

Divorce rates started to increase in the west when women were able to support themselves and their kids without a husband - both because divorce laws changed to provide alimony and child support and because women were increasingly able to enter the workforce and make a decent living.

tegtmeyerd

That's because no matter how many times he does the dishes, he doesn't put them in the dishrack the right way!!!!!

Agree!! I don't let him touch the dishes, but he does take out the trash instead.

I also got tired of doing his half of the cleaning, so I hired a cleaning company. Best decision ever!!

Deipneus

Oh, boy. A study!

kmacgera

That's because no matter how many times he does the dishes, he doesn't put them in the dishrack the right way!!!!!

D*mn his hide, he's fired!

SoDamnHungry

Agreeing with the people who pointed out that it's because women can support themselves. Shared housework happens more in instances where the women hold a job. They're much more likely to divorce if they can support themselves.

crazyellybean

Thats BS.
If hubby wants me to have energy for him when the sun goes down, he better help.

Amen!

AmyFett

My husband and I share most everything around the house. Only thing he does only is take trash out and laundry (to a laundromat) mainly because he does it right after work on Friday mornings and it's easier for him to do without the kids than it would be for me. I am really the main one that cleans the house. We take turns with dishes and the cat boxes since we have 4 cats. We also even take turns changing poopy diapers. I feel it's only fair. We go shopping together as a family, even with our two kids. It's much easier this way, and I can definitely understand how splitting things up like this would be good for the marriage. Unless of course, the woman doesn't care and lets the guy run her life.

Sassybecky

Correlation does not equal cause and effect.

al369

I always think these statistics are silly- people who, for cultural or religious reasons, believe that women are supposed to subservient baby machines/house maids for the men in their lives probably also have religious and cultural objections to divorce.

Mystery solved.

Thanks for putting my thoughts into words.

Just because someone's not divorcing doesn't mean their marriage is good. Maybe they just feel they don't have options.

I love being married, but I don't see high divorce rates as bad things. Being stuck in a bad situation is way worse than divorce.

Yes to all of this! Especially the last sentiment about a bad marriage being worse than divorce!