A Happy Marriage = Wife in the Kitchen

FeebRyan

Everyone is different

Some people need a 50/50, some people prefer to do a job each - e.g one stay at home - one go out and work.

The important thing is to find out what YOU want before marrying someone and making sure they can offer you that.

Most importantly, marry you're best friend, marry someone because you LOVE them and can tell them anything, not because they fit some mould of what a man/woman should be.

Marry your 'other' . Not the media or a study or your mates idea of what your 'other' is.

Mr_Bad_Example

A happy marriage = lots of time in bed.

Someone should take up that study.

This is why there is not a happier wife in the world than I. Or me.

Let's apply for a grant and get to work on this study... what do you say?

perdie7

I spent most of my married life as a "stay at home", then I had to go back to work for 3 years. While I was at home I did the majority of the house work. When I had a "job" I did way less than 1/2.

After my experience in both situations is that When I was at home full time, and did most of the house work, I had more emotional and physical energy left to devote to my husband and our relationship. when I worked and then came home, and had to deal with even the small amount of housework and mothering that I did, I still had almost nothing left to give my husband.

Melroxsox

if i was a sahm and my husband worked all day long i sure as hell would do all the housework and cooking!

Melroxsox

*WARNING: What you are about to read is politically incorrect.*
I DREAM of being a wife and stay-at-home mom. It's what I feel called to do. If I have a husband who is willing to work the hard, long hours necessary to support a family, I would consider myself so, so blessed to marry a man like this. I would be absolutely delighted to take care of every last bit of housework, cooking, cleaning, and anything in between. There's a huge fallacy behind the "50/50, Husband better do his share of housework" mentality, especially if the wife is a SAHM... If my husband worked hard every day to "bring home the bacon," I would consider that to be much more than " his 50%," and would be happy to treat him like a king. I understand that there are extenuating circumstances-unemployment, disability, etc.- that would require SAHM's to go to work. I'm not judging.

i agree! i would love to be a stay at home mom! all chores and "duties" (or treats;))along with it! i also get happiness out of caring for others so its a win win situation!

AmberLeighD

How could anybody be happy with "wifely duties"? Cooking, cleaning and taking care of kids?

I couldn't be more happy being a wife and mother. Fulfilling the wifely duties. I want to add 3-4 more children as well to my unit. I love being able to nurture my child, to have the respect I do from my man for holding down the home-front. The thank you I get from my man after dinner, to the hugs and kisses from my daughter. The "your the bestest cook ever mom" that she tells me whenever I/we bake something.

I think your remark wasn't well thought out .. that would be the same as if those of us that enjoy our "wifely duties" saying how can you get respect and enjoy working outside of the home.

So I will keep on obeying and honoring my man, Thank You.

cramernh

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/9572187/Couples-who-share-the-housework-are-more-likely-to-divorce-study-finds.html

Couples who share the housework are more likely to divorce, study finds
Divorce rates are far higher among “modern” couples who share the housework than in those where the woman does the lion’s share of the chores, a Norwegian study has found. In what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.

Discuss

I call BS!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ive been married for 13 years and we both share the duties willingly, and he does his own laundry willingly - why? He doesnt want the chemicals in his clothing to ruin my business attire.

When he is sick, I take over all the responsibilities and help care for him.
When I am sick, he does the same for me...

If I ever am expected to do every damn thing in the house, it will be because Im single.... I REFUSE to be any man's slave...