Do "all men" secretly have a thing for their "female friend"

flatbellybella

I was just wondering about this... I know some people might know how to keep it platonic but then some people are just stupid.

I once knew this guy who would have "female friends" and obviously cross the line and to him they were always "just friends" :laugh: He would comment on their pictures (all of them :huh: ) and act as if he was pretty much begging to get a response from them. He was also was the type that when he was single... he would be talking/flirting with them as if he were dating them... It didn't matter what the friend was about... no morals or anything but he would always be like this towards them. And he wondered why he was single... any decent girl could easily sense all of this and not take him serious.
People choose the company they keep but sometimes this makes me upset. When guys say "she's just a friend" it just seems like such bullsh!t.
Given not all men are like this... some are respectful :indifferent:

I was reading the misc forums on bodybuilding.com lol and there were alot of forums dedicated to guys who would "smash" their female friend. 99% of them didn't care if she had 3 kids-3 different dads or if she did crack lol

I find it really uncomfortable. I don't keep male friends like that around why would I even considering being with a man who had female friends like that...
your thoughts? lol

moosegt35

I have several female friends who are nothing more than just friends. When I was single, I would still "smash" a few of them if the opportunity presented itself but in the end we were just friends.

SoDamnHungry

Online - I think that they can be just friends, though obviously it isn't always the case.

Offline - I notice most guy friends stop talking to me once they get a girlfriend, then start up again once they're broken up. =/

_binary_jester_

[sarcasm]Nooooo! We totally don't want to do the really hot...err umm moderately hot...ummm...any female friend.[/sarcasm]

dumbbanana

Yes, *all* men do.

fp64

Certainly not all of our female friends,but absolutely too many of them.

DontStopB_Leakin

[sarcasm]Nooooo! We totally don't want to do the really hot...err umm moderately hot...ummm...any female friend.[/sarcasm]

Ditto that for us women. Nope. Hot guys go into the friendzone, asap.

Totes, broski.

PantalaNagaPampa

It's all gentetic predsiposition. We can ahve femal friends without "smashing" them, but if the opportunity arises, we will jump on it. We are just cavemen with better wheels.

MsNewBooty83

my bff of life is male. he has been there thru thick n thin with me, since i was 13 and im now 28. BUT...there was a big huge love confession about 8 yrs into our freindship. we stopped talking for a long time after that. apparently everyone was privy to this info, but i was completly blind to it. we started talking again after almost one year...we know we're only friends...we kissed once when we were 15, lol, its neve gone any further than that, and we've even slept in the same bed together 100x. im sure if i handed it out to him he would take it, but that aint gonna happen, lol. we're just besties for life

WestCoastPhoenix

[sarcasm]Nooooo! We totally don't want to do the really hot...err umm moderately hot...ummm...any female friend.[/sarcasm]

Ditto that for us women. Nope. Hot guys go into the friendzone, asap.

Totes, broski.

Oh, you.

fcp1234

I have a very good male friend. I dont think he has a thing for me. He jokes alot about it, but I think its only that, jokes.

trojanbb

It is pretty much a fact that men do not have true female friends unless they are somewhat attracted to them or intrigued by them. Guys often deny it, but they inevitably develop feelings.

PantalaNagaPampa

my bff of life is male. he has been there thru thick n thin with me, since i was 13 and im now 28. BUT...there was a big huge love confession about 8 yrs into our freindship. we stopped talking for a long time after that. apparently everyone was privy to this info, but i was completly blind to it. we started talking again after almost one year...we know we're only friends...we kissed once when we were 15, lol, its neve gone any further than that, and we've even slept in the same bed together 100x. im sure if i handed it out to him he would take it, but that aint gonna happen, lol. we're just besties for life

You selfish BIT@H

holeshottdr

OP, you wanna be just friends?

_binary_jester_

I have a very good male friend. I dont think he has a thing for me. He jokes alot about it, but I think its all that, jokes.

No...if you showed up naked, he'd close the door on your face.

trojanbb

I have a very good male friend. I dont think he has a thing for me. He jokes alot about it, but I think its only that, jokes.

It isn't. He is masking it, making light of it.

BeingAwesome247

SuffolkSally

I - umm mostly just have friends, don't really care about age or gender... just whether I like them and we can have a conversation. My partners are in a different category. I've had sexual hassle from both men and women and dislike it of course but it's been a question of where to draw a line. My male friends (gay and straight) and my female friends (gay and straight) are all fantastic - that's why I'm friends with them.

I also like having seriously good real life friends aged between 22 and 84.

ILoveTheBrowns

i dont have any female friends......they are all ex's

PantalaNagaPampa

I am friends with all the females at the crossfit box I go to, we joke, we hang out, we do the hug hello and goodbye, and I am always a gentleman about it, but if one of them gave me the green light, it would be on like donkey kong.. you know, if I wasn't married.

fcp1234

I have a very good male friend. I dont think he has a thing for me. He jokes alot about it, but I think its all that, jokes.

No...if you showed up naked, he'd close the door on your face.

He saw me naked once, it was bad timing. Nothing happened.

chivalryder

Online - I think that they can be just friends, though obviously it isn't always the case.

Offline - I notice most guy friends stop talking to me once they get a girlfriend, then start up again once they're broken up. =/

That happens with everyone the guy knows. It doesn't only happen to you.

As for the original question: Yes, unless I don't find her attractive. I do have female friends where we have a mutual un-attraction to each other. Nothing would happen, even if we were butt naked in bed together.

osualex

Ehh...I think in many cases, if they are close friends, one or both of them has a thing for each other. This has happened to me with guys who I thought were just friends...it was just a matter of time until they told me! I think though, for more casual buddies, not necessarily. I have tons of guy friends, some of whom have girlfriends, but we're not on a super-deep friendship level. I think it *can* exist, completely platonic friendships, but they have to be completely unattracted to the other person, which is rare.

bagge72

It always starts out as the guy wanting to bang you, and when the girl clearly doesn't want to bangt him back, then it's time to be friends, until the girl gets drunk, and they make out, or gets a boyfriend, and then it's the slow fade away, and they just become facebook friends. Well unless you were just introduced by hanging out with mutual friends that you both hangout with all of the time, then it's a forced friendship that blossoms.

_binary_jester_

I am friends with all the females at the crossfit box I go to, we joke, we hang out, we do the hug hello and goodbye, and I am always a gentleman about it, but if one of them gave me the green light, it would be on like donkey kong.. you know, if I wasn't married.

Speaks the truth

chivalryder

I have a very good male friend. I dont think he has a thing for me. He jokes alot about it, but I think its all that, jokes.

No...if you showed up naked, he'd close the door on your face.

He saw me naked once, it was bad timing. Nothing happened.

He saw you naked, but were you seducing him? I'm sure if he randomly saw you naked, he wouldn't rape you.

CentralCaliCycling

A single guy with an attractive (in his opinion) female friend has at least considered it... not sure why that is a mystery to anyone. I imagine the same is fairly true for females.

If the guy really likes the woman in question but could see it only works on a platonic level he would be smart not to go there.

Dub_D

My best guy friend would hit on me when he got drunk then apologize the next day, then repeat. It wasn't that he had a "thing" for me, just that he is a guy, and I have boobs.

BeingAwesome247

I have a lot of guy friends I hang out with....If I was to say "hey lets go screw" majority would...hahaha

I avoid sexually awkward situations as much as possible but there is def tension between a few of them and myself ....

_skittybang

For the interest of science, I had sex with all my male friends. Now the need is gone.

lydia_the_tattooed_lady

My roommate is male and we are (and ALWAYS will be) platonic. He's like my brother lol I have some guy friends that I would never-in-a-million-years do anything with. And then I have some guy friends that I've fooled around with on occasion but have not plans to date. Just friends. No drama, no awkwardness...just flirt a bit while we're single