Do "all men" secretly have a thing for their "female friend"

penrbrown

Also, on the topic of "we're just not into each other that way," if there is any physical attraction at all between you, you will sleep together at some point. You wouldn't be friends with someone you didn't enjoy being around, so yes, you are each other's "type" already. The only question is physical. Do you find each other attractive? If so, and you think you aren't "into each other that way," you're living in denial.

I think this is wrong. Here's why:

First - it makes the supposition that you are only friends with people who are your "type." I don't see this as being true. I have friends that I would never date (male if they were female, as well as females). Because they are only my friend, I can easily overlook someone who is always late, or backs out of plans, or smokes, or sleeps around - because those things do not matter to me and my friendship with them. If we were dating, it those things would clearly matter (some more than others).

Second - it makes the supposition that you cannot see someone as attractive without being attracted to them. I think that to be attracted to someone, you have to like the way they look as well as be attracted to who they are -- which goes back to the first point i made about friends and not being invested in some character flaws and while their appearance may be attractive, i may not be attracted to them because of those other flaws.

3. It makes the assumption that you cannot be attracted to someone you are close to without having sex with them. Actually, it is possible to RESIST your desire and say NO despite an attraction and admiration for the person in question.

RobfromLakewood

Not all men. I had a female roommate for 7 years. She was cute, fun to be with, but never the slightest chemistry. We both met our future spouses while we were roommates and went off to live with them. We are still great friends and I know my wife and her husband KNOW nothing would ever go on between us, we're just buds for life.

Alex_is_Hawks

I secretly have a thing for all of my male friends. All of them. Every last one.

*sigh* Clearly I'm a creep, a perv and no man will ever want me. :sad:

Like I said above...seems 100% natural to me. You already like them as people, that's supposed to be the core of relationships. If you are physically attracted to them, whey the heck wouldn't you get a little thing for them?

True Steve...very true.....(forum stalking again)

flatbellybella

Lol @ 8 pages later

Cese27

If u were my friend,hell yeah

Justkeepswimmin

I have a very good male friend. I dont think he has a thing for me. He jokes alot about it, but I think its only that, jokes.

It isn't. He is masking it, making light of it.

Yeah....behind every joke is a slight truth.

penrbrown

I secretly have a thing for all of my male friends. All of them. Every last one.

*sigh* Clearly I'm a creep, a perv and no man will ever want me. :sad:

Like I said above...seems 100% natural to me. You already like them as people, that's supposed to be the core of relationships. If you are physically attracted to them, whey the heck wouldn't you get a little thing for them?

:drinker:

rileamoyer

can't speak for any guys out there but I am perfectly comfortable having a male friend with no hidden physical agenda. I believe I have had several over the years.

DMZ_1

For the most part, yes.

Tony_Brewski

I have a very good male friend. I dont think he has a thing for me. He jokes alot about it, but I think its only that, jokes.

Yup he does. He's just using humor to cover up his true feelings on it. Its a defence scheme for him. If he laughs about it and you laugh with him he doesnt get hurt but if he was to be serious about it and you rejected him he'd be devisated. So therefor he uses humor to shield his true feelings and not get hurt.

tajmel

I have mostly male friends. I'm married, and most of them have girlfriends. I've had a few friends in the past few years who were out of line - flirty, handsy, or made outright overtures - and those men are no longer my friends. Some people can handle having opposite gendered friends, some can't.

klacount77

For the interest of science, I had sex with all my male friends. Now the need is gone.

^^This!

sleepytexan

Did you ever see "When Harry Met Sally"? You should.

homerjspartan

Did you ever see "When Harry Met Sally"? You should.

So, you're saying you could be friends with a female if she was not attractive?

Nope, you pretty much wanna nail them too.

fiberartist219

I am very close friends with a lot of guys... we talk about other women on the regular, and almost all of my guy friends make their intentions very clear. If they want a piece, they ask for it, and if they don't ask, they really don't want it.

farfoorah

No but I wanna **** all my male friends.....

vice350z

As Chris Rock put it..."Men don't have platonic friends...we just have women we haven't fu@ked yet"

Shrinking_Xtina

It is pretty much a fact that men do not have true female friends unless they are somewhat attracted to them or intrigued by them. Guys often deny it, but they inevitably develop feelings.

Agreed.

NormalSaneFLGuy

It is pretty much a fact that men do not have true female friends unless they are somewhat attracted to them or intrigued by them. Guys often deny it, but they inevitably develop feelings.

Agreed.

Disagreed.

I think it depends on how the friendship starts.

IF a guy randomly picks a girl, then I agree.

But say you meet a girl at work (coworker), you can totally become friends without ever having wanted anything beyond friends.

citygirl04

Have no idea