Is it okay her boyfriend pushed her in anger?

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  • jmc0806
    jmc0806 Posts: 1,444 Member
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    nope...sounds like he has some issues if she was sitting there and he went over to push her
  • mareeee1234
    mareeee1234 Posts: 674 Member
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    Not okay! And he's doing it as a defensive behaviours cause he knows that he is in the wrong with the whole situation with the ex gf....
    No violence should be tolerated. If he is like that now, it could only get worse in the future and/or marriage :ohwell:
  • HunterKiller_wechange
    HunterKiller_wechange Posts: 369 Member
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    he should have done the job properly and just knocked her out!

    Seriously though. No its not acceptable.


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  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
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    If she was coming at him aggressively then he had the right to push her.

    ARE YOU FRIGGIN KIDING ME?!?!?

    *smh* NO NO NO NO.. absolutly not in any way shape or form. This is NOT acceptable in any way..

    So what is a man to do when a woman is coming at him aggressively?
  • BaconMD
    BaconMD Posts: 1,165 Member
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    His ex lives in the same country?!?! INTOLERABLE!
  • Marksman21
    Marksman21 Posts: 126 Member
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    Unless it is in defense or extreame situations, a gentleman should NEVER lay a hand on a woman aggressively for any reason. Sure, it may sound a bit oldschool, but there is some grains of virtue in old manners. A woman should be respected like everyone else, but on a rule for men, don't treat them like a punching bag like you do the rest of your 'buds'.
  • endureandpersist
    endureandpersist Posts: 59 Member
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    NO, NOT OK!
  • Yukongil
    Yukongil Posts: 166 Member
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    if you have a terrible uncontrollable anger, the only time its acceptable to push a loved one is when you are trying to save them from the rocket attack launched by a government hellbent on your destruction and uncarring for any collateral damage caused in their attack on you. It is then also okay to throw a city bus (empty of course) at the offending aircraft that launched said attack.

    Otherwise, no, it's not okay.
  • n0ob
    n0ob Posts: 2,390 Member
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    If she was coming at him aggressively then he had the right to push her.

    ARE YOU FRIGGIN KIDING ME?!?!?

    *smh* NO NO NO NO.. absolutly not in any way shape or form. This is NOT acceptable in any way..

    I'd say I'm well above average on the "can take care of myself" scale, and my wife could inflict serious harm on me if she went into a full bore attack on me. Not saying she would, but I think a not so gentle (not saying full force here) would be warranted to protect myself without physically harming her.
  • Countryboy_
    Countryboy_ Posts: 618
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    If she was coming at him aggressively then he had the right to push her.

    No. If she was coming at him with a weapon, or he was in fear for his life or health...maybe. If he just pushed her in anger, its assault and battery. She should get away from him.
  • mrook2009
    mrook2009 Posts: 64 Member
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    I don't think that it's acceptable at all. I was in an abusive relationship for 4 1/2 yrs and that's just how things start to excalate. Not saying that he's going to start beating her for sure, but sometimes men (or women) with anger problems start showing signs of aggression slowly. When they realize that their SO has stayed with them and forgiven them, they move on worse ways to take out their aggression. Maybe suggest some counseling to them, or just encourage her to walk away during an argument instead of staying there just so nobody gets hurt.
  • mynameiscarrie
    mynameiscarrie Posts: 963 Member
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    If she was coming at him aggressively then he had the right to push her.

    No. If she was coming at him with a weapon, or he was in fear for his life or health...maybe. If he just pushed her in anger, its assault and battery. She should get away from him.

    So it's not assault if she pushes him?

    Not trying to single you out, personally, but it's ridiculous that a woman get smack a man but if the man pushes her back to get her off, he's the one who gets in trouble.
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
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    Not ok.

    Light up the Brett Signal.
  • 17ChargerGirl17
    17ChargerGirl17 Posts: 441
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    Absolutely not... Neither one should put their hands on the other.
    Pushing is not acceptable, it leads to worse things.
  • shayyyface
    shayyyface Posts: 66
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    in my most humble opinion, pushing is NOT the same as hitting/beating. If she was being a *****, she probably deserved it. One day, I came at my boyf really nasty and aggressive, i got up in his face and was screaming at him and I smacked him, and he smacked me back. he's never done it again, its been years, but i sure as hell deserved it. I never held it against him.
    I believe that smacking/pushing/shaking a woman is completely different than closed-fist punching her, or being truly abusive.
    I have been both physically and mentally abused in my life, and i know my boyf doesn't fall under that category. I hope, for your friend's sake, she knows the same thing.
  • caroldot
    caroldot Posts: 388 Member
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    ABSOLUTELY NOT! PROVOKED OR NOT! And I'm ashamed that another person justified it on this thread. Whether verbally or physically, It doesn't justify someone abusing someone else. My ex-husband did that to me once - at our son's little league ballpark. We were in an argument & he literally came off the baseball field in the middle of a game, backed me into a corner, shoved me & threw a drink on me. There were several witnesses and becuase this happened at a community park, the league directors had no choice but to call the police & file a report - even though I didn't want to. The police came & he was escorted out of the park & suspended from coaching for an entire season. I had SEVERAL people that came to me & offered to be a witness in my case if I pressed charges. I'm just very thankful neither one of my kids saw their dad do this.

    And for the record, he had NEVER been physically abusive to me... we were at the height of going thru our divorce & tensions were running very high between us. But that still didn't justify his behavior for what he did.

    And this goes either way - I've seen plenty of women shove their men as well!
  • rebeccap13
    rebeccap13 Posts: 754 Member
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    Towards the end of my last relationship my boyfriend would get really angry and pin me down on the bed so I couldn't get away or call someone for help... he was usually drunk. I HATED that feeling, just felt completely helpless. I got my hand loose one time and punched him, busted his eyebrow open, that was the last time that happened, but we broke up within a week after that.

    I did my fair share of crazy things in that relationship but I don't think its acceptable. I also wouldn't think its acceptable to punch my boyfriend or push him out of anger either. Really, if either person gets so angry that they resort to violence its probably a very destructive relationship anyway.
  • shayyyface
    shayyyface Posts: 66
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    If she was coming at him aggressively then he had the right to push her.

    No. If she was coming at him with a weapon, or he was in fear for his life or health...maybe. If he just pushed her in anger, its assault and battery. She should get away from him.

    So it's not assault if she pushes him?

    Not trying to single you out, personally, but it's ridiculous that a woman get smack a man but if the man pushes her back to get her off, he's the one who gets in trouble.

    my point exactly!
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,143 Member
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    Pushing is better than punching.

    Pushing can evolve into punching.
  • Beckyloo80
    Beckyloo80 Posts: 1,088 Member
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    nope. not ok
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