An observation about MFP posters...

EmilyOfTheSun

Seeing as this is like the 51270571295782398th post just like this....you'll probably get a lot of....."negative" feedback.

cmriverside

Didn't read all the replies, so if this was said - oops - this is for the OP:

Look at this thread as a way to add to your "Ignore User" list. To ignore someone (you won't see them any more) click the little arrow next to their user name in the forum. A drop-down box appears, click "Ignore". Ta-da. :drinker: You won't see their posts any more.

WendyTerry420

Yep. It's usually the "kind, supportive, caring folk" who run around reporting every thread and poster they don't like.

Their mamas never told them not be tattle-tales.

neverstray

I guess I'm just not a sensitive person. I think it's perfect. The forums contain a ood amount of humor and snark, good solid information, and a lot of mis-information that comes off as authoritative. In other owrds, it's like any other forum I've been on. I don't get why people think this place is so mean.

However, I do understand that I am different than a lot of other people.

I'll tell my little story here. I was talking to a business assocaite and we were discussing theories over a few beers. The theories had to do with the way in which clients view their experience and how you deliver on that in order to create a great experience. We got into kind of a heated debate about a few aspects of it where we didn't agree. I thought it was awesome and I thought a lot about what we talked about and even incorporated a few minor changes into my business as a result. Later, through the grapevine, I heard talk that he thought I was a @$$hole, and he doesn't care if I die, or something pretty much like that. I laughed when I heard that. To me, the conversation was super engaging, interesting, and I actually implemented some stuff form it. To him, it was abusive, lame, pointless, and I was just a big @$$hole.

The difference is that I am open minded, but I like to see their reasoning and defnse for it, but I still argue my point to exhaustion. But, later, I think and percolate and add the new information I learned and make a decision about if it's valid or not. I might even discuss with others and get feedback. He just thinks he's right, and that is the end. Or, that questioning him is somehow saying he's wrong. i don't know because I don't know how that thought process works.

But, this is the best way I can describe what happens. It's just like water off a ducks back. I say what I say, I read what others say, I decide and move on. No one is attacking me, they are challenging what I said, but not me. There's a big difference. Many people don't understand and they think it's the same thing and it's not.

So, for the future, I'm never attacking any person. But, I might challenge what you say. And, if I snark or make a joke, just roll your eyes, or laugh, but don't get butt hurt because it's not worth it. I just go on about my day. You should too.

perfectingpatti

wow there sure are a lot of people out there who are jerks to each other.

You also have to understand that you may not know if the people appearing to be jerks to each other are actually friends and just messing with each other. I called one of my friends a snarky bi$ch the other day in a thread and someone reported it and I got a warning. I called her that because she was joking on her wall about being one. Like, I called Brett a jerk in a thread and told him I was going to kick his @ss for something. If you saw that and didn't "know" us, you'd think I was being rude when actually it's just joking.

gsager

Welcome back

WinnerVictorious

Honestly, even the people who think they are the "innocent victims" can be just as ugly as anyone else with their comments. Just watch the comments that follow - people will come in here, and agree with you about all the "meanies", and turn around and throw around insults.

One of the biggest problems I have with people who complain about how bad things are, is that most of the time the examples they use about someone being mean or snarky just turn out to be about another poster who simply didn't agree with their comment. In the land of MFP, not agreeing makes you and a-hole, bully, snark, or meanie! Some people's kids! :grumble:

Yep. It's usually the "kind, supportive, caring folk" who run around reporting every thread and poster they don't like. If you say you really enjoy Thanksgiving one of those "kind, caring" people will report you because you don't understand how hard it is to try to control your eating. Yep. No lie.

The internet is like life. Not everyone is nice. But for some reason people expect the thousands and thousands of members here to all be their friends and love them.

Not once have I ever heard anyone walk into their office and proclaim, "You know.. not everyone here is a nice person!" Of course not, that would be crazy. But for some reason people expect it here.

This exactly. It constantly amazes me that people seems to think that on the internet everyone should be hearts and flowers. If you dont like someone skip there post. If you dont like the topic in a thread dont read it .It s really very simple

what i think this thread is really missing is the spelling police.

it's "their" not "there" :bigsmile:



PS - sorry OP, you kind of invited this to happen to your thread.

Aviva92

I see a lot of that too. I think there are 2 reasons for it:

1) People who are successful can start to think they know everything, and bash people who are going about it in a different way.
2) A lot of people are insecure, and that can be transferred into happily anonymous snarky-ness.

I just take people's opinions with a grain of salt, and when I have a real question, turn to a professional. There are SO many great (And free) resources out there.

I noticed a lot of people in category 1. I find them irritating.

I don't find it any nastier than other internet forums I'm on though. It's the nature of the internet.

TR0berts

Didn't read all the replies, so if this was said - oops - this is for the OP:

Look at this thread as a way to add to your "Ignore User" list. To ignore someone (you won't see them any more) click the little arrow next to their user name in the forum. A drop-down box appears, click "Ignore". Ta-da. :drinker: You won't see their posts any more.

I was going to ask where this "Ignore Button" was. Thanks for answering it before I asked.

And now that we've posted in the same thread twice in a row now, I hope you don't consider me to be stalking you and you ignore me.

LoraF83

When I first started, I thought there were some mean people here too.

And then I realized that they aren't mean, they're just tired of providing the same common-sense, well-researched, solid advice over and over and over only to be told that they are wrong and they're bullies if they don't offer flowers and rounds of applause when someone posts a bad idea or pity party.

And....since I got myself and my opinions in check and added several of them to my friends list, I can plainly see that they are great people who really truly want to help. And they keep providing advice (over and over) despite being reported and messaged and blamed for the "meanness."

So, you'll find a lot of people here to be blunt, matter-of-fact and maybe offering advice that you don't agree with. But if you take the time to read their posts and see how much they try to help, you'll probably be surprised to learn that they aren't mean at all.

michelejoann

...and then some people are lurkers, like me.

I'll read all the ridiculousness on here for entertainment value, have a good hearty laugh...maybe comment...and then call it a day.

But seriously, though...it can be like high school on here. Some people never left.

I say, screw what everyone else thinks. Do this for YOU.

Alex_is_Hawks

Plus, it's all subjective. One person's funny joke is another person's cruel jab. Watch:

"So you think that avatar of a beloved children's character abusing cookie dough like it was heroin is funny do you? My son died of a heroin overdose, I don't think it's something to joke about. I wish rude people like you would just get off this site. <report>"

So watch who you side with. I prefer the company of people who can take a joke without getting their knickers in a twist.

Wait... you wear knickers?

He's wearing mine...he likes them twisty like.

Wait...I thought Swanny proved with SCIENCE that you don't wear knickers under your uniform....

how did Brett get them?

:huh:

Sarauk2sf

I like ice-cream!

Aviva92

The ignore button is very useful.

I have yet to use the ignore botton on here to see what it does, but on another forum I'm on it's pretty useless. The posts of users on ignore just show up blank, but if someone quotes them, you can see it anyway. Also, it's very easy to get around that ignore when curious anyway.

SmexAppeal

OP, that's the primary reason I stay out of the forums. People can be so ugly. I think it's just a sign of the disease that is poor living; i.e. bad diet, lack of exercise, etc.. Everything seems to take on a negative spin when someone feels bad about themselves. When we feel bad physically or emotionally, even someone else's joy can be perceived as negative. I just try to avoid threads that could bring negative comments. It's hard to bite my tongue when someone is acting like a clown. lol!

^^This guy is a freakin genius!

zachatta

ITT: People have just discovered how people act on the internet.

flabbyjay

I like ice-cream!

Are you going to eat some on Thanksgiving because OMG Iam so worried about what I am going to do Thursday!!!

_crafty_

<~~ you see the little drop down arrow next to my username? well if you click on it you have the option to "ignore user". this little trick comes in handy when you come in contact with those people that you feel are being rude/snarky/not helpful. give it a try some time. if you click it often enough, eventually you'll be left with the people that do nothing but spew unicorn *kitten* and rainbows all day long.

yo_andi

I like ice-cream!

I love lamp!

michelejoann

I like turtles.