When a Guy Says I Want a Woman That Takes Care of Her Body
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I want to know from a man's perspective what he means by this saying? I've been on a few dating sites, not recently but in the past, where a man will say in his profile " I want a woman that takes care of her body." The first thing I think about is that he wants someone that's physically fit. Am I right? Or is he specifically meaning hygienically or both? I would contact some of them that I thought were attractive and tell them about myself and a little about the journey I am on with weight loss and trying to become healthy and fit. I rarely got replies from any of them so I concluded that I just wasn't physically attractive enough for them. It kind of discourages me when I see guys that say this kind of stuff and won't give you a chance because you are overweight and on the track to changing it. And don't get me wrong, I UNDERSTAND THAT EVERYONE HAS PREFERENCES! I am not saying that these guys are shallow or rude for wanting something specific but it just discourages me when I'm not given a chance even though I am trying to change my health and become more physically fit. I said that I understand the preference, because I myself have a preference and it makes me feel somewhat hypocritical. I like a guy that takes pride in working out to be and stay healthy, I'm typically not attracted to guys that are overweight and don't make an effort to be healthy, but I won't always turn a guy down solely on physical looks, I will try and get to know someone before I completely say "Yeah, okay, no this isn't what I am looking for". Okay, I am not sure why I went on that tangent, I guess I am just wanting different guy's perspectives on the saying "I want a woman that takes care of her body" and if you are that type of guy that wants someone that's in shape and takes care of her body by cardio and weights, would you give a lady a chance knowing that she is legitimately trying to change herself?
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It means they want someone that they feel is hot. Generally speaking i would say that it is a nice way of saying they do care about looks.0
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It's code for "hot" just like when women say they want a man "with goals in life" or who is "successful" they really just mean a man with money.0
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^ What they said.0
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It's code for "hot" just like when women say they want a man "with goals in life" or who is "successful" they really just mean a man with money.
There are exception, though. I've always maintained that I wanted a man with goals in life, but that doesn't mean I want someone rich - I make my own money! In my case at least, I prefer someone who is actively working towards a goal, or is trying, rather than happy with doing/being nothing in particular.
So don't give up the ghost, OP!0 -
I personally don't think it is necessarily the case that they are saying "hot", don't get me wrong there is quite a possibility that is what they mean, but may not be the whole story. In my opinion It could mean a number of things:
1 - weights and cardio to stay fit.
2 - nutrition - (so there wont be the tendency to sit on the couch in the evenings stuffing your face and watching the TV)
3 - "Hot" - however this is massively subjective.
4 - Active - not in the gym sense but has the drive to be out doors.
If people are not willing to give you a chance to look into who you actually are and not define you by physical attributes, do you really want them in your life anyway??0 -
I want to know from a man's perspective what he means by this saying? I've been on a few dating sites, not recently but in the past, where a man will say in his profile " I want a woman that takes care of her body." The first thing I think about is that he wants someone that's physically fit. Am I right? Or is he specifically meaning hygienically or both? I would contact some of them that I thought were attractive and tell them about myself and a little about the journey I am on with weight loss and trying to become healthy and fit. I rarely got replies from any of them so I concluded that I just wasn't physically attractive enough for them. It kind of discourages me when I see guys that say this kind of stuff and won't give you a chance because you are overweight and on the track to changing it. And don't get me wrong, I UNDERSTAND THAT EVERYONE HAS PREFERENCES! I am not saying that these guys are shallow or rude for wanting something specific but it just discourages me when I'm not given a chance even though I am trying to change my health and become more physically fit. I said that I understand the preference, because I myself have a preference and it makes me feel somewhat hypocritical. I like a guy that takes pride in working out to be and stay healthy, I'm typically not attracted to guys that are overweight and don't make an effort to be healthy, but I won't always turn a guy down solely on physical looks, I will try and get to know someone before I completely say "Yeah, okay, no this isn't what I am looking for". Okay, I am not sure why I went on that tangent, I guess I am just wanting different guy's perspectives on the saying "I want a woman that takes care of her body" and if you are that type of guy that wants someone that's in shape and takes care of her body by cardio and weights, would you give a lady a chance knowing that she is legitimately trying to change herself?
They are shallow men who just want one thing from a woman. That simple. Of course i like hot women, but the body to me isn't that important.
My friend on the other hand all he talks about is body, he doesn't care about what the face looks like. I am a face person. You know what else he talks about non stop? Sex and booty. So annoying.
Well, I don't necessarily think they are all completely shallow. I guess that when I hear " I want a woman that takes care of her body" I think to myself "Well, I take care of my body. I exercise often, try to eat the right foods, I shower every day, sometimes twice a day and I always smell good." To me that is taking care of my body.
Well, I guess I never compared it to women saying they want a man with life goals. I guess the two could be comparable.
I don't think it's completely shallow to want someone that physically takes care of their body because it is a preference. But not giving someone a chance that is actively trying to get in shape and change their life, to me that is shallow. I can understand not giving someone a chance because they don't even want to try and change their health. I can also see wanting that other person to be fit so they can have the same active lifestyle. I am looking to get back into the dating scene and would like if I could find someone that I could be active with, I just don't want to get shot down because I am still big and don't want them to think I am lazy because I am still fat.
On the other hand I believe those that are always talking about how good they look or taking stomach shot photos are pretty shallow. I said that I do prefer someone that is physically fit but won't always turn down based on that, the face for me is a big factor as well. I may sound shallow because I do prefer someone that is physically attractive based on the body and face but I have also been attracted to men that wouldn't typically be seen as "hot". A good personality and the ability to make me laugh trumps a good body and hot face. I once met this guy who I thought I would never give a chance because I wasn't physically attracted to him and then we started talking, his personality hooked me and he was ten times more attractive because he was an awesome person.0 -
It's code for "hot" just like when women say they want a man "with goals in life" or who is "successful" they really just mean a man with money.
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They are shallow men who just want one thing from a woman. That simple.
That's a ridiculous generalization.f course i like hot women, but the body to me isn't that important.
My friend on the other hand all he talks about is body, he doesn't care about what the face looks like. I am a face person.
So being into bodies is shallow but being into faces is not shallow.
It's more the attitude aspect. If a women takes care of her self, has the self determination to work out each week and takes pride in her appearance that is a sexy attitude IMO. thats the sort of person I would want to spend my time with.
If you're an active guy and love to work out 4-5 times a week it's unlikely you are going to be compatible with someone who would rather sit in all day and eat junk food on the coach. If that makes me shallow then so be it, IDGAF.0 -
I'm not a man, but if I were to say, "I want a man who takes care of his body", I would mean someone who is at least moderately interested in what they eat, isn't sedentary, is concerned about personal hygiene, and dresses reasonably well (ie - doesn't wear pj's and sweats all the time). Someone who cares about making themself presentable.0
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This man knows what he is talking about. Especially when being in contest prep. Having someone who understands what you're going through is a great help.They are shallow men who just want one thing from a woman. That simple.
That's a ridiculous generalization.f course i like hot women, but the body to me isn't that important.
My friend on the other hand all he talks about is body, he doesn't care about what the face looks like. I am a face person.
So being into bodies is shallow but being into faces is not shallow.
It's more the attitude aspect. If a women takes care of her self, has the self determination to work out each week and takes pride in her appearance that is a sexy attitude IMO. thats the sort of person I would want to spend my time with.
If you're an active guy and love to work out 4-5 times a week it's unlikely you are going to be compatible with someone who would rather sit in all day and eat junk food on the coach. If that makes me shallow then so be it, IDGAF.0 -
I have been on both sides of the fence and since I now live an active lifestyle I prefer to be with a woman who takes care of herself physically. We all have preferences and should pursue the type of person that makes us happy.0
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To me that means someone who is physically fit and healthy, though not necessarily athletic, and that presents themselves well the majority of the time - being clean and tidy.0
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guys dont want to know about your weight loss journey... thats why you dont get replies...0
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Hi I am a Guy. It doesn't generally mean that he wants someone who is hot....well we all want someone who we deem as hot. But I believe they just want someone who isn't a lazy slob. Someone who is active, obviously works out, dresses well / right for their body. It doesn't necessarily mean they want someone who is thin / skinny. There are a lot of thin skinny people who are slobs and lazy. If the person is an active person I am pretty sure they are looking for the same thing.0
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It means you'll go to the gym with me.0
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They are shallow men who just want one thing from a woman. That simple.
That's a ridiculous generalization.f course i like hot women, but the body to me isn't that important.
My friend on the other hand all he talks about is body, he doesn't care about what the face looks like. I am a face person.
So being into bodies is shallow but being into faces is not shallow.
It's more the attitude aspect. If a women takes care of her self, has the self determination to work out each week and takes pride in her appearance that is a sexy attitude IMO. thats the sort of person I would want to spend my time with.
If you're an active guy and love to work out 4-5 times a week it's unlikely you are going to be compatible with someone who would rather sit in all day and eat junk food on the coach. If that makes me shallow then so be it, IDGAF.
I agree with you. I don't necessarily think wanting someone that specifically takes care of the body in the way of staying in shape. I think that is a personal preference. I think it's shallow when someone won't give the person a chance if they are legitimately making an effort to change their lifestyle. When I first started I wouldn't have had not one thing in common with a guy that likes to exercise and lift weights but at this point I would have something in common with that type of guy, it just may look like that I wouldn't because I am still bigger. I enjoy exercising and I love that "high" feeling after an intense exercise session. I also like lifting weights (Mostly arm weights at the moment) because I know almost nothing about lifting, or rather what I should be lifting. I really want to join CrossFit after I lose 32 more pounds. I guess it just kind of bothers me that I'm written off because I am still fat even though I exercise daily and am making a conscious effort to get in shape, become healthy, and lose the rest of this fat. I have an okay personality and my face isn't ugly, at least I don't think so. I just hate that I'm often not given a chance because I am still big. Like I said, I do have a specific personal preference when it comes to men, but I will always try to get to know someone before I write them off as someone I don't want to date or potentially be with.0 -
It's code for "hot" just like when women say they want a man "with goals in life" or who is "successful" they really just mean a man with money.
There are exception, though. I've always maintained that I wanted a man with goals in life, but that doesn't mean I want someone rich - I make my own money! In my case at least, I prefer someone who is actively working towards a goal, or is trying, rather than happy with doing/being nothing in particular.
So don't give up the ghost, OP!
AH, but you're a woman. When we say "goals" we mean a job! :laugh:0 -
guys dont want to know about your weight loss journey... thats why you dont get replies...
Maybe not, but if on a dating site I have to tell them about myself that's what I do, and that includes what I've done to change who I am. If someone doesn't want to know about me and my accomplishments then they are not someone I want to be with in the long run. Seems to me that you'd want to know about someone and things that they've done when getting to know someone, unless of course you are just looking for a hook up or something similar.0 -
I'm probably overly cynical but I always read that as "shaves EVERYWHERE except eyebrows and scalp"
basically, they want a sex-kitten and they don't particularly care if said kitten is eating right or excercising, they'd actually rather not hear about that stuff.
ít's a generalization and I'm sure there's guys out there who are genuinely interested in the workout/eating/maintenance patterns of their (potential) girlfriends, but in my experience those guys will probably not put something like "takes care of their body" in writing.0 -
I think you are pretty Maybe you tried "wrong sites". I was once explained that a woman who takes care of herself is a fit woman with good hair/skin/nails. It means she is healthy, she is not an emotional eater-most likely emotionally stable. She is strong enaugh and has good will of power to exercise and eat healthy.0
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would you give a lady a chance knowing that she is legitimately trying to change herself?
Honestly? No.
Not unless there was exceptional chemistry between us.
I would want the finished article and not an ongoing project.0 -
would you give a lady a chance knowing that she is legitimately trying to change herself?
Honestly? No.
Not unless there was exceptional chemistry between us.
I would want the finished article and not an ongoing project.
At least you are honest but tell me this. How do you find out if there is "exceptional chemistry" between the two of you if you don't give the person a chance? You can't know if there is chemistry unless you talk to the person, in which case you have already given them somewhat of a chance because you didn't ignore them. I mean, unless there is another way of knowing that there is chemistry between the two of you, in which case please tell me how that works.0 -
It means you'll go to the gym with me.
That would be so fun!
I imagine we would be laughing half the time
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it makes perfect sense to me.
you would want the same from your man, am i right?0 -
These guys are what are traditionally known as 'Ar$eholes'. They want a 'hot' woman and believe in outdated gender roles. Avoid them and go for the ones who don't state looks as being important in their profile!0
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I think it could mean different things to different people. I would take it to mean someone who tries to be generally health conscious- eats healthy, stays active, non smoker, etc. Kind of a weird thing though- is anyone really specifically looking for someone who does not take care of herself/himself?0
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Because we want you to be health conscious we're shallow arseholes who believe in outdated gender roles?These guys are what are traditionally known as 'Ar$eholes'. They want a 'hot' woman and believe in outdated gender roles. Avoid them and go for the ones who don't state looks as being important in their profile!
That's quite a leap.0 -
It means they are looking for someone who has a container of wet wipes on the toilet tank.0
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It means they are looking for someone who has a container of wet wipes on the toilet tank.
HA HA AH!!!!!!0 -
Well I think it's fine for men to want the finished product. They just need to say it more clearly and avoid code words. I take care of my body. I don't eat red meat, I work out 4-6 times per week, and I even grow my own organic food. I meditate. I don't eat sugar or white flour on a regular basis. I practice natural medicine. I have a resting pulse of 60 and a bp of 100/65. I shower everyday and get my hair done every six weeks.
So I obviously take care of my body within my abilities to do so, aside from other medical issues. I am 40 pounds overweight. I would never think to respond to someone that posted that, even though taking care of my body is hugely important to me and has been for many years.
Why don't they just say "I want a woman with a BMI in the healthy range who is active?" Cut to the chase. It's more appropriate for both parties.0
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