Guys say they want a Nice/Good girl but go for Sl*ts?

nbhobbes

I'm not mad at anyone


2. I have seen with a number of my male friends.... they quote bible verses... all over their FB, Instagram and etc but then next minute they're flirting with a girl taking half naked pictures. and Ya I'd say a girl taking a pic of her rolling a blunt is trashy....

chances are they're losers that's why they like trash

and taking a picture naked and posting it on instagram does make you a slut.........

Religious people tend not to apply the same morals to the decisions they make but generally like to look moral and judge others.. I blame the deiety for setting that double standard.

TwelveTwentyOne

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nbhobbes

Be the person you want as your partner because like attracts like.

If you want someone who's fit, be fit.
If you want someone who's smart, take some extra classes.
If you want someone who's kind, be nice.
If you want someone who's generous, give without holding back.

Keep that up, and the kind of person you want will want YOU, too.

ETA: Don't judge or you'll be judge. The measure you use to judge with is what you will be measured against. (paraphrased Matt 7:1-2)
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Totally disagree with 90% of this.

If you want someone who is smart don't waste your time with dumbasses.
If you want someone who is educated well then start looking at classes.

Plenty of smart women who aren't in school.
Nice guys do tend to finish last. Ya know why? Beacuse they are boring as hell to women.

Better standard.. If you want a nice girl. (And there are a number of definitions on what constitues being 'nice) don't date a woman who's a total *****. Being nice doesn't lead to landing someone who is also nice.

Oh and BTW if you want someone who is generious, don't just start giving out for nothing.. You need to hold back and be certain you aren't wasting your time/money/efforts.

ETA: Don't judge or you'll be judge. The measure you use to judge with is what you will be measured against. (paraphrased Matt 7:1-2)

Here is some truth. You are going to be judged regardless of what you do. You are going to judge others. From the first post of this topic it is pretty clear you don't want a girl who is into pot or apparently confident enough to take risque pictures of herself. I wouldn't go so far as to call someone like that a slut as it's not even close to the actual definition of what a sult is. But that is aside from the point.. Point being is that while you are judging others they are judging just as much as you, if not more so.

You have two choices.. Be someone that is a person of value and somoene that a respectable woman might actually want to be with or not.

yoovie

it's possible to be both with the right balance :bigsmile:

nbhobbes

The girls like that are the ones that are easy to get. Guys have to work to hard for a real woman so they settle for those girls that they don't have to work for. Guys are lazy... We all know that.

100% they can settle. For every "loser" there is a decent guy out there........ :laugh:

Yeah and most of the time the decent guy wasn't attractive to her so she settled for the one you think is a "loser", yet he is the one with a girl and you are the "decent guy" griping on the internet.

Coincidence? I think not.

nbhobbes

Men are visual creatures. They go for the aesthetically appealing. Its just in their DNA. I know plenty of great guys who still drool at an awesome pair of bewbz. Just cause a guy is paying attention to a female because of how she looks doesn't make him a bad guy. Men have defects. So do femalez. Being overly sensitive and jealous of the attention that other women get is one of them.

This! Spot on!

nbhobbes

As for the 'nice guys' thing

Yes, there are some nice guys who genuinely get a raw deal. But a hell of a lot of guys are actually in one of two situations

1. You are a nice guy who likes a girl, but she doesn't have those feelings for you. You can be as nice as you like, sometimes the chemistry just isn't there. So while you're stuck in the 'friend zone' every other guy she dates is an assh0le because he's NOT YOU.

2. You are trying to date a girl who has dated plenty of "nice guys" every guy is "nice" when they want to do the horizontal boogie with you. It isn't always easy to spot those who aren't so nice afterwards

So true.. Especially #1

Fact of the matter is that nobody should waste their time if the feelings aren't mutual.. Just move on and hey maybe she'll come arround after a bit or after she's dated a couple of *kitten* and give you a shot.. You can't make someone be interested in you. Either it's there or it's not.. Pure and simple..

nornas42

I think you need to watch out on how you label people."sl*t" is such a dangerouss word. By your definition it's a woman who will take naked pics of herself and roll joints. I'm not going to touch the joint thing because I think you're more bothered by the naked pics - that's part of what a "sl*t" is, right?

Just because a woman is comfortable in her sexuality and is OK with taking naked pics of herself, that doesn't make her a bad person. It may be outside of your limit of comfort, but I don't think you should think down on her for being comfortable with her body that way. No matter what her body looks like, it takes guts to take a pic like that.

Stop worrying about them and just focus on you. If the guys you are interested are going after the women you don't respect, maybe you need to redefine who you are looking for.

MireyGal76

it's possible to be both with the right balance :bigsmile:

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yoovie

it's possible to be both with the right balance :bigsmile:

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If youre anything like me, just make sure you practice that whole Lady in the Streets part!

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

um... where are you finding said guys? Those sound more like creeps to me. Just sayin'.

sjiphone

I find it offensive that you have divided girls up into good/nice and slut/skank.

I don't believe the terms slut and skank should be used for anyone. Women can find liberation covered up or revealing skin, in abstinence or many partners. It's an individual choice and no one else's business.

here we go

I ain't being politically correct. I'm just saying that I too find it offensive that you have divided girls up into good/nice and slut/skank. When a guy spreads it around he is called a 'stud', but if a girl does the same thing you call her a 'slut'. Get off your high horse.

Chessie24

it's possible to be both with the right balance :bigsmile:

Agree.

It's all in how you look at things. Maybe if the guy you like is going for girls that aren't like you then he isn't really your type? Or why would you want to date them anyway?

But really.. I mean doing those things doesn't really make you a slut.. If you have sex with a TON of people then I thought that made you a slut?

fcp1234

Guys dont know what they want. They are just a hormonal mess.

SoDamnHungry

Everybody wants a skank.

sjiphone

Oh, look. Misogyny. Must be a Wednesday.

Consider the LIKE button pressed

SlickFootAnna

I suspect this will start happening any second now...

toya316

I mean women who take naked pictures and are rolling blunts....... come on.

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MireyGal76

I was a good girl, waited till I got married, dated maybe 3 guys before I found the one. Was raised to believe that sex was messy and that wasn’t good. That adventurous sex was ‘bad’, oral sex was ‘bad’. Porn was ‘bad’. *kitten* was ‘bad’.

I got married to a “Christian” man, who was addicted to porn (I didn’t know), jacked off every day, and expected me to be his real life porn star. I didn’t know how to have fun in the sack, and he was unable to communicate with me. We struggled a lot, an my self esteem was essentially obliterated.

I hated my body, even though it really wasn’t that bad, but that self-hatred really messes things up when it comes to getting naked.

We were married for 13 years and are in the process of getting divorced now. And really, the sex was never that great because we were BOTH flawed in the way we saw it, the way we approached it. Would good sex have changed the outcome? No, not likely because he is a douchecanoe, but it would have at least given some great memories over the 13 years.

The reason I share this is because, I AM a taker and sharer of half naked pictures. I am learning to love and be comfortable with my body. It is not something to be ashamed of. it is NOT SOMETHING TO BE ASHAMED OF!!! I am, however, NOT A $LUT! I am learning to appreciate my body, and yes sexual freedom too. That too does not make me a $LUT. (Nor does it mean that I'm out there giving away my body).

As someone who has fallen away from “religion” as of late, I can say that perhaps if we allowed (*gasp* encouraged even) people to enjoy sex, and to see it as good and fun, and divinely inspired, then maybe we wouldn't have so many f**ked up marriages.

Perhaps if we weren't so bloody uptight our bodies, we’d be free to share them with our spouses. Perhaps if we weren't made to feel like we were $luts because we actually enjoy sex, or are coming to grips with who we are, the world might be a better place.

Being a “Christian”, I can tell you this… condemnation and judgment is not part of the creed, and nor is it OUR job to take on.

Just sayin.

yoovie

Was raised to believe that sex was messy and that wasn’t good. That adventurous sex was ‘bad’, oral sex was ‘bad’. Porn was ‘bad’. *kitten* was ‘bad’.

myself as well, my parents got married as virgins and my mother only admitted to me when I was a teenager that she may have possibly, might, not exactly admitting, but she and my dad "fooled around a couple times" but never had sex. I think she probably gave him a BJ. But it was beaten into my head that you do not ever even think about sex until you know the person youre going to be having it with for the rest of your life, as he slips an engagement ring on your finger with your dad standing there. Our religion was big into sex for procreation, but my dad was awesome and he said that God wouldnt make it feel good if it was just to prevent extinction. And he and my mother had extremely healthy sex drives. But it was severely repressed in me. My mom would tell me that it was just going to get worse over the years so it would be best to find a good JW boy and get married as quickly as possible so I wouldnt end up getting in trouble for premarital sex.

I didn’t know how to have fun in the sack, and he was unable to communicate with me. We struggled a lot, an my self esteem was essentially obliterated. I hated my body, even though it really wasn’t that bad, but that self-hatred really messes things up when it comes to getting naked.

Wow... I feel like that could be me talking I still feel as though Im pretty naive and inexperienced, but working on my self esteem over the last decade has made a really big difference in the amount of fun I allow myself to have when Im undressed.

The reason I share this is because, I AM a taker and sharer of half naked pictures. I am learning to love and be comfortable with my body. It is not something to be ashamed of. it is NOT SOMETHING TO BE ASHAMED OF!!! I am, however, NOT A $LUT! I am learning to appreciate my body, and yes sexual freedom too. That too does not make me a $LUT. (Nor does it mean that I'm out there giving away my body).

As someone who has fallen away from “religion” as of late, I can say that perhaps if we allowed (*gasp* encouraged even) people to enjoy sex, and to see it as good and fun, and divinely inspired, then maybe we wouldn't have so many f**ked up marriages.

Perhaps if we weren't so bloody uptight our bodies, we’d be free to share them with our spouses. Perhaps if we weren't made to feel like we were $luts because we actually enjoy sex, or are coming to grips with who we are, the world might be a better place.

Being a “Christian”, I can tell you this… condemnation and judgment is not part of the creed, and nor is it OUR job to take on.

Just sayin.

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