Guys say they want a Nice/Good girl but go for Sl*ts?

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

um... where are you finding said guys? Those sound more like creeps to me. Just sayin'.

sjiphone

I find it offensive that you have divided girls up into good/nice and slut/skank.

I don't believe the terms slut and skank should be used for anyone. Women can find liberation covered up or revealing skin, in abstinence or many partners. It's an individual choice and no one else's business.

here we go

I ain't being politically correct. I'm just saying that I too find it offensive that you have divided girls up into good/nice and slut/skank. When a guy spreads it around he is called a 'stud', but if a girl does the same thing you call her a 'slut'. Get off your high horse.

Chessie24

it's possible to be both with the right balance :bigsmile:

Agree.

It's all in how you look at things. Maybe if the guy you like is going for girls that aren't like you then he isn't really your type? Or why would you want to date them anyway?

But really.. I mean doing those things doesn't really make you a slut.. If you have sex with a TON of people then I thought that made you a slut?

fcp1234

Guys dont know what they want. They are just a hormonal mess.

SoDamnHungry

Everybody wants a skank.

sjiphone

Oh, look. Misogyny. Must be a Wednesday.

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SlickFootAnna

I suspect this will start happening any second now...

toya316

I mean women who take naked pictures and are rolling blunts....... come on.

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MireyGal76

I was a good girl, waited till I got married, dated maybe 3 guys before I found the one. Was raised to believe that sex was messy and that wasn’t good. That adventurous sex was ‘bad’, oral sex was ‘bad’. Porn was ‘bad’. *kitten* was ‘bad’.

I got married to a “Christian” man, who was addicted to porn (I didn’t know), jacked off every day, and expected me to be his real life porn star. I didn’t know how to have fun in the sack, and he was unable to communicate with me. We struggled a lot, an my self esteem was essentially obliterated.

I hated my body, even though it really wasn’t that bad, but that self-hatred really messes things up when it comes to getting naked.

We were married for 13 years and are in the process of getting divorced now. And really, the sex was never that great because we were BOTH flawed in the way we saw it, the way we approached it. Would good sex have changed the outcome? No, not likely because he is a douchecanoe, but it would have at least given some great memories over the 13 years.

The reason I share this is because, I AM a taker and sharer of half naked pictures. I am learning to love and be comfortable with my body. It is not something to be ashamed of. it is NOT SOMETHING TO BE ASHAMED OF!!! I am, however, NOT A $LUT! I am learning to appreciate my body, and yes sexual freedom too. That too does not make me a $LUT. (Nor does it mean that I'm out there giving away my body).

As someone who has fallen away from “religion” as of late, I can say that perhaps if we allowed (*gasp* encouraged even) people to enjoy sex, and to see it as good and fun, and divinely inspired, then maybe we wouldn't have so many f**ked up marriages.

Perhaps if we weren't so bloody uptight our bodies, we’d be free to share them with our spouses. Perhaps if we weren't made to feel like we were $luts because we actually enjoy sex, or are coming to grips with who we are, the world might be a better place.

Being a “Christian”, I can tell you this… condemnation and judgment is not part of the creed, and nor is it OUR job to take on.

Just sayin.

yoovie

Was raised to believe that sex was messy and that wasn’t good. That adventurous sex was ‘bad’, oral sex was ‘bad’. Porn was ‘bad’. *kitten* was ‘bad’.

myself as well, my parents got married as virgins and my mother only admitted to me when I was a teenager that she may have possibly, might, not exactly admitting, but she and my dad "fooled around a couple times" but never had sex. I think she probably gave him a BJ. But it was beaten into my head that you do not ever even think about sex until you know the person youre going to be having it with for the rest of your life, as he slips an engagement ring on your finger with your dad standing there. Our religion was big into sex for procreation, but my dad was awesome and he said that God wouldnt make it feel good if it was just to prevent extinction. And he and my mother had extremely healthy sex drives. But it was severely repressed in me. My mom would tell me that it was just going to get worse over the years so it would be best to find a good JW boy and get married as quickly as possible so I wouldnt end up getting in trouble for premarital sex.

I didn’t know how to have fun in the sack, and he was unable to communicate with me. We struggled a lot, an my self esteem was essentially obliterated. I hated my body, even though it really wasn’t that bad, but that self-hatred really messes things up when it comes to getting naked.

Wow... I feel like that could be me talking I still feel as though Im pretty naive and inexperienced, but working on my self esteem over the last decade has made a really big difference in the amount of fun I allow myself to have when Im undressed.

The reason I share this is because, I AM a taker and sharer of half naked pictures. I am learning to love and be comfortable with my body. It is not something to be ashamed of. it is NOT SOMETHING TO BE ASHAMED OF!!! I am, however, NOT A $LUT! I am learning to appreciate my body, and yes sexual freedom too. That too does not make me a $LUT. (Nor does it mean that I'm out there giving away my body).

As someone who has fallen away from “religion” as of late, I can say that perhaps if we allowed (*gasp* encouraged even) people to enjoy sex, and to see it as good and fun, and divinely inspired, then maybe we wouldn't have so many f**ked up marriages.

Perhaps if we weren't so bloody uptight our bodies, we’d be free to share them with our spouses. Perhaps if we weren't made to feel like we were $luts because we actually enjoy sex, or are coming to grips with who we are, the world might be a better place.

Being a “Christian”, I can tell you this… condemnation and judgment is not part of the creed, and nor is it OUR job to take on.

Just sayin.

Youre my new favorite new friend forever... I could just cry. But I wont. Cause Im in an amazing mood.

BrittKnee_Rae

I think that every lady has been slutty-ish at some point or another! And if they claim no, then they are LYING

Men and women actually are not that different! We all think we want a nice, respectful partner then we get bored with it!
We actually want a happy medium.. Someone restful and adventurous at the same!

I think that women are way too catty and throw the words slut and *kitten* around wayyy to often! Like when they see someone hotter then them and get jealous, this hott girl automatically becomes a slut? yet she did nothing wrong! Its crazy.. O_o
GET CHA MIND RIGHT haha seriously

TR0berts

OH CRAP- Does that make us sluts?

*squeezes her thumb and first finger together a bit* Kinda..maybe a little. But.....oh hell, we iz freaky like that....mmhmmm..boom shakalaka!

:checks profiles, sees they both live in Texas: GAAAAAAAGGGHHHHH!!

auticus

I'm sure that this has already been said but girls say they want a guy that treats them right but then go for the bros and deadbeats.

It works both ways

Personality is great but for many is not the predominant factor. In fact as a former psychology student who took part in a year long sociological study on dating and mating in the human animal kingdom as well as a study that was put on TIME and that other sources such as YAHOO and CNN linked to, the predominant factor in dating and mating is actually a desirable body fat % (12-15). Everything else is secondary and in some cases not even an issue, though we are taught to give lip service (pun intended) to what we are told is SUPPOSED to matter most.

Which is why fitness sites and supplements are a billion dollar industry.

Jpinpoint

good girls are boring.

they are

Good girls are generally bad girls in bed.

Bad girls are usually just bad.

Good guys will put a ring on it, and finish you off first FOR. THE. REST. OF. YOUR. LIFE.

Bad guys will finish first, tell you it's been fun and call you in 6 weeks to hook up again.

clrrrr

hey, you know what else sucks? women hating on and shaming other women.
stop putting that destructive energy out into the universe. judging and comparing yourself to others will never ever ever get you lasting happiness.
also, sl*ts are awesome. like all women. give 'em a chance. you're missing out on a LOT of potential best friends.

BigDave1050

Guys want "A lady in the streets but a freak in the bed"! Yep I just Quoted Ludacris, the world must be coming to an end:indifferent: !

Jpinpoint

I'm sure not all guys but it's kind of upsetting.

Guys who claim to be God fearing, guys claiming to want a nice girl and etc
but then go after and flirt with skanks........
I mean women who take naked pictures and are rolling blunts....... come on.

Maybe these guys are not "men" but what the hell

This is not upsetting. It can't be upsetting if you stop caring about someone who doesn't want to be with you.

Naked pics and rolling blunts does not make a slut.

The word "slut" is just a term used to slam women for being women who enjoy being women and having sex. It's misogyny.

I know many women who take naked pics, roll blunts and thank God every day they are blessed with the right to take a naked pic and roll a blunt...oh and for all the other stuff they are thankful for.

Off to be a....well I don't smoke blunts. So I guess I'm just off to be naked.

quirkytizzy

Who needs men to call us *kitten* when we do it very well do it to ourselves? "Can't beat 'em - join 'em." Sad to see that so many women have adopted this motto when it comes to the ways we have been oppressed.

Ladies who call other ladies sluts - please don't get yer knickers in a twist when a dude calls you a *kitten*. You removed that luxury when you were quite willing to call another woman the same name.

diodelcibo

Acts like a lady when we go out but is a slut in the bedroom

Capt_Apollo

Oh, look. Misogyny. Must be a Wednesday.

hello_c_cup

Oh, look. Misogyny. Must be a Wednesday.

ChrisR0se

^^^^be my shut

Dub_D

there is no such thing as a sl*t! :mad:

nornas42

Guys want "A lady in the streets but a freak in the bed"! Yep I just Quoted Ludacris, the world must be coming to an end:indifferent: !

Ha! That's how my fiance describes me

laurenz2501

Yeah like the women who say they want nice and sweet guys, but when you're all nice and sweet they're not interested and go for a *kitten*. this is 90% of women.

there is a difference between being "nice" and "overly attached"/stalkerish/persistent/"too-much-too-soon. we don't like a-holes either. we really don't. it's just seemingly impossible to find a nice guy who isn't a pu**y these days. pardon my french.

laurenz2501

Oh, look. Misogyny. Must be a Wednesday.

lmao

hello_c_cup

there is no such thing as a sl*t! :mad:

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Dub_D

I mean women who take naked pictures and are rolling blunts....... come on.

Yeah..not really seeing the issue here...

nonstopper

Well the guys have to get a lil `sumin sumin` while waiting to find the good/mrs right!

Dave198lbs

there is no such thing as a sl*t! :mad:

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some of us work very hard at being sluts. you think it's easy? well...it's not.