Why wouldn't you kiss someone?
So. I had a weird evening, and I was discussing the events with a male friend over breakfast. Both of us are confused by the situation.
I've been flirting with a coworker for several weeks. After a few hang outs, he invited me over to sleep and "cuddle". We got rather intimate, but throughout the whole thing, not once did we kiss each other.
As a 24 year old woman who has had a few intimate encounters, kissing is like...the first base. The foundation. You can't have anything else without the kissing.
My mind is boggled. Has anybody else encountered this?
(i ruled out bad breath, as I know we both showered and cleaned up before meeting. He also is a rather bearded man. Maybe he was afraid I couldn't find his lips in the mess of hair.)
I've been flirting with a coworker for several weeks. After a few hang outs, he invited me over to sleep and "cuddle". We got rather intimate, but throughout the whole thing, not once did we kiss each other.
As a 24 year old woman who has had a few intimate encounters, kissing is like...the first base. The foundation. You can't have anything else without the kissing.
My mind is boggled. Has anybody else encountered this?
(i ruled out bad breath, as I know we both showered and cleaned up before meeting. He also is a rather bearded man. Maybe he was afraid I couldn't find his lips in the mess of hair.)
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He invited you over to "sleep and cuddle", you bought it and you think he wants a relationship? He didn't kiss you because he just wanted to "cuddle", nothing more.0
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In my experiences, if it is just a hook up or booty call, then kissing doesn't happen.0
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when i didnt kiss people it meant i didnt wanna get close to them.. that i just wanted to keep it how it was.... i was never a fan of kissing because i never wanted to feel emotion with someone... now that im married i love pecking and kissing.... soooo he probably didnt wanna get close to u.. sorry no offense.. but..... im pretty sure when a man asks if u wanna sleep over and cuddle it means just sex....... duh lol...... sorry girl but u kinda got played... he just wanted sex obviously0
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He invited you over to "sleep and cuddle", you bought it and you think he wants a relationship? He didn't kiss you because he just wanted to "cuddle", nothing more.
unfortunately i thought this too when i read your op.0 -
Sorry honey, this isn't going to go as you want - he just wants you for your cuddles, nothing more.
Move on quickly, spare yourself the heartache of getting attached.
Also, he may just be a bad kisser. If that's the case, see the above sentence.0 -
He invited you over to "sleep and cuddle", you bought it and you think he wants a relationship? He didn't kiss you because he just wanted to "cuddle", nothing more.
unfortunately i thought this too when i read your op.
I wasnt going into it expecting a relationship. I knew what our "sleep and cuddle" time meant. We didn't have sex, just fooled around. However I thought kissing was just something everyone did, whether you were just planning on hooking up or not.
Isn't kissing the best part of it?0 -
Kissing is considered personal by many people.
Appears to me as if he just wanted to knock a piece off.0 -
Reasons I wouldn't kiss someone: they have bad breath, I don't want to kiss them (attraction) or the location is wrong.0
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kissing is considered personal...as others have said...
it IS the best part in a lot of ways and it is the part I love the most.. in foreplay as it gets everything else moving and going...
but it really is personal...and its sharing a piece of yourself, sharing breath....so some people do regard it as a no no with just sex situations...0 -
i dont like kissing but i like it when someone tries to kiss me.. its funny and cute... so maybe thats why ur mad.... u know u can catch alot from kissing.. like mono or oral herpes... oral herpes can turn into genital herpes.. anyways.. so u guys didnt have sex but fooled around?.. confused usually when u just fool around it means kissing or oral or like a massage..... idk this is weird... i think ur thinking a bit to much....... some guys love kissing i know that if i start making out with my man it will definetely lead to sex.. so maybe he didnt kiss u cuz he didnt want u to take it the wrong way if u had sex..... ?0
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also.. believe me if he is messing around wih u and willing to sleep next to u its not ur breath.... lol... people are weird....0
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So. I had a weird evening, and I was discussing the events with a male friend over breakfast. Both of us are confused by the situation.
I've been flirting with a coworker for several weeks. After a few hang outs, he invited me over to sleep and "cuddle". We got rather intimate, but throughout the whole thing, not once did we kiss each other.
As a 24 year old woman who has had a few intimate encounters, kissing is like...the first base. The foundation. You can't have anything else without the kissing.
My mind is boggled. Has anybody else encountered this?
(i ruled out bad breath, as I know we both showered and cleaned up before meeting. He also is a rather bearded man. Maybe he was afraid I couldn't find his lips in the mess of hair.)
It's called a booty call.0 -
Why in the world would you "cuddle" with someone that you haven't kissed? :noway:
Why do people get themselves into situations like this?:grumble:0 -
He invited you over to "sleep and cuddle", you bought it and you think he wants a relationship? He didn't kiss you because he just wanted to "cuddle", nothing more.
unfortunately i thought this too when i read your op.
I wasnt going into it expecting a relationship. I knew what our "sleep and cuddle" time meant. We didn't have sex, just fooled around. However I thought kissing was just something everyone did, whether you were just planning on hooking up or not.
Isn't kissing the best part of it?
If kissing is the best part, you're doing it wrong.
...or HE is.0 -
He's a coworker!!0
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:indifferent:0
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Why in the world would you "cuddle" with someone that you haven't kissed? :noway:
Why do people get themselves into situations like this?:grumble:
It's called Game... and apparently he has some.
Women are helpless when a guy has game.
Ever watch True Blood.... a guy can 'glamour' a woman very easy if done right.0 -
Why in the world would you "cuddle" with someone that you haven't kissed? :noway:
Why do people get themselves into situations like this?:grumble:
In a nutshell ^^^ THIS0 -
a woman can have game to so watch out.... when i was single i broke alot of hearts... not on purpose.. just cuz i liked attention.. lol.. hehe... so woman know how to do this also.. but woman are a bit more convincing in my opinion... i never really fell for a mans game except my current mans.. and boy ill tell u it sucks.... so i guess i got back all my karma for the past...Why in the world would you "cuddle" with someone that you haven't kissed? :noway:
Why do people get themselves into situations like this?:grumble:
It's called Game... and apparently he has some.
Women are helpless when a guy has game.
Ever watch True Blood.... a guy can 'glamour' a woman very easy if done right.
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God! I just love the forums!0
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I don't know, some people don't really like kissing all that much.
I'm not a huge fan, I also won't make the first move, they have to be the ones to do so, even if I like the person I'm way too shy to initiate anything. Maybe it's possible he's shy or maybe he just didn't want to cross that line?
I mean did you try to kiss him and get rejected? Maybe he thought you didn't want to kiss?
And no haha I'd say there are much better parts of hooking up than making out.0 -
all these rules are weird.
kissing IS awesome...i wouldnt bother with someone who didnt want to kiss...see ya!0 -
A lot of people see kissing as more intimate (for those they're really interested in) and when casual hook ups take place it's usually for one thing and that's not to kiss. I remember an old work colleague saying that he didn't like kissing at all when he was getting "intimate" and I don't think a lot were from relationships he was in.
This doesn't necessarily mean that he saw it as a casual thing only, some people just prefer to get down to it without any of the extras. Although, that along with flirting leading to "sleep and cuddle" it does sound more like a casual hook-up. If you're interested in pursuing this further, I would let him know asap. That way, if he doesn't feel the same as least you can move on and save yourself the hurt.0 -
Very weird situation.
Did you try to kiss him and he rebuffed it?
I would drop a few "pretty woman" quotes around him and see if he reacts.0 -
You mean a guy invited you over for "cuddles" and wasn't interested in above the belt activity?
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Very weird situation.
Did you try to kiss him and he rebuffed it?
I would drop a few "pretty woman" quotes around him and see if he reacts.
:laugh: :laugh:0 -
In my experiences, if it is just a hook up or booty call, then kissing doesn't happen.
yup...this.0 -
Duh, cooties. He obviously either didn't want your cooties or didn't want to give you his.0
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in elementary school, i learned that kissing leads to cooties.
so no kissing sounds like sensible preventive healthcare to me.0 -
in elementary school, i learned that kissing leads to cooties.
so no kissing sounds like sensible preventive healthcare to me.
you must be right, you look like a well known reliable source of info0
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