BLACK TEAM WEEK 10!!!!

Marla64

My friends-- if my husband hasn't had his heart attack yet, the events of today will surely take care of it.

I will keep this awful story painfully short-- due to how happy she is when she is out of her "memory care unit" apparently my mother-in-law becomes "disruptive" according to the powers that be upon her return. She tells the other people there, apparently, how much she hates it. She's a bad girl. And the staff complains to her son, my brother-in-law.

So, my brother-in-law, who we learned today has full power of attorney-- (my mother-in-law didn't even know it-- she thought she only granted financial-- or something-- ) told us, when we attempted to sign her out again, and bring her here for two nights until her husband returns from HIS vacation, that he forbids it.

Not only that, this ahole who's on vacation while his mother rots in the nuthatch, won't even permit her to be signed out for anything-- he won't bring her to our house, we may not bring her to dinner, he's not taking her to church anymore-- all because seeing the light of day and breathing in freedom snaps her out of her medically induced stupor they're keeping her in-- and she begins to fight back.

Bear in mind, her "fighting back" is from a frail 81 year old woman who can barely walk, can't get out of a chair without help, and needs help with her bathroom needs-- she fights back with her "I don't want to be here. I don't belong here. I want to go home" attitude.

This nightmare is too much to bear, my friends-- my husband and daughter, 12 year old Rebekah, are clinging to grandma right now in her room and they're all sobbiing. My mother-in-law said to my husband, "He's locked me up in here. My life is over. I may as well be dead."

Never before have we felt so helpless. We have no money or connections to fight a legal war to overturn any POA she signed, nor do we believe she'd be "cognizant" enough to testify on her own behalf-- brother-in-law would no doubt make sure she's too drugged for that.

This is a Movie of the Week drama-- I wouldn't believe it if we weren't living it. The punchline here is there's no fortune that he's going to inherit-- there is nothing for him but power.

Continued prayers if you're led-- my husband is positively homicidal right now.

Sorry to continually dump these tales-- I love you all.

richardsrm

your tale is painfully familiar Can only tell you that your husband will get through it but his relationship and love for his brother will have changed for ever. Prayers, Richie

jimswmn

Marla...Dump away my friend, that's what we're here for, to listen.

jimswmn

W2D1 of C25K is in the book.

Sweat...check
Inhaler used..check
Legs tired...check
Enjoyed ...Check Check

Marla, did you hear me talking to you the whole time? We were having a great convo.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Whew-- so glad I know it's you-- I thought I was going nuts.

Naw...besides it would have been a shorter drive. :laugh: :laugh:

Girlmom282109

My friends-- if my husband hasn't had his heart attack yet, the events of today will surely take care of it.

I will keep this awful story painfully short-- due to how happy she is when she is out of her "memory care unit" apparently my mother-in-law becomes "disruptive" according to the powers that be upon her return. She tells the other people there, apparently, how much she hates it. She's a bad girl. And the staff complains to her son, my brother-in-law.

So, my brother-in-law, who we learned today has full power of attorney-- (my mother-in-law didn't even know it-- she thought she only granted financial-- or something-- ) told us, when we attempted to sign her out again, and bring her here for two nights until her husband returns from HIS vacation, that he forbids it.

Not only that, this ahole who's on vacation while his mother rots in the nuthatch, won't even permit her to be signed out for anything-- he won't bring her to our house, we may not bring her to dinner, he's not taking her to church anymore-- all because seeing the light of day and breathing in freedom snaps her out of her medically induced stupor they're keeping her in-- and she begins to fight back.

Bear in mind, her "fighting back" is from a frail 81 year old woman who can barely walk, can't get out of a chair without help, and needs help with her bathroom needs-- she fights back with her "I don't want to be here. I don't belong here. I want to go home" attitude.

This nightmare is too much to bear, my friends-- my husband and daughter, 12 year old Rebekah, are clinging to grandma right now in her room and they're all sobbiing. My mother-in-law said to my husband, "He's locked me up in here. My life is over. I may as well be dead."

Never before have we felt so helpless. We have no money or connections to fight a legal war to overturn any POA she signed, nor do we believe she'd be "cognizant" enough to testify on her own behalf-- brother-in-law would no doubt make sure she's too drugged for that.

This is a Movie of the Week drama-- I wouldn't believe it if we weren't living it. The punchline here is there's no fortune that he's going to inherit-- there is nothing for him but power.

Continued prayers if you're led-- my husband is positively homicidal right now.

Sorry to continually dump these tales-- I love you all.

Marla~ you and your family are in my thoughts. beisdes my sometimes pain in the butt mom you YES YOU are one of the strongest ladies I have ever met!!

My uncle had POA with my grandmother and managed to get the whole family to dispise my mom. In the end my grandmother got what she wanted (PEACE) and I ended up with her very old china and my mom got nothing. At least we have great memories with her and I know that she was never used by my mothers children.

On a good note I went to the gym even though I'm not feeling so great I was there 1 hour 20 minutes and burned 1000 calories!!!

What to eat now that I burned all those calories!!! I need to eat but feel like I shouldn't waste the food cause I can't taste it anyways!!!

tamelab

Marla...I have been reading your posts and all I have to say is that your brother-in-law is an absolute *kitten*. Maybe someday his family will lock him away in a facility and leave him there. Probably not my place to say it. In my opinion, there is nothing worse than mistreating a helpless person. Shame on him! I will pray that things get better for you and that your DH doesn't kill him.

P.S. I'm sorry if that was too harsh. Sometimes I open my mouth before my brain engages!

Marla64

Marla...I have been reading your posts and all I have to say is that your brother-in-law is an absolute *kitten*. Maybe someday his family will lock him away in a facility and leave him there. Probably not my place to say it. In my opinion, there is nothing worse than mistreating a helpless person. Shame on him! I will pray that things get better for you and that your DH doesn't kill him.

P.S. I'm sorry if that was too harsh. Sometimes I open my mouth before my brain engages!

Tammy-- please, oh my goodness-- no apologies. You're not saying anything we're not feeling, believe me. Elder abuse and child abuse are two of the biggies in my book-- like you said, you're picking on the helpless. Big man.

Actually, he told my husband that he has already instructed his children to do exactly the same with him, if he is as "demented" as Grandma when he's that age, because he doesn't want to be a burden to his children. (Mind you-- she is no burden at all. And definitely not to him-- we want her here with us-- how does it harm him? Why does he care? )

My husband ( who I'm proud to say was the picture of restraint ) simply told him in reply, that he wishes the same pain, then, on his brother some day that he has caused their mother. She is devastated-- and so is my husband.

However, woman of faith that she is, after having her cry, she composed herself. Said it's out of her hands, there's nothing we can do about it but to pray for a miracle. She's an amazing woman.

We fully expect to be told soon that all visits to her are forbidden-- nothing will surprise us anymore. Violence at that point wouldn't surprise me, either-- my husband is not a rash man, but he is a just man. He has a very clear sense of right and wrong, black and white-- and doesn't care a fig about the laws on the books that would deem physically kicking the **** out of his brother as a crime. He wouldn't go out of his way to do it, but any encounter between these two right now should prove interesting.

Oh my-- on I go-- enough-- so much time this day has been spent discussing, crying, fretting, seething over this-- and my exercise time, laundry time, children time, everything time has been sapped.

Thanks Richie for your words, you too, Sam-- and to all of you who daily give me your strength--
you raise me up, people.

Later, my friends.

Tri_Dad

marla- as is the case in many things, my heart is with you. I will be sure to pray about this one with the big guy. Some people are just so blind to what is right.

My team- Glad to find you all well. Got a good workout in and I am feeling well. Life has been a bit disorderly as of late. Many things going on. I will come back down eventually. I swear. lol

:drinker:

Marla64

marla- as is the case in many things, my heart is with you. I will be sure to pray about this one with the big guy. Some people are just so blind to what is right.

My team- Glad to find you all well. Got a good workout in and I am feeling well. Life has been a bit disorderly as of late. Many things going on. I will come back down eventually. I swear. lol

:drinker:

When you do, bring me with you-- seriously.

Remember the days when our weight problem was the biggest problem?

mumsanutter

Marla - you are amazing and if things are just then the a hole of a brother in law will get what he deserves.

This has happened to my family, with my uncle moving my grandparents first into sheltered accommodation and later into a dementia home. My grandad passed away last year and I found out through facebook and he arranged the cremation to be on my mums birthday! To top it all when my dad passed on last year (not his brother, he is my mums brother but she passed away when I was 10 - 26 years ago) he completely blanked the family - 1 text after I let him know, and then no card and he didn't attend the funeral! I now don't have any contact with my nana (although she has no idea who I am) and as far as my uncle is concerned he will need me before I need him! Sorry seemed to have hijacked this with all about me!!

Well my hip was getting better, but last night I decided to give Rob's god daughter and cuddle and jumped up and down with her and I felt my back go crack, and boy does it hurt now! Will be walking (slowly) as this is probably the only exercise I can do at the mo, but otherwise I am out of action for a while. Will watch my food, but won't weigh - don't think I can bend to get the scales at the mo!

Check back later,xx

familygirl37167

Wow lots going on, on the black team...

Marla you are truly an amazing person

Tanya- I hope your back get to feeling better real soon

Sam- good calorie burn yesterday at the gym

Everyone else hello..

While I was at darling sons baseball practice...it was cold and windy and I said I am gonna run, at least I will be warm...I almost had myself talked out of it, but I did it I think it was like 45 and very windy..

5 miles done 480 calories burned 57 minutes..I was super proud of myself but talk about sore this morning...Welp eating my frnch toast and drinking my coffee then off to the gym I am off today!! Yippee I hope my husband has as attitiude adjustment before he expects me to ride around with him....

Nonibug

Good morning all!

Marla-- I am just amazed at how cold-hearted your brother-in-law must be! It is such a shame and so, so sad. I know it isnt much comfort, but regardless of what he does, Violet knows how much your family loves her and Im sure that brings her a smile several times a day. I pray for her and your situation daily.

Tanya-- Wow, you have got to be careful lady! I hope your back gets to feeling better soon

Sam-- Great workout!!:drinker: Hope your starting to feel better:flowerforyou:

Andrew (and Beth)-- I miss seeing you guys around here!!:sad:

Lori-- Good luck on the bathing suit decisions...I wish I could just get into one without looking like a horror movie!!:laugh:

Im sure I have forgotten something...I apologize. I hope everyone has a great last chance workout today and get those corned beefs in the slow cooker tonight!

Marla64

Marla - you are amazing and if things are just then the a hole of a brother in law will get what he deserves.

This has happened to my family, with my uncle moving my grandparents first into sheltered accommodation and later into a dementia home. My grandad passed away last year and I found out through facebook and he arranged the cremation to be on my mums birthday! To top it all when my dad passed on last year (not his brother, he is my mums brother but she passed away when I was 10 - 26 years ago) he completely blanked the family - 1 text after I let him know, and then no card and he didn't attend the funeral! I now don't have any contact with my nana (although she has no idea who I am) and as far as my uncle is concerned he will need me before I need him! Sorry seemed to have hijacked this with all about me!!

Well my hip was getting better, but last night I decided to give Rob's god daughter and cuddle and jumped up and down with her and I felt my back go crack, and boy does it hurt now! Will be walking (slowly) as this is probably the only exercise I can do at the mo, but otherwise I am out of action for a while. Will watch my food, but won't weigh - don't think I can bend to get the scales at the mo!

Check back later,xx

Oh my-- I'm the hijacker-- drifting off to sleep last night, feeling bad for taking over the thread--

We now return you to your regularly scheduled programming-- ha.

Thanks everybody--

Back to work!

familygirl37167

Marla- you are to funny you keep me laughing to say the least..

Had a great workout today..745 calories burned 5 miles on machine and 6.3 miles on bike..I need to update my miles logged...well gonna ride with hubby today...hopefully he is in a better moood...Crossing my finger and saying a quick prayer...everyone get those last minutes workouts in...My son has a band concert tonight, so I had to do mione this morning...

Have a great day everyone!!!

tamelab

Good morning all...Off to work for me. I have a big decision to make today. I have to decide if I am ready to quit one of my jobs. It is too much for me type 10 hours every day and I am making very little money on my national account. We will eventually lose the local account to EMR (electronic medical records) but don't know when it will be. I make about 3x the money on the local account. My hubby's theory is to let go of the national account and something will turn up when the local account goes to EMR. It is kinda scary though to quit a job in this economy, no matter how bad it is. I've prayed a lot about it and I know what I need to do, it is just the actually doing it that worries me. Hope you all have a great day.

Tanya...Hope your back feels better soon. I had that happen to me once when I was cleaning out the attic. Ouch!

Tam...Congrats on the motivation to get your run in! I went for a short run last night and the wind just about blew me back down the hill.

jimswmn

Good morning BT !

Marla64

Great workout Tamara--

Tammy-- prayers for wisdom for you as you make this decision-- nothing like working for peanuts, eh? Story of my life.

Bobbi-- good morning!

Tanya-- hope your back is better. Blech.

Roni-- thanks for your words, my friend-- you're all just aces-- truly, all of you.

'Homeschool Pony's' in my home in less than an hour-- this little, history, civics thing we do with a friend. She runs it. I provide the place. Not a bad deal. Between her kids and mine, we fill a room-- she has 8.

Have a great day--

72lori

Hey all, popping in to see what's up today. I am digging again. Now for the deck. I gotta say, I'm not moving very fast though. :grumble: One of those days. I would rather wander around and smell the roses than actually work, metaphorically speaking of course. I don't have any roses! :laugh: Although I did wander through Lowes for quite some time after I took the kids to school scoping out what flowers/trees/shrubs I NEED.

Lunch break is almost over. Back to work for me!

It's still a freaking mess, but here's our progress so far. Concrete pad was done on the spot I levelved, retaining wall put in, huge 1,000+ pound beast of an 8 person hot tub loaded onto the trailer, hauled across town and drug across our yard by a lot of guys!


Edit to add this pic too:

Did I mention in the midst of all of this DH insisted on settting his 3 posts for the triangle shaped pergola he wants to build over the outdoor kitchen? 1,000 projects going on, I'm telling ya.

jimswmn

Lori, Its all starting to come together and looks good. :flowerforyou:

Marla64

It looks wonderful!

familygirl37167

So the mexican resturant my husband has been waiting on opening for a while finally opened today..Can ya'll guess where we went for lunch?? Yep you guessed it chuys..it was good homemade tortilla and yellow queso dip and flautas..Can you say I am glad I did 750 calories burned this morning thats the only thing I am eating beside the break I had before the gym and the oatmeal I had after the gym for a total of 340 calories...hopefully I will be ok.. Thought about going back to the gym but my friend seems to think I should be ok..So I hope so!!!!

Marla64

So the mexican resturant my husband has been waiting on opening for a while finally opened today..Can ya'll guess where we went for lunch?? Yep you guessed it chuys..it was good homemade tortilla and yellow queso dip and flautas..Can you say I am glad I did 750 calories burned this morning thats the only thing I am eating beside the break I had before the gym and the oatmeal I had after the gym for a total of 340 calories...hopefully I will be ok.. Thought about going back to the gym but my friend seems to think I should be ok..So I hope so!!!!

Sounds delish-- I adore Mexican food. Glad you had a nice day. Guess the hubster had the needed attitude change? (or I hope so anyway!!!!!!!!! )

If you think you need a little more calorie burn, take a walk this evening--

Girlmom282109

I just had to say that I HATE when I forget my HRM at home!!!! I did the same workout as yesterday but added 30 minutes of crutches, and inner thigh exercises!!!!

I am off to spin class in the AM and then heading to the Dr. I have to be better by the 26th and I am not waiting it out this week.

Have a great night everyone!

tamelab

Good evening all...I made it to the gym today for about a 600 calorie burn plus another 1-1/2 milk walk with hubby. It was beautiful in SC today. I'm glad I got to get out some. Good luck to all for weigh in tomorrow.

P.S. I tried my first cup of green tea tonight and can't say that I like it. Is it an acquired taste? I got the Lipton mixed berry flavor and added a little Splenda but I am having to choke it down. Any suggestions?

familygirl37167

Welll everyone you know today is my opening day at the ole barrel, Gonna make it a great day then gonna hit the gym afterward...Hope everyone has a great weigh in

Nonibug

Good morning Team!

Lori-- It's moving along and looking great!! You are doing a fantastic job! Oh, did you ever make your decision on the bathing suit pieces? Is the sales girl going to have it in for you?:laugh:

Tammy-- Good luck on the job decision...Im sure you will do what's right for you and your family:flowerforyou: As for the green tea...I drink the Lipton On The Go green tea packets that you just add to your water. It's delicious. I've never liked hot tea, so not sure what to tell you about that one...

Sam-- Oh I would be so lost without my HRM at the gym! I know I would turn around and go get it!!:laugh:

Tamara-- Glad you enjoyed a nice lunch with the hubby, sounds like he must have been in a better mood Have a great day at work today!:flowerforyou:

I made some homemade chicken fajitas for dinner last night. Delicious and very healthy-made! Loaded them up with fresh veggies and put it all in a whole wheat tortilla wrap...yummy! I think I have enough leftovers to have another one for my lunch after the gym today

Well, good luck with weigh ins this morning and have a fantastic St. Patty's Day everyone!!:flowerforyou:

Marla64

Good morning my friends-- had an arduous but uplifting run last night. Ran through considerable pain in the foot, chanting my mantra, "Brown's don't stop." Dedicated my run to my mother-in-law-- if she can persevere through her terrible emotional pain right now, how can I give any less through my physical pain. So, on I went.

I'm questioning whether I'll ever reach the numbers to practically be able to do the 1/2 marathon-- not at all giving up. But, I figured last night-- while I may have difficulty going more than three miles, I'll at least do that much-- or die trying.

I crossed my finish line victorious-- that which does not kill us makes us stronger, they say-- right?

Going out to lunch today-- got to get to work--

Later, my friends.

arewethereyet

Just a quick hello....spent my computer time writing a monologue (sp) :laugh:

Called my trainer at the gym yesterday. I figure if I pay someone then I will show up and get back in the groove.

After talking to her for an hour she offered to work with me on the beach! (THANKS LORI!!)

The ocean lifts my spirits so I bet my workouts will double in intensity!!

I had told her how I do my cardio on the ocean and she mentioned wanting to walk with me! I love it (although that skinny b1tch better now wear a bathing suit ) Now I am SO looking forward to working out!

Support works my friends..............I received a PM here that got me off my pity pot and back into thinking about my health! Thanks!

Jeannie

Girlmom282109

Sam-- Oh I would be so lost without my HRM at the gym! I know I would turn around and go get it!!:laugh:

I would have if I didn't have the girls. I had already checked them in, got on the eliptical/crosstrainer thing and started it then I went to start my HRM and it wasn't there. ARG!!!

Didn't make it to the gym but I did get up and go to urgency care to get some meds for my sinus infection. I will head to the gym tonight.

Have a great day everyone!!

arewethereyet

Sam-- Oh I would be so lost without my HRM at the gym! I know I would turn around and go get it!!:laugh:

I would have if I didn't have the girls. I had already checked them in, got on the eliptical/crosstrainer thing and started it then I went to start my HRM and it wasn't there. ARG!!!

Didn't make it to the gym but I did get up and go to urgency care to get some meds for my sinus infection. I will head to the gym tonight.

Have a great day everyone!!

SAM Fifty five pounds??? Your wasting away to nuttin! :huh:

I am so proud of you!

AND whilst baking yummy cookies....hero