What is a MILF? Should I be offended or what?

Mustang_Susie

I can't believe I'm going to side with the guys but.. . men are created to be visual...

But FTR: I wouldn't want my sons' friends saying that to me, that's just weird...

lindseym1983

It's a compliment but I would rather be told I am sexy or beautiful then that phrase but we are talking about men who think with their penis so makes perfect sense they would say it that way.

Jersey_Devil

Stifler's mom is the only true MILF

Yeah, and now she works with 2 broke girls

sunsnstatheart

I can't believe I'm going to side with the guys but.. . men are created to be visual...

But FTR: I wouldn't want my sons' friends saying that to me, that's just weird...

Yep, the OP's son did the right thing. Friends do not make comments like that in front of friends' sisters, moms or wives.

dmpizza

Love fishing!

X actly

Mustang_Susie

I can't believe I'm going to side with the guys but.. . men are created to be visual...

But FTR: I wouldn't want my sons' friends saying that to me, that's just weird...

Yep, the OP's son did the right thing. Friends do not make comments like that in front of friends' sisters, moms or wives.

Yeah, I don't think hubby would be too happy with that...:mad:

ChelseaYepThatsMe

It's pretty sad that half of you claim she's fishing for compliments.

She didn't ask if she was a milf, she asked what it was.

ignorance....not an attractive quality in anybody.

so, all these threads that are like, name whats cute about the person above you
rate the person above you
would you date the person above you.

Those posters are fishing for compliments. NOT this woman who in all honesty didn't know what a word meant and came to MFP where she is surrounded by people who are SUPPOSED to be like her, and gets accused of fishing for compliments.

wow.

zerryz

its a compliment Mrs. Robinson.

Now thats something I understand :laugh:

Um, yeah...

And how was the character of Mrs. Robinson portrayed?

****SPOILER ALERT IF YOU HAVE NOT SEEN THE GRADUATE.****







She was an unhappy, sexually dissatisfied predator who went after a young man who really wasn't interested and tried to destroy him (she told her daughter that Benjamin had raped her) when the young man fell in love with her more age-appropriate daughter. Then she was shipped off at the end of the movie to some kind of hospital to "recover."

It's a very misogynistic portrait.

The terms "MILF" and "Cougar" are about the Culture's (men's) discomfort with attractive, sexually active, mature women. It's also another demanding standard for women to try to live up to.

^^ that, plus learning to conjugate "to google" in all tenses. Wikipedia came second after some porn site.

aross001

its a compliment Mrs. Robinson.

Now thats something I understand :laugh:

Um, yeah...

And how was the character of Mrs. Robinson portrayed? She was an unhappy, sexually dissatisfied predator who went after a young man who really wasn't interested and tried to destroy him (she told her daughter that Benjamin had raped her) when the young man fell in love with her more age-appropriate daughter. Then she was shipped off at the end of the movie to some kind of hospital to "recover."

It's a very misogynistic portrait.

The terms "MILF" and "Cougar" are about the Culture's (men's) discomfort with attractive, sexually active, mature women. It's also another demanding standard for women to try to live up to.

the only discomfort I feel from sexually attractive and mature women is in my pants.

What kind of man doesn't like sexually active and attractive women? I really am having a hard time understanding your negative spin on "milf" and "cougar". I've never once heard any young man, middle aged man or ANY man talk disparagingly about a woman and use these terms. Other terms however... sure.

The need to label women based on the sexuality demonstrates discomfort. Men aren't categorized that way. They're treated as fully developed people.

MILF and Cougar are not the compliments they seem to be. They are forms of objectification, judging someone on how she looks -- from the man's point of view. Men are judged on looks, personality, and other traits.

I appreciate your clarification, and I think I can understand your point of view. It seems a little less bizarre to me now, but I still disagree with the extreme at which you seem to be describing all men in what you view as a primarily male societal flaw.

Men are capable of appreciating a woman's physical appearance and state of sexual viability while simultaneously understanding that they are complete people with other desirable traits. Would you describe your loved ones or friends who are male in this way? The existence of terms to describe a persons attributes shouldn't indicate lack of other traits unless the definition includes it.

"Mom I'd like to ****" says something about the person making the statement and the person who the statement is directed towards. It doesn't mean, "Mom who is good only for ****ing."

Edited to add: Cougar, to me, is neither negative or positive - it just means a sexually aggressive woman who likes younger men. MILF is a (crude) compliment. It should probably be used sparingly to avoid insulting someone. Not an easy compliment to wield, but if I were to use it I mean "that mother is sexually attractive to me." No other trait is implied, and it describes me just as much as it describes the woman in question.

Mustang_Susie

its a compliment Mrs. Robinson.

Now thats something I understand :laugh:

Um, yeah...

And how was the character of Mrs. Robinson portrayed? She was an unhappy, sexually dissatisfied predator who went after a young man who really wasn't interested and tried to destroy him (she told her daughter that Benjamin had raped her) when the young man fell in love with her more age-appropriate daughter. Then she was shipped off at the end of the movie to some kind of hospital to "recover."

It's a very misogynistic portrait.

The terms "MILF" and "Cougar" are about the Culture's (men's) discomfort with attractive, sexually active, mature women. It's also another demanding standard for women to try to live up to.

the only discomfort I feel from sexually attractive and mature women is in my pants.

What kind of man doesn't like sexually active and attractive women? I really am having a hard time understanding your negative spin on "milf" and "cougar". I've never once heard any young man, middle aged man or ANY man talk disparagingly about a woman and use these terms. Other terms however... sure.

The need to label women based on the sexuality demonstrates discomfort. Men aren't categorized that way. They're treated as fully developed people.

MILF and Cougar are not the compliments they seem to be. They are forms of objectification, judging someone on how she looks -- from the man's point of view. Men are judged on looks, personality, and other traits.

I appreciate your clarification, and I think I can understand your point of view. It seems a little less bizarre to me now, but I still disagree with the extreme at which you seem to be describing all men in what you view as a primarily male societal flaw.

Men are capable of appreciating a woman's physical appearance and state of sexual viability while simultaneously understanding that they are complete people with other desirable traits. Would you describe your loved ones or friends who are male in this way? The existence of terms to describe a persons attributes shouldn't indicate lack of other traits unless the definition includes it.

"Mom I'd like to ****" says something about the person making the statement and the person who the statement is directed towards. It doesn't mean, "Mom who is good only for ****ing."

Edited to add: Cougar, to me, is neither negative or positive - it just means a sexually aggressive woman who likes younger men. MILF is a (crude) compliment. It should probably be used sparingly to avoid insulting someone. Not an easy compliment to wield, but if I were to use it I mean "that mother is sexually attractive to me." No other trait is implied, and it describes me just as much as it describes the woman in question.

But that doesn't mean that other males using MILF aren't bring crude and only referring to that "act" even if you and other guys use it as you described above, correct?

vizsla99

I'm a gilf.

You're seriously a grandma?? I'm calling BS you look like your 20...although that would be one hell of a head start :laugh:

Well, I am in spirit.

In my going-to-bed-early, telling-kids-to-get-off-my-lawn, falling-on-my-hip-in-the-shower spirit, I am.

I think you meant GMILF. Goat-Milker I'd Like To F....

aross001

its a compliment Mrs. Robinson.

Now thats something I understand :laugh:

Um, yeah...

And how was the character of Mrs. Robinson portrayed? She was an unhappy, sexually dissatisfied predator who went after a young man who really wasn't interested and tried to destroy him (she told her daughter that Benjamin had raped her) when the young man fell in love with her more age-appropriate daughter. Then she was shipped off at the end of the movie to some kind of hospital to "recover."

It's a very misogynistic portrait.

The terms "MILF" and "Cougar" are about the Culture's (men's) discomfort with attractive, sexually active, mature women. It's also another demanding standard for women to try to live up to.

the only discomfort I feel from sexually attractive and mature women is in my pants.

What kind of man doesn't like sexually active and attractive women? I really am having a hard time understanding your negative spin on "milf" and "cougar". I've never once heard any young man, middle aged man or ANY man talk disparagingly about a woman and use these terms. Other terms however... sure.

The need to label women based on the sexuality demonstrates discomfort. Men aren't categorized that way. They're treated as fully developed people.

MILF and Cougar are not the compliments they seem to be. They are forms of objectification, judging someone on how she looks -- from the man's point of view. Men are judged on looks, personality, and other traits.

I appreciate your clarification, and I think I can understand your point of view. It seems a little less bizarre to me now, but I still disagree with the extreme at which you seem to be describing all men in what you view as a primarily male societal flaw.

Men are capable of appreciating a woman's physical appearance and state of sexual viability while simultaneously understanding that they are complete people with other desirable traits. Would you describe your loved ones or friends who are male in this way? The existence of terms to describe a persons attributes shouldn't indicate lack of other traits unless the definition includes it.

"Mom I'd like to ****" says something about the person making the statement and the person who the statement is directed towards. It doesn't mean, "Mom who is good only for ****ing."

Edited to add: Cougar, to me, is neither negative or positive - it just means a sexually aggressive woman who likes younger men. MILF is a (crude) compliment. It should probably be used sparingly to avoid insulting someone. Not an easy compliment to wield, but if I were to use it I mean "that mother is sexually attractive to me." No other trait is implied, and it describes me just as much as it describes the woman in question.

But that doesn't mean that other males using MILF aren't bring crude and only referring to that "act" even if you and other guys use it as you described above, correct?

Correct. I wasn't commenting on wether or not it was crude, I was commenting on wether or not the terms MILF and Cougar were compliments. It is, in fact, crude. Some people don't feel complimented by a crude remark, some do.

jofjltncb6

It's pretty sad that half of you claim she's fishing for compliments.

She didn't ask if she was a milf, she asked what it was.

ignorance....not an attractive quality in anybody.

so, all these threads that are like, name whats cute about the person above you
rate the person above you
would you date the person above you.

Those posters are fishing for compliments. NOT this woman who in all honesty didn't know what a word meant and came to MFP where she is surrounded by people who are SUPPOSED to be like her, and gets accused of fishing for compliments.

wow.

And I still think you're wrong...but that's just my opinion.

And I'm not surprised that you (and others) have an opinion that differs from mine. I'm not sure why you would be shocked that others have opinions that differ from yours.

Monica_has_a_goal

OP obviously knew what the term meant (indicated by her use of all caps in MILF).

:laugh: agreed

_the_feniks_

Really? They said that?

Mustang_Susie

I appreciate your clarification, and I think I can understand your point of view. It seems a little less bizarre to me now, but I still disagree with the extreme at which you seem to be describing all men in what you view as a primarily male societal flaw.

Men are capable of appreciating a woman's physical appearance and state of sexual viability while simultaneously understanding that they are complete people with other desirable traits. Would you describe your loved ones or friends who are male in this way? The existence of terms to describe a persons attributes shouldn't indicate lack of other traits unless the definition includes it.

"Mom I'd like to ****" says something about the person making the statement and the person who the statement is directed towards. It doesn't mean, "Mom who is good only for ****ing."

Edited to add: Cougar, to me, is neither negative or positive - it just means a sexually aggressive woman who likes younger men. MILF is a (crude) compliment. It should probably be used sparingly to avoid insulting someone. Not an easy compliment to wield, but if I were to use it I mean "that mother is sexually attractive to me." No other trait is implied, and it describes me just as much as it describes the woman in question.

But that doesn't mean that other males using MILF aren't bring crude and only referring to that "act" even if you and other guys use it as you described above, correct?

Correct. I wasn't commenting on wether or not it was crude, I was commenting on wether or not the terms MILF and Cougar were compliments. It is, in fact, crude. Some people don't feel complimented by a crude remark, some do.

Okay, how about appreciating a woman for what SHE wants to be appreciated for, say: intelligence, wit, compassion, career or academic achievements etc. Even "non-sexual" physical traits such as maybe her eye color or nicely shaped fingers ( dorky, I know )
How does that fit into your thoughts, or does it?

LiftAllThePizzas

urbandictionary.com is handy for those of us not totally au courant with what the kids are sayin' these days. Just type the acronym into the search box and presto!

The only danger is after-the-fact offense.

Yeah, that or seeing the movie American Pie. Are there really that many people who didn't see that movie?

PikaKnight

It's pretty sad that half of you claim she's fishing for compliments.

She didn't ask if she was a milf, she asked what it was.

ignorance....not an attractive quality in anybody.

so, all these threads that are like, name whats cute about the person above you
rate the person above you
would you date the person above you.

Those posters are fishing for compliments. NOT this woman who in all honesty didn't know what a word meant and came to MFP where she is surrounded by people who are SUPPOSED to be like her, and gets accused of fishing for compliments.

wow.

And I still think you're wrong...but that's just my opinion.

And I'm not surprised that you (and others) have an opinion that differs from mine. I'm not sure why you would be shocked that others have opinions that differ from yours.

It's not like you can't google it. That's why I have to kind of wonder the same as Jof.

LiftAllThePizzas

Okay, how about appreciating a woman for what SHE wants to be appreciated for, say: intelligence, wit, compassion, career or academic achievements etc. Even "non-sexual" physical traits such as maybe her eye color or nicely shaped fingers ( dorky, I know )

How about accepting that everyone you ever meet in your entire life will appreciate and perceive you in their own unique way? Some of them will appreciate or notice things about you that you don't want them to or don't like about yourself. And some will appreciate or notice things you don't even know about yourself. You don't get to decide what other people think about you.

n2thenight24

Can't....stop....watching.