The brave and the human
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here, mirey/sandy. these are for you:
you have the body of a fitness model and a heart of gold. this thread is so uplifting!!!!!!!!!!
MOST RECENT POSTER: YOU WERE A BEAUTIFUL BRIDE!!!! congratulations on finding your special someone. i'm still on that journey....0 -
here, mirey/sandy. these are for you:
you have the body of a fitness model and a heart of gold. this thread is so uplifting!!!!!!!!!!
MOST RECENT POSTER: YOU WERE A BEAUTIFUL BRIDE!!!! congratulations on finding your special someone. i'm still on that journey....
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Dear MireyGal & Everyone who posted in this thread,
Yesterday a NSV I had was because of you guys. All you lovely, kind, beautiful people. I love the way workout crops look, I envy all the girls at the gym that wear them. And though I have tried on COUNTLESS pairs I never bought any of them because I looked in the mirror and saw the dreaded "double butt" and my cankels. I tried on yet ANOTHER pair on monday, and as I was in the change-room looking in the mirror I thought a few things:
1. Remember all those ladies in that thread, remember how many of them shared the others "problems", I am not the only one.
2. No one is looking at your *kitten* at the gym, and if they are by some chance, they aren't looking at it so intently that they see your "double butt"
3. You have cankles. They are not made of fat (you've made your husband check), you can't lose bone, they will always be there, get over it. Plus, no one is "checking out" your ankles.
4. Remember AGAIN, all those beautiful women that posted in that thread and think about how what they saw were insecurities are things you would most likely never have even noticed if they hadn't pointed it out.
SO, because of all you amazing people, I bought them. And I wore them to the gym last night. And no one laughed at me, no seams split open, and this morning the sun came up and proved that the world didnt end.
So thank you :flowerforyou:0 -
SO, because of all you amazing people, I bought them. And I wore them to the gym last night. And no one laughed at me, no seams split open, and this morning the sun came up and proved that the world didnt end.
So thank you :flowerforyou:
AND I BET YOU TOTALLY ROCKED THEM TOO
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Dear MireyGal & Everyone who posted in this thread,
Yesterday a NSV I had was because of you guys. All you lovely, kind, beautiful people. I love the way workout crops look, I envy all the girls at the gym that wear them. And though I have tried on COUNTLESS pairs I never bought any of them because I looked in the mirror and saw the dreaded "double butt" and my cankels. I tried on yet ANOTHER pair on monday, and as I was in the change-room looking in the mirror I thought a few things:
1. Remember all those ladies in that thread, remember how many of them shared the others "problems", I am not the only one.
2. No one is looking at your *kitten* at the gym, and if they are by some chance, they aren't looking at it so intently that they see your "double butt"
3. You have cankles. They are not made of fat (you've made your husband check), you can't lose bone, they will always be there, get over it. Plus, no one is "checking out" your ankles.
4. Remember AGAIN, all those beautiful women that posted in that thread and think about how what they saw were insecurities are things you would most likely never have even noticed if they hadn't pointed it out.
SO, because of all you amazing people, I bought them. And I wore them to the gym last night. And no one laughed at me, no seams split open, and this morning the sun came up and proved that the world didnt end.
So thank you :flowerforyou:
I am crying now.. in earnest.
Thank you so very much for sharing this. *BIGGEST HUGS EVER!!!*0 -
SO, because of all you amazing people, I bought them. And I wore them to the gym last night. And no one laughed at me, no seams split open, and this morning the sun came up and proved that the world didnt end.
Amazing, right?
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I just felt it was really important to let you know that this little act of bravery you posted wasn't just a thread you posted on a site, it did work it's way out into the real world and turned into something very positive.0
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You all are amazing women (and men). What an eye-opening thread. I always thought it was just ME who had all these terrible thoughts about myself. Anyways, I sent my mom the following note after a telephone conversation with her about how horrible I thought I looked in something. (She kept trying to reassure m that I didn't look horrible, in fact it was flattering. But I kept thinking, "She's my mom, of course she thinks that!") I try and remind myself of this everyday, and, of course, some days are easier than others!
While I was on my walk this morning, I started thinking about how negative my "body image" is. It got me wondering how one goes about getting a POSITIVE one. What I came up with was that for every part of my body, I would think of one positive thing that I couldn't have done without it. For example, my legs. Instead of thinking "my knees are weak, my thighs are chubby, etc." I made myself think of all they do for me. They have walked me down the aisle at my wedding, they have helped me get to my crying babies in the middle of the night, they have taken me walking around some of the most amazing, beautiful places that God has created, they have allowed me to run around with my boys playing soccer or football or tag. Once I started thinking about it, I realized that there are alot more things I CAN do because of my legs than that I CAN'T do.
Our bodies are amazing things that God has given us to take care of. They have grown babies, given birth to them and nourished them for the first part of their lives. Our arms have hugged and carried and been thrown up in joy. Our hands have clapped and held and comforted. Our mouths have smiled and laughed and kissed and sang. Our eyes have seen amazing things from a babies smile to the Grand Canyon. Our ears let us hear our kids laughing and our husbands say "I love you" and birds singing and beautiful music.
Who are we to criticize them?? We are wonderfully and fearfully made by God. Our wrinkles and stretch marks are well-earned. I think that if I can just make it a practice to turn my thinking around to the positive, I won't struggle with the negative.
Just wanted to remind you of this too!
Sorry for the length of my post, but this thread made me remember this!
Oh, and here's my horrible pic. Our 15th anniversary trip to Antigua. Fabulous trip, getting ready to go ziplining over the rainforest in this picture. All I see is fat arms, slumpy posture and bad hair.
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I know that im late to the party but I just saw this thread today.
I get told all the time how beautiful I am, how great my shape is, etc but I don't see it. I only see so many flaws. Too many to count, actually so I had a hard time pinpointing just one aspect to put here.
In the end, my manly muscular legs won out. 26.25 inches.
But, you know what? They're d@mn strong and I'm trying desperately to learn how to love them along with the rest of me!
Edit: That was huge. Just adjusted image size.0 -
You all are amazing women (and men). What an eye-opening thread. I always thought it was just ME who had all these terrible thoughts about myself. Anyways, I sent my mom the following note after a telephone conversation with her about how horrible I thought I looked in something. (She kept trying to reassure m that I didn't look horrible, in fact it was flattering. But I kept thinking, "She's my mom, of course she thinks that!") I try and remind myself of this everyday, and, of course, some days are easier than others!
While I was on my walk this morning, I started thinking about how negative my "body image" is. It got me wondering how one goes about getting a POSITIVE one. What I came up with was that for every part of my body, I would think of one positive thing that I couldn't have done without it. For example, my legs. Instead of thinking "my knees are weak, my thighs are chubby, etc." I made myself think of all they do for me. They have walked me down the aisle at my wedding, they have helped me get to my crying babies in the middle of the night, they have taken me walking around some of the most amazing, beautiful places that God has created, they have allowed me to run around with my boys playing soccer or football or tag. Once I started thinking about it, I realized that there are alot more things I CAN do because of my legs than that I CAN'T do.
Our bodies are amazing things that God has given us to take care of. They have grown babies, given birth to them and nourished them for the first part of their lives. Our arms have hugged and carried and been thrown up in joy. Our hands have clapped and held and comforted. Our mouths have smiled and laughed and kissed and sang. Our eyes have seen amazing things from a babies smile to the Grand Canyon. Our ears let us hear our kids laughing and our husbands say "I love you" and birds singing and beautiful music.
Who are we to criticize them?? We are wonderfully and fearfully made by God. Our wrinkles and stretch marks are well-earned. I think that if I can just make it a practice to turn my thinking around to the positive, I won't struggle with the negative.
Just wanted to remind you of this too!
Sorry for the length of my post, but this thread made me remember this!
Oh, and here's my horrible pic. Our 15th anniversary trip to Antigua. Fabulous trip, getting ready to go ziplining over the rainforest in this picture. All I see is fat arms, slumpy posture and bad hair.
wonderful post and the length was perfect.
thank you for sharing - geeze I cry every time I come back to this thread!!!
As for your pic... all I see is a happy couple in an incredibly stunning environment! I see smiles and radiance. I see people who care for each other doing something together.. and yes a bit of me is envious for that!
I didn't notice your hair or your posture, and it's a rainforest! Who's gonna have nice hair in the rainforest! :-D
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I know that im late to the party but I just saw this thread today.
I get told all the time how beautiful I am, how great my shape is, etc but I don't see it. I only see so many flaws. Too many to count, actually so I had a hard time pinpointing just one aspect to put here.
In the end, my manly muscular legs won out. 26.25 inches.
But, you know what? They're d@mn strong and I'm trying desperately to learn how to love them along with the rest of me!
Edit: That was huge. Just adjusted image size.
I understand completely. But you have to start loving yourself somewhere. You have great legs! They aren't manly! They are strong and look great and toned and awesome!! I look at mine and think thunder thighs, but they aren't. And neither are yours!
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So... I feel your pain, but in a slightly different way.
I don't have smoooooooth legs.. I get the bumps too from hair follicles that don't always come in as desired. I have mitigated some of that by trying to do a quick shave in the shower every morning (use conditioner - super fast, rarely nicks, and cheap like borscht).
My bigger problem is my scars.
I live in MOSQUITO LAND... my god these creatures carry you off in the summer. I react to their bites, and by mid summer my legs are a mess of bumps in various stages of healing. By fall, my legs are covered in scars. I've struggled with it all my life and nothing helps it. I tend to wear pants even when it's hot because I am ashamed of people asking me what is wrong with my legs.
So, together, we have to find a way to stop caring and smile through it. :-D
At least know you are not alone!
i, too, have hair follicle scars! they're, strangely, on my belly button area, and i was SO self-conscious about them that i decided to get a cover up tattoo...which i love! but i still see my scars through them. also, i can't shave my bikini area without causing ingrown hairs....and i have a plucking problem. i pluck at hairs...and then sometimes cause infections. it's bad. i know. either way, i feel terribly uncomfortable showing my bikini line to ANYONE. good thing it's not bathing suit season yet, and i'm as single as single can be!!!
sandy, i scar EVERYWHERE!
OMG the bikini area is the worst! WHAT TO DO!?! shave - bikini rash... don't shave - horrible jungle... nuh uh!
Laser!
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I'll bite.
I made the picture full-size, which was really hard for me. This picture was taken of me on May 2012, but I didn't know it existed until January 2013, when one of my friends tagged me in it. Btw, I'm the super pale one who is close to the camera. I was just so embarrassed that I untagged it immediately. The sad part is that I used to look back on that day and smile, but now I can only think about this darn pic!
I'm not wearing makeup in the pic, but that's not why it's embarrassing and just depressing. I was just having fun with my friend and smiling for the camera, trying to look cute. I just couldn't believe my face had gotten so fat, my eyes looked so weird, my eyebrows were messed up, and my teeth even looked a bit yellow! It's sad how just one photo can really affect you. But oh well. Life goes on and hopefully I'll have better couch-friend pics in the future! Even though I hate it, I keep the wl pic in my WLP folder to help motivate me.
Anyways, thanks for posting this topic mireygal! I'm glad I posted! And thanks to everyone who posted as well! What a great topic!0 -
I once cut my hair off. This one was after four months of letting it grow. This picture reminds me of a time when I was unhappy. I also never have photos without makeup. Makeup is my security blanket. I feel like I look so old and so tired in this photo.
Are you kidding me? You have a lovely face and great hair, and there's an intriguing air about you. I do a lot of art, and I think you'd make a great artist's model.0 -
Here are some pics from the Holi event at my college a couple of years ago. HATE these pics, even though the event was awesome. I look so fat. Looking forward to attending another Holi once I am in shape.
The sad thing is, I thought I looked awesome that day until I saw these pics :laugh:
I'm the one with the short hair.0 -
I love this thread!
This is my first time replying to anything on here.
Here's a pic of me at my heaviest around 320, I'm at 298 now, and I already have a lot more energy.
Oh and my husband hates this pic too
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I'll bite.
I made the picture full-size, which was really hard for me. This picture was taken of me on May 2012, but I didn't know it existed until January 2013, when one of my friends tagged me in it. Btw, I'm the super pale one who is close to the camera. I was just so embarrassed that I untagged it immediately. The sad part is that I used to look back on that day and smile, but now I can only think about this darn pic!
I'm not wearing makeup in the pic, but that's not why it's embarrassing and just depressing. I was just having fun with my friend and smiling for the camera, trying to look cute. I just couldn't believe my face had gotten so fat, my eyes looked so weird, my eyebrows were messed up, and my teeth even looked a bit yellow! It's sad how just one photo can really affect you. But oh well. Life goes on and hopefully I'll have better couch-friend pics in the future! Even though I hate it, I keep the wl pic in my WLP folder to help motivate me.
Anyways, thanks for posting this topic mireygal! I'm glad I posted! And thanks to everyone who posted as well! What a great topic!
Honey... you are gorgeous! the smile, the eyes, you are the kind of person I'd love to hang out with and have fun with... you look like such a happy person! (And huggable too.. hope that is ok).
I didn't see ANY of the things you mentioned... not even ONE.
NOT ONE.
Did you hear that?
NOT ONE.
All I saw is the smile and the laugh in your eyes, and I smiled back.
Don't hate this pic, hun. You look wonderful!0 -
Here are some pics from the Holi event at my college a couple of years ago. HATE these pics, even though the event was awesome. I look so fat. Looking forward to attending another Holi once I am in shape.
The sad thing is, I thought I looked awesome that day until I saw these pics :laugh:
I'm the one with the short hair.
Was it a color run? I'm doing one in June and cannot wait!
I think you look awesome after SEEING the pics! I mean really? This pic screams "I'm fun and awesome and I run through color for fun!"
It shouts that you have personality and drive and motivation, and I think you ROCK.
And you are beautiful. So love this pic, k? :-D0 -
I love this thread!
This is my first time replying to anything on here.
Here's a pic of me at my heaviest around 320, I'm at 298 now, and I already have a lot more energy.
Oh and my husband hates this pic too
I give you a million hugs for making this your first post! You win for bravery!!!
You've already lost 22 pounds! that is awesome!
So... you know what I see in this pic?
I see...
- a couple that cares for eachother (look how close your chairs are to eachother).
- a super cute kid
- people who truly SMILE (my favorite feature on someone)
Do you have weight to lose, yes, but you still have a radiance about you. You aren't unattractive... I feel drawn to you.
I am so happy that you are here, and that you are being brave to make this change.
YOU TOTALLY HAVE WHAT IT TAKES! Based on this post alone, I believe that with my heart!
Look forward to seeing you succeed, and thank you for posting here!
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Can I just say how much I love this thread? I look at all the pictures and go "what are they f'n talking about?" And then I look at my pictures and wonder how crazy I'm being about all the flaws I see. I feel so much less frustrated with myself after looking through the posts for 5 minutes.0
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Can I just say how much I love this thread? I look at all the pictures and go "what are they f'n talking about?" And then I look at my pictures and wonder how crazy I'm being about all the flaws I see. I feel so much less frustrated with myself after looking through the posts for 5 minutes.
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I just got this sent to me.. and I'd never seen it before.
If this is not the epitome of BRAVE and amazing and human and wonderful.. I don't know what is... please take the time to watch this clip of one man's journey from despair, to hope.
https://www.facebook.com/video/embed?video_id=3772441890410610 -
wish i could check out facebook at work0
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Thank you so much for that motivation! I'm excited to be here, and I do really feel like I'm on my way. Now that I'm doing it for my health and more energy, not just to look better.I love this thread!
This is my first time replying to anything on here.
Here's a pic of me at my heaviest around 320, I'm at 298 now, and I already have a lot more energy.
Oh and my husband hates this pic too
I give you a million hugs for making this your first post! You win for bravery!!!
You've already lost 22 pounds! that is awesome!
So... you know what I see in this pic?
I see...
- a couple that cares for eachother (look how close your chairs are to eachother).
- a super cute kid
- people who truly SMILE (my favorite feature on someone)
Do you have weight to lose, yes, but you still have a radiance about you. You aren't unattractive... I feel drawn to you.
I am so happy that you are here, and that you are being brave to make this change.
YOU TOTALLY HAVE WHAT IT TAKES! Based on this post alone, I believe that with my heart!
Look forward to seeing you succeed, and thank you for posting here!
xoxo0 -
I'll bite.
I made the picture full-size, which was really hard for me. This picture was taken of me on May 2012, but I didn't know it existed until January 2013, when one of my friends tagged me in it. Btw, I'm the super pale one who is close to the camera. I was just so embarrassed that I untagged it immediately. The sad part is that I used to look back on that day and smile, but now I can only think about this darn pic!
I'm not wearing makeup in the pic, but that's not why it's embarrassing and just depressing. I was just having fun with my friend and smiling for the camera, trying to look cute. I just couldn't believe my face had gotten so fat, my eyes looked so weird, my eyebrows were messed up, and my teeth even looked a bit yellow! It's sad how just one photo can really affect you. But oh well. Life goes on and hopefully I'll have better couch-friend pics in the future! Even though I hate it, I keep the wl pic in my WLP folder to help motivate me.
Anyways, thanks for posting this topic mireygal! I'm glad I posted! And thanks to everyone who posted as well! What a great topic!
Honey... you are gorgeous! the smile, the eyes, you are the kind of person I'd love to hang out with and have fun with... you look like such a happy person! (And huggable too.. hope that is ok).
I didn't see ANY of the things you mentioned... not even ONE.
NOT ONE.
Did you hear that?
NOT ONE.
All I saw is the smile and the laugh in your eyes, and I smiled back.
Don't hate this pic, hun. You look wonderful!
aww thank you!:D i guess it's not too bad of a pic. i've probably had worse
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This thread has definitely taught me that whatever flaws I think I have, no one else will even notice them or think of them as flaws! Beautiful people in this thread!
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This was taken just a few weeks before my son left for boot camp in June '11. I can't believe how huge I was. He on the other hand looks amazing considering four years earlier at the end of his freshman year he was 70lbs heavier. For 7 or so years previous this is the only time I'd submit to having my picture taken... with him.
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I'll bite.
I made the picture full-size, which was really hard for me. This picture was taken of me on May 2012, but I didn't know it existed until January 2013, when one of my friends tagged me in it. Btw, I'm the super pale one who is close to the camera. I was just so embarrassed that I untagged it immediately. The sad part is that I used to look back on that day and smile, but now I can only think about this darn pic!
I'm not wearing makeup in the pic, but that's not why it's embarrassing and just depressing. I was just having fun with my friend and smiling for the camera, trying to look cute. I just couldn't believe my face had gotten so fat, my eyes looked so weird, my eyebrows were messed up, and my teeth even looked a bit yellow! It's sad how just one photo can really affect you. But oh well. Life goes on and hopefully I'll have better couch-friend pics in the future! Even though I hate it, I keep the wl pic in my WLP folder to help motivate me.
Anyways, thanks for posting this topic mireygal! I'm glad I posted! And thanks to everyone who posted as well! What a great topic!
Honey... you are gorgeous! the smile, the eyes, you are the kind of person I'd love to hang out with and have fun with... you look like such a happy person! (And huggable too.. hope that is ok).
I didn't see ANY of the things you mentioned... not even ONE.
NOT ONE.
Did you hear that?
NOT ONE.
All I saw is the smile and the laugh in your eyes, and I smiled back.
Don't hate this pic, hun. You look wonderful!
aww thank you!:D i guess it's not too bad of a pic. i've probably had worse
I agree I do not see anything wrong here! But I am the same way about my face at certain angles. Goes to show that others don't see what you see wrong with yourself - and I love this thread!
I'm sure this was asked before but I'm new - how do I post pics? Do they have to be on a site somewhere to be linked? Thanks 0 -
I just got this sent to me.. and I'd never seen it before.
If this is not the epitome of BRAVE and amazing and human and wonderful.. I don't know what is... please take the time to watch this clip of one man's journey from despair, to hope.
https://www.facebook.com/video/embed?video_id=377244189041061
This thread is amazing and that video is also amazing. What an inspiration. I had to watch with no sound (everyone's sleeping right now), but my goodness. Just wow.0 -
This was taken just a few weeks before my son left for boot camp in June '11. I can't believe how huge I was. He on the other hand looks amazing considering four years earlier at the end of his freshman year he was 70lbs heavier. For 7 or so years previous this is the only time I'd submit to having my picture taken... with him.
I'm sorry it's taken me so long to respond!
It is so sad how our perceptions of ourselves allow us to restrict the things we participate in. I am glad that you allowed this pic, and that you shared it with us!
You look so proud of your boy, and he clearly loves his momma. That's the first impression I have of this picture.
I don't think you look huge. Is there weight to be lost, yes, but it cannot change that smile or the closeness between you too.
Congrats to you AND your son, and I hope boot camp went well!0
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